In this episode of The Dynamics of Everyday Life, Julia explores a familiar but uncomfortable truth: knowing why we do something doesn’t mean we can stop doing it.

Using a tennis metaphor (and a healthy dose of self-awareness), she unpacks why insight alone rarely leads to lasting change; and why so many intelligent, motivated people continue to repeat patterns they understand perfectly well.

This is a grounded exploration of the limits of insight, the myths of personal development culture, and what a psychodynamic lens can offer when change stalls.

Here are the highlights of this episode:

(3.30) The personal development myth

(4.23) The repetition compulsion

(5.56) Secondary gains and unconscious loyalty

(7.30) Why tools aren’t enough

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The Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.

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