Wellbeing Practitioner Poonam Dhuffer of YSM8 talks self-compassion and being kind to yourself, in the second part of this 'Blue Monday' special.
IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:
[00:00] Teaser quote
[00:55] Introduction to Poonam Dhuffer (Part 2)
[01:15] The loop of negative thought and worry - let it go
[04:00] Understanding triggers and not being afraid to ask for support
[05:13] Naming the feeling and not repressing it
[06:45] The importance of moving our bodies - finding a rhythm that works for you
[10:27] Why it's good to talk to your baby - for you and for them
[11:22] The benefits of a power song - get your little one involved!
[13:07] Give yourself permission to do something just for you
[13:42] Have some non-judgemental people available as a support system, who you can call on
[15:13] Take 10 minutes to yourself to unwind or recharge
[16:12] Keep track of self-critical talk
[17:44] The power of breathing - visualising an equal square
[19:44] Reframing the words you use - "I'm learning, I'm growing"
[21:17] Poonam's background of social anxiety and panic attacks
[22:16] The Loving Kindness Meditation (see bonus episode)
[30:55] How to get in touch with Poonam
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
- We're human, we're going to worry - but try to rein it in so it doesn't consume you.
- Ask for support if you need it - it can make all the difference.
- Naming how you are feeling can be helpful. If we repress it, it will seep out eventually.
- Going for a mindful walk or dancing to your favourite song can really help balance your nervous system and take you away from your worry.
- Engage in a quick, energising dance if you're feeling low or sluggish. Have a kitchen disco with your little one!
- Who can you call on as a support network? Who will listen without judgement?
- Take 10 minutes for yourself at the end of each day.
- Keep track of self critical talk - what can you rephrase or reframe?
- When worrying, return to the breath - 5 inhales in, 5 exhales out.
- Positive affirmations can be surprisingly powerful. Try to say the words with sincerity.
- Dr. Kristin Neff - https://self-compassion.org/ / TED talk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvtZBUSplr4
- Get in touch with Poonam Dhuffer here - https://www.ysm8.co.uk/
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NEXT WEEK’S EPISODE:
In Episode 7 I continue my chat with inspiring maternal mental health specialist Naomi Buffery, on her own experience of PND and her mission to empower other mums to beat anxiety and depression.
SUPPORT:
If you are struggling right now, please know that it’s okay to talk and reach out for help.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND WILL NOT FEEL THIS WAY FOR EVER.
We hope these support services are helpful (please note we do not check or monitor them individually).
Action on Postpartum Psychosis (APP)
Moderated Forum, click here to find out more.
Email: app@app-network.org
Tel: 020 3322 9900
Andy's Man Club
A non-judgemental talking group for men
https://andysmanclub.co.uk/club-information/clubs/
Email: info@andysmanclub.co.uk
Association of Postnatal Illness
Helpline: 10am – 2pm – 0207 386 0868
Email: info@apni.org
Live chat online facility
Best Beginnings
Free NHS-accredited Baby Buddy app offering
evidence-based information and self-care tools to help parents during pregnancy
and early stages of parenting.
App users also have access to a confidential, text-based Crisis Messenger which provides
24/7 support for new and expectant parents who are feeling extremely anxious or overwhelmed.
Birth Trauma Association
Email: support@birthtraumaassociation.org.uk
CALM
Contact CALM
on their national helpline: 0800 58 58 58 (5pm-midnight)
Cedar House Support Group
Email: lwise@talktalk.net (Liz Wise)
Mobile: 07773 283556
DadsNet
Offers support and knowledge through a community of dads on practical parenting and fatherhood.
Fathers Reaching Out
https://www.reachingoutpmh.co.uk/
Run by Mark Williams, campaigner, speaker and writer, offering support to dads.
Make Birth Better (Birth Trauma Support)
Maternal OCD
Peer support available, email info@maternalocd.org to
arrange
Muslim Women’s Network
Helpine: 0800 999 5786, open Mon-Fri 10am –
4pm with support offered in English, Urdu, Punjabi, Mirpuri, Putwari, Hindko,
and Bengali.
Email: info@mwnhelpline.co.uk
Online chat: www.mwnhelpline.co.uk
Text: 07415 206 936
Netmums
Netmums offer peer support via their Maternal Mental Health Drop-In
Clinic.
NHS
Contact your local GP surgery.
Call the NHS on 111
or contact a local NHS urgent mental health helpline
If you are in crisis, visit Accident & Emergency at your nearest hospital.
PANDAS
Helpline open from 9am-8pm every day – 0843 2898 401
Email support available – info@pandasfoundation.org.uk
Petals
Petals offers free-of-charge specialist counselling to anyone who has experienced pregnancy
or baby loss.
Web: petalscharity.org/counsellingcontact/
Email: counselling@petalscharity.org
Tel: 0300 688 0068
Samaritans
Tel: 116 123
(this is a free telephone number and will not appear on the phone bill)
Web: www.samaritans.org
Email: jo@samaritans.org
Shout
Text SHOUT to 85258 to start a confidential conversation with a trained Shout volunteer.
Twins Trust
Twinline is Twins Trust’s listening service for parents of twins, triplets and more. All
the calls are answered by volunteers who have multiples themselves.
Twinline is open Monday to Friday 10am to 1pm and from 7pm to 10pm. 0800 138 0509,
alternatively email asktwinline@twinstrust.org.
Web: twinstrust.org/let-us-help/support/twinline.html
Tommy’s
Tommy’s has a team of in-house midwives who offer free support and information for women and their families at any stage of pregnancy and after the birth.
Web: www.tommys.org
Helpline: Tommy’s
helpline has been closed temporarily but their midwives are answering questions
via email, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.
Email: midwife@tommys.org
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