Michelle Walters and Cinthia Varkevisser speak with Coach Kelly Lynne Fox. Kelly supports women to step out of their comfort zone “shell” and hatch into a confident, purpose driven Rock Star. She is a dedicated mom to six children and has been married since 2001..

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Michelle Walters 0:01

I'm Michelle Walters, the mind power hypnotist executive coach part of the equation, and I'm here with my podcast co host, Cinthia Varkevisser, who is the mystic intuitive, everything else part of the equation. And we are here today with Kelly Lynne Fox of fearless generations. Kelly is a coach. And she's here to share all of her wonderful wisdom with us, including a number of details about her story, and the various programs she has coming up. Welcome, Kelly

Kelly Fox 2:10

Thank you. Thank you for having me.

Cinthia Varkevisser 2:13

No, I was super excited when Michelle and I started making our list where we were talking about having you on having your mom on having the two of you on together. Because you have so much to share from so many different perspectives. And I find your story fascinating. And I could listen to you for hours and hours. So I will settle for 20 to 25 minutes today.

Sounds good. Yeah. So why don't you tell everyone a little bit about fearless generations. And I'm having quite a day to day and I'm doing whatever I can not to go to the whiny mode with Michelle knows so well. And and I love that you have a no complaining workshop. So we don't have to talk about that. But I'd love to talk about release generations where it comes from. And yeah, yeah. Give me

Michelle Walters 3:12

about how you work with your mom, which we've brought up and maybe many of our listeners don't know. So

Kelly Fox 3:18

And So Terry and I are very different coaches. She has a very analytical type brain, I'm very feelings and emotions and

that side. So we're a really great combination when we come together to coach because you get both sides of of it. And you get a perspective from the you know, an older generation as well as a younger generation. And I feel like we can kind of cover that generational gap because of our combined experience and what we what we do and what we're passionate about and all of that. So it's really fun. A lot of people love our banter back and forth and how we interact with each other. And we love supporting women to you know, figure it out. what it is that's holding them back those fears that are stopping them from living the life that they want to live. And we help bridge them over to live that life, that to the fullest to be who they want to be doing the things they want to do.

Cinthia Varkevisser 5:19

Pretty fab, right? Yeah, I love it. I love it. So very much. The thing that I loved about your podcast, or in your workshops around it, is that you had a theme a month. Yes. And it was pretty comprehensive.

And I would love to talk about month one, because that's coming up pretty soon right for you.

Kelly Fox 5:41

We, we start over in October, every October we start with so we teach the 12 steps to freedom, or the 12 principles of change. They are fearless living information so that we did not create them. But the first step is awareness. So everything starts with becoming aware that something needs to change, or, or you want something to change that you no longer like what's going on, that you see new possibilities. So it all starts with awareness. So awareness is step one. And then step two is a willingness. So now that you're aware, what are you willing to do?

So that's, that's how everything starts. Right now. We're in the month of surrender, which is Step seven. And a lot of people misunderstand surrender, it's actually a really good thing. It's a really powerful thing. And it has nothing to do with giving up or waving the white flag. It's about surrendering those misconceptions, those limiting beliefs, those frustrations and expectations and just letting all of that crap that comes with fear, go and trust and let what is going to be be and show up as your best self in those moments.

Cinthia Varkevisser 7:16

Well, you know, I gave the thumbs down for those of you don't have the video of this is because that's where complaining lives right in this surrender. I mean, that's where it doesn't live. So this is not the month, this is not the month of complaining. So yeah, looking forward to May. What's for me?

Kelly Fox 7:37

Next month is possibility. Step eight

Michelle Walters 7:40

Oh, I think we'd like that much better.

Kelly Fox 7:42

Possibilities is a fun month. It's it's funny, because every time this month comes around, it seems like so many possibilities show up. And I think it's because we're focused on it all month long. And so we just, we become more aware of them, or we just see them or we're manifesting them more something. So the month of May is always exciting.

Cinthia Varkevisser 8:04

Well, I actually do love surrendering, because what you're doing is that you're, you're actually clearing space. Yes. So you get to see the possibilities. And Michelle, what were you gonna say, Michelle?

Michelle Walters 8:15

I was gonna say we want to hear Kelly story. I've talked to Kelly a number of times, but I really haven't heard your story. So how did you? What sent you to the fearless Living Center? What, what's what brought you into this kind of work

Kelly Fox 8:30

Yeah, so, um, I've always been a really sensitive over emotional, baby, is what I was told when I was younger. And when I was 19, I was diagnosed with depression with clinical depression. And so I was always in this place of wanting something that was going to help. Therapy just didn't really do anything for me, my my medication would would work and then it would stop and then it would work and then it would stop. And so I'd go on and off And then you know, so I just really hadn't found anything that that helps me and definitely not long term. So I it actually I found fearless living. When I moved from California to Georgia.

I was seven months pregnant with my second child. And I just moved so I didn't have a job and I was about to have a baby so there was no point in getting one. And I was watching TV.

And I watched the show called starting over. And the premise of the show was to life coaches and a psychiatrist which worked with women in a house on their problems in front of everyone. And I just thought that is so amazing that they could go on and they could show like their

I didn't, I didn't start a coaching practice at that time, because I graduated a month after I had my third child. And since then I had three more.

You a big family, Kelly?

I do. I have six kids. And they're just starting to get to that point where they're all in school. And so I'm going to be ramping up

my coaching business even more. But as I said, we started the podcast nine years ago, about six years ago, we started doing workshops, Terry and I. And then when COVID hit, we had the opportunity to go virtual and do workshops, we started a 12 month group program. We do six week group classes. So we were able to do a lot more because people were so much more willing to get on Zoom and do a class, which wasn't something that was really done before. Right. Right.

Yeah, I was one of those odd people who was working online 1999. But most people didn't experience that until 2019 2020. So yeah.

The things that I like is you actually shifted ares perspective. Yeah, I remember saying hearing Terry, say, I got to see my daughter change right before my eyes. And what? What was it like? So a lot of times, of course, kids are our best teachers. But yours is pretty, it's pretty well stated, right? It's pretty obvious.

How did you feel about leading your mom into this place? And then and you're being the leader? Right? Usually, it's the parent that leaves the child, but you were leaving your mom? What was what was that? Like? And, you know, and then what was what were the beginnings like, of you two working together? Because I don't even want to know, it'd be like working with my kids. My daughters.

Yeah, so it was cool. I mean, when I first started it, everyone was kind of leery because I'm the, I'm the one of the youngest in my family. And so I'm kind of the one that gets made fun of like I said, before the baby that I was told I was baby and over emotional. So when I started doing this, you know, everybody was kind of not really sure what this was gonna do. And I, but now everybody comes to me for advice. They talk to me about, you know, big things going on in their life. They know I can handle it, they know I can give support. So that started with how I changed. And I think the thing my mom noticed the most was that I started to have a voice.

Because a lot of the times I would just be quiet. And if I spoke I didn't even speak that that loud.

Because I didn't think that anyone wanted to hear what I had to say, nor would trust what I had to say nor would care what I had to say. So there wasn't really any point in speaking up. And so if someone was mean to me, or if someone was saying something I didn't agree with. I just stayed quiet. And when I started speaking up, I think was what really got her attention. Sometimes she jokes around and says Kelly, can you just be quiet again? And I said nope, sorry. But But yeah, that was probably one of the biggest the big, biggest things that she noticed.

I mean, my confidence Myself and my abilities has grown so much. And she definitely sees that as well.

But she sees me coach, and she sees the insights and the intuition and the learning that I, that I have gained. And she respects that. And that's really cool for me to have my mom respect, something that I do.

You know, something that I feel is like a part of me now. And to have her

even say that she thinks that I'm better at it than her, which there is no better at it than her. But we're because we're just different. We're just different coaches. But, um, but it's really cool. And I've gotten to witness her transformation as well. When I was younger, we did not get along.

My my view of her was that I annoyed her and she didn't like being around me. That that's not how she saw it. But that's how I saw it. That was my filter. And

now we're, we talk almost every day, we're business partners, we go away a lot together, because we go to conferences, and and workshops, and retreats, and all this kind of stuff. So we travel together a lot. We're almost like best friends. And that is not a relationship I ever thought I would have with my mother.

You know, she used to be and she'll tell you this herself. She used to be a very angry person. And so the relationship that I can have with her now is just dramatically different than the one I would have had if she hadn't have done this work with me.

Thank you, Kelly. I want to remind all of our listeners that they are listening to mind power meets mystic with Michelle Walters and Cynthia Varkevisser. Today we are talking to Kelly Lynn Fox, about her coaching and fearless generations practice. So Kelly, one of the things we want to hear about I know Cynthia wants to hear about it today is about this thing you do focused on no complaining. Because we all know that there are plenty of days where things happen. And all you want to do is complain. So can you tell us a little bit about what work it is you do in that in that corner of things

Yeah, absolutely. So complaining is something that we're all familiar with. There is not one person, I don't care how virtuous they are, that doesn't know what complaining is and hasn't participated in it.

So complaining can be caused by a lot of different things, expectations not being met, frustrations, disappointments, things not going our way, right.

And a way to get past complaining is by having a practice of gratitudes or gratitude. And so, after this living, we have the practice of writing five gratitudes every day. And what this does is it helps us to shift our purse or our filter, it helps us to shift the way that we see the world, we start to see the world for us, we start to see the good all the good things that are happening. And we let go of the others a little bit easier. And we do that by saying today I am grateful for and then we describe what we're grateful for. And the way we write gratitudes is that a gratitude is something that is outside of you. It's something that you had no control over. It just happened. So someone gave you something someone served you somehow or even the weather, right, because we have no control over the weather. So and it's really it's really powerful when you are really descriptive in a gratitude.

And not only about what it is but how it makes you feel. And we write them down because it anchors them. It gives them weight. And on those bad days when we're frustrated and we are completely or wanting to complain. We can go back and we can read them. And because they were so specific, it takes us directly back to that moment when we first wrote it down or we first experienced it and so it helps us to shift again, out of that Not wanting to complain into a feeling of gratitude.

That's I love that I love that The outside of yourself, because I'm a fan of gratitudes, too. And I can tell you, my first seven are all the same. And they are the things that I can write, I'm always grateful for a bed to sleep in with a, you know that that's covered by a roof. I'm always grateful that I've never missed a meal. I mean, never. I've had two meals.

Sometimes, so mean, so like the first five are, are, you know, the things that and I do believe that it's good to be grateful for them. But now I really have to not dig but just be a little bit more aware. Yeah, yourself. Yeah, and you want to have, you want to try to have like five different things every day. So you wouldn't be grateful for the same thing every day.

But there are times that my gratitudes definitely repeat. I'm grateful that my husband makes dinner a lot.

I'm grateful for cuddles with my six year old or the laughter of my 15 year old because that doesn't happen very often. I am grateful for you know, extremely long hugs for my 20 year old. So

there are things that repeat. But it's it's usually something different, and not necessarily those basic needs. So those are still good to have. It's more of a specific

act, or a specific situation that occurred, and how somebody else handled it, and how you are grateful for the way that they handled it, or you're grateful for the service you received or you're grateful for.

You know, whatever is going on.

Wow.

Very cool. Very powerful.

Yeah, and we do have a workshop that teaches all about gratitudes. And it's called No complaining. And we'll be doing it in June. I believe. That's true. But you do have something that's coming up before that. Right? We do. We do. We do a free workshop every month. And it's usually on the second Saturday of every month. And it's called what is fear? And it's the it's a basic foundation, look at fear, what is it? Why do we have it? How does it talk to us or affect us? How does it affect our body? You know, all of those those basic that basic knowledge of fear, so that you can have that to jump off of when we teach you the other tools and strategies to deal with fear.

So a lot of people have a perception of fear. That is not correct, I guess is the best way of saying that.

But we try to teach them and up their awareness. All of our workshops are about upping your awareness so that it then gets to the point where are you willing to do something different?

Are you willing to change how you look at something or how you feel about something or how you think about something or how you do something?

So, so he

so I'm ready for a storytime. I I like to think of you and Terry, I'm not I like to I you know, I consider Terry, your success story. Right? Um, just because of the way that it follows right. It was it was your bravery. And I mean, not the Terry didn't have a whole lot of stuff. But it was your bravery that Aled. I would love to hear another success story. What is what is what is something that when I say success story comes to mind about either a client or a family that through your coaching and experience that you're like, oh my god, this is why I do it. Yeah, song. This is how I do it.

Um, well, one of my favorite clients, she, when she came to us, she was very eager. And that's like, one of the best clients right? That they're just eager. They're wanting it. They're, they're eating it up right

there. They're listening and they're actually implementing what you're teaching them. And she, when she came to us, she was she was very anxious all the time. She was very scared about it.

You know, multiple things happening, she was always

concerned about our kids and

you know, every little movement and how that would affect them, just over analyzing over feeling everything, and she was paralyzed.

And when we started coaching, we started, you know, walking through these upcoming choices of hers, and just breaking it down and attacking each beer one by one. And now she's, oh my gosh, she's so open, so alive. So wanting to take risks and do new things and try new things and explore new things. And she's taking her kids with her in this journey. And instead of being over protective and worried all the time, she's saying, Hey, let's go on this journey together. Let's learn these new things together. And it's just, it's really

energizing to talk with her to be around her, her energy is just up in an on fire. And I love talking to her. And

we're not working together right now. But

she still sends me things all the time. Hey, look at this or look at what I did. And,

you know, so I know, I know, we're gonna keep that connection going. And anytime she feels the need that she wants a little bit extra help. You know, we're right there for all right, one last question for you ready? Okay. Hey, fearless generations? II

, do you see it continuing down to one of your kids doing this this type of work? Or you know where they're gonna take it? So I'll give you an example. I do. I you know, I do my readings. I do my intuitive coatings. And you know, my kids thought I was a little bit cuckoo bananas, which is, which is fine. That's what they're supposed to do. And at the tender age of 31, one is a MFT. Right, a therapist, and the other one works in diversity, equity inclusion, which I can see, to do to different parts of me. So do you see it either going straight across realist generations? Or do you see one of your kids splitting off and branching off one of the things that you're doing right now

I really don't know if my if Mike, I don't see my son doing? I can tell you that. And I don't see. I don't see my girls necessarily at this point. It'd been something that that they would do. But you never know. You never know. I mean, I still have little kids. And they haven't really developed their personalities all the way yet. So maybe my 12 year old will get into it. Who knows? She's, she's she's a lot like me. But I definitely think that they will do something that is service, around service and around inclusion, and around

being being someone who advocates for others. So in that sense, I can see that they would be doing something similar. That makes sense to me. That is a total extension of who you are and what you do. Because you know, we didn't even talk about you and Terry, you have a nonprofit.

Right? So of course, that's an extension. It's fantastic.

Which we will talk about when you interior are on board together. So again, I would love to All right.

Thank you, Kelly for joining us for our episode of Mind power meets mystic Happy Mother's Day to you and all of the other mothers out there. We had a great time talking to you and for details on how to reach you. We will put them in our show notes. Thanks for coming. Thank you. Bye

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