If you're stuck in a pattern you can't seem to break — whether it's self-doubt, avoidance, or chronic overwhelm — neurobehavioral strategist Edie Raether has a method that works in three seconds flat. In this episode of the Collaborators UNITE Podcast, Edie shares the science and lived experience behind The Three Second Neuroshift, her eighth book and the culmination of a career spanning psychotherapy, humanistic psychology, neuroscience, and executive coaching.

Edie reveals how deliberate visualisation helped her land an ABC talk show, cancel three surgeries, and continue showing up with purpose after devastating personal loss. She explains why role-playing accelerates success (backed by research), how the subconscious brain can be redirected mid-pattern, and why 'someday' is the single most destructive word in a high achiever's vocabulary.

This episode is essential listening for coaches, consultants, and impact-driven leaders who want practical, neuroscience-backed tools to break through internal resistance and lead at a higher level — starting right now.

Q&A SECTION:

Q: How do you rewire your brain quickly when you're stuck in a negative pattern?

A: The Three Second Neuroshift method interrupts a negative pattern at the neurological level by creating a deliberate pause and redirecting the brain's response in real time. Like a circuit breaker for the mind, it works because the brain can be retrained through repetition, intention, and emotionally charged visualisation — even under stress.

Q: Does visualisation actually work or is it just positive thinking?

A: Visualisation works neurologically, not magically. The brain processes vivid mental imagery similarly to real experience, reinforcing neural pathways associated with the imagined outcome. Edie Raether used it to secure an ABC talk show and cancel three surgeries — not as wishful thinking, but as a deliberate, repeated mental practice backed by decades of neuroscience.

Q: Why do high achievers keep self-sabotaging even when they know what to do?

A: Knowing and doing are processed in different parts of the brain. Logical knowledge lives in the conscious mind; behaviour is driven by subconscious patterns formed early in life. Until those patterns are interrupted and replaced at the neurological level, awareness alone won't change behaviour. That's exactly the gap the Neuroshift method is designed to close.

Q: How does role-playing or drama training improve real-world success?

A: Studies show that people with drama or role-playing experience outperform peers in professional and social settings. When you embody a role repeatedly, the brain encodes it as identity — 'act the way you want to be and you'll be the way you act.' This is why President Reagan's performance background likely contributed to his effectiveness as a leader.

Q: What is the Three Second Neuroshift and how do I use it?

A: The Three Second Neuroshift is a real-time brain interruption tool that uses a three-second window to redirect thought, emotion, and behaviour before a habitual pattern takes hold. It combines neuroscience, visualisation, and pattern interruption into a practical in-the-moment technique — detailed in Edie Raether's book and companion workbook of the same name.

Q: How do you stay motivated and keep going after a devastating personal loss?

A: Edie Raether, who lost her son to drowning while this episode was recorded, credits a deep sense of urgency — not panic — with keeping her moving forward. Her framework rejects 'someday' thinking entirely, treating present action as the only reliable response to grief, uncertainty, and impermanence. Purpose, she argues, is protective.

Q: Can mindset work replace medical treatment?

A: Edie doesn't recommend abandoning medical care, but she personally cancelled three surgeries — including one for a bunion — through deliberate mind-body practices. The broader point is that the mind has measurable physiological influence, and that most people dramatically underestimate its role in physical outcomes.

QUOTES:

"Act the way you want to be and you'll be the way you act. That is true — and that is neuroscience, not just motivation." — Edie Raether

"Someday is evil to me. Someday is the word that never happens. I live not with panic, but with a sense of urgency." — Edie Raether

"I got a talk show on ABC. I did nothing but visualise it. Just like that, I got it. I don't just talk about these things — I live them." — Edie Raether

"Never have I encountered a tool as immediately transformative. Edie Raether has turned the science of human potential into a practical manual for changing your life in real time." — Janet Attwood, New York Times Bestselling Author (on The Three Second Neuroshift)

"We become the roles that we play. The Stanford Prison Experiment had to be shut down because people disappeared into their roles so completely. That's the power we're working with." — Edie Raether

LINKS:

https://edieraether.com/

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Chuck Anderson,

Affiliate Management Expert + Investor + Mentor

https://AffiliateManagementExpert.com/

Hello, everybody, and welcome back to the show.

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This is the Collaborators Unite podcast.

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Chuck Anderson here, your host, and this is the show where we serve big impact experts.

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And that would be you if you're on a mission to make a big positive impact in the lives of

your clients, maybe even the community, possibly even the world, depends on what the scope

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of your vision is and the kind of impact that you want to make.

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And

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You know, along the way there can be there's goals that we want to have, there's there's

challenges that we overcome, and there are external and internal forces all at play here.

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And today I invited a friend of mine who's going who not only is an expert in all of these

things, uh as a neurobehavioral uh what did I say, specialist or scientist what did I say?

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Strategist, yeah, neurobehavioral.

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I'll get this right.

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Neurobehavioral strategist and the author of the three second neuroshift.

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So Edie Raether is here with me today.

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Edie, welcome to the show.

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It's good to be here, Chuck.

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I'm looking forward.

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I you know, um we've had so many conversations offline.

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It's about time we recorded these because um, you know, you just I I love your energy uh

and uh the positivity that you bring to to everything, even difficult things.

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So so welcome.

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let's start with telling everybody, let's introduce you to everybody.

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tell everybody your story.

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How you know how did it come to be that we're having this.

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conversation and that you do what you do.

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Okay.

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Y d kinda how I evolved professionally, do you mean?

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Yeah, yeah, and you know, and and and maybe what led to the the inspiration for the book

and 'cause you've had quite a career and a lot of experience that has led you to this

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book.

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Yeah.

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I you know, I started out as an occupational therapist, but I really like the psych part,

so I went back and got my masters.

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And then I I have you heard of Jean Houston, Chuck?

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Jean Houston.

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Yeah.

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She the this last book, The Three Second Neuroshift, and my first book, Why Cats Don't

Park, both are dedicated to her.

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In the 70s, I spent 150 hours with her.

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So if you like Jean, you're gonna like me, okay?

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Because she, outside of my parents'

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has the most influence on my life.

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And so then I started a doctoral program in the psychology of consciousness, but I really

wanted to start writing books, so I never did finish it.

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But you know, that is my roots.

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I was real active in humanistic psychology, speaking in conferences in the 70s, uh, for

transpersonal psychology.

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So I've all you know, Esalin.

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I've done it all.

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I'm the hippie generation.

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And but I've always been intrigued.

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I remember, you know, even in my teens, parapsychology.

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which is kind of neuroscience now, ah we didn't have that term back then.

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And ah but but it's always been in my blood.

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So I'm certified in Herman brain dominance, right brain, left brain, up, you know,

conscious, subconscious, all things brain.

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And but but been a psychotherapist in private practice, taught in a college for a couple

years, and had a talk show on ABC.

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And you know, so much of

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I talk about in the book and what I've done all my life with mind mastery.

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I mean, I got a talk show on ABC.

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I did nothing but visualize it.

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I was a guest, and I'm thought, I'm getting screwed over here.

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She's getting the money, I'm giving all the answers.

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Then she wanted me to bring in the questions, but she gets a paycheck.

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So I'm like, no, no more.

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And so I thought, I'm gonna have my own talk show.

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And just like that, I got it.

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Literally, just like that.

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So

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you know, I don't just talk about these things.

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I don't just write about it.

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I have cancelled three surgeries.

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I discovered Shakti Gawain way back in about nineteen seventy.

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Now I'm giving my age away.

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You obviously know I'm not twenty seven now, right?

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At least twenty eight.

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Yes, yes, let's go for it.

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But yeah, I I canceled three surgeries.

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and and some of them were like bunion.

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I don't know how you can transfer it, but but I know this stuff works because I I've been

doing it and and um so the psychotherapy and then the speaking.

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I started speaking.

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I studied with Jail Moreno, the father of psychodrama back in the sixties, going back even

further.

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I was uh working in New York City in a psych hospital and

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So I'm a big believer in role playing.

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I mean I always say one of the reasons President Reagan got in for president is because he

was a role player.

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He was in drama.

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And Chuck, there are studies that prove that if your kids or you have had more experience

in drama, in role playing of some type, that you're gonna be more successful.

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So I I I do push that on I encourage parents to get their their kids in it.

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And I'm I'm sure you're aware of the Stanford Premium.

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prison experiment where they were in roles and it got so out of hand that they had to stop

the experiment.

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So we become the roles that we play.

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And it it's a little bit, you know, fake it till you make it and that always sounds like,

oh fake it.

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But it's act the way you want to be and you'll be the way you act.

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And that is true.

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Marina would have us jumping on roofs yelling, you know, I am the greatest.

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Well so did Mohammed Ali say I am the greatest and guess what happened?

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So I I just have this has been in my veins.

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This is my eighth book.

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And you know what, Chuck, as I was looking at the other day, it it's you know, I'm in my

eighty-third year of life, but I just brought brand new boots and skis, so I ain't going

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anywhere soon.

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And I know you know I lost my son a couple months ago.

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And you know, they were all betting how long is grandma gonna still be skiing and you know

what?

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He's not gonna be skiing.

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He drowned in the Snake River.

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and we found him in Idaho, but it was Jackson Hole where he started.

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And and I'm still around.

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So you know what?

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We don't know.

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And so all I can say is do it now because I don't believe in someday.

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Someday is is evil to me because it never happens.

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So I I kind of live not with panic but with a sense of urgency.

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But this book is a combination of my whole life.

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my books, my therapy, my speaking.

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I am a CSP.

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I've spoken on five continents.

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I've done multiple TEDx talks.

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And um so yeah, I've had an interesting life.

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But um but this this says it all.

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Can I just read Chuck, it's so good.

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A New York Times bestselling author.

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Do you Janet Atwood, you know Janet?

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Passion test?

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Yes, listen to what she said.

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I I love this.

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This is a gem.

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I have shared stages with the Dalai Lama, Sir Richard Branson, Jack Canfield, but never

have I encountered a tool as immediately transformative.

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Edie Raether has turned the science of human potential into a practical manual and there's

a workbook that goes with it, honey.

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For interrupting patterns and changing your life in real time.

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That says it all.

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That says it all.

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And that's from a New York Times bestselling author.

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So what else do you want to know?

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But uh but I am excited about this because the reviews are coming in and they are calling

it a masterpiece.

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It's good.

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Well, and I definitely want to h highly encourage our audience who uh are experts and

coaches and soulful leaders, and uh they go by a lot of different titles, but the unique

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commonality between all of them is that in addition to making money and d providing a

service, they wanna make a big impact.

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They wanna change p people's lives for the better.

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And that's the desire.

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When you when you have a conversation with them.

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That's what they desire.

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However, it doesn't always go perfectly.

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There are roadblocks, there are chal challenges, there's things we know we should be doing

that we're not doing urgently.

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and all of these things that get in the way of making that bigger impact.

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And of course, I wanna encourage people to go and uh read your book and and learn from

that and apply it.

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But what uh

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What do you notice about that 'cause I know you know some of the same people and you know

you know that crowd.

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What do you notice and how can they start to apply things differently so that they can

make a bigger impact?

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Well, I think we were talking about this earlier, Chuck, is that I I do believe and we do

know the same crowd for the most part, Benet Soulful leadership as well.

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And I you know, coaches and therapists and healers, okay.

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They all I I I feel a real sincerity that they do want to make a difference.

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They want to help.

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They want to help change people and and be, you know, uh live live their life on purpose.

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But I honestly

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Honestly think that, you know, going back to the Herman brain dominance stuff, they're not

always wired.

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They are good at what they do as a healer, as a coach, as a practitioner of whatever type.

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But

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It's all about sales and marketing.

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You know, don't die with the music in you.

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You've gotta sing your song.

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So many of die with the music in them.

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Let's face it.

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I mean we do you know the percent of coaches that make less than like fifty thousand a

year.

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Are you aware?

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You you're aware, aren't you?

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It it's it's it's high.

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of them as my clients.

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okay, yeah.

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So it is and the sincerity is there.

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But and and the the good thing about this is there there are fifteen chapters, everything

from trauma release, parenting, relationships, but also there's one on leadership.

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There is one on, you know, biology, brain by B U Y biology.

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And you know, wha how people sell and what brain state do you have to get them in to buy.

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And and I think there

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just often, you know, when we look at how people are wired and it's not just right, left

ring, there's four quadrants, you know, upper, lower, limbic and and cerebral.

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but I I think they come into this world not the the people that often tend to be good

healers are not wired to be good salespeople.

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And you actually you need both or you better learn how to delegate.

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And I'm telling you, I've got the world's best VA.

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I won't even tell you.

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I mean it's b

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It's it's a bargain.

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She's wonderful.

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And and and I I've got her full time.

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I never all my life I've never had hired help.

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A and my son said, How do you keep her going forty hours

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It's not hard.

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And so I think the other thing is that people, you know, the do-it-yourself mentality or

we don't have the money to hire someone, but you're not going to get the money unless you

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do take some of those steps and invest in help.

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Do you know what I'm saying?

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It's a business mindset which is very different in many ways than a healing mindset.

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And you know what?

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You gotta have both.

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Chuck, I had an advantage.

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I've been self employed since about age twenty eight, since I left teaching.

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at the the community college.

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And and so yeah, I was in private practice.

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I had to hustle.

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I had to, you know, build the practice and speaking.

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I'd get on the phone at seven in the morning so I could save a few pennies before eight

o'clock when I was calling the East Coast.

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Um but you have to have that hustle or delegate it.

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Now I do think Chuck, I'll add one more thing.

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With the internet today, actually, you know, back back when I started I'd get on

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the phone and I I would call everybody in the yellow pages, the associations, and I'd book

three or four talks.

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Now I can't get through.

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That doesn't work anymore.

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But to those people who aren't wired, I I don't have a problem with selling.

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but for those who do with the internet, you really have an advantage because there's more

ways to market now.

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But part of it is going to be delegation.

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Okay.

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Does that answer it at all?

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I it it does.

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And uh, you know, um, really connecting the dots between, you know, that experience,

because I a lot of my peers, some of them are succeeding triumphantly, and others when you

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have conversations, it's um the what I hear from a lot of them is just like it seems like

history is repeating itself.

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It seems like

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this is happening again and again and again.

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And there are patterns.

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And sometimes we're even aware of those patterns and we know that there's things that we

do that they don't that don't work, or know that there's things we should be doing that we

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don't do.

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So, you know, what what what do we, you know, what do you say to that?

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And what what do we do about it to break out of that and you know, to to get onto the

impact that we really, you know, want to be made a lot of people say deserve.

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I think you deserve it by putting forth the effort, but but you know, um you know, that

they really want to make.

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one of the masters on negotiation, way back forty years ago, he was speaking on it.

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What was his first name, but his last name was Cohen.

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And he said, You don't get what you deserve in life.

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You get what you negotiate.

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And I thought, you know, he's got a good point.

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You may deserve it, but you're gonna die with the music in you.

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But it you've gotta take the other steps.

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But that is exactly what the book's about.

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And by the way, there are exercises at the end of every chapter.

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I mean I have people

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Reading it for the third time already.

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It's unbelievable.

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But the bottom line is that's what the book's about.

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I mean, the subtitle is Rewire Your Brain in Micro Moments to Rewrite Your Destiny.

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And the way you do it, and I will send people, it's uh a little almost like logo symbol of

how the three-second neural shift works.

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And one we have to pause.

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We have to be conscious of that pattern, exactly what you're talking about.

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Be conscious of the pattern, and then you pivot.

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And you reset or you redirect because you can create, and this is scientifically proven,

there's eight pages of different research projects, and they're all three seconds.

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That in three seconds, 1.5 to 3 seconds, you can change the trajectory of your life.

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And that is a fact that's evidence-based.

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I didn't do the research, but it's all in there.

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And the fact is when you pause and you pivot.

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In in those three seconds, you reroute, you redirect, and then when you reset and repeat

it, you start creating a new pattern.

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Because you know that the brain is wired for safety, it likes the familiar.

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So that's why we repeat our habits.

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That's why we have the same New Year's resolutions, year after year after year.

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That's why Planet Fitness makes a lot of money.

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They know dang well in a couple months.

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Nobody's gonna be coming to the gym.

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Or they would be in high

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water but they can count on it because what what I'm about what the book's about is really

learning how to speak to your brain and and the brain is like a pull you know the it it

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the body is a pultoid to the mind and so when you retrain it it's like a good puppy dog it

will obey but you have to speak to it and you have to use the language that the brain

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understands and it does

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doesn't understand abstract thought.

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I mean that's why children don't read Webster's dictionary.

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They like picture storybooks.

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And so a lot of this is beyond visualization.

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Chuck, the the book kind of takes off where the secret left off.

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The secret, I love John, I love the people in the secret, I know personally some of them.

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And and visualization was really, really hot.

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And and I've been practicing it since nineteen sixties.

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That's how I canceled my surgeries.

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But

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We're we're beyond that now.

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And visualization as we knew it twenty years ago is it it's good.

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It's good.

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Goal setting is good, but neither are enough.

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And if they were, if goals, if goal setting was enough, there again, why would we be

having recycled goals?

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Still want to lose weight, still want to stop smoking.

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You know what I mean?

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And so what the book does is go into the depths of beliefs that feed identity, and that is

why.

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NFL and NBA players that make multi, multi-million dollars a year.

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What did uh Baker Mayfield?

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Can you believe the Panthers got rid of him and he's making 165 million in the next three

years?

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And you know what?

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That's an example for some of the people on the call.

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He was rejected by the Panthers.

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We're not a number one team.

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I think we're coming up again.

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I I don't know.

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Do you follow football in this the States at All Chuck?

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Uh I do, I do.

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Um, and as a Seahawks fan, um I don't look beyond them.

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Okay, and and what's his name?

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Russell Wilson played at my alma mater, the University of Wisconsin.

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I wanted you to know that.

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But but yeah, but the bottom line is he was rejected by a team that was on the bottom of

the pile.

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He's now with the Buccaneers, which has done very well, and they he just got a three-year

contract for one hundred sixty-five million.

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And you know what I like about that message when I heard about it this morning, is if

you're there feeling like you were rejected by A, B, and

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See, know that there's a lot of quarterbacks that have been, and they go to another team.

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But you know what that tells you?

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It's if you are in a corporate setting, it's a different culture.

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He's playing with different people, with different attitudes.

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Do you know what I mean?

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And so we have to look at our entire environment.

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What is the surrounding energy?

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Not just inside, but what who are your friends?

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You know, they always say that your income is going to be the average of the five people

that you hang out with.

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Maybe.

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Maybe you have outgrown your friends.

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Maybe you gotta let go of them.

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You know what I mean?

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And so but the book is really focused more

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on identity because the NFL NBA players the the h they both have high percentage.

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They lose it all.

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They lose their one of them I remember that I'm from Wisconsin originally.

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I'm in North Carolina now.

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But I know that he was on welfare, homeless, and he was making millions of dollars with

the Green Bay Packers.

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Because that's their identity.

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They don't know how to manage wealth.

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They don't believe they deserve it.

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You know what I'm saying?

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And they will go back to their roots and what you gotta realize

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that what the brain likes is not necessarily in alignment with what your goals are.

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And when you get your brain trained, and that's exactly what I do, what the book does, the

workbook does, when you get in alignment, then you got the right person in the right seat

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on the right bus going in the right direction.

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And then, Chuck, I can promise you, you become unstoppable.

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You know what?

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We were talking, I was just on a program.

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and she was talking it was it was coaches.

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It's uh Jim Robey's group.

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And she was she just wrote a book and it was basically that when you think you know the

answer, that certainty is the enemy of curiosity and possibility.

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And it's true.

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Because if you know something, your brain automatically shuts off any b other

possibilities.

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Like what how could we do this better?

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So it's a matter of staying open and creative.

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Now I can I just say one more thing.

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I know I'm on a roll here.

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Is that okay or you want to say something?

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Okay.

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I'm I'm

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for it.

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I'm on a roll.

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I am really when I'm speaking, I always have to talk about creative problem solving.

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And and you know, I I just admire it.

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And that's what you have to do.

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Not only being creative as a coach and asking the right questions, and that's that's a

whole nother program we can do another time.

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But but it's it's not just that.

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But it's being a creative problem solver in terms of how you run the business.

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Example.

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There was a trucker strike.

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This is decades ago, probably before you were born, Chuck, okay?

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And and I'm giving you benefits because I'm okay.

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But anyway, there was a strike.

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And they it yes, they had to get some kind of lumber or something from Chicago to

Indianapolis.

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And the the the guys that were on strike were shooting bullets at at the tires of the

truck.

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So how do you get it?

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How do you get it there?

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I love this.

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See, creativity isn't just being a Picasso.

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it's solving your problem and and again

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What is your business problem?

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And then get out of the box.

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What they did is they took a school bus and they dressed up a guy as a nun, loaded up the

bus with what they had to get transported, and they got who is if you're in the the

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Midwest, there's a good chance you're Catholic.

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You ain't gonna shoot at a nun.

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You know what I mean?

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And they got it there.

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I

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Love the story because it's such simplicity.

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It was just thinking out of the box.

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It's creative problem solving.

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And that's exactly what you have to do is, you know, y to make it happen.

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It's how it works.

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You know, the other example is, and I think you know it, Chuck, and some of the people

that probably have been at similar events.

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I I did very well as a therapist, as a speaker, and and as a single parent before I was

fifty, I made millions.

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I I didn't know that.

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I d I didn't care because I was paying my bills and I was just busy helping people.

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But when I lost it I realized how much I hadn't made.

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And so I went from a mansion.

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I trusted how many of us that are wonderful healers, coaches, therapists we're trusting

because we're so trustworthy, and we project our frame of reference on other people.

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How many of you have done that?

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How many of you have been allowed yourself to be taken?

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And whether it's selling a program, we should talk about that.

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I I'm not against people that have high-ticket items, but we can talk about that because I

know too many people that have actually lost.

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Their house for a high-ticket item and got no return.

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Now, I'm not going to blame that on the person.

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They may not have put in the effort, but I think we should talk a little bit about that.

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But I think we're very, and especially people my age, we grew up at a time where you

really could trust people.

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It worked.

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And so I lost, I went from a mansion that was called, I that sounds so pretentious, but

that's what Home and Garden Channel called it.

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They had put the house on it.

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And I went to homeless.

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I had no running water, no fire.

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toilets for 15 months, but I'm on one of the best spots on this lake, and I wasn't going

to give it up.

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And I think that tells you everything of what you gotta do.

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And one of my sons is a lawyer and said, You know what, Mom, you screwed up.

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You can't have what you want.

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And I looked at him and I said, You know what?

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You say that one more time, and you're gonna be out of the will, and trust me, there will

be one.

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My other son, that unfortunately I lost a couple months ago, stood by me because that's

what his mommy wanted, and literally I had a pail for

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Dollar Tree and then I would find where they're building what are they called porta

potties and then I would do my daily jump.

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But you know what, honey?

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Chuck, it was only an inconvenience.

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I look back at those days.

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You gotta grow where you plant it.

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You know what I did?

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I didn't have anything.

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I I

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I'm sitting I had a little boat and it would rain on me and I'm in my seventies at this

time and I'm thinking, God, is this bad karma or what?

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But I had my brain, I had my creativity and I had a laptop.

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I started writing my books.

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The first book's a best seller in China.

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Do you know what I'm saying?

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So grower your plant and instead of getting into that victim syndrome and I'm gonna tell

you, there there's a lot of things politically that'll put people into that victim

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syndrome.

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No.

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You don't give them a fish, you teach

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And and and

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do and and and I've gone through a few things myself where, you know, you're riding high

at some point and then and then, you know, um something happens and then you you're you're

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now in a different place and y you look back and go, Well, where did everything go?

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And, you know, for me I I did spend some time, you know, feeling feeling bad about it and

and and 'cause when you have something and now you don't have it anymore, of course you

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miss it.

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Um, but at a certain point it's like, uh a g a good friend of mine and mentor said, you

know, at a certain point you have to say, so what, now what?

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And and because that doesn't you can't change the past, but you sure can affect the future

with your choices and your actions today.

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And you know, that's the I always try to remember that when when I have those moments.

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You know what?

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I love that.

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And I remember as a therapist, and I'm talking probably fifty years ago, I had a young gal

and she had a lot of anxiety, and I always I taught her to say so what?

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But I love what you added.

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Now what?

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That's where you open up the brain to new possibilities.

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If you just say so what, you're letting it go.

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But the moment that you say now what, the brain hears that and opens the door to

curiosity, creativity, and what

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might be possible.

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And you know, my mother always said, you just never know.

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And and that's true.

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We have to be somewhat prepared for the the uncertainties.

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But the other thing she said, look at the bright side.

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Now I want to tell you about that.

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If you look at the bright side, you look at what you had.

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I didn't have a house, I didn't have running water water, I didn't have a I I would bathe

in in the lake.

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It gets a little chilly in winter.

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And um but it was an inconvenience.

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So number one

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It's how you look at it.

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It's all perception.

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And life is like a kaleidoscope.

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You can shift it.

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But the other thing that I wanna emphasize

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Is that um I I was grateful.

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I was focused on this beautiful view.

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I wasn't focused on what I didn't have.

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I didn't have a house, I didn't have a running water, I didn't have what but I was focused

on this gorgeous view.

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And I was so grateful for it.

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And you and I know, everybody on this call knows, what you focus on magnifies.

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And that's why gratitude, everybody says, you know, have a gratitude journal, have this.

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Yeah, you better.

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Because if you are grateful for just a peanut, you know, you're gonna get the whole oak

tree eventually.

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You know what I mean?

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And that that is how it all starts.

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I was just grateful for what I had.

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And then it grew.

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And I'm doing just fine.

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Yep.

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So I just wanted to add that story because I think if some of you are down in the dumps

feeling like you've hit a dead end, we've all been there.

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And and like the book says, it takes three seconds to shift that.

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You can create a new neuropathway in one point five to three seconds.

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But you have to pause.

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Every day I listen to the news.

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I somebody just murdered somebody, his own neighbor.

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And they used to get along great.

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He wanted them to move the car.

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He said, No, I'm not going to move it.

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He's dead.

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He shoots him.

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I want to get back.

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I've done work with American probation and parole.

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We got to teach our prisoners.

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Just locking them up isn't going to reform them.

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It doesn't transform them.

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It doesn't change them.

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But what if we taught people to pause and to pivot and take three deep breaths?

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Because what's really happening there, Chuck, you know about the triune brain, the

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limbic system, the yep.

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And then we have the emotional brain, the reptilian brain or instinctual brain, the

emotional brain, and then the neocortex or the executive.

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So what it is, I think the research that that they have behind this

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is that stuff we your grandmother used to tell you, take three deep breaths, count to ten.

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And what did they do?

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What they were doing is telling you to slow it down because if you've ever driven a stri a

stick shift car and I love personally, but they never make anymore.

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Is that as you slow it down, you have time to pivot, to pause, to redirect, and you move

from the instinctual brain, fight flight, which is just reactionary behavior which isn't

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gonna serve you well.

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It's the old patterns, it's the old memories, it's father or mother that might have said

you'll never amount to anything.

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And we shift into the emotional brain and then into the neocortex, where we can put more

critical thinking to it and more creative thinking and make

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the shift.

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So all those little wives' tales we were told, I think really fits into the three-second

shift that changes everything.

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And you know what, Chuck, I've been using it a lot just in how I respond to people.

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I've one of the ways I got out of my debt was the vacation rentals, but not real nuts

about them anymore.

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But the bottom line is before I respond to people now, I I pause and I pivot and I stay.

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Somebody the other day, check, you gotta hear this.

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So I can tell she's ticked off at me and I don't know why.

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I roll down the window.

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Why would I do that?

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'Cause I know she's gonna scream at me.

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So she's throwing the F bomb at me, saying I almost hit her five times.

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No, I didn't, okay?

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And I just roll down the window, I let her vent, and I know somebody that shot somebody in

road rage.

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She he shot the man in front of his three kids.

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If he would pause and pivot.

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So I just stayed calm.

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And I said, you know, it sounds like and I wasn't facetious.

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I said, it sounds like you're having a bad day, and I hope it does go better.

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I just, you know what I mean?

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And so people say, you know, be kind.

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But we're not always we're not usually kind when we're reactionary.

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Reactionary is coming from the old habits.

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We have to interrupt them.

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The pause and the pivotal do it.

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Okay.

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Okay, I'll shut up.

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What's next?

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Yeah, no worry.

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No it's all really, really good.

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And uh we you know we're definitely um you know out of time, but I want to make sure that

we do two things.

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One is I want let you know tell everybody about the book and where they can get it.

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And I'll make sure the links are beneath this video so they can get it.

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And then also how do they learn more from you?

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How do they connect with you and I'll make sure those links there as well.

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Okay.

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And I'll we'll let them take the links.

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And you know, if you want them to learn more

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About the book, just go to edher.com, E D I E R A E T H E R dot com.

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You can order it right there.

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And all the proceeds go to my children's program where I'm wiring children at the right

time for health, happiness, and success.

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All of the proceeds are going.

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So every time you help yourself, you're gonna be helping a child make a difference as

well.

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And my phone number, feel free to contact me, 704-650.

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58897 or ED at raythor.com.

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I would love to talk to you if there's any way I can help.

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Um, and then I'm gonna send them.

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I have that little logo that they can post and paste on their wall of the shift kind of

thing.

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So that'll be part of the free gift, along with an ebook, be the boss of your brain.

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When they click on that link, they'll get it all.

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that sounds amazing.

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Well, to make it all easy for you to find, I have put all of Edie's information and the

links right beneath this video.

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And if you're listening to this on audio podcast, just open up your phone and in the show

notes, all of Edie's information is right there as well.

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Uh Edie, thank you so much for you know, not just everything you've shared today, but your

energy, your positivity.

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Uh I always feel uh lighter and more energized every time we talk, which is uh great.

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And uh I look forward to seeing you.

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we're we're both going to a retreat in a few months.

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I'll see you there for sure.

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Um as we sign off, uh any final um do you have a like a favorite quote or piece of advice

or words of wisdom you'd like to, you know, share with our audience?

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You know, an old one that still pops in my mind is by Lao Tzu.

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To know and not to do is not to know.

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Make it happen.

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Make it happen.

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beautiful words to end this ep episode by.

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Edie, thank you.

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And to our audience, thank you as well.

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And if you're still listening to my voice right now, that means that this episode

resonated with you.

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And I would like you to do a couple of things.

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Number one, I would like you to look right beneath this video and for all of Edie's

information and connect with her.

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Uh and so that's a great first step that you can take.

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I also want you to think of something else that maybe

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you know you should be doing or that you could do differently or that you've been putting

off and take an action step today towards it.

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And you know, I know that you're on a mission to make a big impact.

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Look, you know, one thing I've come to learn is that there's no problem too big to be

overcome.

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Sometimes you're just one collaboration away or a partner away or or a a coach away from a

big breakthrough.

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And perhaps Edie is that person um you can reach out to her, you can reach out to me.

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Um, no problem is too big to be over overcome.

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And I'm gonna leave you with this, and that is that your big impact mission is worth it.

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The only way to fail is to quit, so keep moving forward, and we will see you on the next

one.

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Thank you.

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Bye everyone.