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The Battery Life of a Social Worker: Balancing Empathy and Self-Care With Rebecca
Episode 326th September 2024 • Journey With Care • CareImpact
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How does a social worker maintain peace and hope amidst relentless challenges? This conversation on Journey With Care features Rebecca, a social worker and case manager deeply committed to supporting children, youth, and caregivers. Discussing the emotional toll of her work, Rebecca candidly reveals feelings of frustration and sadness with systemic failures and tough outcomes.

We highlight the significant role of churches in supporting social workers through compassion and practical acts of kindness, with a particular focus on the positive impact of initiatives like CarePortal and CareImpact.

Time Stamps

[04:25] Similar situations, unique individuals, engaging with empathy.

[08:02] Supporting professionals in challenging, high-pressure roles.

[11:12] Left previous job, sought other options, avoided stress.

[16:04] Taking a break for fresh air and reflection.

[16:50] Coping with emotions and maintaining professionalism.

[20:25] Hold on to metaphorical pebbles for hope.

[24:11] Maintain faith, stay connected with Jesus and others.

[27:53] Pray for people outside the church community.

[30:35] Empowering churches to care and make a difference.

[33:32] Church supports social workers, impacts lives positively.

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Previous episode with Rebecca: https://www.careimpact.ca/post/s02e36

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Editing and production by Johan Heinrichs: arkpodcasts.ca

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As a social worker, as a caregiver, I feel frustrated

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with systems and with

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outcomes and I feel frustrated

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with people who are demanding things that are

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not possible. I'm I'm on a personal journey to

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get more in touch with my feelings and to be okay with

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those hard emotions because

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I think as a social worker, it's not always appropriate

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to let those emotions out. What does loving your

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neighbor actually look like? This is

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Journey with Care, where curious Canadians get inspired to

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love others well through real life stories and honest

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conversations.

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Imagine dedicating your life to helping others, only to face

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relentless emotional challenges and a system that often leaves you

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feeling powerless. Have you ever wondered what keeps social

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workers going despite the odds? Johan

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here. Today, we're kicking off a new series, battery of a caregiver.

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We're exploring the lives of those who dedicate themselves to caregiving roles.

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We'll uncover what it takes, their self care strategies, and

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how our communities can provide much needed support around them.

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Joining us today is Rebecca, a passionate social worker and

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case manager, and we'll discuss self care and the toll it

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takes to work in the field of social work and the emotional toll of

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absorbing others' trauma. We'll also discuss how churches can play a

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pivotal role. By the end, you'll see how simple acts of gratitude

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can significantly uplift those dedicated to caring for others.

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But before we get into the episode, I wanna remind you to check out Journey

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with Prayer, a corresponding 5 minute devotional episode to start off

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your week. You can go grab the link in the show notes or simply just

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pause this episode, go on your podcast player, and look up Journey of

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Prayer and follow, or you can check out the website as well. You

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can get the episodes earlier on our website, careimpact.ca/podcast.

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Also, this podcast is made possible through generous donors like

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you. It does take financial resources to keep producing these stories and

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maybe you're part of a business and wanna sponsor an episode, maybe you wanna

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promote your work in the community or an upcoming event, You can also head over

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to careimpact.ca/podcast to get more

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involved. Okay. I'm really excited about this interview with

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Wendy and Rebecca. Rebecca has joined us on a past interview, and the

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feedback was nothing but positive. She's a great communicator,

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has a huge heart, and is a longtime friend of mine and a friend of

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CareImpact. You don't wanna miss this one. Now on with

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the interview. Today, I'm thrilled to have with me a guest

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in our studio, Rebecca, to talk to me all about being a

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social worker and what it looks like to take care of self

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and to be cared for in community. And you will

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hear a bit of community in the the background, and we're in our neighborhood in

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my Shasta. And right around us, there are children and families

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enjoying the nice summer weather. But, Rebecca, I wanna just welcome

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you here to the podcast. Thank you, Wendy. It's great to be here.

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Good to have you here too. We're looking at caregiving,

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and you are a caregiver of all caregivers. When we think

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of caregiving from a day in and day out professional perspective,

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I can't think of anyone more in the field than a

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social worker. Can you tell me a little bit about your

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role as a social worker? Yeah. I would

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consider myself a case manager. So I have

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a caseload of a number of

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different families that I'm working with,

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primarily children, youth, and their caregivers. And

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so on a day to day basis, I'm interacting

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with different ones, whether that's over the phone, over email,

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in person, attending meetings, answering questions,

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just kind of assisting them in system

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navigation. So is every day the same in the

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tasks that you do, or does it look differently? Like, walk me through maybe a

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typical day or week in the life of being a

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case manager? I think it is a lot

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of the same, but it's the people in the situations that are

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unique. There's lots of similar facts and

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similar scenarios, but every person that

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I'm interacting with has their own story, and they are

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coming with their own history. They're all coming to me

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as individuals, and so my role is to

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engage with them to kinda find out what do they need,

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how can I help meet those needs, how can I help connect them to

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other people if I'm not the right person to meet their needs,

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and really just to walk alongside people through

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what can be a really challenging season, some

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really complicated issues, and just to be there with

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them? Yeah. So when you're working with a youth or child or a

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family, they're at a point of crisis or

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a time of critical need. Right? It's not just for some

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simple steps forward in life and dreaming

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again. You're doing some crisis intervention. Is that correct?

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In my particular role, people would be coming to me after they've had

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a crisis. And so I would be providing them

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with support information after to

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continue to kind of go through some

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subsequent processes to the traumatic incident that they've

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experienced. So, Rebecca, can you take us

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back to the moment when you first felt drawn into social work?

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What brought you into this field in the first place,

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and what helped spark that passion for you?

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I actually growing up, I thought I was gonna be a missionary. I

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pictured myself overseas, and

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that didn't lay out exactly how I had

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anticipated. I moved from a small

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town to Winnipeg coming up on 2 decades

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ago, and I found myself working at a coffee shop. And I thought,

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I don't wanna work at a coffee shop for the rest of my life. I

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I feel like God has called me to have compassion

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and to be a helper. And so I

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kind of went through my mental list of careers that involved

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helping, and I came up with nursing and social work. And I

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didn't know how I'd fare with bodily fluids.

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So, like I'm with you on that. Yeah. I was like, oh, I don't think

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that's gonna go very well. So I decided to pursue social

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work. So you took the easy route and took social work. Right? Exactly.

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You don't have bodily fluids, but, boy, do you deal with a lot of

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messes, don't you? But you were drawn into that. So

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along the way, as you were in your social work degree, as you were studying

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and preparing for this, taking your practicum, do you feel that it

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adequately prepared you for what you now experience

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as social work? What's your perspective now in hindsight?

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No. No. It didn't prepare me.

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I I don't think that there's any

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profession that you enter prepared for what you're actually going to do coming

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out of school. They might provide you with theories. They might provide you with

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guidance or some examples. Even in practicum, there's some

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degree of this is more real. But

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until I was working as a social

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worker fully fledged on my own with my own responsibilities

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not being, you know, micromanaged or overseen

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directly day by day, I don't think I was really prepared for

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what I was stepping into. Yeah. And and for many people who

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aren't in the role, I'm certainly not, but I've been journeying with

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those who are in the profession. I've noticed that

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they hold a lot of weight. In some ways, there's a lot of need

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to collaborate with many people, but when this person or

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this family is in your caseload, there's a lot of pressure.

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You're it to make big decisions with them and

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to help navigate that. That's a big responsibility. How have

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you managed some of that as you get more and more cases,

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new cases coming on? How do you handle that when there's

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nobody else sharing that load with you? Well, fortunately,

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I'm not left holding the ball by myself. I'm

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fortunate to work within a team that includes a supervisor,

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that includes coworkers, and I remember reading

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an article way back when I was in school about why people stay

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this was specific to child welfare. Why do people stay working in child welfare

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when it was, you know, it's widely known that that is a very

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challenging place to work in. Mhmm. And it was

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a study that was quantitative. They were having interviews with people.

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And by and large, people stayed because of their coworkers. Because

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Yeah. They felt like they were part of a team, and they had people who

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had their back. And they felt supported even when they

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were doing some really difficult work and

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really underfunded, under resourced,

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challenging situations. They stayed because of their people. And

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I can certainly say that I don't feel like I am

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on my own doing what I do day to day.

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I'm also not on my own just within my team. I feel like there

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are. He made that point that as a service provider,

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I feel like we are always collaborating. We're

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always connecting. We're always looking for who else

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could support this family, who else has something to

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offer, something to to give to them so that they don't

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feel like they're alone in this? But I have talked with

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people who don't feel like they're part of a team,

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and it's really challenging to feel like

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you're it. Yeah. Because the reality is there is a lot of

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turnover and a lot of teams Absolutely. A lot of turnover. And maybe

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they're for good teams. It's not to say that the the team

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environment was bad, but it's stressful. There's

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practicalities to being a good team when you're all busy and running in

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different directions. Correct? Mhmm. And and taking on a lot of the

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the stress. I understand that compassion fatigue

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is a huge item for caregivers, particularly in

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the social work field in the profession. I was looking at the the

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Canadian Association For Social Workers, and they were

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identifying that there was a a huge turnover due to

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burnout and compassion fatigue. Have you experienced

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any of that in in some of the the good work you're doing,

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but you just didn't have enough to give, you felt, in that that

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moment even with a good team? Can you identify with any of

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that? I think that I left

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before I got to that point. You left where? I left the

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the space where I was working a previous position where I could

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see the possibility of that

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cropping up within me, and I made a decision

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to see if there were other options available to me and there

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were. And so, I was able to make a change,

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and I would say, by and large, avoid that. But

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then I can remember times when I would go to social gatherings, and

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I remember one person in particular saying, you look like you have the weight of

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the world on your shoulders. Mhmm. But, oh,

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that's that's not how I wanna live. Yeah. And it

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clearly it wasn't like, I feel like, oh, I'm, you know,

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kinda keeping it holding it together, not

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stressed, but, obviously, that wasn't the truth. Your body was

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showing that you were under a tremendous amount of of stress

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Yeah. Which is understandable when you're dealing with many

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different cases. And and how do you separate yourself from

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some of the crises that you're walking? You're journeying with them. You care deeply

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for their outcomes. But how do you not take that with you?

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It's really hard. It's really hard.

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I went to a vicarious trauma

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workshop. I actually went to it twice because I thought this is so

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important, and it was such a good training.

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And recognizing that even though I wasn't the one who

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is experiencing all these traumatic events personally,

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as a caregiver, I was absorbing them. Mhmm. I was

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absorb absorbing the trauma of the traumatized

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people that I was walking alongside, and that was impacting me more than

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I thought. And that workshop had a lot of great ideas about

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how to process your emotions and making sure that you had good

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supports in place. You were practicing self care. You were creating trauma

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free zones within your workplace. But

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at the end of the day, it was up to me to implement

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those things that I had learned. And some days, I did a good

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job of it, and other days I looked like I had the weight of the

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world resting on my shoulders. And what are

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some ways that you've helped mitigate that? When you see

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that on your dashboard that, hey, I care deeply, but

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this is getting to me or I'm carrying

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it home with me, what are some practices that you've

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been able to and I realize everybody has their own practices, but you found

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some some tips and some some strategies that have been

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working for you. Because how many years have you been in this now?

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11. 11. Yeah. So it's not your first rodeo.

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No. It take 11 years of day to day dealing

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with crisis and families in high needs.

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What are some of those strategies that have worked? Maybe some that haven't.

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I think some of the things that have worked have

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been avoiding certain situations.

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I I talked to a counselor and she's like, maybe you do need to expose

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yourself to some some of this. Like, I don't like watching sad movies.

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Mhmm. I don't like anything that remotely

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reminds me of work. I have really firm fences

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in my personal time to not engage with

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news, media. I know I have a lot of coworkers who do not

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follow those same boundaries. But for myself, I'm like, if I don't

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need to experience more trauma, I don't want

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to. And for me, those things are small t traumas. If I'm

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watching a movie that talks about things that I can

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I I can correlate with my work? I walk a

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lot. Mhmm. I walk when I'm on the phone.

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I have earbuds. While you're working on the phone? Or

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okay. Yeah. At it's funny. I I don't think it

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was really a conscious thing. Mhmm. But I have noticed

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that once I have start having a phone conversation that I

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feel is going to be potentially challenging, or even if it

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isn't, I find myself pacing back and forth in my

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office because I remember from this training that I took so many

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years ago that our bodies dispel trauma through movement.

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That that's really calming and centering. And

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so I find myself walking back and forth. You know, if I stay here for

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a really long time, there's gonna be a little worn out path in the carpet

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between the door and the window where I've Yeah. Walked my phone

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calls out. Oh, that's great. Now I was

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having a conversation with you the other day, and somebody said, hey. Do I see

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you sitting on a park bench at lunchtime,

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journaling or something like that. Is that something that you you put into

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practice in your workplace that you you get out for a

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bit? Yes. Yeah. I try to get out every lunch

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hour just to spend some time out in the fresh

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air, get some sun, get removed from my

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desk, from eating at my desk, from, sometimes

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lunchrooms can be a really great little oasis to connect with people, and

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sometimes they are a place where people want to continue to talk about

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work. And so I have chosen not to

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engage in that. And I go for a little walk, I sit

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in a beautiful park, I listen to music, I

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pray, I sit and stare into

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space and think about nothing and let my brain kind of, you

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know, go where it wants to go and process through whatever it needs

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to process through. Now I imagine in your day, you deal

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with a lot of and a variety of cases of of

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crises and emotions and mental illness and

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and tragedies upon tragedies. Yet I

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sit here across from you, and you have a very peaceful demeanor.

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You are very positive and and peace loving, and

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that's how I've known you to be. And you're very professional in not

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divulging personal information, which I appreciate you you

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hold and respect your your clients very dearly.

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But are there times, honestly this is just a you question, not a client

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question. Are there times, honestly, where you're just angry,

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where you're frustrated, you're annoyed

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when those emotions aren't on the happy happy, you

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you feel all the other emotions that sometimes we don't feel

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the permission to. Yes. You do.

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Okay. Because your smile isn't showing it to me, but I know it must

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you're human then, your what is what you're saying. Yeah. I

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think more more than frustration,

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I think I feel sad Mhmm. More often.

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And I feel frustrated with

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systems and with outcomes,

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and I feel frustrated with people who

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are demanding things that are not possible.

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Mhmm. And I'm I'm on a journey, a

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personal journey, to get more in touch with my feelings and to be

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okay with those hard emotions because

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I think as a social worker, as a caregiver in that regard,

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it's not always appropriate to let those emotions Yeah.

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Out. Sometimes there are. I can say that I have

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cried with people Mhmm. Because we're we're

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humans. Mhmm. Like, something hits you Yeah.

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Deeply Yeah. Impacts you. Yeah. It would

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feel fake to plaster

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on a smile or just to be indifferent. It's like

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this actually is really, really sad and really

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painful. And I'm feeling that with you. I think that's the

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that's the definition of empathy to to be with

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someone in their pain. But, yeah, I definitely get

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frustrated with people who don't seem to understand

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or who continue to make choices that I

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can look down the line and see You know where it's going. This is

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not good. Yeah. Been down this path before.

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So when you see those things, it's like if you were a battery and and

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it was fully charged, every time those things happen

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throughout the day, it can drain your battery, so to

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speak. Right? It can. Yeah. So what are some of the things

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that fill your battery up, that give you boosts of

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energy? Not that you're deriving your your energy

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from the outcomes of others, but what are some things in your

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day that add life and say, yes. This is why I'm doing this.

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This is this is what I'm here for. One of my first

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well, no. She wasn't one of my first. She was my first supervisor. She had

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been working in social services for, 40

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years. Mhmm. And when I was talking with her about

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a situation where things had gone really well Mhmm.

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And she said to me, imagine this

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situation is a pebble. Mhmm. You take that

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pebble, you hold it, you keep it close

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in your hand, you put it in your pocket. And on those days

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where things are not going well, you put your hand in your

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pocket and you bring out your metaphorical pebble and you remember that

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there are people who are being impacted positively,

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that you are doing good work, that people can

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change, that there is hope. Mhmm. And this supervisor, to

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my knowledge, did not know or love Jesus,

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but I thought, yeah. Yeah. I'm gonna reflect

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on these good circumstances, and I am gonna choose to

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have hope when these situations feel hopeless because

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I have a lot of pebbles in my pocket by now. I can

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remember that, god, you're still at work even when

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things don't go the way that I want them to. And and

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your value of who you are in Christ and where

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God has placed you in the lives of these people

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is not diminished or increased based on the

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outcomes of that path. Right? There's a lot of trust

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that goes into this. Tell me more. Trust that he's got

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them. Like, these people who are just hot mess express,

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things are not going well, I choose in those moments

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to trust, like, lord, I can't get through to this person,

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but I believe that you can. Mhmm. I believe that you have put

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many people along their path, that you love them, and you care for them

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more than I ever could. And

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that despite like, that's the definition of

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faith. It's the things that we can't see, that we believe He's at work,

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that He is going to redeem, that He's going to heal, He's going to

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deliver. And what do you guys just draw up a quick little

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prayer? Oh, Lord. Jesus, help. I can't see the way

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forward, but I believe that you're good and you're faithful.

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I I choose to trust in you in this moment for this person. And

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maybe in that ironic way,

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as scripture talks about when we are weak, then we're strong. When we know we

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come to the end of ourselves, that's when we can really invite God

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into those places. Maybe you just have a fast track to know

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that sooner, saying these circumstances are far greater than 1

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social worker can change or one system or a team, even the best

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team or the best system, even if they were working perfectly,

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that when we come to the end of ourselves, we

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realize the strength of God. And maybe that's what I'm seeing in you

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after a full day of crisis after crisis and meetings

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after meetings and system bureaucracy that you you deal with,

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you can still smile because maybe it's more than you,

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and maybe that's what you're representing here. That

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resonates with me. Mhmm. Because I I also,

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was researching mental health among social workers. You

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get a bad beating day in and day out. This isn't

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because you're not strong or you're not equipped or you're not

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professional about it, but they're estimating about

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45% of social workers when they're in

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the the field of social work in Canada have reported symptoms of

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mental health challenges and often related to anxiety,

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depression, PTSD, vicarious trauma. All of

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these things are things that people don't go in and and earn a

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social work degree saying, let me be Sign me up. Sign me

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up. It's a 5050. Can you speak to social

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workers or those that are interested in caring? God is still calling

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people to care. 100%. What can you tell people

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going in with those kind of statistics about

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caregiving? Keep your eyes on Jesus.

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It so feels cliched as

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it leaves my mouth, but, honestly, that is

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what keeps me going. I feel like he has called

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me to this, that he has a plan and he has a

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purpose. And I I

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my practice is to spend time with him daily to reconnect, to go

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back to the source because you're absolutely right. I don't have

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it in myself to take care of these people, to deal with

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all of the mess and the stress and

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continue to have joy and to

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feel peace. It's the holy spirit within

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me, and it's also staying connected

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not just to the Lord, absolutely, 1st and foremost, but also

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staying connected to other people and people who

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are healthy. There's I have all sorts of people in my

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life, but I really need to make a concerted effort

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to stay connected to people who help to

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support me and to care about what's

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going on in my life outside of work and inside of

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work. But So tell me more about that. What does a

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caring connection look like in community? When do you feel belonging

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or supported even after a full day and you can't

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tell anybody the situation? You're sworn of confidentiality.

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And yet you are still Rebecca the human, not

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just the Rebecca the professional. So what does it look

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like to be human in community and be cared for in that?

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So I'm a single person. I live in community with other

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women, but I don't have kids. I don't have a partner. And so

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then I have thank the

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Lord. He surrounded me with families who

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have kids, and I spend time intentionally

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with these people. I go and play

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and get hugged and give hugs and enjoy

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bedtime routine and going to the park.

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I have a really amazing group of friends that

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and just actually a couple a few in particular that I can

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be really honest with about when things are

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going well and when they're not. Mhmm. And I can ask

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for prayer. That was actually it's not something that's part of

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my life right now but for many, many, many

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years I was part of a prayer meeting

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that your wonderful producer, Johan,

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was spearheading, where the focus

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was specifically focused for people who are working or who were

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looking for a job. Eventually, it kind of morphed. It

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also was for people who are going to school, and it was

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so encouraging because here we were,

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we were not a big group. We were not a fancy group

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or a well known group, but we were faithful.

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We were faithfully getting together and praying

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for our workplaces and praying for our coworkers, praying for our

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clients, and our patients, and our students. And

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every time that there was something work related that I was feeling

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was heavy, or I was, you know, wanting prayer, I could

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bring it to this group of people, and they prayed for me. They

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prayed with me. And that was really,

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really amazing. We are on a break, just, you know, seasons are

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they come and they go. But, say, find people who

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can pray with you. Well and I think that's a great,

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invitation actually for churches. Every

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church I've gone to believes in prayer. But sometimes we

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think we need to be praying for the quote, unquote missionary, the

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pastor, the ministry leader, the program that is under the

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church roof. But what if we flip the script? What

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if we prayed for those that are going into the

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marketplace, those that are going into the hospitals, into the courtrooms,

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into these places of crisis? You are an

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agent of care and compassion that we should be

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upholding. I love that idea. Can you give me other

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examples and ideas that churches could grab hold of?

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Or maybe there's a listener right now saying, you know what? I I'm part of

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a church, but I'm just not sure if I'm cut out for I couldn't do

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what Rebecca's doing, and I'm not a foster parent, and I'm just not

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sure. And yet you're saying prayer has been instrumental for

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helping propel you forward. Are there other ways that

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people in the church can support people like you

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in the roles that you're doing? I yeah.

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I'm off the top of my head, one way is just to

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ask them. Mhmm. Like, if you know a social worker, if you know a

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foster parent, if you know somebody who's working in a crisis

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service, you can ask them, how could I help you? How can I support

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you? How can I pray for you? Have them over for dinner.

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Just get to know them, build relationship with

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them, be a faithful friend. We

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all need more friends. And I think that would actually break

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down some barriers as well because a lot of people in

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society, all they hear about a social worker is

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taking children and and being part of the system

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and and all of these things that are so untrue of

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who you are and is a disservice, if they would only get to know you

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and hear your story and your your heart of compassion, they

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too would be enriched, wouldn't they? I certainly think so.

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Yeah. Yeah. If if I had a nickel for every

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time I tell people I'm a social worker, oh, that's really

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hard work. Like, all jobs are hard.

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All jobs have rewarding parts to them and hard parts to them,

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and god calls us all to different roles. And I think that

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we all have a role to play when it comes to loving children and loving

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families. And just encourage you, ask the Lord, like, what is

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your role? How can you be part of the story that he is

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writing in the lives of children and families that are around

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you in your church community? Get connected with Carry

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Impact. Like Yeah. And that's what we're passionate about at Carry

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Impact is to come along and connect and equip these churches to care

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because we believe everyone's called to care. Mhmm. And there's ways that

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we can do so, not all trying to emulate who you are and who

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God created as you, but we believe that everybody has something within them to

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give. But sometimes we just need the tools and the connections

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to to be able to do so effectively. One of the ways

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we've seen actually a shift in thinking, I would

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say, here in Winnipeg as we've, engaged

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churches to care for those in need, and we've been

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bridging the church into connecting them with social

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workers, particularly in child welfare here in our

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city. We've seen shifts in thinking

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to, oh, gotta stay away from CFS

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because they take children away or hearing some

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some hard stories, because there's a lot of hard stories. Right?

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To, oh my goodness, having a a heart of compassion

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for those workers that are in it day in and day out. And we've seen

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churches not by our own initiative, rallying together those

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that are responsive to the care portal that we, needs that

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we make available, saying, how can we love

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our social workers? How can we care, for them? And

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asking that question to social services and the

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cards and the the cookies and the treats that are brought there,

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I've never seen such delight in social workers' eyes

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than to receive a simple thank you, a simple we see you,

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we're here for you, and we care. That is

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amazing. That 100% that does not

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happen. Mhmm. Just day to day people,

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particularly, I would agree in child welfare specifically, but

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lots of different places where it's really thankless.

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Mhmm. And so for somebody to say, I see you. I see your

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heart. I see what God has placed you

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in this space to do and acknowledging that,

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that's so beautiful. I remember one

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particular social worker as we were just giving them thank you. Just

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a very simple thing and some gift cards for Tim Hortons or something

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like that. Tearing up and say, you know what? We

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have been called a lot of things. We're used to receiving the f bombs

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and being sworn at on a daily basis, but we don't even

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know what to say when the church stands up and says thank you.

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And I'm like, wow. That's such a simple way to show

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compassion and fill the batteries up of those that are giving

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day in and day out. Are there other ways that you wanna

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encourage our listeners? Maybe they're a social worker or considering

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it. Maybe they're wanting to support people like you

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in in the caregiving profession. Anything

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advice that you would like to give some lasting words?

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I really love that. I love the idea of just saying thank you,

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just acknowledging just like your words have so much power.

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Aside from connecting with them, building

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relationship and, you know, joining in with

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CareImpact in ways that you can bless people and bless social

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workers. A number of years ago, the AGM or

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the annual general meeting, basically, the large gathering of all

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of the people that I worked with was hosted by a

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church. And there were other events where

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the church opened up their space, provided food,

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and I was just blown away thinking,

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wow, the church is doing this for a bunch of social

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workers? And my

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coworkers who don't know Jesus. I don't know exactly what was

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going through their minds, but I can't help but think

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they were thinking the same thing. Wow. The church

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is doing this to support people who they

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don't know, who they've never met, who there's a

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lot of stigma attached to being a social worker.

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And that was really powerful.

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And I'm sure it cost the church money, it cost

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time to the people who made the soup and

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prepared the space and the food for us.

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It was time and money well spent, well invested,

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not just in blessing social workers, but being

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Jesus to people who otherwise may not have

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any really positive experience of

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what it looks like for Christ followers to

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actually do what he would do and to love the way that he loves. Well,

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I love that because I was there. I know you were. I didn't even know

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you then, but I was speaking there and and helps make that connection. That's what

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CareImpact does. You were like, you know, I was talking with the CEO and saying,

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you know what? You're finding a hard time finding places. There are empty church

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buildings and people who care. I put myself out on a limb, and

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churches showed up. Thank you, churches. Mhmm.

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And they were blown away. And out of that act, it was co

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created. Social services needed to trust me

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with the church, and the church needed to trust me with social services.

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And I saw this beautiful dance happening, and people were

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confused and emotional, because

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they were being cared for so well. But out of

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that, we had around those tables, we I I asked and I

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challenged the social workers. I said, at your desk right now, you have things

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on your desk that community needs to help you with. We can't

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do your job. We don't want your job, but there are ways that the community

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can be supportive. Can you write down those things

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that right now you could you would really benefit from the

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support of a compassionate community? What would that look like? Let's dream a

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little. So they were around their tables. They were they were all abuzz, and

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everybody was talking and writing this down after, they they

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collected all the papers, and somebody put them all together and synthesized

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all the same answers together. And out of that, over 90

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different recommendations of how the community could care for them

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and for their families to make their job a whole lot better and

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to make the outcomes that much better for community. Out of that

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came the invitation to sit around their table, and out of

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that came the opportunity for wouldn't it

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be cool if we had technology and care sharing technology came into

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Canada as a result of that because the social services

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allowed the church to care for them, and the church dared to

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care for those, that were serving these children and

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families. And that's part of our story. You're you're telling part of

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our story, and it gets me excited because God has

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allowed us to utilize this care sharing technology for

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big systems that are have so much needs

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day in and day out, and here's a practical way they can enter in a

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need. I just saw one today. There's a a youth who is wanting

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education, and he is new to Canada, living on

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his own in assisted living, and needing a desk and a chair. And now

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it's going out to all the churches and say, who has a desk? Who's a

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chair? And how can we make this connection possible so that this youth knows

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he's cared for and this social worker knows she's not alone? And so

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I get pretty jazzed up about that, and I'm so grateful and

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so thankful for you as a social worker and what you bring to

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our city, to Winnipeg, to the church, and for what you

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are sharing with our audience here today. Thank you so much for coming on to

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the podcast. Thank you, Wendy. That really means a lot.

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