Is being single weird? Well, we dive into that juicy question in this episode as we explore the societal quirks that make us think being solo is a bit off-kilter. I share my observations on how most things in life come in pairs or multiples and how this norm influences our perceptions of being single. Think about it—when was the last time you just bought one taco or a single rose? It’s like the universe has conditioned us to think that one is inherently lacking or suspicious. But let’s be real: it takes guts to stand alone, and there’s a certain strength in choosing to embrace our single status rather than rushing into partnerships just to fit in. So, join us as we challenge these societal expectations and celebrate the beauty of being just one—because one is enough!

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We kick off with a thought-provoking question: is being single really that weird? I mean, don’t we all have that one friend who’s always asking, “Why aren’t you dating anyone?” It’s like being single is a personal affront to societal norms. In this episode, I share my thoughts on how we’ve all been conditioned to see being alone as an oddity. From shopping habits to social gatherings, everything seems to point toward the idea that being single is somehow ‘less than’—like a pizza with only one topping instead of the classic combo. But here’s the kicker: being single can be a beautiful journey of self-discovery! As I delve deeper, I reflect on my experiences and the societal pressures that come with being solo. I tell stories about buying things in singles instead of pairs—like that one rose I impulsively bought—highlighting how society looks at us funny when we dare to do things our own way. This episode isn’t just a rant about being single; it’s a celebration of our individuality in a world that loves to group things together. I touch upon the strength it takes to walk away from relationships that don’t serve you, especially when so many people fear being alone. It’s a powerful exploration of how we can redefine what it means to be strong and independent. We end on a high note with a reflection prompt: Where in your life can just being ‘one’ be enough? It’s time to challenge that narrative and embrace our individuality. So, buckle up and join me for this enlightening discussion about the strength found in solitude. And hey, remember to subscribe so you can keep up with all the wisdom we’re dishing out in the future!

Takeaways:

1. Being single is often viewed as odd in a society that prefers pairs, and we explore why that is.
2. Society tends to make us feel uncomfortable about being alone, often leading us to seek companionship instead of embracing our individuality.
3. We discussed how many products and experiences come in multiples, reinforcing the idea that being single can feel like an anomaly.
4. Navigating life as a single person requires resilience and strength, especially when societal norms push us towards relationships.

Is being single weird? Or are most people just afraid to stand out and stand alone? Hi, my name is Wioleta. Welcome back. Or welcome to all about being Single.

So I've been making an observation that most things in society come in pairs or multiples. And society is deeply uncomfortable with just one of anything if almost feels like sometimes unfinished or suspicious or just not enough.

And this was really inspired by me driving back from hiking one day and I bought like one single rose from like one of those people that tries to like sell you stuff at the intersection.

And I was just like, this is kind of, I don't want to say odd, but I do think that a lot of people would find sometimes do find just buying like one of something odd. Whether it's one single rose or even at the grocery store you have usually things in like multiples or like multiple servings.

If you're buying stuff in like a bot box pre made, usually they don't just give you like a one serving. I think we're seeing a little bit more of that now.

But the one serving stuff is usually so much more expensive than it should be because even to whoever's producing it, it kind of almost doesn't make sense to just provide just one of the thing. So like usually if you just buy one of something, you're gonna spend more for it than if you purchased it in pairs.

And you know, even if you go to like a gas station a lot of times or like a 711 a lot of times they'll have like buy one Red Bull, get one free or you know, buy two for like this sale price.

Because again, they want you to buy more than one, you know, if you just took even one picture while out instead of like multiples to make sure that it comes out, one of these comes out. Well, even salt and pepper shakers usually come as a cassette. Most people tend to say we instead of I.

And I know I even do that sometimes when I'm like we our community or you know something it would be weird to just like buy one balloon or just buy one taco or just have like one airpod or buy maybe go and buy like a fancy plate but just one, you know, or maybe try to just buy one fork or like, you know, a set of for just one person. They don't make those. Even if you had only like one pillow on the bed. Right.

Like I think a lot of people would be like, oh, that's odd because again, it's just not what society is used to even like one like on a post Feels almost like worse than just zero. You know, if you have.

If you go someplace and there's a dance floor and there's only one person dancing, that's odd, you know, or maybe just one side of the bed being slept on.

Or just having one chair at a dinner table that would look off, you know, because again, we're used to seeing, you know, our schema is more of seeing like four chairs, you know, or like, you know, two chairs. So more of a set at a table, somebody's making a joke, and only one person laughs. That's also odd, right?

You know, if you were to just have one gift bag under the tree or one ticket to a concert, like, people tend to, again, think that that might be weird. And I know we talked about it in a previous episode, but. So just like with these one offs, it's just like that.

These things that kind of stand out in a sea of pairs and multiples, I think us singles sometimes make society nervous because people within society are used to this order almost of like. I don't want to say order, but order, I think is right. The best word right now of items just coming in pairs and multiples.

And it goes against, you know, our societal norms. So sometimes we singles just simply go against the norms.

And just like with these one offs, just like these things stand out in a sea of pairs and multiples, I think us singles, sometimes we make society nervous because people within the society are used to this order of items almost. I don't know what other way to explain it, but just this order of items coming in pairs and multiples.

And I think that our way of life sometimes scares people because most people would rather stay in miserable relationships than face themselves and be single. Okay.

I remember someone once telling me that I was brave to be able to break up with someone without having someone else lined up because most people aren't that strong. Most people cannot stand to be alone. And it's true. Like, that's a hill I'll die on. Like, no matter what, we are strong as singles.

And see how even right now I'm using the word we instead of, like, I am strong as a single. So I think, again, it goes, you know, just something about society. We like to kind of be in a group, you know, we like to be part of a group.

So I think we love using the word we because then it feels better to be in numbers.

I wonder if it's also some kind of a survival tactic, actually, now that I'm saying this out loud, but yeah, we are living different lives than the majority of people being single. Especially if you're single, like, long term and you're not just jumping from one relationship to another.

And that can be hard because we're literally, again, going against societal expectations and what's normal and the fact that most people pair up quite often and try to stay paired up as much as possible. And so those of us who are forced or choose to be single are so damn resilient and strong. And I'm proud of you.

So for this episode, because we're talking about just one of something, I'm actually gonna put the Note to Self and the Glow up together. I'll still do my dance because, you know, I love to dance and I always say dance every day.

But for the sake of this special episode, again, we're gonna do. We're gonna turn the Note to Self and the glow up into just one instead of two separate items.

So I'm not gonna give you really my thoughts on the Note to Self because it's more of just a single, one single reflection prompt for you. Where did you learn that one means weird or not enough? Where in your life can just me be enough?

So just notice it this week and let this just one be one. Take out the just call it one because we don't have to use just or only when describing one. One is enough.

And I'm going to leave you with that if you haven't already. Please follow or subscribe wherever you're listening to this so you don't miss any future episodes. There's so many more good episodes coming up.

Thank you so much for listening. I hope you have a good rest of your day and I'll talk to you next Tuesday. Make a life. Make a life. Sa.