Should You Get Your Ex Back? A Breakup Coach Explains | FT: Coach Adrian

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Coach Adrian explains why breakups feel like addiction withdrawal, how to know if you should pursue your ex, and why contempt kills relationships.

Timestamps:

00:00 — Intro: Meet Coach Adrian, Co-Founder of Love Advice TV

02:30 — His Personal Story: Breaking Up With His Future Wife in College

06:00 — Fear of Commitment and Emotional Immaturity in His 20s

09:00 — Reconnecting Years Later and Building a Family

12:00 — Why Breakup Pain Feels Like Addiction Withdrawal

15:00 — How to Know If You Should Pursue Getting Back Together

18:00 — Relationships as "Who Are We Becoming Together"

21:00 — The Spiritual Law of Crisis and Victory

24:00 — Charlene's Story: 23 Years of Marriage and What She Learned

28:00 — Why Getting Back Together Means Building Something New

31:00 — Being Kind to Your Past Self During the Healing Process

34:00 — The Danger of Desperation and Begging After a Breakup

37:00 — Contempt: The Number One Killer of Relationships

41:00 — How to Recognize Patterns in Yourself and Your Relationship

44:00 — Charlene's Second Marriage: How Faith Changed Her Husband

48:00 — Success Stories: Couples Reuniting After Years Apart

52:00 — Even High School Sweethearts Reunite Decades Later

54:00 — Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity: A Nuanced Approach

58:00 — Why Authentic Apologies Require Consistency Over Time

1:02:00 — Addressing the Betrayed Partner Who Can't See Their Own Part 1:06:00 — Breaking the Blame Cycle: Listening to Feelings, Not Just Words 1:10:00 — Final Advice: You're Never Powerless in Love

1:13:00 — Where to Find Coach Adrian: Happily Committed & Love Advice TV

Coach Adrian also shares real client stories, including couples reuniting after 4.5 years apart and even decades-long separations, closing with practical advice for breaking the blame cycle: pausing to genuinely listen to what a partner is feeling, not just what they're arguing about on the surface.