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77. Turning the Car Around for the Hat — So It Must Be Me
Episode 7729th January 2026 • ADHD Mums • Jane McFadden
00:00:00 00:15:42

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Responsibility’s already on me.

If this tips, it’ll be because I waited too long.

That’s how the morning starts.

There’s a clock running. Shoes half on. Bags not where they should be. One kid slowing down, another winding up. Nothing’s happened yet, but the margin’s already thin. I step in early, before anyone else thinks it’s necessary, and it gets read straight away as 'being grumpy.'

In This Episode, We Cover

  1. The internal belief that responsibility defaults inward before the day begins
  2. How a single morning escalation under time pressure is interpreted differently by those around you
  3. What it’s like to step in early and have that read as impatience or control
  4. The moment intervention happens before anything has officially gone wrong

This Episode Is For You If

  1. Mornings feel loaded before the first decision is made
  2. You act early because the margin already feels thin
  3. Your responses are misread in real time by others
  4. You carry the sense that if it falls apart, it’s on you

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Why Am I Bracing for Impact When Nothing Is Wrong? (Quick Reset)

https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-10-quick-reset-why-am-i-bracing-for-impact-when-nothing-is-wrong/

You Were the Good Girl. That’s Why You’re Falling Apart Now.

https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/

The ADHD Myth of ‘Just Try Harder’ (Quick Reset)

https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-24-quick-reset-the-adhd-myth-of-just-try-harder/

The morning doesn’t resolve. There’s no clean ending attached to it. Just the moment being seen while it’s still happening.

Not as overreaction.

Not as a set of steps.

As regulation under load, in real time, with the clock already ticking.

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