Maybe not all men. But what do we do with 62 million of them?

Hi, I'm Lauren Howard. I go by "L2" and this week I'm going full Winter Soldier mode. You know that scene in Captain America where they say the trigger phrase and Bucky Barnes just... activates? Yeah, that's me. Every. Single. Time. someone types "not all men" in my comments.

We're talking about the 62 million hits logged on a website that existed to teach people how to s*xually assault women.

For context: Sony's entire website gets 24 million hits a month.

So let's not pretend the numbers are somehow ambiguous here.

We also get into the prototype employee — the 45-year-old white man that every workplace policy, dress code, and promotion pipeline has been quietly built around — and what that means for literally everyone else.

Timestamped summary

• 00:57 — The "not all men" trigger phrase
• 02:17 — The 45-year-old white man prototype
• 03:57 — Why workplaces weren't built for your brain
• 05:42 — 62 million hits. Let that land.
• 07:04 — Why women choose the bear
• 10:22 — The responsibility of the good men
• 12:23 — ADHD brain & too many tabs open
• 14:01 — My children are weaponizing their butts
• 14:34 — Small Talk with Alison: self-improvement culture
• 15:57 — The iPhone 1 analogy
• 17:32 — There is no finish line