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On today's episode of the Intuitive Parents Podcast Dr. Frances Malone delivers a parenting pick me up to help you experience more peace in your household with children. This simple grounding exercise is perfect for the conscious parent looking for holistic parenting support. Want to take this work further? Then join the challenge and grab the free resources at www.mygiftfromfrances.com
The Intuitive Parents Podcast is a place for parents to go who are seeking holistic support on their journey of consciously raising naturally healthy kids. Hosted by Dr. Frances Malone ARNP, PhD founder of The Intuitive Parents Collective, Malone Pediatrics, DogFish Moon Sanctuary, and Chartreuse Skincare.
Dr. Frances Malone has dedicated her career towards serving her community through her research, study, and care. She believes that each family unit is unique and deserves personalized care.
Through this podcast it is Dr. Malones mission to educate and support parents. From solo episodes to magnificent conversations with expert guests- The Intuitive Parents Podcast will be the next favorite on your playlist!
To learn more about Dr. Frances Malone ARNP, PhD visit her website www.francesmalone.com
Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired in your parenting journey? Then it is time for a shift, The 14 Day Shift that is! This is France's simple three step process to achieve more peace in your household today! Grab the free resources by going to www.mygiftfromfrances.com
Are you looking for a supportive community to walk hand in hand with your on your parenting journey? While having the confidence that you are being guided by an expert? The Intuitive Parents Collective is now open for enrollment! Visit www.intuitiveparentscollective.com for more information.
Are you a local resident to Bainbridge Island, WA or the Kitsap County area? Then you need to check out Malone Pediatrics and DogFish Moon Sanctuary! You can find them at the links below.
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Transcripts
00:07
Hi, this is Dr. Francis Malone, founder of the intuitive parents collective. I've been working with children and their families to provide holistic relationship based medical care throughout my career. This podcast is for parents interested in consciously raising naturally Healthy Kids. Here we will dive into topics that spanned childhood, and parenting as well as hosting exciting guests.
00:30
So whenever you find yourself at the end of your parody rope, tune into the intuitive parents podcast to get a new ideas about making parenting fun.
00:44
As parents, when we first decided to take the opportunity, challenge, and the responsibility of being a parent, we launch ourselves onto the biggest unknown roller coaster of our lives. In doing this, we demonstrate an amazing amount of courage, courage for facing our own selves and the needs of our child head on without a lot of support, knowledge or instruction.
01:08
We have our own life experiences, the ways that our parents have raised us the relationship with our partner and the rest of our family as guides, we jump in without a full understanding of the heart wrenching, humbling and expansive experience that parenting truly is, we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life with periodic dips into joy, recognition of the brilliance of our child, as well as all for their strength, and the depth of our love for them. But we end up moving ourselves and our children through life in an automatic way.
01:43
We tend to see ourselves as, quote, responsible for and required to do things to or do things for our child. But the reality of that relationship is actually way more complex.
01:56
Being able to see our child from infancy as a partner, or as a collaborator, helps us to forgive ourselves for what we don't know, and allow ourselves to grow with people while we learn what is required of us as parents.
02:11
This perspective shift also allows us the opportunity to give grace to ourselves and our child, as neither of us has ever been in this situation.
02:23
In this minute, at this age before. When we see our child as a person that we are collaborating with to create the day that both of us wish for. Can we come back to a place of seeing this person as someone with needs that they are trying to communicate.
02:38
When there are breakdowns and frustrations and hair pulling,
02:42
and possibly tantrums. It's because somehow we're not able to hear each other.
02:49
When we learn to step back, take a breath and give ourselves a little self love and understanding we can work with our child and we can defuse a situation
02:59
better.
03:01
Right in the minute we can stop moving forward in whatever the day requires.
03:06
Just stop, take a few breaths, organize our own internal stress response.
03:14
in organizing and regulating our own internal stress,
03:18
or frustration, we help our child to self regulate themselves.
03:23
Then frequently they adult and child can bring themselves back to a place where they can hear each other.
03:30
As parents, we are the guide for our child and our ability to ground ourselves and to be as stable as our responses to our child as possible is our responsibility.
03:42
The concept at first can be difficult, but the practice gets simpler over time.
03:47
The easiest time to begin this practice is when your child is an infant because it's so easy to see that very quick responses that grounding ourself, loving ourselves. Relaxing or tuning into our own breathing enables our baby to settle their crying, go to sleep and to rest in our arms.
04:06
Grounding and centering ourselves doesn't fix whatever is upsetting the infant or child. But it does help us have a clear mind to figure out what could be the problem.
04:17
In my practice, it's often true that caregivers, internal stress, anxiety or distress is actually being felt by the infant or child. In the end, it produces a kind of chaos inside them that they don't understand and makes them feel uncomfortable. So they react accordingly.
04:36
One thing that's interesting for me personally is that I teach this to parents all the time. Yet I lived it recently with my youngest child who's a 16 year old.
04:49
He was not feeling well and we were searching for a diagnosis and somehow I got tipped out of center out of my place of balance and into worry for my child's health.
05:01
This is absolutely
05:04
expected. But me being off center increased and exacerbated my child's distress and experience of the symptoms. The symptoms hadn't changed. My child's discomfort did not get worse. But as my brain was allowed to ruminate and worry, and I that I pretended to him that I was not worried, his reactivity and behavior became more untenable.
05:30
He became anxious and distressed about the same symptoms in a new way.
05:36
Somehow, I noticed and I started to give myself a chance to be okay with the fact that right now, I didn't know what was going on with my kiddo, and that I couldn't fix it in this minute, and that we would eventually figure out how to move forward.
05:50
As I organize myself, grounded myself and took care of myself, my child started to do better in his experience of daily life. Despite persisting symptoms.
06:04
If you'd like to try this for yourself, go right ahead, you can put it into practice immediately. If you need more support of an organized program, then go ahead and try my 14 Day Challenge.
06:15
If you go to my gift from Francis calm, you can receive your free guide and support for how to
06:24
do this for your own family.
06:33
Hi, this is Francis. Thank you for tuning in to today's episode of the intuitive parents podcast. We are thrilled to have you here and hope that you enjoyed it. Please share our podcast with others who may benefit and leave us a review. To receive a free gift or the 14 Day Challenge. bringing peace to your household. Go to my gift francis.com that's my gift from francis.com. Take care. I look forward to working with you.