Hey there, Earnest Mann here! Today, I’m sharing an experience that really underscores the importance of judgment in navigating life’s challenges. A guy once sat next to me at a bar, delivering a lengthy monologue about his life without asking for a word in return. As he left, he thanked me for being a good listener, blissfully unaware that had I spoken, my thoughts would have been far less complimentary. This led me to reflect on something deeper: why is judgment such a taboo in today's society?
Our society today frowns upon being “judgmental,” associating it with negativity or even comparing it to more extreme labels like racism. However, judgment is vital to survival. From analyzing the actions of authority figures to making split-second decisions in dangerous situations, judging people and circumstances isn't just a right—it's a necessity. Without the ability to judge, we become paralyzed by indecision.
Society’s pressure to be non-judgmental has left many, particularly the young and woke, trapped in existential crises over the simplest of decisions. I argue that being judgmental—when informed by knowledge and experience—actually leads to better decisions. The ability to judge has kept me safe in countless situations, and it's one of the key tools we have to move forward confidently in life.
The truth is, you can’t please everyone. Worrying about whether you’re going to be judged, or whether you’re judging others, only keeps you from living your life. Life is short, and we’re not here just to consume. We are meant to accomplish something meaningful, something that can help others.
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listen to this and tell me if you've
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ever had this experience I'm sitting at
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a bar having my drink guy walks in and
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sits down next to me and a conversation
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ensues I don't really say very much to
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him as he goes on with his 20 minute
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plus monologue then he thanks me for
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being such a good listener I smiled and
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thanked him as he walked away but what
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he doesn't know it's a good idea I
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didn't say anything to him because if I
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did I would have told him what a [ __ ]
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idiot I thought he
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was if you work for a living why do you
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kill yourself
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working
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greetings it occurred to me
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lately that it's entirely possible
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despite my best
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efforts that some of you may not like
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me and well that is what it is I mean
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after all at least I think you'd have to
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agree that um no one's going to like
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every single person in the
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world but reasons do
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matter and I'm not
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certain but I believe it could be
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because I'm perhaps and perhaps this is
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a huge
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understatement I tend to be a bit
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judgmental I I could almost laugh at
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this well I am laughing at it so because
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of that I thought it would be really
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important to explain this um in case
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just in case you wanted to
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know my name is Ernest man and I am
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professor of
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tautology Frostbite
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Falls one thing that you have to
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understand is the physiology of the
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brain and personality
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development they are very intertwined
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and that is no
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joke basically it goes like
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this the person that you are For Better
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or For
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Worse by the age of
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25 and I know people are going to want
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to um disagree with me on this but For
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Better or For Worse you are who you are
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for
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life you are going to have the same
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basic um personality and mindset for the
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rest of your
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life and I'm
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sorry I didn't make that rule that's
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what science has
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proven now one of the things
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um that I want to point out is that
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because of
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that the way it is supposed to work if
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you want to have any success in this
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world is you're supposed to take all of
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that learning up that you've gathered no
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matter who it's from or where it's from
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all that life
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experience and it all forms together
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and you end up with
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you and then you have to have the
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courage past that point of making
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judgments and yes that includes judging
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people the problem with that is that we
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have developed into a
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society um much I feel to its detri
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that that is a
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fooa that is a bad thing even the word
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judgment or you're being so
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judgmental it's
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evil it's I guess I don't know it it
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kind of has been Incorporated and it's
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being like being a racist or being a
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Nazi or whatever the whatever the
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hell
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but it is because of
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this that we
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simply cannot function as individuals
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because that is the stuff we're made
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of in other words um in order the simple
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facts of reality of life is that in
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order for something to live something
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else has to
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die um
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try explaining that having that
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conversation with a a vegan
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sometime boy that could run you really
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run your your ass around in nonsensical
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circles for 3 hours but we're not going
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to do that and I'm not going to do that
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a matter of fact I [ __ ] refuse to do
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that because I have at least a semi
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functional
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brain I didn't drink the Kool-Aid of
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acceptability so what what I gave what I
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talked about in the intro what it boils
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down to is that the older that you get
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and this is also based on your life
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experience you have to for the sake of
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your own
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Survival this is about your survival
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which could be the survival of not just
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you of say your family if you got uh you
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know wife kids or what have you it's all
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tied
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together and
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so if you're in a
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situation um and a very important
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situation and those around you who are
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supposed to be figures of
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authority um but they turn out to be
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well an idiot well following that and
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unquestioning that can get you [ __ ]
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killed
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now on the other hand I am not saying
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like a Rebel Without a
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Cause that you should just you know
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constantly question authority because
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again if you do that that in and of
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itself is
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idiotic so that's not good
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either in my case the way I process this
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is that I I try to be a very good
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listener
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and I look for you know things as far as
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um well if there's if there's a logic to
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you know of of what logical
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progression with what they're saying how
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it ties in and how everything they're
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saying ties in with what I know as a
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realist so I mean even the the most base
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simple example would be this if if you
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have two let's say you have two deluded
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delusional people okay
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okay um they're at a bar I know know
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else to say they're at a
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bar and there's nothing wrong with
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having a beer or drinks if you're you
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know Catholic or whatnot but if you're a
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Catholic and you know someone is another
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form of Christian besides
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you
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well you have
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two different
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states of
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delusion but they only you know they
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only uh it's only in the very
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particulars of
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it because you're both still crazy
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Christians and you believe that
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Spiritual Beings or something actually
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have a profound interest in your life
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they have nothing better to do in the
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[ __ ] universe that they're constantly
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watching what you're doing in your
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life and on top of that if you cross the
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line and you do anything bad that a
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certain book says you shouldn't do well
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they're going to they're going to do
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something they're going to Smite you and
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some they're going to mark you down they
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depending and depending on the offense
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they might want to send you straight to
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hell I don't I don't live in in that
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World um because um well as I have
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already stated several times I think
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it's bad [ __ ]
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crazy but here's the thing as far as
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being judgmental
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relax because because it's that
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judgment that keeps your [ __ ] ass
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alive and keeps your ass moving through
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life it does so yeah you're going to
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have to move out of your comfort zone
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and you're going to have to make some
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snap judgments about things and
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sometimes without a lot of warning and
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it's important that you do
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that when everything comes up with every
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possibility you know you can't go into
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it in a in a you don't have the time you
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don't have the luxury of going into
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things and having a metaphysical [ __ ]
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discussion within yourself about
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it um you know I got a say a a crazy
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person in a social setting and they're
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coming at me with a a weapon a knife or
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what have you um my brain tells me to
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either disarm or kill the
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[ __ ] or try to run and get the
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hell out of the way whatever I can
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do but it's not time to have a therapy
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session with them or with
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myself considering well just because
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they have a weapon they look crazy and
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they're running towards you your
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reaction if you do something and you
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you're that's just you're being sted to
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typical you're
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being
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judgmental we don't want any judgmental
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and
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anything right so what do you do in life
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well you you sit around and you have
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fear you can't judge anything suddenly
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there can't be any right or wrong there
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can't be any intuition there can't be
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really anything when you break it all
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down and if you just set a side the
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rhetoric and the [ __ ] that's what it
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does to
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you me I don't live by such [ __ ] up
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rules I call a spade a
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spade and uh you know I judge something
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I look at and yes I am [ __ ]
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judgmental and it's done a pretty good
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job of keeping my ass well in fairly
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decent shape all these years and quite
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frankly on more than one occasion it's
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actually saved my life please allow me
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just a few moments as a pause for the
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cause I know it's a real struggle
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bringing home the bacon times are tough
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you don't have to tell me twice so if
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episode
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so the reason why I'm telling you all of
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this is that if you if if there's any
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any of you people out there are
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particularly really young woke people or
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something and they absolutely can't
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stand that and then
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you you know you get to the point in
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your life whereas doing the simplest
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things like the clothes that you're
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going to put on before you leave to
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start your day when
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everything becomes a [ __ ] existential
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crisis because you can't make a
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decision because you're worried about me
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being
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judgmental that's what puts people
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[ __ ]
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crazy so as I started out saying you
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know I meet a guy and he's terminally
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you know
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idiotic I have my conclusion and I
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believed this his his entire thing that
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he was telling me was basically idiotic
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my bigger point is is that that's okay
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and I want to qualify this it doesn't
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mean and I'm not saying it is you're not
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going to be
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right all the
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time sometimes you're
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wrong but more often than not the more
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knowledge you
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gain you are right your intuition is
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right and you're right and it's okay to
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go with that there's nothing wrong with
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that it's certainly beats sitting around
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and you're completely
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immobilized with
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fear with the absolute
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trepidation of worrying about what
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others might think or what would they do
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or how would they feel if they saw me
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and acting like this or talking like
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this well one thing very quickly that I
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could tell you this is that you know a a
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lot of actions regardless of their
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intent they're um they're they're
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subjective you simply you
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cannot you can't just look at other
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people and situations and be constantly
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worried about how you're going to be
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viewed or if it's correct or not because
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you don't
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know and honestly in the bigger picture
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really doesn't [ __ ] matter as a
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matter of fact I can tell you that the
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older you get there are so many things
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that used to mean so
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much they don't they don't mean for [ __ ]
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they just don't are there things in life
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that have meaning absolutely you bet
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their ass there is there are quite a few
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things but there's a lot that
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doesn't and worrying about um the words
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or [ __ ] pronouns that you use or just
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judging people or being judged and it's
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just
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look you know move
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on move on with your
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life life is far too short to be worried
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about all that
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[ __ ] you're supposed to get
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something done that is the real reason
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for you or I or basically anyone one
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being here you're not here to be
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consumers you're not here to be just
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consumers you know having redundant
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protoplasm and consuming until you
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[ __ ] grow old and die you're supposed
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to actually accomplish something and
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hopefully maybe even something that
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helps other
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people and uh yeah that uh doesn't
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really
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include making hundreds of millions
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of billions of [ __ ]
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dollars um because
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um I
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believe that people like Elon
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Musk and uh Jeff
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Brazos people of that
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ilk are some of the most [ __ ] up human
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beings if even want to call them
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that that I've ever witnessed in my
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life and
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yeah I'm
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being
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judgmental ah here's actual footage of
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my great granddaddy man but unlike him
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