This week’s episode is a companion to last week’s conversation, where we talked about why our partners might not share when they’re upset.  This week, a listener asks: Why doesn’t my partner try to understand when I’m upset?  What it ultimately boils down to is listening, really listening, is actually really hard! Vickey, Rebecca and Jules break this all down for you to explain what the goal of listening actually is, how to do it well, and how to know when you’ve stopped listening.  And for the speaker, they’ve got some tips for how and why you should prepare your listener for the conversation and continue last week’s advice on how to use the Feedback Wheel to be heard and initiate repair.  By practicing a little relational mindfulness, couples can shift from “me versus you” into “us consciousness”.

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