The Fermi Paradox - Where are the aliens?

If you look up at the stars on a backpacking trip you'll notice that theres a fuckton of them...and as discovered in the 90's many of htese stars have planets orbiting around them...you may have asked yourself...is there anyoen living up there??? it turns out that mathematically, there really should be other civilizations doing stuff out there...maybe they are harnessing the power of their own sun or colonising universes or uploading there consciousnesses to shared virtual reality simulation...i dont know, but mathematically they should be there....so why haven't we heard anything yet? I mean to say we haven't heard even a whisper of their existence...how can this be possible? this is the fermi paradox

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