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You won't always be on a 10 and that's okay.
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You know, sometimes we're talking to
people and maybe our energy's down or
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it's low and we're like, what's wrong?
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You're not acting like your normal self.
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But then they kind of don't
necessarily always lead with
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empathy or with understanding.
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And so it's one thing if you're
asking someone, Hey, I noticed that
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your energy's a little low or I
noticed that you seem a bit stressed.
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Like, are you okay?
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Do you want to take a break?
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Is there anything I can do to support you?
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I feel like those are the kinds
of questions that you can ask
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to really help the other person.
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Instead of taking it defensively
as, well, what's wrong?
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Did I do something?
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Is there an issue?
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You know, we just have to give
room for understanding that
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people's emotions are important.
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fluctuate and people's moods fluctuate
because of external experiences,
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internal experiences, time of the
year, how much rest they've had,
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if they've eaten for the day.
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Like there's just so much that can impact
one's energy levels and that output.
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And so I think sometimes too, it's
understanding, just giving space.
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And sometimes, you know, That person
might not need to or want to answer.
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We don't always need to know why
somebody's mood is off or something.
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Sometimes we can just say, you know what?
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Maybe they're having a tough day.
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Let me just give them a little bit
of grace because they might not even
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be aware that that's how they're
coming across or something like that.
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So I think that if we could just be
more empathetic and compassionate
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and just give people a little bit of
space, a little bit of breathing room.
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We don't always have to have high
energy interactions and we don't
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always have to have super positive
or super engaged conversations.
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It's okay sometimes for people
to just be a little out of it.
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That's a part of life.
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And so we need to give room and space
for people to just be sometimes,
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because honestly, there's a lot
that people are going through.
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There's a lot that people
carry on their shoulders.
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And sometimes we just don't have
visibility into their world.
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And they might not give you that
visibility and that is their right.
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And that is okay.
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So sometimes the best thing you can do is
just step back, give space and you offer
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what you think that person might need.
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So if you notice someone is a
little down, what can you do to
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bring more joy to them and to try
to cheer them up, to try to uplift
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them and try to bring up their mood?
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Or if they're feeling discouraged,
what can you do to try to
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empower them and encourage them?
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But they're feeling scared.
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What can you do to try to remove
fear and help them feel hope, right?
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So how can you be the answer or maybe
not the full answer, but how can you
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contribute and help close that gap
and help fill that deficit of what
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that other person might need without
you pointing out that they need it?
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Because sometimes that's the worst, right?
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Sometimes it's like you're angry.
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And then someone says, why are you angry?
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Or, Oh, you're, you're so angry.
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And it's like, I already know that.
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what somebody else really needs is to
kind of tell you a joke so that you stop
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being angry and you start laughing again.
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So, it's another way to think
about the problem, but we don't
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really come from that angle.
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We come from the angle of the person
with the problem needs to fix the problem.
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And, and honestly, if you just give
them enough time, they probably will.
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So, that's the message.
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Give space.
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Until next time, continue to serve
yourself, your loved ones, and
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your communities from a full cup.
