Why do some people push our buttons so easily?

And what if compassion wasn’t about excusing behaviour… but understanding how people are shaped?

In this Quick Spoon from my conversation with Dr Eric Goodman, we explore a powerful idea:

None of us chose our genetics.

None of us chose our upbringing.

None of us chose the experiences that shaped us.

But…

We do have some say in who we become next.

A thought-provoking reflection on compassion, responsibility, and how we respond to difficult people—at work and beyond.

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QS1 We Don’t Choose Who We Become

[00:00:00] you were switched at birth and

[00:00:06] boss.

[00:00:10] sitting here talking compassion

[00:00:12] You would be, uh,

[00:00:15] this version of you probably wouldn't like very much.

[00:00:19] don't [00:00:20] choose

[00:00:21] that we've become. Now we can wake

[00:00:25] We, we, we

[00:00:33] Ross: Hi there, and welcome to People Soup Quickspoon. real conversations about work, leadership, and being [00:00:40] human, grounded in behavioral science with practical ideas you can actually use. Ross McIntosh, and here's your quick spoon.

[00:01:14] That's your quickspoon. Until next time, take care.