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So why don't we go ahead and start with the first caller?

All right.

This is Jamie.

Hi, Allison.

My name is Jamie.

I live in New Hampshire.

I don't have a question, but I don't know if at any point ever just tell silly stories, but I have a silly one for you.

So I've been listening to your podcast, and my mom and I have been talking about it quite a bit and different experiences that we've had over the years.

And recently I went to the grocery store and was looking forward where the shredded cheeses were.

No one was around that area, and a package of shredded cheese just flew out into the aisle.

And it was the craziest thing.

So I told my mom about it, and the other day she called me and said that she was at the grocery store, different grocery store, and she looked down an aisle that nobody was in, and something came flying off the shelf.

So we just thought it was the most hysterical thing.

We're not sure who on the other side is throwing food to get our attention.

We think it's very funny.

We do have a handful of loved ones over there.

So I thought it was a funny story to let you know.

Know about.

Thank you for listening.

Bye.

Bye.

I wanted to share that story because it, you know, people don't get to hear all of the ones that I get to hear all the little paranormal quips that people have to share.

And I think it's funny in readings that I do, many people, when I bring through the dead, many of them will say, especially the women, obviously, I like to go to the Grocery store.

With my daughter, I, you know, I like to help her pick things out still, which is why we'll get a feeling that we need something in a grocery store.

Grocery store that we've never bought before.

Or there's a medicine that you feel drawn to get.

You don't know why, because you're not sick.

It's because somebody's telling you you're about to get sick or someone in your house is about to get sick.

And we've had that happen before.

So do you think she.

Somebody was telling her she's not eating enough cheese?

No, I think someone was telling her, you're going to need this cheese.

And you don't know it yet, but it's going to be there for you should you buy it.

See, this is the difference of listening to the other side.

If you look at the cheese and say, oh, wow, that's funny.

I feel loved.

And you put the cheese back.

Well, somebody was trying to help you out and something you were going to need, and now you put it back on the shelf.

So it's like, great that you appreciated it.

But they're trying to make our lives easier.

People pay attention.

I know there's been a number of times when you've bought things that you don't even know why.

And then you'll bring it home and it'll be like, I guess we need cheese.

I don't know.

I'll bring it home.

I'm trying to think of what the most recent one, because it happens weekly.

It'll be something such as NyQuil, and we won't be sick.

And then Sophia shows up with a cold, and I'm like, here, take this home with you.

So, yeah, they're really helpful in the grocery store, for sure.

There's an emotional connection to the grocery store for a lot of women because it ties into how they took care of their families and their children when they were small and even having to wrangle the kids in the grocery carts.

And maybe, well, back in the day we get an icee or an ice cream or something.

I don't think they do that now, but it was fun to go when you were a little kid back in the day.

And so there seems to be an emotional connection to shopping.

I have a lot of moms that I bring through and I can tell who is a bargain shopper because they'll tell their daughter that they miss shopping with her and getting all those good deals at the after Christmas sale.

So some women still carry that energy of wanting to get that Deal.

Which I think is hilarious.

So I wanted to share that.

Thank you, Jamie.

That was hilarious.

I hope you bought the cheese.

All right, are you ready for our next caller?

Born ready.

Hi, Allison.

I have been a huge fan since Medium, but I have a question.

I was newly divorced this past year.

I moved out a couple of years ago.

So I'm past the anger and the hurt, and I'm ready to move on.

I'm good.

We're good.

I met a guy, we're dating.

Kind of had a little issue this weekend.

How do I know if he's the one or not?

It's so weird dating after being.

I met my ex in 99.

So after almost 25 years, and here we are again.

I'm 46 and single, and I don't want to be alone.

I miss the good times.

So how.

How do we know?

What can I.

I don't know what to say.

I hope.

Hope you can answer this.

Thanks.

This is where your mind reading comes in.

So you know what she's saying.

Here's the thing.

I read a lot of people, men and women, on relationship issues that they have.

So she's newly divorced, was with her ex in 99, I believe she had said.

So there's two different layers here.

First, she's saying, how do I know if they're the One?

Well, it depends on what the One is to you.

If you just want someone to eat dinner with and that's what you're looking for, like how you define the 1.

Some people will define that as a soulmate, where everything feels right because you finally found that sort of other part of your energy that was out in the universe and you finally connected.

Some people would be happy just having somebody to have dinner with that they sort of have nice light conversation with that will do what they want them to do.

So it depends on what the One is to each individual and how you define that.

So it would depend on what it is.

She.

She said she doesn't want to be alone.

And that really stood out to me when she said that.

And I can understand.

There's a lot.

There are a lot of people that stay together just for the sake of not wanting to be alone.

It's not because the person they're with is particularly excellent as a partner or, you know, makes them happy.

It's that they don't want to be alone.

And one of the things I've learned for the.

From the dead is don't let fear guide your life.

So to.

To me, being afraid to be alone falls under the umbrella of fear.

And you know, that's okay, that's okay.

It's just, you can't expect great results under those conditions.

So it sounds like he's not the one.

Not the way I would define the one.

But if he works for her and just having somebody around that cares if you live or die, sometimes that's enough for some people.

Honestly, I'd be interested in people's take on that, my listeners, how.

How they view relationships and what people are looking for in life.

Some people are hopeless romantics.

They need the love story.

They want the notebook.

You know, high expectations, often disappointed if it falls below that bar.

So there are those people out there.

Personally, I'd rather be alone than settle.

But that's easy for me to say because I met you when I was 20.

So that's easy for me to say because I've never really had to.

To do that.

Would things change if circumstances changed and I was alone?

Maybe.

I don't know.

I'm an Aquarius.

So we're just sort of good being alone, which is why I had to draw on a moon in Aquarius.

You, because you also are okay being alone.

That just works for us.

So there's no guarantees when people say, are they the one?

How do you know if they're the one?

There are no guarantees in life that any relationship's going to work out, even the best case scenario.

You know, we've been together over 30 years.

You know, we can't imagine being with anyone else or seeing ourselves without one another.

So I mean, that's very different than maybe somebody who is just wants someone to go to concerts with.

Right?

It depends.

But there's no guarantees either way.

I could get in a car accident tomorrow and die and you can end up alone.

Like, we don't know what's going to happen, you know.

So now, just so you know, when you say things like that, coming from you now, I'm worried.

Oh, stop.

What?

Take it back.

This is.

This is an example.

It's just an example.

I mean, I know a lot of people out there have lived a life where they thought everything was set and everything was going beautiful in their life.

And then the universe throws a wrench into the harmony of their life and it's just utter chaos and they lose someone or something doesn't work out because the person changes because they got a brain injury, you know, and they're no longer the same person.

And I think that's probably so there.

I mean, there are a lot of factors.

Yeah, yeah.

What point in your life are you at and what are you looking for?

If somebody goes with somebody so they're not lonely and some people really just can't be alone, then when something hard comes up, it's even harder to stay with them.

So when they do that, one thing that just really grates on you, or maybe they shift their personality because of a brain injury or something like that, it makes me wonder would that it would be much harder for them to stay together.

So that would say they're not the one.

But did it make sense to roommates at the time?

There's circumstances in life that sometimes somebody is the one and you were supposed to be living a life to learn certain lessons from them.

And then something changes because whatever you were supposed to learn already unfolded.

So you can't even go down that road.

It's a slippery slope.

There's too many variables.

But I believe she said she's around 46 or something now.

So she would have been very pretty young, in her early 20s when she was with her ex.

So.

And she sounds like they were together for quite a while.

I would take my time.

Don't, you know, if you've been with somebody for that long from an early age, you're 46 now, just figure out who you are, Spend some time getting to know you and making more friends and learning new skills and collecting hobbies, focus on you for a change.

A lot of people get used to being in a married relationship or even a long term relationship, and they don't know how to be alone.

Sometimes being alone can be a good thing because you have to really be introspective of who you are and where you want to get to in life aside from another person.

Because although, you know, for us, we're a couple, Allison and Joe, people always think of our names together, and I get it.

But we're also very much individuals.

You know, you're in astrophysics and I'm into the dead, and that's that we come from two very different worlds that strangely have a common thread to them.

And so that we have that in common, but it's very different at the same time.

And people should have their own space and time to develop who you are in this lifetime side by side with the person that you draw into your world, but not living your life around that person.

If you start living your life around the partner, then there's an imbalance in the relationship.

I say take your time, girl, and go out with some other people, see what's out there.

No need to Lock down right now.

You're in your 40s.

Enjoy your powerful 40s and kick the rock down the road until a later date.

But live in the moment.

Don't worry about the.

Is this the one?

There are no guarantees.

So, you know, and I, I.

My sense is the answer is no.

Yeah.

So.

All right, here we go.

Hi, this is Kayla.

I was wanted to call and ask a question about abortion.

I know it's kind of a dark subject, but if someone were to choose to have an abortion early on, or for example, someone who is a teenager and made that choice by themselves.

And.

Had an abortion, are you sort of held to that when you get to the other side?

Like you basically, for lack of a better word, killed your baby while you were here?

I just kind of wanted to get some more information on that, how that works out.

Karmically, did the soul already reach the body, you know, when you did that?

And is that soul evolving on the other side, even if it was, you know, very early on?

Yeah.

So, anyway, if you have any insight around that subject at all, that would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you so much.

Bye.

Bye.

So I'm going to get it from both sides on this one, but I'm going to answer this question anyway.

I'm going to get it from the highly religious, and then I'm going to get it from the other side as well.

But you know what?

That's what people appreciate about you.

You'll say what it is that you see.

Yeah, that's what I can speak to Kayla.

You're not penalized for this, I think, is what she was searching for in that question in the beginning.

You're not penalized on the other side for making a decision that you needed to make for your own conscience or your own path, or whether you were unable to take care of a child or you were just very young and didn't know what to do, and that was the decision you made.

That's not something that you need to.

It's not to be taken lightly.

So I'm not saying that at all, but I am saying that it's not something you have to pay for for the rest of your life.

So especially when it's.

Early on, she had asked about the soul, and in my experience, and this is just speaking to what I've seen on the other side and also what I feel when I sense pregnancy, when I'm around people that are newly pregnant, I don't really sense souls.

And you know me, I'll pick.

I pick up on energy around the Room, Whether it's something you do, like a spider, like, I can sense that it's weird, but I don't sense the soul presence in the beginning.

That doesn't mean it's not there.

It's just not something I've experienced.

As a pregnancy goes on and you get more past, like, six months, there is a presence.

There's a stirring of the soul in that child.

I think a lot of women will recognize that they'll crave certain things, that even after they have the child, was very pertinent to that child's personality in utero.

So six to nine months.

Yes, I do see that present.

But I also read a lot of parents who've lost a child not at their will, but because the child's body couldn't sustain it, or there was a complication and.

And the baby dies, you know, at childbirth or shortly after or of sids.

Those souls, because they didn't really get a chance to evolve, you know, create a life, have a favorite food, favorite toys, develop the connection with mom and dad as much as more of the age.

I'm looking at.

So I'm looking at in utero, probably two, three months.

Okay.

So that's the space I'm gonna put it in.

Doesn't mean they're not a person.

Doesn't mean there's not a soul there.

Just saying.

Not a lot of evolution's gone on.

Right.

Those souls tend to recycle back into the family when the baby is aborted.

The way, you know, whether it's abortion or miscarriage, the body is evacuating the baby.

It's that.

That process.

That aspect of the process is the same, where the fetus no longer can stay in the body.

So.

But it's the decision that Kayla speaks of that weighs on her.

And I see this with a lot of women, no matter how old, they get after they had an abortion, feeling very guilty about it.

And what I have to say is, you weighed all of the choices and what made sense or worked for you at the time.

And there needs to be a level of forgiveness that you give to yourself and that you made the best decision you could at the time.

Aside from that, the child's soul will find a way into your family one way or another.

Whether it's a future child that you have, yourself or your sister, your brother could have a child.

And the soul finds a way in.

It's interesting.

They want to be in that family.

It's almost as if that soul's being sent to that family specifically.

Like, it vibes with it.

So I don't know if that soul is something from the past in the family that is trying to make their way back into the family.

But there's a strange tie that seems to exist between the soul of a baby and coming into a specific family.

So with abortions and miscarriages, they do find a way to exist in that family.

One way or another.

They find a body that can sustain them that will give them that opportunity to grow in that family.

So that's my experience.

Now, are there going to be exceptions where nobody in the family ever has a child ever again and that was the one shot?

Sure, there are exceptions, but most of the time what I see is them trying, the soul trying to find its way in one way or another.

Which is why you'll see somebody who's an aunt feel very bonded and close to a niece or a nephew.

And now this aunt had a miscarriage or an abortion earlier in life and could swear that this niece or nephew is.

Feels like her own son or daughter.

There's a reason for that.

Because the soul found its way into the family, and it's why certain family members feel closer to some of the children more so than others.

This is not all of the time.

This is some of the time.

I just feel like I need to say that because on YouTube, you know, people really like to go to town on.

On the what ifs.

And I'm saying most of the time, I'm seeing the babies that don't really make it to fruition recycle back into the family.

And Kayla, whoever it is that went through it, whether it's you or someone you know, you're going to have to forgive that part of yourself and know that the soul of that child found its place in the family or is working to find its place in the family.

They're not suspended on the other side.

They're not penalized for not having a body that could sustain them or a mother who could sustain them.

They're not penalized for that.

They are given entry into the world.

It's just a matter of them having another opportunity to come into the world.

Well, I really commend you for tackling that topic.

It's a hard one.

It is.

I can't even comment because I.

I haven't, you know, I'm a guy.

Yeah.

It's sensitive and it's a hyperbolic topic, and it can hit a lot of heated buttons for people, you know, whether it's through because of religion or because of their own personal beliefs.

And I.

You know, one thing about social media that's good, it connects people.

Another thing is there are people out there that say some stupid things.

So please, if you've got something stupid to say, please don't comment below.

Right, right.

What were you going to say?

No, I was just saying that anytime we take life as being sacred and then it always goes down.

When does life start?

But the way you answered it, it's not.

When life starts, your connection with that person is still there.

Right.

And it's really interesting with babies too.

The soul.

You can look into a baby's eyes when they're newborns and it's just pure and they're sweet and.

But there's not almost nothing there.

Do you know what I mean?

Where it's almost like glassy eyed, A glassy eyed look that they give you.

They're still making sense of, of shapes and colors and things.

You know, they're.

They're just.

There's not a full evolution that's taken place in there.

It's not the same as the two year old, I was gonna say, dragging their yellow blanket all around.

And that has its own opinions and favors.

Dad.

And it's a different energy.

Likes eating peas but not carrots, right?

Yeah, it's a different energy.

So it's not that the soul doesn't exist in those younger children.

It's that it hasn't developed.

It hasn't developed, hasn't expanded, it hasn't fleshed out.

Like it's just not filled out.

It doesn't have color yet to it.

Energy.

So it's potential still.

It's like soul potential that's there that hasn't been realized.

Well said.

Okay.

All right.

Thank you, Kayla.

Yes, thank you, Kayla.

We move on.

Oh, I just knew I was going to be one of those people who talked too much and got cut off.

My boss actually will time my voice messages that I leave to him and just like text me the number.

I'm sorry.

So anyway, I was saying my dad is 93 and he is still alive.

So the fact that I got this visitation, I was like, oh my gosh.

I told my husband, I said, I'm afraid that I'm going to get a phone call from my mom this morning telling me that my dad passed.

Well, that didn't happen.

My dad is still alive and well.

So now I'm wondering.

I mean, I have a few theories, but I don't want to guess about this.

I'm wondering if it's preparing me for something coming with my dad, you know, if maybe he did pass away a little bit in his sleep that night.

And that's why he was quiet and confused or, you know, it kind of made me doubt whether I did truly understood the difference.

Understand the difference between visitations and dreams.

So I'm hoping you can clear that up for me.

Thank you again and again.

Sorry for being so long winded.

Take care.

I love that my listeners can listen to the call.

Ins and energies are so different.

People's energies.

The range of energies is just so incredible.

So I think Tom would say she probably has a lot of air in her chart because she's a communicator.

So she had a dream strong feeling that her dad was going to die.

Without having more information, it's hard to fully give my explanation for it, like 100%.

But I will say this.

If you had a dream and you're having this strong feeling, this almost dread that someone's going to die.

That's what it feels like when the other side is telling you that person's going to die.

Now for me, because I can hear the other side, the communications in various ways, they communicate various ways.

There's nuances to how they communicate.

Sometimes it's straight up like, hey, your dad's gonna die at 67 of a massive heart attack.

Which is what I was told with my dad and spent two years trying to prevent it.

Most of you know the story cause I've written about it in my books.

So for me, that was the communication for a lot of people.

And don't dismiss this feeling.

If you have a very strong feeling that your dad's gonna die.

I will say he's 93.

So it's probably present of mind already to her, you know, something she might worry about.

But there's like this added weight on her.

This, this feeling, this knowingness.

It's a knowingness that's a prediction.

When it's a knowingness and you just know it deep inside side, you're reading the energy, you're seeing what's going to happen.

You're feeling it coming.

It's a very real experience for her.

This strong feeling that he's dying.

I would say if people have those feelings, that's when you need to make amends with the person.

Say what you need to say, Visit them as much as you need to visit them and be at peace with that.

They're gonna slip away.

Because here's the thing.

Whether he dies this year or not, it is a nine year.

So the chances are high.

Because a nine Year is a year of endings.

It takes people out that are barely hanging on.

So heads up for all of you.

If you've got somebody elderly or sick in your family, whether they went into remission or not, this year is gonna have a way of bringing things from left field, out of left field that decisively.

So there's an energy this year of completion, of finish, an end.

So if she's having this feeling, she knows what she needs to do to be all right with him passing.

And you just have to find that peace within yourself.

You know, he's 93.

He's not, you know, 53, where you're really trying to buy him more time.

Sure.

So this is more of a matter of she's.

My.

My feeling is that she's.

It's a small prediction from the other side or heads up that he's going to be going, that they're going to have him, that she doesn't have to worry about him, and for her to go check on him, talk to him, love on him, whatever.

But this is.

This is the exit coming up on the on ramp.

So I guess the question is, did.

He have or off ramp?

Sorry.

Well, I guess depends which side.

So if he had one foot on the other side at night like you said, maybe he did slip over.

Would that.

And maybe it could be a visit.

But then you're saying, well, maybe it's just the other side getting her ready so she'll know what it could be.

I think it's more of a premonition is my sense, rather than a visit.

Right.

Okay.

I mean, I've.

So it might feel the same to her and they're just getting her ready.

They're just.

Well, that's what he's going to feel like on the other side.

Exactly.

So they could be presenting to her what he will feel like after he dies and that things won't be so different, you know, that he'll feel clear of mind and focused and.

Okay, well, it sounds like she has a great relationship with her dad and that she will continue to have a great relationship.

Yeah, it sounds like that will add to this, though.

There are women.

And I feel like I need to say this for all the mothers out there who worry that their child's going to die and there's way too many layers to sort through on this one.

But they'll get a feeling.

And I hear from a lot of mothers when I bring their kids through that when they were in the hospital having the child or holding the child right after having them there was a sense of dread that they knew they weren't going to have them for long.

So that is a very real thing for women to have, that premonition.

But then some moms, we all worry that something's going to happen to our kids, and so then we become sure of it.

And then our own.

Right, Right.

Our own worry turns into a paranoia, and then we try and wrap them in bubble wrap and not let them be part of the world.

And we can't do that either.

You know, they have to have a young life.

You have to let them blossom and.

And you can stunt their growth if you don't give them some space to figure out who they are.

So there's.

There's a fine balance moms have to strike.

But I just wanted to say for all the moms out there that heads snapped up and they're like, oh, my God, I had that feeling about my child.

I knew that's normal.

We all worry about that because we feel so connected to our children.

So I don't want you to think that because you have that feeling that it's going to happen and that your child's going to die, that's.

Most of the time, that's not going to be the case.

One of the times where I do find that the premonitions seem particularly accurate is right after somebody's given bir if they have that ominous feeling in the hospital.

And I've heard that a lot from the women, the mothers, but also even the children that I've brought through will say, you knew when I was born that I was yours on loan.

And the moms will say, I knew I wasn't going to have him that long.

I knew it then.

Which I find frightening and astounding all at the same time, how connected we really are to our children.

And then to live with that feeling, knowing that every day you're, like drinking them in with your eyes and your heart and your mind, just taking them in because you want to hold on to them so badly.

In some instances, I think when moms do that, when they're really savoring the children and in each moment with them, I think sometimes those moms get more quality time with their kids than the moms that aren't worried about it.

Right.

And there are moms out there that aren't worried about it.

They're like, he'll be all right.

Right.

So that makes sense.

Yeah.

Moms.

Moms of various shades and.

And colors of light.

Some are good, some aren't as good, and.

But I do find that most moms will have that sixth sense when it comes to their kid.

We know when they're lying to us and a lot of moms know when their kids lying to them, but they don't want to address it or believe it.

And then they pretend that it's not really a lie.

It's like, come on, you know, it's lie, girl.

So there's so much to talk about when it comes to motherhood and intuition and premonitions.

Maybe we'll do an episode on that if I have some Collins call in about premonitions you've had about your child or experiences that you've had with your child where you knew they were lying.

And I bet there's some funny stories as I know I have some funny ones of my own that I'll share for that episode.

I would love to hear the mom stories.

Well, thank you for being my sounding board and my partner in crime today.

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