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E 356: Tammy's Takes #38: Healing Doesn't Always Start with Talking
Episode 3568th August 2026 • Adult Child of Dysfunction • Tammy Vincent
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What if healing doesn't begin with talking... but with expressing?

In this episode of Tammy's Takes, I build on my conversation with poet and Positive Psychology Coach Michael Teferi and explore one of the most overlooked parts of healing: giving your pain somewhere to go. Whether it's writing, journaling, painting, music, prayer, or simply speaking your truth, expression is often the first step toward releasing what your nervous system has been holding onto.

As adult children of dysfunction, many of us learned to stay quiet, suppress our emotions, and survive. But those emotions don't simply disappear—they get stored in our bodies, our relationships, and the stories we tell ourselves. Today, we're talking about why expression is so powerful and one simple exercise you can begin today.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• Why suppressing emotions keeps us stuck

• How creative expression helps release stored pain

• The connection between the nervous system and emotional healing

• Why writing can be one of the most healing things you'll ever do

• One simple exercise to begin expressing what's been buried

• Why your story deserves to be heard—even if only by you

Healing doesn't require you to become someone new.

Sometimes it simply requires you to finally give your old pain a voice.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

If today's episode resonated with you and you're wondering what patterns may still be keeping you stuck, I'd love to help.

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Because healing isn't about fixing who you are...

It's about remembering who you were before survival taught you otherwise.

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hello, everybody.

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Welcome back to another episode

of Tammy's Takes, where we take

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powerful conversations and turn

them into practical strategies

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you can use right here, right now.

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So today's episode is about a conversation

that I had with a most amazing young

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man, Michael Tafari, yesterday.

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And I wanna tell you, he does poetry, but

today's episode really isn't about poetry.

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It's about something

much bigger than that.

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It's about finally giving up

your pain somewhere to go,

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and giving it somewhere to go.

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One of the things Michael said during

our conversation that really stayed with

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me, not because it was so profound or

dramatic, but because it was honest.

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He found healing through poetry.

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Now, maybe poetry isn't your thing.

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Maybe you've never written a

poem in your life, but that's

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not really the important part.

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The point is expression.

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As adult children of dysfunction,

so many of us learn very early on

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that it's not to- safe to speak

up or express what we're thinking.

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We learn to stay so quiet.

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We learn to swallow our feelings.

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We learn to keep the peace,

and every feeling we never

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expressed didn't disappear.

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It got stored in our bodies, in our

nervous systems, in our relationships,

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sometimes even in our health.

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The opposite of suppression isn't

perfection, my friends, it's expression.

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That expression might be writing, it

might be journaling, it might be painting,

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it might be music, it might be prayer.

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It might be speaking to a trusted

friend or a therapist, or it

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might even just be crying for

the first time in so many years.

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It's not the method that matters

nearly as much as the fact that

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you are finally allowing what's

inside of you to have a voice.

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One thing I loved about today's

conversation was watching someone

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who experienced bullying choose

compassion instead of bitterness.

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That doesn't erase what happened to

him, but it shows us something important

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about painful experiences, and that

is painful experiences can actually

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shape us without having to define us.

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So here is today's challenge.

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Spend just 10 minutes today expressing

something you've been carrying.

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Don't edit it.

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Don't judge it.

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Don't try to make it sound or look pretty.

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Just let it come out, because

healing often begins the moment your

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pain no longer has to stay hidden.

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So if today's episode resonated

with you, I'd love to help you

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discover what patterns your nervous

system might still be holding onto.

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Book a call, either a complimentary

clarity and calm call, or

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let's book a voice scan.

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And remember, you are

not what happened to you.

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You are who you became

after you decided to heal.

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Thank you so much, guys, and

I will see you back next time.

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Love you all.

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