Congratulations! You’ve been working hard on this relationship, and it really feels like you’re getting to the next level. So why is it that everything your partner does is so darn annoying? If that’s happening for you, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, we’re discussing why we always seem to pick a partner who knows exactly how to push our buttons, and what that can tell us about our own psychological floor. Keep listening to learn about inner fix-it protectors, why we don’t believe in finding “the right one,” and how if everything your partner does annoys you, that could actually be a good sign.

Quotes:

What makes a match right is that we can do the hard stuff, not that there isn’t hard stuff.

How many of the things that irritate you about your partner line up with things that are tender from your early learnings?

One of the best things I can do for my partnership is to protect him from my fantasy.

If I’m gonna be authentic, I have to let myself be irritated.

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