If you try and fail then at the very least you learn something. However, if you never try then you are guaranteed to learn absolutely nothing. In today's episode we discuss a powerful insight from philosopher Soren Kierkegaard that reminds us that failure can be our best teacher at key moments in life.

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So make sure you do that now today, we're going to talk about a quote from

one of the really interesting guy.

His name is Soren Kierkegaard trust saying that.

Soren Kiki got really interesting life.

He dealt with a lot of sadness, a lot of isolation.

He was a very solitary figure.

He spent a lot of his time just thinking and writing and staring out the window.

You know, I got a young family.

My kids are just, you know, wild.

I would love to just, you know, stare out a window and do some writing.

That'd be lovely.

But anyway, Saren Keke a God.

He's one of the great philosophers of the last few hundred years.

I've got a really good quote for him.

Let's do it.

It is better to try something and.

Then to try nothing and succeed, the result might be the same, but you

won't be, we always grow more through.

Then victories.

All right.

Where do we start with this one?

How good is that last section?

We always grow more through defeats than victories.

Have you found that to be true in your own life?

If you think about it, it's often the times where we filed where things

were really hard and difficult that we really grew, and we really changed,

you know, if we just win all the time, if we're just constantly winning.

I dunno, there's a danger there of kind of hubris, isn't it narcissism

of kind of ascribing that your success to your complete and utter brilliance.

But it's when we fail that we have to kind of try again that we grow.

So it's beautiful that Kiki got here is giving us this simple idea.

If we try something and fail, there's a relationship between that

and trying nothing, because if we tried, nothing will always succeed.

Right.

So we'll, we'll succeed in achieving absolutely nothing.

But when we fail, we don't achieve nothing.

If we don't try, we definitely achieve nothing.

Right.

So if you don't join that team, go for that promotion apply for that job.

Try that relationship make that phone call.

If you don't do any of that, then you are guaranteed success.

The success you'll get is a success of achieving.

Absolutely nothing, but it's predictable.

And you know that you can do it, but when you try something, when

you actually get out of that comfort zone and try something difficult,

the risk of failure is absolutely.

And it's present for everybody.

Like it doesn't matter if you're an absolute world champion at something, the

risk of failure is still there, right?

Like you can be a world famous athlete, you can be a world, famous

musician, politician, whatever.

And the risk of failure is always.

And I've got some, you know, I've got to arrange your friends that are in politics.

And, you know, they often say that, you know, almost nobody ever gets

to leave on their perfect terms.

Right.

They keep trying, they keep doing stuff, they keep campaigning and doing

things, but they're always at risk of not succeeding, but it's that constant

effort and energy of constantly trying things that keeps people in the game.

So what Kiki God is telling us here is that there's something unique about

being human is that we have this constant invitation to stay exactly as we are.

We have this invitation to grow.

If we pursue the invitation to grow.

Then we're very much at risk of failure, depending on what it is.

Right?

I mean, sometimes we can try things that we know we're going to succeed at because

they're not particularly difficult, but isn't it true in your life that

when you really try things out of your comfort zone, the risk is ever present.

This is the mystery of human life.

This is a mystery of personal development, growth goals, motivation, all this

stuff that I'm passionate about.

And you probably are too.

If you're watching.

Is that there's a, there's an admission price.

Isn't there, there's a ticket cost that if you want to stay exactly the

same, you don't have to pay any price.

You just do exactly what you did yesterday.

And things are gonna be exactly the same.

But I'm here to encourage you to say that if you want something different, you're

going to have to try something different.

You're going to have to do something, have to make that call apply for that job.

Ask that person out for a coffee.

That scary, right?

Because it's cause it's scary, but it's that ability to confront difficult things.

That's so beautiful about what it means to be human.

So I just want to encourage you.

I want to say to you, are you avoiding something at the moment?

Is there something that, you know, you're telling yourself a story about

that I could do this, but I don't want to do this and I've I try this.

It might fail, go and fail.

Fail massively.

I've been teaching my kids since they were like this big fail, do

big ones, massive ones, um, because you know, be frivolous about it.

And I don't even, I'm having a joke with you here.

Don't be afraid to fail because your failures, your failures will change

you and they'll strengthen you.

And they'll push you a little bit closer to where it is that you want to be.

And you'll be a more complete and full person.

All right.

So get off the metaphorical couch of life.

I need to keep getting myself off the couch of life and doing difficult things.

All right.

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