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In this episode, Robb and Tina explore the theme of missed opportunities in life, reflecting on personal stories of regret, relationships, and the importance of seizing the moment. They discuss how fear can hold us back and the value of stepping out of our comfort zones to embrace new experiences. The conversation emphasizes the need to live without regrets and the impact of friendships and connections on our lives. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to take risks and make the most of the time they have.

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And welcome to another show of Don't Get This Twisted. I am Rob along with my co-host as always, Tina. How you doing, Tina? Yes, yes, yes. That is very true. It is so nice to actually have you with a good microphone again and I can hear you and it's much better. Much better. Yeah, much better. Yeah.

you know, Rob, I'm hanging in there and evolving. Shit is getting real over here, but whatever.

Yeah. Thank you for that. Yeah. It makes it harder for me to like plug in everything because now all the wires are different and I'm going, shit, like how do I plug this all in? But it is nice to be able to hear. I just wish I could see or you could see me because for some reason my camera doesn't want to work. But yeah, I don't either. And I'm probably not gonna you're gonna have to get into my computer and fix that. So.

I know I don't get it. It's OK. We'll fix it for sure. There's been a bunch of updates again. I got another update today, so that could be that too. Yeah. Right.

someday.

my gosh, it just said I had like 15 more updates and I finished it last week, so I don't know what the hell that is.

And we'll see. Hey, so we have a few shows that we're thinking and doing, but one we're going to wait until probably next week or the week after we want to do some research. we sound smart when we talk about it. The other morning. Yeah, well, you know, sometimes we just throw shit against the wall, see if it sticks. The other I forgot when I texted you, was it yesterday? I text you about it.

Why start now Rob?

Anyway, I text you one day. I happen to I happen to be up at the ass crack of dawn. And like it was early. It was like four o'clock in the morning. And I decided to go sit on my couch and just kind of hang out with my dog. And I for some reason, something popped in my mind about a show. And I was like, cool. So I literally picked up my phone. I didn't even type it. I just set it into the notes app.

Yes.

Sunday.

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And then I went to sleep on the couch or I tried to. And I think it's it's something that we all go through at some point and it's sometimes it's way too many. It's missed opportunities. Or just missed opportunities like I'll give you an example of one that I kind of wish I would have done. I remember when crypto was

regrets.

like first starting and I had some friends that were doing it and they were they were just putting you know a few dollars into it and you know that shit's worth a fortune now and if you would have just found a way to put you know two three four hundred dollars into it you'd have a shit ton of money now they I don't know about now they did some of the people that I knew they put money into it and then they already cashed out yeah so

Really? So they're seeing good payouts on that?

Mmm.

But like those are the type of things I have a friend that I grew up with and he always told the story because I thought it was funny. His dad was a dentist and he was he had someone come to him one time and it was like, hey, I was wondering if you'd like to put money into this amusement park that we're going to build in Anaheim. Yeah, and he was like, who's going to want to go to an amusement park year round? And he didn't do it.

Stop it.

And lo and behold, it was Disneyland. So, you know what I mean? Like, I'm sure, and he was a dentist and he was a very well-off dentist. So he probably had money he could have put into it and probably would have made a fortune off of it. But, you know, when you start, you know,

No.

No.

Hmm.

Sometimes thinking too logically will get you in trouble. Right? Because then you start thinking like, what if this happens and what if this happens and what if this happens? And you can, you can, what, what if this happens your way out of a good thing? So I, you know, I started thinking just me and you alone, and then the people that I know.

Absolutely.

Mm-hmm.

How many missed opportunities we had that were for the good and for the bad. Like some, some, know, you, you're glad you didn't do it. You know, you're like, it's this missed opportunity ends up being something that you're like, man, I dodged a bullet. You know what I mean? Yeah. I think we all do. It's, it's pretty,

Yeah.

Yeah, I got those too.

You know, it's pretty basic that we all have something. Mostly when we're young. Like I did a bunch of dumb shit when I was young. You know, or or things like why didn't I chase the girl? You know, I think that that's a missed opportunity. Well, let's hear it.

Mm-hmm.

Mmm.

I have one that's come up just today as a matter of fact when you texted me this morning I didn't realize that this was gonna this was gonna happen today, but um my very first real boyfriend I told you he passed away from pancreatic cancer and I've been in contact with his little sister who was always around us when when he and I were dating and and she was just as cute as can be and and now she's all grown up and she's wanting to share

huh.

you know, memories and different things with, with me that were about her brother, which was my ex. And I found out that he had gotten cancer a couple of months before he passed. And I thought about trying to reach out and I could have found him very easily because I could find anybody. And, I didn't do it. And then, you know, she, she told me that he passed and I had already known that and

You

and I wish she tells these stories about how his whole life he talks about do you remember do you remember when we'd go you know dancing with Tina and I bet you she'd love this place or or man I I have this new car I remember when Tina used to help me put these together and solder all the pieces or whatever it was we were doing that she was saying that he

you know, he had talked about or that I had said to her afterwards about things that we had did because I had my own stories. And I said today, I wish I could have told these stories while he was alive so you could have laughed at both of us because he would have remembered every single story I told. I know because that's how close we were and that's what the stories meant and how we talked to each other afterwards. But why didn't I why didn't I reach out to him and talk to him?

few months. There was no reason not to. And I think of that opportunity that I lost as completely freaking wasted, but I still get to tell his sister. So it's, it's, I don't know, I kind of feel like he threw us together to to get her through this, but I'm finding it's also getting me through it too. So it's

Right.

It's kind of a weird thing, but what a missed opportunity. I should have just called him and said, Hey, I heard you're sick. What's going on? Talk to me. Like I always did.

All right.

I think a lot of that too goes with relationship wise, I guess. Is that, you know, you don't know what you're getting yourself into, right? Because you might not know who they're with now, if they're with somebody. And I think that you always feel like you're going to walk through a minefield, right?

Yeah.

You

And here's the thing, you don't want to get hurt over it or hurt somebody else. Because not everybody wants to talk about the past.

Thank you.

No, but I think at that point in his life he did.

Absolutely, absolutely. I just think people in general, you know, and in the realm of social media, it's much easier to find people.

Yeah.

Yeah, you know what what I found? Kind of interesting is So he and I dated when I was 16 16 to like I don't know 17 and a half almost 18 and It was a first relationship. It was like a first real type of relationship and

Mm-hmm.

I I had talked about him over the years because he did some funny things. We had, you know, all my friends were a bunch of nuts. We all had fun. We were all going for how much fun we could get into the amount of time that we were allowed to be out. And we went, we went crazy always. Well, he was one of those people that did the same thing with us. Like he was always having a good time. We were always dancing around and, and to think that

40 years later, you know, like 39 years later, he would still be telling stories of stupid things that we did in high school and how that really gave him.

It gave him great memories. gave him a good laugh. It gave him a sense of belonging. It gave him a sense of being loved and and how at the time I had no idea what we were doing. We were just. Being teenagers, you know, and I'm so grateful that he got to talk about me through his whole life in a positive way, because, know, when you break up and stuff, it's so tragic and, know, especially at that age. And I don't know, I miss.

I really do miss that opportunity that I could have got to tell him I loved him one more time and said goodbye to him or told him that no matter what it would be okay. Because I think he would have heard it differently from me than maybe some other people just because of the relationship we had.

Right.

So that's been on my mind today about a missed opportunity because that and I always say if nothing changes or nothing's permanent if it if there's not death involved like the only thing that was permanent about about You know my mom's life was was that she did die. You know, it's like everything in between it wasn't permanent Everything changed everything evolved everything grew. She was two totally different people because of her her illnesses and whatnot and

in growing up and talking about and talking about it with my brother and my dad and my in my family and the different things they just seen how nothing really Nothing's really solid until death occurs like now I can't go back and fix it with my ex Now I can't I can't fix things with my mom, but I don't know me and my mom You know everybody claims to have known my mom and I's relationship

Absolutely.

But they weren't there when it was just the two of us and which was a very different life than when we had to share who we were with whomever else was living at the house or at the house or Bombarding the house or whatever because there was always people here. But um But I there was this one time right before she passed and my life at 40 was literally Crumbling down around me at that point. I mean, I won't go into it. There was a lot

Mm-hmm.

You

But she gave me this little thing that you hang on the wall and it said, I asked for light, God gave me the sun. I asked for love and God gave me you, my daughter. And that was so not my mom, like to give mushy shit like that ever. And she gave it to me and I was, I think that day was like a pivotal moment of like my worst to that point.

Right. you

And she goes, does this make you feel better? And I looked at it and I loved it. I liked that she gave it to me and everything. And I was appreciative, but I told her the truth. like, mom, this isn't making me feel better. I'm sorry. Like I wish in that moment of a missed opportunity, I wish I would have told her it changed everything. But we all know she would have said I was full of shit anyway, because she knew. But.

Right. Right. Yeah, you know, mostly with death.

I missed the moment to make her feel good and I could have done that.

Yeah, this moment.

You know, I mean, it's like missed opportunities. I always wanted to have my mom on this podcast. You know, and, and I, I know she would have done it probably. She, you know, but she was, she was so sick. absolutely. My mom is a wild card and she. Yeah, I was a little scared because she could just say anything and she'd go off on a tangent.

Yes, I did too!

I think you were afraid of what she was gonna say.

But that was a missed opportunity. mean death changes things. I'll tell you, you dated a girl and I want to say 10th grade. I'm pretty sure it was 10th grade. don't I'd have to go back and look at dates. But let's say 10th grade. I met her out here. She went to the arrival school in the valley.

I met her through another girl I dated, which was even weirder at the time because that girl, no, but this girl that this girl, I had a crush on me all through junior high and then ends up introducing me to this other girl, which was very bizarre at the time. Well, she ended up living. She came from New York. She was here a school year and then I flew out to New York.

That's high school life.

and visited her and then we talked for a while. She came back one more time to California. We hung out and then, you know, like, look, life started high school. This that like life just went in different directions like all of it. And she lived on the East Coast and I lived here. And look, I was young and hard, very hard to have any kind of real relationship. Right. You know, I could barely.

Yeah.

take care of myself, never let us get on an airplane all the time. So years and years and years later, like 20 something, I had a thing that I was doing where I was trying to like fix things with people that I thought I did dirty. So and or just I don't know how relationships ended. There's a couple of things out there and I hunted down all but one and I still can't find one.

you

Eww.

With that being said, I finally got a hold of her because I found her little sister on Facebook. And I was like, hey, yeah. And just think, her little sister, when we were together, her little sister was like under one. Right. So like, I have a picture of like me and her at Disneyland with her.

Run away.

Whoa.

Maybe she might have been a year old, a year old sister. Anyway, I end up messaging her and I'm like, hey, you know, I know your sister. Here's a picture of me and her with you as an infant. You know, I'm looking to get a hold of her just to like say hi, kind of touch base, say, you know, find out what life has been going on. And I did. And I finally got a hold of her and we talked for a little while and

Mm-hmm.

You know things were interesting Needless to say she ended up getting sick and she passed away And we were talking for quite a while she would hit me up or not talking but we'd text and we'd talk every blue moon and At some point she got a little mad at me over something which Look feelings are a weird thing regardless And I and I and I never ended up talking to her again

Yeah, they are.

Which kind of sucked because now, you know, when someone dies and you would have liked to just been like, Hey, and I knew she was sick, but I didn't know she was that sick. Her sister had to get ahold of me and tell me she was in hospice. but yeah, it's a, it's an interesting thing that when you miss an opportunity and they, and someone passes away.

Mm.

Yeah, totally is.

And it's happened to me several times with different people. My old tag team partner when I was a wrestler, he had his issues with narcotics and he ended up passing away. And I really never talked to him again. And it was kind of both our faults. I had a kid and I think he just felt out of place. Like he wasn't, you know, just, I was a family man now and it was different.

Mm-hmm.

It was awkward though when you had your son because you were I almost said his name because you were so um You had to grow up and we weren't grown up yet and we didn't have the same issues and the same whatever's that you had and and it was very uh It was awkward. I remember going to your house going this isn't this feels weird, you know I get it Yeah, you had to

My son.

Yeah. Cause I was changing. I had to. Now here's the flip side of that though. I, you know, since I, between six months and a year I got to take off. I brought him to your shop and he was a little baby. He came with me everywhere. So I was changing, but I, know, look, you have to.

I love that. Yeah.

So missed opportunities for me in death have come back to bite me a couple of times where I'm trying to make sure I don't do that again.

Yeah.

It's...

Because there's like you said, there's no going back. You can't change that. So I'd rather go to somebody and say, hey, look, I screwed up or, hey, it's so good to see you. And I'm glad that you're doing okay or whatever, just to touch base with somebody.

Yeah. You know, my mom used to tell me, go visit your grandparents because they're not going to be around forever and you're going to miss them when they're gone. And I was with my grandparents all the damn time. Like I think out of all the grandkids, my mom was the last of 13 kids. There were so many freaking grandchildren on my mom's side that I'm surprised my grandmother remembered any of our names. And then if you go to my dad's side of the family, there, you know, he's one of four, but

There was a, you know, a bunch of kids and whatnot on that side too. And out of both sides, I would say that I spent the most time with my grandparents. They lived with us. We took them out all the time. I had to take them to their appointments. I had to take them shopping. Like I was the kid that did that. And I got to tell you, I still miss them. My mom didn't freaking finish telling me that no matter what, I was going to miss them. Like she made it seem like I wouldn't miss them if I spent the time, but no.

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It made me miss them even more. And I think about the few times that I didn't spend time with them, just like the one Mother's Day, I didn't spend with my mom and she was pissed off, but we were visiting her sister and her sister's husband because he had been sick and in the hospital. So we were just trying to see him in case he didn't make it. But my mom never let me live down that Mother's Day that was a couple years before she passed. But you know what?

Mm-hmm. you

I haven't let myself off the hook for that either. I still think of that as a missed opportunity.

Right. You know, as we get older, I think we look at the missed opportunities a lot harder. Because there's like, when it comes to a lot like I think

You

for sure.

one of the big missed opportunities and I'm not saying it would have saved my marriage but not moving out of state or not moving out of where I lived or not trying to do something new was a missed opportunity for me and because I was so hard-headed about staying where I lived that I think it was a missed opportunity to maybe have a new start and do something different and

see if that would have changed life and that's one of the things that kind of bugs me because I ended up doing it right after my divorce I just packed my shit up in left of Vegas yeah

Well, think you did that though because you had to prove to yourself that you could. But I don't... I remember you at that time, Rob, and I think you were where you needed to be.

Absolutely, but what I'm saying is I think I missed an opportunity to try something new. Not to save anything, just to do something that I was really against because in my own head, and I think that is why I ended up doing it right away. And look, there's lots of missed opportunities. I think I missed an opportunity moving to North Carolina.

Yeah.

Yeah.

because I had a chance to maybe have that happen. And not that... I just think again, moving across the United States, doing something that isn't in my normalcy. Now I think I would just move for shits and giggles. I would just do it. I don't care anymore because I think that life is... It's too easy.

Yeah.

To just start over I thought it was gonna be hard, but it's not It's odd, I mean I think I would move again now I'm ready to move Yeah, you know, I mean I like Arizona I think Arizona is a good place My boy wants to go to Texas my daughter lives in Texas that's another place I mean

Yeah.

Yeah, that's what the chief said.

Look I love the Mm-hmm. Yep. Mm-hmm Yeah Yeah, it's and look there's there's good and bad with everything look we have great weather here I can't you can't argue that I mean

Everybody's going to Texas, Idaho, Arizona, Nevada, Tennessee. I know so many people that have gone to those places. It's ridiculous.

As the East Coast is sitting under, the last I checked it was two and a half feet of snow, my friend said. She was up to her, almost her waist.

Well, I heard there's parts of Tennessee that have no power, like zero power. I so yeah, for days and I heard it's not going to get any better. Like they're having issues. I have a friend that I met in 1989 after high school in Iowa. I went to visit my mom and she lives in Iowa and we every blue moon will.

Yeah. Yeah. For days.

Mmm.

throw like highs to each other or Snapchat each other pictures of the weather I want to say last Sunday she sent me a picture of the outside and it was negative 21 degrees yeah negative 21 so I sent her a picture

You

hell no.

And you know Sunday it was chilly and I think when I sent it to her it was like 65 degrees and it was sunny outside and I was like I mean I didn't rub it in face because I think she gets it she knows you know it's California but I did it's funny I sent her a picture one morning from the dog park and it was like and it was chilly that morning it was pretty cold it was like 43 and she's like oh that is cold for there like but I thought it was funny

you just rubbed it in her face.

Hehehehe

Yeah.

Because here she is and it's like negative two and snowing Yeah Correct

Well.

Yeah, and but in other places they have clothing that that works for that type of weather We don't have that we don't have the option of buying clothing like that Just anywhere like there isn't places where it's really cold and even when we have weather Or clothes for certain weather. It's not this weather cold. It's a totally different

If you wore that kind of stuff here in the wintertime, well, not only that, I have a Carhartt jacket that was I got from a work that I, a place I worked and it's a snow coat and I've worn it around here because it's waterproof and when it rained one day I was out walking my dog in it.

we'd actually be warned.

Yeah.

When I got back, I was sweating underneath.

Yeah.

Like I was like drenched from sweating. So even if we got that, it's not cold enough here to wear it because we think we're cold, but it's really not cold enough.

It's California cold. Yeah

Yeah, so I look at things like that, you know, or just missed opportunities in general with seeing people. You know what I mean? Or going places like I'm going to do my best to go in in come springtime. I want to go see my dad. yeah, and it's already in the works. I had already talked to them and said, look, and I was going to try to go in September and I couldn't go.

You have to go see your dad.

And then my stepmom's like, you can't come until after wintertime. Like, you just can't. And I couldn't. I would die over there. But I'm going to do my best to not miss opportunities anymore. Because we're at a point where they're few and far between because of time. You just end up getting lost.

Yeah.

You

Time and age. Yeah.

Yeah, age. mean, and, and look, missed opportunities are regret, regardless of how we put them. Even if it's just a matter of how big the regret is. You know?

Yeah, for sure.

Yeah, I was very young when I decided I wasn't gonna let the grass grow under my feet. I quickly became my friends, like in my early 20s, I became the yes friend, asked Tina, she'll go with you because she's not gonna say no, she doesn't like to miss anything. She doesn't wanna miss out. So she's the person to go to. And I'm grateful that

I learned that at a very early age and I don't at the moment know where I got that from. But, but being the yes girl meant I did a lot of things that most of my friends didn't get to do. And now that I'm older and like the kids from when I was in grammar school, you were so cool because you did this and you did that and you weren't afraid of anything. And I think to myself, they didn't know shit about me.

Mm-hmm.

I was afraid of everything, but what I was most afraid of was not doing it and not being able to say I did that or I tried that or that was amazing. Like I wanted to talk to everybody in school. wanted, I wanted to have fun with everybody. I wanted them to be a part of it. Like I was the more the merrier person, you know, that just, yeah, come on over, be a part of it and have fun. And God, am I grateful that I didn't.

Mm-hmm.

miss out on on doing that. Like, I'm glad I went and did all the things that I shouldn't have done and all the things that I should have done and now I got I got really good stories because one of my fears over the years has been I don't want to be sitting on my deathbed and think, wow, I wish I would have done that or why didn't I do that? I want to be I want to be sitting there going that was dumb. But God, was that fun? You know, I'm so

Right.

You

Okay with not being perfect anymore I'm so okay with not giving a shit what other people think I should be doing and just going for it like buying that that motorcycle was By far the ballsy thing. I couldn't even turn the damn thing on and here I am buying a machine that that you know Everybody told me not to get and everybody told me I'd get hurt on and everybody had all their little stupid opinions and I was like

You know, fuck them. Like, I'm going for it. No regrets. We're not doing that. And I'm so grateful that I didn't listen to the naysayers. So grateful.

Right.

Right.

Right. mean, that's, think the biggest thing about missed opportunities is when you do listen to the other people.

Yeah, you let them control what your reality is.

Yeah, look, someone who has fear will talk you out of something every time because they're okay with missing opportunities. Where, that probably was me and, and I just refuse now. It's like, if someone says, Hey, do you want to come, you know, hang out nine times out of 10? I'm like, sure, let's do it. Because

Yeah, for sure.

Mm-hmm.

Why not? What's the worst that can happen?

Well, I think that sometimes people, they don't know how to reach out. And so if they just say, hey, do you want to go to lunch or do you want to hang out or do you want to go here with me? They're reaching out because they need, they need you around. They, there's something that they want to talk about or there's something that only you could kind of make them feel better by doing. And I think that that's a, that's something you should do. I always tell you, it, Rob, do it, do it like.

Right.

Right.

Who cares like who? Who's living your life? It's you right so just like with me and Everybody's got an opinion in my world every even all the people that don't want to be a part of my world have something to say about me in my world, but Yeah, they're not gonna be sit there going that was a great time because I was the one doing that I don't care what they say. I don't care I'm not caring about a lot these days thankfully and

Right. Exactly.

I don't know, it's kind of cool to live my life and live it without regret or miss opportunities.

Right. Yeah, I think that

Look, the naysayers and the people that are in your life that are unhappy will always drag you down. And they don't care about your missed opportunities. They're the ones that's like, I don't want to do this or why are you doing this? I don't understand it. Or I don't understand why you want to be with her. You how many times I've heard that?

Mm-mm.

Really?

yeah, tons of times like I Mean, you know, it's that's a hundred percent, you know and and look Were they right on some of them? Absolutely No, but but it's not their life they're not living it but those are the same people that I would say, you know, you should probably do this and they won't do it because

Sounds like some salty women in your life, Salty, they're salty.

But there was a- Nevermind. It's none of their business.

Yeah, exactly.

It's just, you know that they'll end up wishing they did it and go, man, that was a missed opportunity. You know, he told me I should probably date this guy and I didn't. And then that guy ends up, you know, getting married, has a kid is happy in life. And then they see theirself in that position going, God, I just wish I would have done this. I saw, I saw a picture. I want to say it was Instagram. can't, you know, don't quote me on it.

But it was all the caption said it was a girl who was a nurse and she was a young looking girl. And she said, the quote said, I wish I would have, of, you know, dated this billionaire before. Cause you know, I'm really, I'm in a ton in debt and you know, I'm just a nurse and maybe that's what sparked this whole thing. And that's why I had some subconscious thing that tell me on the couch at three in the morning.

But I saw that and was like, okay, like it's probably a shitty missed opportunity because you're just talking about you're in debt and you just want to get out of it. But a missed opportunity nonetheless, right? So I didn't either, but it's still a missed opportunity, you know, and we all have those. There's a, I'll tell you a funny missed opportunity and

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Yeah, well, I didn't hear love in that in any way, or form. I get it.

And it was a fun thing. I played hockey, I played men's league hockey many, many years ago. And we got into two championship games and lost both of them. And to me, they were both missed opportunities, because I know we should have won both of them. But, you know, the luck of the draw, the puck finds here, drops here. One guy puts it up the center, whatever it is. Like, there's always something that's going to change that.

I still experienced the game and I need to look back on that part. You know, the, experiences that lead up to some of these missed opportunities are the whole point of doing them. Um, it's like, you know, I, there's a meme and it says like, you know, date the girl, get a new, you know, get the new job, move to the new city, whatever it is, like

Mm-hmm.

And it's the whole point of it is live like I don't. I don't want to do missed opportunities anymore, because I've done so many in my life that I wish I could have just went, man, if I could have just changed that, this would be different or I would have got something better out of this or I would have experienced something that I didn't because I was like.

Mm-hmm.

Thankfully along the way certain people in my life made me do things. I had a roommate that took me to my first musical and it was awesome and I ended up liking musicals and I've went with many other people that I've dated and friends nonetheless and I got to go to a musical so it was it was I could have missed out on that and I didn't.

So I found myself doing more things like that, like going to a show that I wouldn't necessarily go to, because what the hell, or, you know, going to play bunko at your house, like, you know, out of nowhere, you're like, Hey, you want to come over and play bunko? I was like, what the fuck's that? And it was, and then you were, I, and I remember you selling me on it. You're like,

Yeah

Do you really need to know, Rob? Just come on over.

Look, you're gonna be the only dude here, just come over. And I was like, all right. Yeah, that's, and you know, and I'm loud and obnoxious and I like to make crude jokes. So I had a good old time. Yeah, I fit in perfectly. I fit in very perfectly.

See ya.

got this.

Yeah, my friends fit that bill.

You know, that's that's like the cool thing about I can't say that my life has always been like this because there were some friends that would just bring down Anything they could to not be happy and I'm glad I don't have to deal with those people but I I like now that I could stick any of my friends with any of my other people like any of my other friends and Everybody gets along and has a good time and they normally end up like

Right. Right.

hanging out and doing stuff outside of what we do. And I love that about my tribe because I don't have to worry about any of the bullshit. Like everybody's just down to have a good time. Everybody wants to have fun. Everybody wants to see what's gonna happen next. I'm glad that you came to that bunco. You needed to come to that bunco.

Yeah, exactly. I think the bigger picture for the people that are listening to this is we all have missed opportunities, right? You can look back on them with sadness or detest or whatever it is you'd like to look at them. They're all learning experiences.

for sure.

some good, some bad.

The bigger picture of this is you're not alone. I think that's the big thing or because I think a lot of people sit there and will just sit in their own poop and go, I didn't do this and I didn't do that and I didn't do this and I didn't do that. I didn't do this. I didn't go over to this place and I didn't date this guy and I didn't, know, whatever. It's time to change that. Right. You can, you can easily.

Yep.

Go do something that you didn't see yourself doing. Right.

Well, and when you put yourself out there for new experiences, you have like huge growth experiences too. Like you change in ways you never saw coming and you know, most of the time it's for the better. It's something that you need to do. You need to live. You need to evolve. You need to step out of your comfort zone. You need to risk.

Because generally there's a lot of reward behind that Right

Or lot of pain. nonetheless, nonetheless, listen, I, I met a guy and then there was a kid on our doorstep with her whole family a few months later, like right after we started dating, like this whole life evolved and, and, you know, I, I stepped into, I stepped into my position in that whole situation, but like, I have,

I've done things just in having to grow and change to do that that I never would have done. I never would have known. Like I have friends that talk about things that they went through and I could be like, I get that because I did that too. And here try this or let me, let me, you know, talk to you about that or think about this. Like you become a wealth of knowledge from doing things too that

Right. you

They could be beneficial for you for the rest of your life because you went through whatever it was, whether it be pain and suffering or just happy, great moments. Like life will dish you out as much as you want to take. Like take it, take it.

Mm-hmm. Yeah, and look, you can always get burned. If you look at life with what's the worst that can happen?

You know, you end up going and you not have a good time. Or you end up going, I'll give you the example too from like the standpoint of like, it's like dating. Modern dating is rough. But if you don't do it, you're never gonna find anybody. So you can't bitch and moan that you haven't found anybody if you're not doing it.

It's you know, or you can't say I hate my job if you're not looking for a new one and you can't say

Mm-hmm, or even look at the Olympics be the people that are in the Olympics like if they didn't Believe in themselves if they didn't put themselves out there if they didn't just work until they were Completely spent they wouldn't be in the Olympics. Could you imagine the the the Opportunity that they get to do that shit. I'm not I'm not in any physical way ready to do anything for the Olympics, right?

That's just not gonna be me, but that's so badass that somebody would take it to that level just to see if they could. There's something amazing about that. Those are things you gotta do.

Right.

Right. And better to go there and not get a medal than not go at all. You know. Yeah.

For sure. They still get the opportunity. They still get to see places they didn't ever dream about seeing. They got to compete in ways that nobody on their block that they know are gonna get to. Like, seize those moments. Completely seize them.

I remember when a good friend of mine the first person that said hey would you like to train to be a pro wrestler and and I was like I would love to get in a ring at least one time I remember telling my friend that and he's like well we can rent this ring blah blah blah the next thing I know I'm driving two hours to train

You're like, what?

on a Saturday with, you know, a bunch of guys literally beating the shit out of me. And, but I, I can't imagine myself not doing it because of the people that I've met and the friends that I've met and the stars that I've got to meet that most people that I shared a locker room with and, even some of the things that my friends I got to share with them.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

like people going.

my god, we have the best Rob stories because of watching your your wrestling matches. Like my brother has them. I have them. My grandmother went and saw you perform and she was cracking up. She had stories. She told all of her friends. Like I remember going to my grandmother's house and sitting down with her little friends that were there, these little tiny gray haired women. They were all like talking their shit and doing whatever they were doing.

Right. you

And then my grandmother said, we had the best time the other night. Tina, tell them what we did. And so I go into kind of acting out what we saw and how we saw it. And grandma is hysterically, like her eyes are watering. She's ugly laughing. The women are cracking up at us and they're asking us questions. And my grandmother's just beside herself happy, like laughing hysterically. And I thought,

Right. Right.

And we were the ones that took my grandmother to see live wrestling. And then it was, and then it was the perf, it was where you, guys were attached by the neck to a chain and then you broke the table, but we all picked up our glasses right before you fell down on it. And we were laughing at that. Like, my gosh, I will never, there were two things that I remember about my grandmother, that her hysterically laughing after the fact of seeing that happen.

yeah, You

And the time that she sneezed and her teeth came out of her mouth and they landed in between the balls of tortillas that she was making, the masa for, and just the two of us were dying. But I'm so glad I took her to see you, Russell and Ventura.

perfect. Yeah, so and then like think about this too, like if I didn't go to a wrestling show to go see a show, I would have missed the opportunity to meet my friend, the person who ended up getting me training that it steamrolled into all these things.

You

Yeah.

It it like missed opportunities are are horrible, but the ones that You might not have done I'll give you a quick example to what could have been a missed opportunity years and years ago. I worked for the good guys Someone came in with a defective CD player really cute girl. I remember her Was like man. She's super cute. I Said look I can I can get you a new one. I ended up

sending in for service, but knowing, so I ended up calling her off of her invoice and said, Hey, if you just come in, I'll replace the, the CD player for you. Hoping, hoping she would come in so I could at least talk to her and maybe like do something with her. we ended up, yeah, we ended up dating for quite a while actually. So, and it could have been a missed opportunity because I generally I'm a pretty shy guy, until you get to know me and then I won't shut the fuck up.

Hmm.

Did she do it?

how funny.

So I look at things like that and you just kind of look back and go things like that could have been a missed opportunity if I would have just let it ride, got it repaired, never talked to her, never experienced that. It's just not worth it. My bigger thing now is to everyone out there, think long and hard about a missed opportunity because they're right in front of you and

Yeah.

saying no.

they might go away because we're scared to go on the roller coaster or we're scared to go, know, whatever, skydiving, whatever it is.

Yeah.

My, my like close friends from El Paso, I met them the day before I actually met them. I met them at a friend's house and I, and I saw them and immediately I didn't like them or didn't want to like them. And I judged them harshly because they were from Texas and they dress different. And at the time it was different, different, and they talked differently and they were kind of like, they were very stoic and I was like, these guys are gross. Like, I don't want to be around.

Right.

So then the next day, one of my really good friends was like, teen, invite them to your party, because my parents had gone away. And every time they did, my mom would say, don't have a party. And what did we do? We had a party. So she was like, please, tell them to come. I'm like, I don't like them. I don't want to be around them. And he just kept saying, please, please just do this for me. So I did.

And then he tells that I said, okay, fine. They could come out and he goes, and you have to pick them up. And I was like, are you kidding me? I don't want to pick up these guys. I didn't like them when I met them, but I did it because my friend who is still a really good friend, he's one of my best friend's husbands begged me to do it. And you know, I just couldn't say no anymore. So anyway, I picked them up, they got in the car and next thing I know I had a best friend. Like, you know, just.

we were inseparable from that night. And had I just not, you know, let it go and tried to, against my better judgment, try to get to know these people, I wouldn't have a relationship with them that's gone on since I was 18. So that's like 38 years of friendships. And I'm not just talking one or two, I'm talking families of friendships and love and...

Mm-hmm.

Right.

and hardships and just everything that you think of that we've gone through in life, we got to do it together. And I could have missed that. And I was trying to get rid of that opportunity. And thankfully my friend didn't let me because it was definitely something I needed in my life and still needed in my life. Like we're still, we're still good people. And I never would have had that had I just been a bitch and said, nah, I'm good. I don't need to see these guys.

Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah. Exactly. Miss opportunities can come back and bite you an ass.

Yeah, but if you do it right, the only regrets you have is that it didn't turn out as good as you wanted it to. That's it. my God, it's so much.

I But I'd rather have that. I would totally rather have that. you

I was afraid of falling off of high things for some reason HR puff and stuff falling into the into the The big hat going falling and falling like for some reason I was afraid to fall off high things and I said Marty Croft they did it to me, but anyway You'd have to look up that reference. I

I know there's gonna be a lot of people have no clue what we're talking about. But you're good on the lyrics, right? What to do when things get rough, HR puff and stuff, you can't do a little, but you can't do enough. Keep going.

Yeah, cause that's way old and whatever. But anyway, was, but anyway, was afraid to fall and, bungee jumping had started to make this like huge, you know, explosion of popularity and stuff. And, and I went to magic mountain the first time.

And they had a bungee jumping thing and I and I went on that experience and it and I was like, my god But I didn't feel like I I was any better with falling right? so so I bungee jumped another three times and and I did it in mexico and I did it in in vegas and and I did it in in I was like like cambria area somewhere out there. I can't remember exactly where it was but out in that area And you know what? I'm not afraid to fall anymore

No.

Nice. Right.

I scared that fear right out of me. And, you know, it kind of debilitated me.

Anytime you're afraid of something to the degree that I was I was just scared of it. It doesn't do you any good. You can't be afraid like that. And so by by conquering that fear, I don't have it anymore. And I got to bungee jump like that is some that scary shit actually, but so much fun. I was such a rush. And I think to myself, I'm grateful that I was brave enough to try something even when I thought I was going to die.

Mm-hmm.

Epic.

And for all those listeners that don't understand what Magic Mountain is, it's an amusement park.

yes.

out here on the West Coast.

You gotta reference a lot of things, because I am a valley girl at heart, and I will talk about my area like everybody knows, and that's so not the truth.

Yes, absolutely.

But, can you do?

Look, think the last thing we should we should deal here is Miss opportunities can come back and kick you in the ass We've all done them. We'll probably continue to do them obviously Try to try to do them less is is the best way of doing it We've talked about it on this pod plenty of times

Yeah.

I'm kind of at a place now where I'm just going to do whatever it is that I can do. And if it comes back and bite me in the ass, it does. Because I don't want to miss out on things that happen anymore.

No, you shouldn't.

because it's man there's there's so many good things that that have happened in the last couple of years that I probably would have never done like moving where I live. Just meeting new people going where I'm at job meeting old friends making sure that I'm good with people from my past so I can feel a little bit better about that as well so. That's all I can say about it don't.

Yeah.

Don't miss out.

Yeah, I had one more thing I wanted to say. One of our listeners, and I know he was a listener because I know he used to listen with his son, who is a friend of mine, passed away recently due to Alzheimer's. And it was so hard watching him go down because this man was like a second father to me in so many ways. he if there was a bad idea to support these.

Go for it. You

these two people, my parents' best friends, were all about supporting it and letting me try and just swing in for the fences. They encouraged that. And he listened to the podcast and he said, I really like what Tina has to say, but I wish there wasn't so much swearing in it. He was the that said that. But anyway, no, well, maybe sometimes. But anyway, he...

I mean it definitely wasn't you

He passed away and I was thinking about life with him because I've known him since I was in grammar school and spent a lot of time with him and his family. And I was thinking about him and this regret, you know, subject came up and I have to tell you, I don't think I have any missed opportunities with him because we, we were very close and spent a lot of time together and

What a blessing it is. He's not on this earth anymore and I won't get to see him again. But how great it is to say I feel like I had nothing but time and I took all the opportunity to hang out with him and to talk with him and to allow him to teach me things and watch him be the best of friends to my dad and to my mom.

What a blessing he was on this earth and I have decided that one of the things that I was going to do was try to be a little bit better at doing that too. Even though I feel like I am a good friend, just kicking it up a little bit better just because of how great he was to me and how it really benefited my life and my heart. And I just wanted to leave it at that.

Well, that's good. No more missed opportunities with friends and family as well. Yeah, you can pretty much listen to us everywhere. Everywhere. I mean.

Exactly.

Yeah

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Woo!

Yeah.

It'll happen.

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See ya.