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In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky discusses the connection between inner work and living a vibrant life. Amie shares her personal journey and professional insights as a Nervous System And Trauma Master Coach, emphasizing the need to take ownership of one's life and build a deep relationship with oneself. 

She discusses the significance of understanding and processing stored experiences in the body, challenging limiting beliefs, and fostering patience and faith in the healing process. If you are ready to let go of lingering self-doubt, anxiety or burnout, this episode is perfect to get you started!

What We Explored This Episode

02:00 - Stepping Away From Interviews

03:43 - Living A Vibrant Life

05:03 - Core Theme: Inner Work

06:24 - The Connection Between Healing And Willingness

09:33 - Building Trust Within Body

10:25 - Unlocking A Level Of Intimacy With Self

Memorable Quotes

"Our bodies don't measure the experiences. They just store the experience. Your body doesn't understand what was a big experience or a minor experience.”

"Healing requires willingness—the willingness to challenge your basic beliefs of who you think you are. Whether it's people-pleasing tendencies, self-doubt, anxiety, or past trauma, all of it is connected."

"It's so important to understand that it's you building a relationship with yourself and your inner child, all the versions of you, to create that safety, to say, 'I am worthy, period. I add value to the world just by being me, period.'"

Connect With Amie

Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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Our bodies don't measure the experiences. They just store the experience. Your body doesn't understand what was a big experience or a minor experience. It just says, oh, my gosh, too much, too fast, too soon, and it collapses inward. And that's where those stories and limiting beliefs can start to plant the seed and take root. And they bloom and they live year to year, decade to decade, throughout our lives, almost always unconsciously, until we become aware of it.

Hello, hello, and welcome to the I Come First podcast, where putting yourself first is not selfish, it's self care. And self care is essential. Yes, you heard me right. Here we are flipping the script, and I'm gonna show you how. I'm your host, Amy Barsky, and I'm so excited you're here. If you're tired of feeling overworked and underappreciated, this is a sanctuary where I'll share my entire journey as a guide to help you break through your patterns, limiting beliefs and societal pressures to be perfect. These juicy weekly conversations with myself and guest experts will be filled with practical tools, advice, inspiring stories, and unstoppable energy. So if you're ready, then buckle up. It's time to ignite your inner fire and make I come first your new daily manta. And before we jump into today's episode, here is a quick and exciting announcement.

Hello, hello, and welcome back to the I Come first podcast. I am your host, Amy Barsky, and guess what? I'm up to something a little different today. Today marks my very first solo episode here. I'll be sharing with you one of my top secrets to living a vibrant life and three things you need to know to get started now.

Now, there is definitely an excitement for me to step away from interviews and share more heart to heart with you. And the truth be told, though, it's also an edge for me. It feels very challenging. And honestly, that's why I'm doing it. I am so here to grow. I am here to continue to support you and to also build trust within myself that I can do hard things and I can own my voice.

I can share what's true for me, and I can be messy doing it all and knowing that in all of that, it's all gonna be okay. And I'm also here to be the permission slip, that you get to do the same with your own life. You get to show up powerfully for yourself, you get to be messy. You get to share your expressed fullest version of yourself, and that gets to be okay.I am so excited to support you in that journey. My intention for these solo episodes, because there's a lot of them coming, is to share my knowledge as well. Share my knowledge as a nervous system and trauma master coach, and also share my own healing journey, my personal experiences with life and the ways in which all of the healing I've done has supported me to get me to where I am today. I mean, my gosh, this is what I guide my clients through. So here I am, walking the walk and really living and breathing into my nerves, my excitement and what I really desire, what aches on my heart to be more supportive to women like you who might be going through something really challenging in life now. I'd have to say over the past ten years of my life, women have asked me, Amy, how do you stay so vibrant and energized? Like, what is your secret now? Since I turned 50 last year? I kid you not, I probably get asked at least once a day. So today I wanna share with you one of my top secrets. It's one of many. To living a vibrant life. Are you ready to hear that? Top secrets. Inner work.

Inner work is where it is at. And what I mean by that is taking ownership of your life, stopping the blaming and the pointing the finger and looking inwards and truly getting radically honest with the woman in the mirror and starting to clean up what I like to call your side of the street. Katie Byron talks about how there is your business, their business and God's business and whose business are you in. And so the invitation is to be in your own business and clean up your own mess and what have yous and pasts and blames and heartaches and pain and guilt and shame and whatever else might be there so that you can really live from a place that feels fully expressed, fully alive, fully transparent and upfront with people. Because that's what we desire in relationships. To really have deep leveled relationships that feel so intimate and trusting and that trust comes from within. It has to start from within. And so here are the three biggest components to building that. These are the things that I would love for you to know about your inner work journey. And whether you've been in your inner work journey for a while or you're just at the beginning or whatever that might look like, I want you to know first and foremost that there is no one size fits all pill.

There is no magic process. You take the pill and then you just sit back and expect results. It just doesn't work that way. It works in the way of building safety within our bodies. Because society has taught us to look outside ourselves. To look outside ourselves for validation, for appreciation, for approval, for acceptance. And the more we look outside ourselves, the more we're handing our power over to someone or something else. And this is an opportunity to start to reclaim your power, take your power back and come back into alignment with your true self. Yes, there are processes, yes, there are different beautiful medicines out there. And there are different ways in which you can tap in and back to your true self. And it is a practice, it is a daily practice for me and all of my clients. So I really wanna make that crystal clear. It's so important to understand that it's you building a relationship with yourself and your inner child, all the versions of you to create that safety, to say, I am worthy, period. I add value to the world just by being me, period.

The next thing I wanted to share was that healing requires willingness. The willingness to challenge those basic beliefs of what you know, who you think you are. Now, whether you are healing from. Maybe you have people pleasing tendencies, maybe you have this self doubt that keeps lingering over and over again. It shows up in your relationships, it shows up in your business. Maybe you experience anxiety, or burnout, or even overwhelm. Or perhaps there is a past trauma in your history, your childhood, or your young adult life. Pain, shame, guilt, all of those. The truth is, all of it is connected. Our bodies don't measure the experiences, they just store the experience. Your body doesn't understand what was a big experience or a minor experience. It just says, oh, my gosh, too much, too fast, too soon, and it collapses inward. And that's where those stories and limiting beliefs can start to plant the seed and take root. And they bloom and they live year to year, decade to decade, throughout our lives, almost always unconsciously, until we become aware of it. And once we become aware of it, then we have the option to choose something different. Now we can choose the difference in our minds.

We can do all the mental gymnastics, the affirmations, and all the things like that. What's really important is that you also bridge the gap between your head and your heart, your body really taking that connection of what you know and asking yourself, well, how does that feel in my body? And we call these felts senses. And when we tap into the felt senses of where that energy is being stored, that's when you can start to, I like to say, dismantle the energy, start to move this out and reclaim that vibrancy that already exists within you. It never really went anywhere. The light got dimmed for whatever reason or for multiple reasons. And honestly, I have lots of clients that sometimes say, well, Amy, I don't remember my childhood. I don't have many memories. We don't need to know the memories. We just get to listen to the body. The body is a living library of every experience you've ever had. Your body is always communicating with you. Like, think about it. Isn't your body communicating with you when you're hungry, when you're thirsty, when you're tired? It's always communicating with you what it needs. So we get to tap into that deeper level of what I call attunement and tapping into that, those sensations to see what is my body communicating. And then we can go deeper into emotions.

For me, when I'm feeling angry, my jaw gets really tense. When I'm feeling sad, my stomach feels really heavy or my chest feels really dense. You get to understand your body at a deeper level, and in that understanding comes the unpacking, and that becomes your up leveling because you have new information. And what you don't know now, you bring to the surface and you go, whoa, now I know. And then you can make different choices. So it's really important to have the willingness to play and see and come in with lots of curiosity.

And lastly, the last thing I want to share here is it's so important that you have patience and faith, patience and faith to actually build the trust within your body. Because imagine your body has been, I'm going to use the word dormant maybe for a while. It's been dormant in this particular area for maybe decades of. And so if that body has not felt safe to feel those feelings, and I'll speak for myself. As a child, I was very sensitive, and I was always expressing my emotions. And then I was shut down often by my parents. They'd say, Amy, why are you crying? What's wrong with you? And so I took it to believe that I was too sensitive and I was too much and that it wasn't safe to express those emotions. So I started to suppress things, and it got stored in my body.

So imagine the dormant emotions or the dormant experiences that you might be holding. Holding on to that could be the key to unlocking the most amazing and intimate relationship with yourself and maybe with your partner that you've always desired, but always felt like, what's missing here? I don't understand. Or maybe it's the missing key to your business, the next level of your business, really stepping into that promotion or that possibility to take on more and really show that leadership in your life. Of what you're capable of. Maybe there's a disconnect there. That by dismantling this, by allowing yourself to unpack all of that stuffed and stored down tendencies, behaviors, limiting beliefs, emotions, and what have you, you're coming back to a place of harmony.

You're building that safety in your body to go, oh, it is safe to express, it is safe to feel, it is safe to share my thoughts and my opinions. It is safe to speak up and own my voice and bring value into the world simply because this is who I am and this is how I want to express myself. It's safe to set boundaries, it's safe to hold those boundaries. And all of this is intertwined. Everything touches everything. So whatever you might be feeling inside somewhere in your external world, that's happening as well. And so when we can clean up our side of the street on the inside, that's when you'll start to see the difference on the external, on the outsides. And it always starts from within. Coming back to Harmony, coming back to that full vibrancy, that it's already there, and you get to turn, turn the dial up, you get to amplify the vibrancy that already exists. It may be just been dormant for a little bit. So with that being said, my hope is that this serves and supports you in your journey, wherever you're at, on your healing journey, that this supports you in turning that dial back up on your vibrancy and allowing yourself to be your fully expressed self.

I would genuinely love to hear from you. I want this platform to be a place where we actually connect. So if you're hearing this right now and this resonates with you, will you please come over to Instagram and send me a DM and let me know? How did this serve and support you? Was it helpful? And what else would you like to hear about here on the I come first podcast? It is my full honor and excitement to serve and support women in the world in their journeys, wherever they're at. And so I truly look forward to hearing back from you. Until then, thank you so much for tuning in, and I am wishing you so much love and so much vibrancy in your life.

Thanks for tuning into today's episode. I know your time is valuable and I'm so grateful that we get a chance to share this space together. If you're wanting more from myself or any of my guests right now, I am a hell yes to that. I love your enthusiasm, so let's make it happen. Simply check out the links in the show notes for all the information on the latest offerings, programs, and possibilities to connect outside this space. Or feel free to send me a DM on Instagram. Amybarskycoaching and of course, if you have any reflections or feedback, I am all ears. Also, if you feel this episode supported you, will you please leave a rating and a review. Your reviews really help people to discover the show and if you know of anyone you feel would benefit from this podcast, please pass it along. A special thanks to my parents for always watching over me and for my team at fullcast for making this show possible. I can't wait to be back in your ears next week. Trust me, you won't want to miss this next episode.