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Living Your Dream Life with Kristina Karlsson
Episode 25th April 2024 • Keeping Balance At Hand • Jaqui Bohn
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What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

There are many of us who have started our life or career in a certain direction, only to realise down the track that it’s not actually where we want to be. We’re not truly following our dreams, and are perhaps struggling to discover what our life’s purpose is. 

If this is you too, it may be time to ask yourself: if you had all the time, resources and skills to do anything you wanted, what would you actually choose to do - or be?

Today, we’re joined by special guest Kristina Karlsson, whose inspiring journey from losing it all in business to creating her dream life is empowering others to do the same. Founder of Kikki K and Dream Life, and author of Your Dream Life Starts Here, Kristina’s dream is to inspire 101 million people to transform their lives and in turn, transform the world around them.

We talk about the many aspects involved in chasing our dreams, including:

  • Actionable steps you can take to find your purpose 
  • How to overcome the challenges of life and use them for good
  • Balancing work, life and the pursuit of our dreams
  • Persevering in the face of adversity

Kristina is a wealth of knowledge on how to adopt the mindset, daily rituals and tenacity it takes to make dreams a reality. So join us today and learn how you can develop the confidence to back yourself, achieve your goals and create your very own dream life. 

In the words of Kristina herself: it’s time to take a big bite and chew like hell! 

Connect with Me: 

Website: www.balanceathand.com 

Instagram:  @balance_at_hand


Connect with Kristina: 

Website: https://www.yourdreamlifestartshere.com/ 

Instagram: @kristinadreamlife

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Hello, everyone.

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If you're searching for

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purpose in your life, or would

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like to define your dreams

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and goals, then we have the

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perfect guest for you today.

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The wonderful Kristina

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Karlsson Kristina is

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the founder of Kiki K

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and Dream Life and the

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author of the book, Your

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Dream Life Starts Here.

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Kristina has empowered

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so many people around

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the world to find their

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purpose and start living

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their dream lives.

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Kristina, thank you

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so much for joining

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us today and welcome.

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Uh, thank you so much.

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I am so thrilled to be here.

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You have such an amazing story

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and I'd really love it if

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you could share with us your

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personal journey in basically

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finding your life's purpose.

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Yes.

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It's a bit of a journey.

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So I grew up in Sweden,

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on a farm and I met

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my partner, Paul, in a

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ski resort in Austria.

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I was doing a

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ski season there.

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And then I came to Australia,

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the other side of the world.

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Um, And I was quite

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miserable and lonely.

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It was a real challenge to

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move to the other side of the

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world, you know, new language,

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new, new people, new culture.

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And, uh, I was really lost.

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I had no idea what

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to do with my life.

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And having spent quite a

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few years traveling the

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world, working in different

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countries, I was kind

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of ready to do something

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with purpose and something

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that I was, Really excited

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about doing, but I did

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not know what that meant.

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So I was winching and

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complaining and every day

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for anyone who would listen,

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I would say, what am I

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going to do with my life?

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And one morning at 3am, I

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woke up my partner, Paul,

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I think for the fifth

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time, this was a frequent,

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something I did all the time.

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Like what am I going to do?

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And, um.

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At 3am he was a bit over it,

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fair enough, and he said, uh,

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he turned on the light and

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he said, why don't we write

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down what is important to you?

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And, that was a great idea.

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Cause that was my

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first dreams on paper.

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And I think it's something

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really powerful for anyone

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listening to actually start

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writing down what you want in

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your life on paper, because

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you just see it versus

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having it roaming around

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your head all the time.

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So I wrote down that I

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wanted to drive to work every

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single day and loving it.

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I was working in a job

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that, that wasn't the

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case and I wasn't excited

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about going to work.

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And for anyone listening, I

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think that is so important

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to do something you love

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work wise because we

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spend so much time working

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and I think it should be

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something we really love.

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and I often reflect on this

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now, and I'm going to come

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back to, to my 3am story, but.

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Every day I wake up

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now, I am so incredibly

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excited and so incredibly

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grateful to do what I love.

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And I think if you get to

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that, and it's a bit of

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a journey to get to that.

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So for anyone listening, it

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doesn't happen overnight.

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It's a bit of a journey.

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So my second thing that I

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wrote down was to, have my

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own business, but I didn't

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know what that meant.

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I had no experience in my

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own business and, no idea

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what that was going to be.

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And then I wanted to have

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a connection with my home

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country being Sweden.

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This was before internet.

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It's hard to believe that

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the world even existed before

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internet, but I spent all

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my money phone bills and

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a trip home and, my little

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brother also had cancer,

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so I went home a couple of

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times, kind of last minute

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and he's well now, but it

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was really important for

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me to have that connection

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with my home country.

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I didn't want to

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choose to just.

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You know, being a new country

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and not having that connection

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to my, my home country.

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And then I wanted to

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work with Swedish design.

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That was something I

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was passionate about.

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And I truly believe that

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part of your purpose, you

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need to do something you're

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passionate about, not just

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something you care about.

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Because when things get

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tough, it's really important

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to be excited and know that

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Even if it's tough right

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now, I do what I love and

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I'm passionate about it.

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And then the last thing that

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I wanted that I had on my

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list was to make 500 a week.

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That was based on paying

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rent, eating some good food,

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drink some good wine, and

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then go home once a year.

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that was actually the

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hardest one because when you

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start your business, it's

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takes time to make money.

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And, uh, but luckily I was

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never really driven by money.

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I was the purpose.

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and the passion and my mission

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was so much more important

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than making lots of money.

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I just wanted to

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have my enough money

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to do what I loved.

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In terms of going home

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once a year and, and

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do some fun things.

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and out of that, those dreams

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on paper, Kiki Kay was born

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my first business, and when

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I wrote down that I wanted

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to have my own business, I

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would not even have imagined

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what that would have got

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me to, It was it was.

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Such an incredible

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journey, a journey that,

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lasted for over 25 years.

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And to make a very

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long story short, I

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lost Kiki Kay in COVID.

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And, um, that was the saddest

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day of my life, but the good

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thing, when you are clear on

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your purpose and when you're

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clear on your passions and

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when you're an entrepreneur,

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it's You just start again.

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And that's what I've done.

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And my big dream now is to

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inspire 101 million people

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to write down three dreams

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and go and chase them.

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And the reason for that

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is because I feel like

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when you do what you love,

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there's a ripple effect.

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You just, are able to

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influence other people

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to live their dream life

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and follow their purpose,

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whatever that is for them.

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And, I feel like life is too

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short not to, and, we're so

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lucky if we, if we are able

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to choose what we, no, that's

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not everyone's case, but if

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you are listening to this

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podcast, if you are one of

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those lucky people to be able

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to choose what you get to

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do, then that's an amazing.

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So that was a bit of a

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long, winded answer to

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your first question.

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It was a brilliant answer.

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When you lost Kiki

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K, how did you get

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yourself back on track?

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How did you keep yourself

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motivated or reset yourself

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to really start dream life?

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What was the journey there?

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that was a hard one.

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It's, um, and I think

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this is very much, an

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individual journey for

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everyone who's going

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through a challenging time.

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If it's going through

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an administration or a,

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relationship breakup or,

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Losing a job or, you know,

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get sick or whatever, whatever

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that is for each person.

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so it's such an

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individual journey.

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But for me, it was sad.

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It was like, I was grieving

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because for me, Kiki K

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wasn't just a business.

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It was a family.

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Like it was everything

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that I knew and

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everything that I had.

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I put everything

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in that business.

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I was never, ever thinking,

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Oh, this is the business.

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And this is me.

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it was a big, not in

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the middle, then there

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was all I knew and

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everything that I had.

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So it was sad,

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really, really sad.

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and also very complicated

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because we had shareholders,

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we had obviously loads

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of employees and COVID

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was difficult for

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everyone, let alone.

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people losing jobs and

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we lost our business

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and people losing money.

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It was a, it was a

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real challenging time.

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So definitely a lot of

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grieving and, um, a lot of

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thinking, but I decided pretty

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quickly that I was not going

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to go down with the business.

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So.

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I have a lot of

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entrepreneurial friends,

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some of them lost their

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businesses, and I've seen

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a lot of people really, you

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know, go into depression,

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which is an, probably an

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easier choice to be honest,

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because, um, I think, just

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disappearing for a few

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years would have been a much

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easier choice, but I didn't

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want that cause I, I value

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life so much and I value,

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everything that I learned.

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To share and, so I kind

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of kept sharing how I

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went through it while

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I was going through it.

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And that was really

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challenging because I really

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didn't know, you know, if I

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was sharing the right thing.

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I was super conscious

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of everyone being

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involved in this.

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So it was not an

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easy one, but.

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But how I really went

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through it was some really

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simple things that I do in

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good times and bad times.

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One was walking.

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I walked every single day.

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So I woke up sometimes

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not wanting to get out

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of bed and I woke up

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sometimes thinking, what

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am I actually going to do?

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And.

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You know, feeling extremely

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sad and disappointed and angry

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and all those kind of feelings

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that we often have when

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something happens, that is a

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little bit out of our control.

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So I every day decided

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just go for a walk and

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this is COVID time.

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So, so I was up early

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because we were only

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allowed to, to walk.

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Uh, I don't know what it was,

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but I was out so early that no

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one would ever see me anyway.

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And I just walked and walked

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and thought And I always

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came back from a walk,

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not always feeling better,

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but never feeling worse.

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And most of the time feeling

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so much better because

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you're connecting with

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nature, being out on your

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own, being with your thought

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was really, really helpful.

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Another thing that I did

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was a lot of journaling.

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So that wouldn't be a

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surprise for anyone that

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knows that I love journaling.

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And I, I just wrote so

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much of my thoughts,

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so much of my, yeah.

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ideas and everything

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that just came to mind.

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So a lot of journaling.

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I did meditation to kind

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of still my mind, at least

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once a day, sometimes twice.

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And, I also called my best

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friend every single day.

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And I was so grateful to have

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a friend that would actually,

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listen to the same thing

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over and over and over again.

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and I think, you know, if

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anyone listening and have

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one friend that is like

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that, then we are extremely,

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fortunate because that was

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really helpful to sometimes

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just say things loud.

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I'd often didn't

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need the solution.

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I often had that

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solution within me.

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And then I started to

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dream about the new future.

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I thought.

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Life is too short and, uh,

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I already had that dream to

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inspire 101 million people

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to write down three dreams.

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So I got on quickly to put

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an online, um, my book was

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already out, but I put that on

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an online course and I started

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to help other people, creating

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their dream life and then

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probably about, uh, what is it

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now, a year and a half ago, I

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started my coaching program.

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I also started my book

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club because I got so

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excited about, other people

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sharing the, um, interest

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of personal growth and

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personal development.

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So, started a kind of

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a community book club

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that anyone can join.

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Cause I had a private

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one and I spoke a lot

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about that on my podcast.

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And then I always got

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emails, can I join?

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Yeah.

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Because that was my

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friends, I then decided

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that anyone can join from

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anywhere in the world.

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So that's how I

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got through it.

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And you know what, I am

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actually much happier now

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in terms of, I love my new

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business more than I love

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my first business, which is

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kind of hard to even imagine

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that that is the case because

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I love my first business.

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So much.

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And the, amazing thing now

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is that the new business

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gives me whole different

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level of freedom in terms.

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I can work from anywhere.

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I have a smaller team and

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I made a decision to only

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work with nice people.

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and, uh, that's not always

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easy when you have a big

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business, cause you're not

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always part of recruiting.

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And now I have a dream team

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and these are people that

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I love spending time with.

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And I think that's

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so important as well.

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It's so exciting that you're

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now living your dream life,

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but obviously I've heard

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you say before, a dream life

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doesn't mean a perfect life.

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So what are some daily

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challenges that you have

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to overcome or you face?

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I have challenges every day.

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And it's funny because I just,

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uh, I just, a few days ago,

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I felt extremely overwhelmed.

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I'm doing a little bit too

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many things for the size of

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our team and the, and the

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size of my, my capability.

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But I have this saying, and I

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think it's just specifically,

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Important in a startup is

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like you take a big bite

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and you chew like hell.

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And that's what I'm doing.

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And, I think you have to do

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that and It's not something

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you do every season.

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It's a season.

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Sometimes when you do a

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startup where you just

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have to put everything

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you've got into it.

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And I decided this

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year, I have two dreams

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that are really big.

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One is to 10X my health and

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one is to 10X my business.

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Andy.

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When I woke up the other

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day, I was like, I didn't

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ever know where to start.

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I was so overwhelmed.

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And this is when journaling

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comes in so handy.

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And I actually, um, I spoke

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to my friend after I said,

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Oh, I woke up feeling so

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overwhelmed and absolutely

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thinking, I don't know

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if I can fit it all in.

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And then I did my exercise

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and I do like an exercise

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That I'm actually going to

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do, in the coaching program,

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but I also am going to do

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it as a freestanding for

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people who are not part of

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the coaching program, where

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I just kind of brainstorm

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everything in categories

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and I empty my head, so,

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powerful and seems so simple,

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but incredibly helpful.

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So, so it's difficult to,

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um, fit everything in with

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family, with Business and

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health, and I'm also a person

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who needs a lot of time alone.

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I'm an introvert, so I, my

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people might not realize

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that because I'm out and

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about a lot and I do a lot

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of public speaking now.

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But I need a lot of space.

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So I go for my walks

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every morning and I

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spend time in nature.

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I have my coffee for 10

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minutes, uh, we're in

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silence and just generate

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all that energy then to

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be able to cope with all

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the things, that I do.

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But challenges is part of.

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Everyone's life,

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dream life or not.

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And it's just part of

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life and we just have to

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take them as they come.

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And there are a lot of silver

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linings in our challenges.

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If we learn from them, not

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specifically when we go

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through them, but definitely

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if we can reflect and review

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our week and our month and

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our quarters and our years.

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We often see that, uh,

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looking back, it's like, Oh,

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actually, because of that

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challenge, I created this,

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or because of that challenge,

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I had to change this.

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I think as an entrepreneur,

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you have to kind of develop

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because there are always

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things that do not go to

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plan and there's always

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challenges in a business.

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And, uh, and, uh, if you just

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learn, it's not fun when you

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go through them, but if you

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can just have this attitude

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that, it's just another

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challenge and hopefully I'll

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learn something from it.

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And, and even though in the

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most horrific challenges, like

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losing my business, I've been

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so many silver linings and so

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much I learned, and I think

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I'm a, I can share so much

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more cause I, I was always

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sharing my success stories

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and now I can share, and I

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can sometimes got criticized

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for everything was so perfect,

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which of course it never is.

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But maybe when you, when

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you are put in media

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as a success story.

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it's kind of hard sometimes

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to, uh, share the hard times

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because that's not always what

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media wants to put out there.

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So, um, for me, I

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now feel like I'm, I

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have more to share.

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I'm now, doing a lot of public

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speaking and I'm sharing

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my up and down journey.

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I think that's so

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generous and it's such a

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wonderful story to hear.

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What guidance would you give

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people whom have started

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their life or their career

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in a certain direction,

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but realize now this isn't

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where they want to be.

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This isn't the way they

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had hoped, or it's not

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following their dreams.

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What should they do?

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I think spend an hour and some

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people say, I don't have an

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hour, but we all have an hour.

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if it's important to us,

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on the weekend, up early or

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whatever, time feels right.

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But I think it's important

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to have that space, ideally

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a little bit more than an

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hour, and then just take a

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journal and a pen and ask

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yourself, What would I do?

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if I knew I couldn't fail?

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What comes up for us?

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And, I share this many

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times with you, Jackie,

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and, uh, the Dream Love

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community, but every time

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I ask myself that question,

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there's always something

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that's lying underneath.

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It might be feeling a little

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bit uncomfortable or a

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little bit of, what, you

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know, it's not really right

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timing or it's not really,

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I don't think I can do it.

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You know, one of

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them was my podcast.

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And I think you might've felt

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the same with your podcast.

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when we want to do something.

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and we haven't done it before.

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It feels a little bit

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uncomfortable, but

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my advice then is to

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write it down anyway.

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Don't have to do anything

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the first hour where

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you just write, just let

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yourself write down anything.

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So what would you do if

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you knew you couldn't fail?

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If you had all the time

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and the money and the

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resources and the skills

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to do whatever you want.

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So a lot of us actually

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don't write down things

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because we're like, For

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you, for example, you've

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been in the corporate

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world your whole life.

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And when you did some

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dreaming, starting your own

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business, that would have felt

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like, Oh, it's not really,

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you know, I'm making enough

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money to support family, or

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I, I am very good at this.

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So maybe I shouldn't do this.

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There's all these things

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coming up, but just write

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it down anyway, because you

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don't have to do anything.

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You can just put it on

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paper and see, and go

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back later on and see.

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Is there something here

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that I want to actually do?

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And also asking yourself

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if you had all the

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health and energy.

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So a lot of us feel like we

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are so full that there's not

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room for one more thing to do.

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But write it down anyway,

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because sometimes we

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just have to shift a

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little bit and change.

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And, um, are truly believe

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we can do anything.

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Anything we put our mind to,

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but not everything at once.

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And I think that's often

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when we do that dreaming

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exercise, what would I do

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if I knew I couldn't fail?

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If I had all the money, the

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resources, the knowledge,

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and the skills to do whatever

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I want and the energy and

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the help, you might write

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down so many things and then

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you'd be like, Oh, that's

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easy, it's not possible.

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But you then have to

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then start thinking, if

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I change one thing, what

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would I like to do the most

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and what would have the

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most impact in my life?

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And, and creating

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a dream life is not

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something that you just.

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write down once and it's done

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and you just follow it because

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we change and we evolve

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and there's so many things.

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And every time I do this

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exercise myself and I've done

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this so many times, you would

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think that everything would

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have been perfect for me,

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but I change all the time.

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And I, challenge myself all

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the time and as I evolve and

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as we age, and as we meet new

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people and, we did try one

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thing and be like, Oh, this

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is actually really exciting,

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maybe I should go a little

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bit deeper here, or maybe

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thinking actually that wasn't

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as good as I thought it would

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be, or it's not the direction.

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So it's really just about

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starting to write down

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things, that you want.

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And it's really important

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that there are dreams that

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connect with your heart.

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not with your partners or your

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parents or the teacher, or

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even social media followers.

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Sometimes you feel

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like, Oh gosh, I'm

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so good at one thing.

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If I now want to change,

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maybe they are not the

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right, audience for me.

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So you just have to really

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not worry about that to

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start with, because all

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those things are fixable.

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It's just.

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Not all at once and not all

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of the dreams all at once.

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So start writing it down

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and start thinking about it.

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And when you start doing

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this, when you go for your

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walk, and if you're able to

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create a morning ritual or

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create something where you

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have a bit of space to think

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and work on your dream life,

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Ideally every single day,

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even if it's just 10 minutes

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with your coffee or on your

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commute, or when you're

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driving somewhere or waiting

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for someone thinking, if I

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could create my dream life,

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what would I actually want

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to do if no one else cared?

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And if I wasn't worried about

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what other people thought,

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or if I was making enough

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money in this to start

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with or whatever, whatever

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comes to mind, everyone

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is different in that case.

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So, just start with,

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uh, working out what

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is important to you.

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And you'll come up with

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lots of things that you

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perhaps have not thought of,

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or maybe been underneath a

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little too scared to come

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up with those answers.

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I definitely surprised myself

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when I did the exercise.

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That's for sure.

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So for those of us who have

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worked out our dreams, but

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are working a full time job,

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or are, you know, full time

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parent, what's your advice

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for some of our balanced

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community to really start that

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transition to dreaming and

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to achieving their dreams?

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yeah.

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So all of us, as we, everyone

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knows who's listening,

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have 24 hours a day.

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So we can't change that.

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So we need to work out

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what we're going to

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fill those hours with.

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And I think, especially in

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the beginning, you can't, you

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know, all of a sudden say,

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I'm going to quit my job and

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I'm going to start my own

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business because it takes a

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bit of time to make money in

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a business, even now, I have

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a second business and I've

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done my own business for,

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Probably close to 30 years.

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and it takes time, even

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in my second business

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taken much longer than

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I actually thought.

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So it's just really important

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that we, put together

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a little bit of a plan.

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And, I have, um, a

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bit of a formula.

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So I, plan out my year.

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So I always focus on top three

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dreams or goals, whatever

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you want to call them.

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It can be goals or

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dreams, whatever.

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And then.

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I, plan out the year in terms

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of what's important to me.

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What do I have to do?

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If I have a family, they

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need to fit in there.

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If I have a job that needs

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to fit in there, all the

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things that are important.

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And then you look at, okay,

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well, if I'm going to make

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these three dreams happen,

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where can I fit that in?

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So for example, if you

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start your own business

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and you're still working in

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a big corporate job, that

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takes most of your time.

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during the week, maybe you

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can, go to bed a little bit

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earlier on a Friday night,

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get up a little bit earlier

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before everyone else, if

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you have children and maybe

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work one hour in the morning

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on a Saturday morning.

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So I do my, uh, I'm

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studying health.

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So I do that on

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Saturday mornings.

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So I'm studying, I'm doing

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a course in longevity just

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for my own sake, because

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I'm going to 10X my health.

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I don't really have time

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for that at the moment.

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It's not really what

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I should be doing,

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but I really want to.

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So I get up a little

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bit earlier on Saturday

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morning and I fit that in.

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And when you start your own

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business, you probably need

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to decide what are you not

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going to do because Small

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business takes a lot of time

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and takes, you don't have

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the team as you would have in

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the corporate role, perhaps.

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And you don't have the

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knowledge, Well, I didn't

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have it because I had a, big

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team in my other business

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and they were expert in

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all their different roles.

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And I was not expert

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in anything in the

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end, I felt, perhaps.

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Making products, but I have

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to learn so many things.

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So I spend a lot of time,

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instead of doing things that

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perhaps I would have done in

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the past, socializing, going

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out for dinners, I spend a lot

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of time walking and learning.

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So I listen to podcasts,

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listen to audio books, doing

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courses to kind of learn.

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So when we have a busy role.

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Family, friends, whatever

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is important to us.

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Health is really important.

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Then you just have to

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take some things away.

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And for me, that's been

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the social part of my life.

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So I'm not as social anymore.

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I don't go to as many events.

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I get invited to a lot

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of exciting things, but

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I always think is more

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important and to me, my new

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business is more important

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than anything, because

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that's what will support

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my dream life long term.

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So even though there will be

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other things that I perhaps

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would like to have part of

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my dream life, I know that

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that will come in the future.

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If I focus on my business

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now, and I think this is also

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really relevant for anyone

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who's not having the perfect

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health or the enough energy.

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If you fix that first,

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you will have so much more

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energy to do so much more.

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So for example, by me doing

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my morning ritual with my

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meditation, my journaling

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and my walk or my exercise.

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It gives me so much

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more energy to then be

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able to do more things.

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And it's funny because

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sometimes I'm thinking, how

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do I actually fit it all in?

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And, uh, it has to do with

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planning, but also focusing

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so much on my health.

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So I have the energy

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and the excitement.

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And also when you do

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fun things like I, I.

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One of my jobs is to read

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books because I have a book

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club and I always laugh and

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thinking I can't believe that

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I have to write, read books.

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And then I work with lots

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of publishers and they

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send me books because they

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often want their authors

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to come on my podcast.

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And, and I just think,

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gosh, lucky me, on a Friday

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night, I have to go to bed

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early and read for a couple

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of hours and that's when.

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It's so exciting when

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you're passionate and

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your purpose and your

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business are all aligned.

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And you know, Jackie, I, um,

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on New Year's day, I have

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a free workshop every year.

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And all my friends is like,

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why do you have that at

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10 AM when you might go to

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bed at 2 AM or whatever,

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if, if I'm going to a.

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party and, um, I don't

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because I go to bed as soon

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as midnight is over, but,

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uh, I think it's so amazing

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that you want to get up

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on New Year's day to do

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something you love doing.

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And if that is your

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business and your purpose,

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then I think you're in

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the most amazing space.

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year because 2024 is

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going to be our best year.

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And I think 2024 is just,

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astrologically such a

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good year for people to

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really dream and make

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changes in their lives.

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For anyone else who's really

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interested in working with

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you and what you've got to

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offer, where should they head?

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there's a few

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different options.

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Uh, and first it's

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been so amazing to

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see what you're doing.

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And, and I think this is

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when you find your purpose

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and you see when you're, are

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able to support people to

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do what they love, there's

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just nothing more rewarding,

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like it's just, I could,

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listen to that all day long.

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And I always have people

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coming up and say, Oh,

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I'm sure you hear this

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all the time, Ross SAC.

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it never gets old for me.

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I love hearing it because

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it's so inspiring and also

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so, great to hear that people

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are able to change because

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I know how hard that is.

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So my, tip for anyone who

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wants to be part of the dream

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love community first is to

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just, uh, Start on your own

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if you want to, but if you

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need some support, I've got

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a coaching program that is a

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monthly subscription where you

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can join to get some support.

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You also get access to my, uh,

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your dream life starts here,

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which is my book, but also

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as a, now a online course.

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And I also have a habit

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club where I inspire

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people to choose a habit.

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Once a month and you just

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try something new and see

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if you can make it stick and

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see if it's right for you.

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And then I also of course

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have my book club, which

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is called grow and people

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can join us and, um, read

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one book a month where

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we discuss it every week.

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I think it's just

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Such a beautiful

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community to be part of.

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So, and also I share tips

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and ideas daily on Instagram.

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That's probably where

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I'm most active and it's

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just, uh, my handle is

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just Kristina dream life.

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Oh, that's brilliant.

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Oh, look, I encourage everyone

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that's interested to really

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follow you and see what they

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can do to help themselves.

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So the key takeaways

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from today, write down

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what you want on paper,

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get it out of your head.

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It's a journey and it

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doesn't happen overnight.

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Following your dreams

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can be hard, but it's a

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choice that's worth it.

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And the final takeaway, take

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a big bite and chew like hell.

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and can I add one more cause

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I was, um, I'm just about

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to do a talk in a couple

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of weeks that is a little

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bit different than I was

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thinking on my walk today.

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It's for, for business owners.

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And, um, one thing that

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I think really made, The

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first business work in the

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beginning, because I don't

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know what the statistics are

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now, but a lot of failure

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in the first five years.

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And why I think we were not

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part of that statistics isn't

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because we were had an amazing

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product or amazing business.

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you do need to have an

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amazing products and have

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an amazing business to

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be able to be part of a

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long, sustainable business.

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But what I think.

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Made us different.

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And I think most

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small businesses who

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succeed, success is

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don't say no, say how.

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Cause you get so many

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no's and you get those

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from your own people.

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You get it for yourself.

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And then instead of taking

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no as an answer, you say,

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Don't say no, say how.

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So you might not get the

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right answer that you want,

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but then you, then you

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don't just take that answer.

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You'd be like, okay, how

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can I make it different?

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How can I go around this?

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How can I make it happen?

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And I think, that's really

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what a small business need

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to think about all the time.

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And also when you work

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for another business and

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you want to follow your

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purpose, because it the

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plan never goes like this.

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It's always up and down.

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And I think if you have

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that mentality, don't

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say no, say how, then.

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You always find a way.

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And I think that's so

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important when you're

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looking for your purpose,

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but also if you are

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starting your own business.

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So I think that should

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be added at the end.

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We are going to add that.

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Don't say no, say how.

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Oh, Kristina, thank you so

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much for joining us today.

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You're an inspiration and

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it's so fantastic to have

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someone that guides and

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leads us all to wanting to

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achieve more in our lives.

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Thank you so much for having

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me and well done you for

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starting your podcast, cause

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I know that was one of your

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dreams and it's so inspiring

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to see what you're doing.

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And, uh, I see you now as my

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ideal, uh, coaching person.

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And so, uh, I have.

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Enjoyed it so much and I'm

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super excited to continue

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following your journey.

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So thank you so

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much for having me.

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And I'm super excited

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to follow these podcasts

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and all your amazing

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guests going forward.

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Amazing.

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Thank you.

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