In today's episode, we delve into the theme of personal significance following near-death experiences. The episode features a compelling dialogue regarding the intricate questions posed by our callers, particularly focusing on the nature of existence, purpose, and the enduring bonds of love that transcend the physical realm. We explore the profound experiences shared by individuals who have encountered the afterlife, fostering a deeper understanding of their journeys and the implications for their lives thereafter. Through thoughtful examination, we aim to provide clarity and solace to those grappling with their connections to the departed, while also encouraging exploration of one's own intuitive gifts. I am joined by my daughter, Sophia, as we navigate these profound inquiries and share insights that may illuminate the paths of our listeners.

Welcome to the Dead Life.

Here's world renowned medium Alison Dubois.

Welcome to the Dead Life.

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Sophia, are you ready to dive into more questions?

I am.

I mean, those were complicated last week.

No.

Yeah.

Very good.

So I pulled some of the ones that are very thought provoking for a reason.

I want my listeners to think about some of what people experience and want to know.

I also think this helps people with abilities to have to focus more and see what impressions they pull.

So I find the show good practice for the gifted.

I agree.

So, okay, let's dig in.

Okay.

First caller.

Hi, this is Claudia.

I wanted to share an afterlife experience that I had years ago after a surgery.

And it was really weird.

I pretty much.

I was in the hospital and I, I don't.

I fell asleep, I guess, and I was drifting.

Anyway, long story, I was never going to tell a soul because I knew that everyone would think that I was crazy.

But apparently my mom saw me.

She lived 45 minutes away at the time and I was standing in front of her and I was saying goodbye.

So I know for a fact that it was an afterlife experience.

Anyway, it's a lot deeper than that.

I've always been wondering what my purpose is afterwards.

I feel like there's a reason I came back.

I mean, obviously my children.

But I just would like to know if there's a deeper meaning or purpose, something I'm supposed to be doing.

Anyway, give me a call.

I just became a fan.

I heard about you on a crime podcast and I think you're amazing.

So thank you for sharing your gift and hopefully I will hear from you.

I'm fine, thank you.

Claudia heard me on Crime Junkie AF with my friend Ashley Flower.

Yeah, I've actually had a lot of people text and call saying that they heard you on that podcast.

Well, it was the right podcast for me to be on, I'd say.

Well, no, it's so popular right now too.

Just crime documentaries.

Just everything like that realm, yeah, is so popular right now, you know, and.

I stick my toe in it from time to time, but I lived in it for 20 years, so year before, before the trend.

I'm ahead of my time.

What can I say?

Yeah, I, I found this interesting, this, this question from Claudia.

I would like to say, okay, so she was standing in front of her mom saying goodbye.

Her mom saw this.

So she had a near death experience.

Is, is what she feels.

It's interesting and unusual that I'd have somebody who would have a near death experience say, what is my calling?

Most of them are so damn happy just to have not died.

They want to do everything.

So I would say for Claudia, she said, was I saved for my children?

Or like, what is it?

It's like, that's no small thing.

You're shaping your children and who they will be that go out into the world.

Obviously you were still needed here, still necessary.

A lot of people search for their calling in life, in the world and don't seem to be able to find it.

And I notice with my clients when I ask them, when you were young, before you had children, before whatever career path you went down for stability, financial, like, financial resources that you needed to stabilize life, raise a child, to take care of family, what did you love doing?

And often one will say, I used to write, I used to paint, I used to skate, whatever it is that they did.

And I always say, I need you to go back to that and try it, because everything will become clear as to your path and where you need to be.

It's when we lose that young part of ourselves, the passionate part of ourselves, that our life sort of comes undone and takes.

That takes over.

We're on autopilot, just going through life and then 50 years go by.

So while you're, whatever age you're at, Claudia, and you must be relatively younger because your kids are, you know, still needing you.

Yeah, I would say go back to whatever your passion was.

And even if it was retail and working in retail, it doesn't.

You don't have to change the world as one person to be important in raising a child that will change the world.

So not everybody's here with a clear passion and path to take.

Your dad knew when he was 10 he was gonna be a rocket scientist.

His path was clear.

I knew I was gonna be a lawyer.

Not exactly, but along those lines, you know, working with crime, you know, I went in that direction.

Not everybody has a defined passion for anything.

Although she is listening to crime junkie Claudia, why don't you, why don't you go to, I mean, she could do CSI school or work in law enforcement at some, some level, forensics.

She could be a private investigator.

I wish I knew the month and day she was born because that, that helps.

But she could go into any segment of career around law enforcement and unraveling mysteries.

I mean, if she was listening to me on Crime Junkie.

She loves Crime Junkie.

Go into that field.

I will say though, so you had said when, when you see someone that had a near death experience, they're like, I'm gonna do everything.

You know, some people though have guilt around it of why was I saved?

Well, that's if someone else died in the same accident.

No, I know, but they still think like if, if before that experience happened, they already had self doubt of themselves and they were insecure, then they probably died, come back to life and they're like, okay, but why am I special?

Like, it doesn't matter if anyone else died around them.

It's like, okay, but why did this happen?

But then you said, oh, you know, your dad knew at 10 what he was gonna do.

I knew what kind of.

What I want to do.

I don't know what I want to do, you know, but I've gotten astrology readings done and it does depend on your chart because my Mars and Libra.

Libra being a very Indecisive.

Indecisive.

And the communicator.

Indecisive sign.

I'm.

I'm supposed to do a lot of things in life.

Apparently.

You're a plate spinner.

Yeah.

So she might have something like that where she's like, well, I like a lot of things, but I don't know what my calling is.

So I would just do some self reflection, get some clarity.

You're right.

If there's stuff you like to do, do those things, do them with your kids.

Like I just read a woman a couple weeks ago, she was an ice skater when she was younger.

And she's like.

I said, do you live by a rank?

And she said, yes.

I said, get your skates.

Go down there and just skate laps until you get clarity in your mind.

And that's going to help you to focus and come up with exactly where you want to be and what you want to do.

I think a lot of people get used to living a life without momentum, where you're just going through the motions and nothing exciting happens and it just gets monotonous.

Pulling yourself out of that isn't easy, but you can.

And so for Claudia, I, I hear what you're saying, and especially when the kids are gone, she's gonna need a purpose.

Well, no, I like that you said, what would you want to do if money was not right?

Well, a part of it, you know.

Yeah, because that's really important.

If, if money wasn't an object and if you could just do anything that you wanted to.

To do with that, and you would never.

And you wouldn't fail, you know, if you could do anything and know you weren't going to fail, what would that be?

And that's really the way we know we're supposed to live our life.

But it's easier said than done for a lot of people who are hesitant in taking risks.

With Claudia, I know that there's a reason that she was saved.

And here it can come down to something as simple as she's gonna push a child out of the way before a truck hits them in the future and save their life.

And then that child goes on to, you know, become a police officer that then saves a bunch of people, or a firefighter that pulls people out of burning buildings.

You just don't know.

You have to have faith that the other side has a plan for you.

A much bigger picture.

Also, near death experiences tend to trigger psychic abilities.

So I would just be curious if, since she had her experience, if her abilities have been turned up, because many people who have nd ease end up having mediumship experiences, at the very least clairvoyant, where things that they see are going to happen, then unfold.

So I would be curious if Claudia seen that aspect of.

It almost seems like an after effect of an nde.

There are also NDE groups that she could join to talk to other people who have been through what she's been through, and that might be helpful as well.

Yeah.

Yes.

So I hope that helps Claudia, because I know navigating such a murky field can make you feel alone.

And I've talked to a lot of nd ease.

Is it Jacob Cooper that that had the near death experience?

I believe it is.

I guess.

This is my show.

I can do this right here, right now.

So just to be accurate, let me pull it up.

I find it so fascinating because they even.

They have those shows about kids.

Oh, wait, no, that's reincarnation.

Oh, that's past lives.

Never mind that.

That's okay.

So there was a show though.

That's a.

So Jacob Cooper.

Yes, he's on Instagram.

Jacob Cooper, lcsw.

He had a near death experience.

He wrote the Wisdom of Jacob's Ladder.

You follow him on Instagram, start a convo.

He knows all the ND peeps out there and he'll bring you together so you don't have to feel quite so alone.

I love that, you know, all the groups of every subcategory of spirituality.

You're like, you know, a guy for that.

It's my life.

I have the resources.

No, I love it.

I know forensic accountants, for those of you getting divorced.

I've got like my finger on the pulse of everything under the legal and.

Ethereal well, and I will say umbrella on Allison dubois dot com.

Yeah, there is a resource tab with all of these resources there.

Yeah, check it out.

Yeah, that would be.

I should, yeah, I should add some for NDE as well because I experience a lot of people.

I encounter a lot of people that have had that experience.

And so that's very important.

So I do hope that's a good place for Claudia to start getting her into the community of NDEs so that she has some support and doesn't have to feel so out of sorts.

What you were talking about was past lives and it was.

I find it so fascinating.

The Ghost Inside My Child is the show if anybody wants to watch it.

I can't remember, it was on prime or something like that.

Those shows are better anyways.

But it was very specific and detailed on each child and the life they said they had before.

They're like, where's my wife?

And this is a three or four year old little kid.

You know, I find it fascinating.

Well, there was even one that explained or described the Twin Towers and he was one of the.

Either just a person in the building or a firefighter that died or something.

And he was like, no, there were two buildings and, and explained it, but he was like three or four too.

So like, there's no way he would have.

That's why I call small children kindergarten mediums.

And I always have, because around the age that they can fully communicate, you start to see some crazy shit come out of their mouth that's kind of amazing at the same time.

And you have to listen to them.

No, but that's why I'm scared to be a mom in the future.

Because I swear, if my kid comes up to me and he's like, mommy, there's something in some man in my room.

I'd be like, oh shit, get your dad.

Like, I don't know, I don't want to check it out.

I have a feeling I'd be coming over to check it out.

That's okay, that's okay.

I one of the little kids on that show.

It was so Funny.

He.

He was like, I have a wife and, like, her name is Sarah, and I have two kids and I have three cats and I want to go home.

Yeah.

And his mom's just staring at him.

And I felt so bad for these moms, but I was just engrossed in this series.

It was fascinating.

Yeah.

I've never seen that.

Yeah, you have to watch it.

That's why I reached out to that one center that does past life regression.

Yeah.

Still waiting to hear back from that woman.

I'll reach out.

Thank you.

Okay, let's go to the next Colin.

Okay.

Hi, this is Anne from Missouri.

I have been trying to connect to my husband, which doesn't seem to be going very well.

He died in June of 23.

He had bone marrow cancer.

But instead of fighting, he just gave up.

And I don't have any feeling that he's around me.

I so want to hear from him.

Because he gave up.

Does that mean he didn't love me enough to stay?

I now have pancreatic cancer and won't do chemo.

So I guess I won't survive.

Will I see him after I cross over in one little.

No.

I woke up one morning and I was laying in bed and my soul was sitting up.

Anyway, thank you for listening.

I listen to your show every Tuesday.

You're really great.

Thank you so much.

Well, thank you, Ann.

I wanted to include Ann.

I find in life that when somebody's terminal, people abandon them.

And I counsel the dying all the time, and it's a hard thing to do.

So I really wanted to answer Anne's questions for her.

Well, yeah, My heart just broke listening to that.

And what a sweetheart is she.

I know.

So she's.

But that's the thing, people.

Our perspective's all wrong.

We'll go.

They're a good one.

Why don't they stay?

Because they're good.

I don't want you to go through all that.

Well, the next.

Watching them.

The next place is better, too.

Yeah.

So they get to go.

The bad ones still have something to learn.

So we're here because apparently we haven't learned what we need to learn or haven't done what we need to do.

Well.

And also, I mean, he had bone marrow cancer.

That is, like, not good.

First of all, extremely painful.

Yes.

Second of all, that is so hard.

Like, it may have given him a few extra months.

Yeah.

But it's not like it would have.

He would have been miserable.

And he probably didn't want you to see him miserable.

He didn't Want to be miserable.

And, yeah, he's thinking, oh, the other side sounds pretty good right about now.

And I will see you one day.

Yeah.

So.

But that breaks my heart that she thinks it's because.

And that's why we're going to answer this for her, because I don't want her feeling like that.

You not being able to feel your husband around has nothing to do with whether or not he loved you.

I can assure you.

Assure you he loves you.

I also can guarantee that he knows when you're gonna die and that he will be there meeting you, waiting for you, so he'll be the first person you see.

And that's when your soul will understand that you were the love of his life and that he did value you.

You do matter.

Often when somebody dies, it's the person closest to them that's the last person to get any communication.

Because it's not that the loved one's not around him.

It's that we're blocked by pain.

Absolutely.

So it's because Ann loves her husband so much and that she misses him.

And she's going through her own battle with pancreatic cancer, which is a losing battle.

All you can do is hope that it maybe buys you some time.

I.

I feel for her on that level because he had his wife there to go through what he went through, and now she feels like, here I am going through it by myself.

But I know that he's there in spirit next to her, saying, it's okay.

It's gonna be okay, even if she can't hear him or sense him.

And I couldn't hear or sense my dad for four years.

I had to have Lori Campbell bring him through, and I had to bring Lori Campbell's dad through because we were blocked by pain.

Part of us still wanted our dads to come back, and part of her can't believe that he's gone.

Yeah.

And so a wall goes up to protect us because we become very fragile when we suffer that kind of loss.

So.

And they get so frustrated.

I did, too.

People get so frustrated.

They're like, do they not love me?

Do they not want to talk to me?

Is there nothing they need to say to me?

Am I that forgettable?

And it's the opposite of that.

They're all around you.

The problem's us.

It's not them.

So, Ann, a, you're blocked by pain because your heart's broken and you miss him, and you watched him suffer, which is another layer.

So you're going to feel a little bit of Maybe guilt of, did I do enough for him?

Did he feel loved by me?

Could I have made it better?

Could I have sent him in sooner?

And maybe he would have lived.

We beat ourselves up as.

As humans in the living world, and it's very unfair.

We're our own worst enemy.

And we just really go at ourselves when someone dies, thinking somehow we did something wrong.

And I always bring them through, and they say, you did everything right.

Don't worry about it.

Let that go.

That's your stuff.

That's not part of my reality.

That's what the souls say.

So for Anne, the fact that she saw her soul sitting up in bed is a huge sign of.

Usually that window's open for her to pass.

So I think sounds like she's ready anyway, because.

Right.

She misses him so much.

Absolutely.

And so I want to talk a little bit about this.

The other side is showing her her soul sitting up so that she recognizes that she doesn't die, that that part of her will remain.

So it's a visual communication that, you're coming with us.

You're going to come with us.

So this.

That's actually not a bad thing.

And especially with pancreatic cancer.

That's how your grandfather died.

That's how dad's dad went.

And it's not a great way to die.

Yeah.

And so, you know, for Anne, I will say a.

Your husband loves you.

He never left you.

You're gonna see him.

He's younger.

You revert to a younger age when you cross.

So if I brought your husband through, for instance, he'd give me the age that he reverted to what he looks like now.

And that usually was their heaven on earth, which almost always ends up being when they got married, when they fell in love, when they had children, whatever it was that made their heart race and made life the best it had ever been.

That's what age we go back to, so.

Or guys, if they wish.

And women, if they wish they'd met their partner sooner, if they could have been young together, they'll go back to a younger age and wait for them at that younger age so they can live that life together.

I love that.

I love that, too.

So Ann's husband, just like Betty White.

When Betty White died, the last thing she said was Allen.

And that was the husband that she had lost, like 40 years before that she missed.

And I think that is straight up one of the most beautiful illustrations of what happens at the moment of death.

And that's what Ann can expect.

She will.

She'll see him, he'll put his hand out to her, she'll grab it, grab it, and she'll sit up out of her body, stand up and walk into the light with him, and shall part from the body that betrayed her.

But the body's only a vessel for us for a short time.

It's not intended to stay so pristine.

We work so hard on the outside, on maintaining how we look on the outside, that often we forget to focus on the inside and who we are as people, which is why we're actually here.

It's ironic because I do bring a lot of people through and they can have vanity to them, like, looks still matter, which I find just hilarious.

But it's like, who they are.

But I guarantee that Ann's going to go back to a younger age and it'll be a different time for her when she crosses over.

So she'll acclimate with the music, the furniture, the hairstyles, the clothing of whatever decade was happy for her, which I love when they share those things with me as well.

And so I just want Ann to know there's so much waiting for you when you cross and you're going to be amongst the living.

The dead always tell us that we're the dead ones, that they're more alive than we are.

So consider yourself leaving the graveyard.

When you leave the physical world, you're going into the living one.

That's really.

That's really where Ann's going and that's where her husband is.

But I guarantee you, Ann, your husband's around you.

He gives you a kiss good night, he holds your hand, he whispers, I'm okay.

He's trying to get you to focus on yourself, which you don't even probably care about because you just want to go.

I think you seeing your soul sitting up is a huge heads up that it's.

It's time, that it's imminent.

And I say that with absolute love and a sense of excitement for you because I don't want you to suffer in this body, this body.

You're done with it.

It's time to move into the next phase of your life with your husband, and you'll be more alive than you were.

Here we are in a nine year, which I've been very clear about with my listeners.

It is a year of ending.

So people that have barely been hanging on do let go.

And so all of this is just indicative of a passing.

Well, I wanted to.

I didn't want to cut you off before, but I haven't looked at the clock, the Entire time we've been podcasting.

And when I looked at the clock, it was 444, which is an angel number.

Angels are watching us.

He's probably saying, tell her that.

Tell her.

I love that.

Thank you.

I just wanted to let you know it was 444 when I just looked at the clock.

And your husband's watching you.

And he'll try and ease her pain as well.

He'll try and buffer her and hold her hand when she's going through any sort of therapy that she needs.

I wish I had some sort of a magic email address that people could just send messages of love to Anne.

I just want Ann to know that she matters, that she won't be forgotten, and that we're all so grateful that she was here and we don't deserve her anymore.

And that's what death is.

When we no longer deserve that person here, they cross over to a place where they can thrive.

I love that.

I think that this will help her, actually.

I hope so.

So we're sending you.

Love, Ann.

Okay, let's go on to the next one.

Now that I'm all weepy.

I know my eyes are watering, too.

Okay.

This is Nancy.

Yes, Allison.

Hi.

This is Nancy.

I'm from Illinois.

I just had a quick question.

Years ago, after my mother passed, I woke up in the middle of the night and saw her as plain as day standing at the foot of my bed.

It didn't scare me, but I had so many questions, and I was just numb, and I couldn't say anything.

She.

As quick as she was there, she disappeared.

But she's never came back to me since then.

And I wonder if, because I was scared, she's not going to come visit me again and how I could kind of break through that, because I would love another visit from her.

It's been 40 years, and I always think about her.

She's always in my thoughts and prayers.

But I just wondered.

And also, I seem to be intuitive.

Like, I can walk into a room and I can feel people's energy, and I don't know if that could make me intuitive or should I tap into that and how can I further that gift?

I guess.

And pretty.

I'm pretty spot on when I can feel people's energy.

So I just had a question.

If I could or how I could tap into more of my skills if I have it.

I don't know.

Thank you.

I appreciate it.

Have a great day.

God bless you.

You're doing great things for so many people.

Thank you.

Nancy didn't she have some zest?

She did.

Well, she probably just had a really fun, fun St.

Patty's Day if she's in Illinois.

Oh, yeah, yeah, I'm sure.

Yeah.

I hope she went to the Green river in Chicago.

That's right.

They do that there too.

Some guy just jumped in it.

Oh, he did.

Okay.

It's so funny.

We're so.

We consider it Irish, but we're so damn American.

If you don't see a green beer.

You'Re like, oh, I'm getting that right after this podcast.

So we've got our shirts on our green.

Because today is St.

Patrick's Day, and tomorrow there will be people with a lot of hangovers.

Oh, yeah, this is part two.

Oh, yeah.

They won't be hearing this for a little bit.

St.

Patrick's for us.

Never mind.

A two parter.

Yes.

So the question from Nancy was the.

Does she have abilities, her intuitiveness how to go back or how to increase that?

But she saw the mom at her foot of the foot of her bed.

After she died, she had a visit, but it scared her.

So for everybody out there, if you see someone at the foot of your bed, and that's why I had the pilot episode with Medium, that's how it opened with where I'm seeing people standing at the foot of my bed, because they literally do that.

That's what they do.

She.

She was letting Nancy know this is how I'm okay.

And I know the words I'm okay to us seem, like, obvious or overheard.

Here's the thing.

They need you to see them in a form that they're not suffering.

They're trying to convey to you that they're well, that they're whole.

So when I say they're trying to convey I'm okay, that's actually a very big thing.

They're trying to take your pain away by showing you they live on.

And so when Nancy's mom stood at the foot of her bed and real and recognized that Nancy engaged her and knew that she was there, she's thinking, my daughter knows, right?

So she's gone, and then there's no sense of time.

So the 40 years it's been for Nancy, her mom's just, like, living her best life and peeking in on Nancy, seeing how her life's unfolded.

Now if Nancy's in a car accident or something, mama gonna be there.

You know, they show up.

So this is not a bad thing for Nancy that her mom hasn't consistently come.

Her mom probably had unfinished business on the other side that she needed to take care of the people who preceded her mother.

And death already assured her that Nancy would be not only fine, but exactly how her life would unfold.

So her mom already knew she was in good hands and who was taking care of her.

Also knowing that mama could come in anytime she needs to buffer her baby.

So that was a good thing.

But without knowing Nancy and without knowing her mom's energy, it's hard for me to say because if the mom was gregarious and full of life and energetic, they tend to come through a little bit more often and a little bit more full on sparkling Their, their glitter.

And the ones who lived more of a monotone life where it was just, you know, going through the motions, yeah, they don't have as much to say because they're learning some things on the other side about how to exude energy and how they didn't do that in the last lifetime and why that may have been.

Why was your soul already fractured or.

Well, and it's beaten down.

So you'd have to assume the mom died pretty young, you know.

Well, I don't know how old Nancy is, but yeah, she'd be on the younger end, I would imagine.

So.

I'm glad Nancy's here.

I know it's hard for people when they surpass their parents age, when you live longer than your parent did, and we all have it in our mind of what that age is and how far off it is.

So she wants to know how she can tap in.

I think this would be a great exercise for Nancy in her intuitive abilities.

Now, there's a distinction.

People can be intuitive without communicating with the other side.

More people are intuitive where they get an inkling, a feeling.

They know who's on the other end of the line on the phone before they answer it.

They predict something's going to happen, then it comes to pass.

That's much more common than communicating with the dead.

So when she says intuitive, her mom at the foot of her bed, that could have happened to anyone.

That's a non medium.

They don't have to have any abilities for that.

But she says she has an intuitive nature as well.

And that's what I'm speaking to.

But I'm also saying to her, manifesting the other side is a whole other level.

So it doesn't mean it's impossible.

It just means you have to remove all of the barriers that are around you.

And I liken it to Somewhere in Time, which is one of my favorite movies.

Christopher Reeve, Jane Seymour, Watch it and don't cry.

Dare you?

I don't think you could.

And in the movie, when he's setting the scene in his room to go back to the time where that beautiful woman was in the hotel that she lived to meet her, he had to remove the coins from that year.

He had to take the pictures off the wall.

He had to create an environment that was not clouded by the future, that it wasn't tainted by the future.

So it had to be as it was back then.

I love that.

So down to the suit.

Yes, down to the suit, which he was off on the year, which was funny, but it's not so different.

But it's easier in what I'm about to tell you.

So when you want to make a connection with somebody who died, and this is what I tell my clients, you take up a picture of them that you'll be attracted to.

And it's never an old picture.

So let me just rule that out for everyone right there, that's like, oh, I'm going to put the last picture of mom up.

It's like, mom's 22.

Mom doesn't want to see that picture.

So when you're drawn to a younger picture of them, that's the one you're going to put up because your heart's telling you that's what I look like now.

It's your mom speaking to you.

So you put that on your nightstand.

I don't want you to think of their death or anything attached to the death.

You can't think of an illness leading to the death.

You cannot think of the funeral.

Nothing that remotely attaches to it.

You think about when you were a little girl, when she would carry you on her hip, when she would get you chocolate milk without your dad knowing as a treat.

All the little times with your mother on your birthday when she'd bake you a cake, even though there wasn't a lot of money, so she'd make it herself, but it was always really special, and she'd decorate it, and she was a great cake decorator.

You know all the little details around your happiest moments in your life with your mom.

Okay, so now we've established that, then you're gonna smile and you're gonna say, mom, I'm ready for a visit.

And just close your eyes and go to sleep.

Because we have set your energy tone to be on the same page, or at least as near to her energy so that she can connect with you as possible.

So all of the things that I just said will help in communication.

I And there is a huge difference between.

And I've heard people say this.

I put out a picture and I said I wanted to visit.

It's like, okay, what's the difference between that.

That town and everything that I just said?

Two different worlds, wouldn't you say?

Yeah.

So.

But the second one is, like, right.

Running an agenda.

Like, why isn't she coming through still?

Right.

Like I.

Like I said the words.

I asked for it.

I demanded it.

Because your heart wasn't asking for it.

Your soul wasn't reaching for her.

You're just putting in an order at a fast food restaurant that mom can visit.

You know what I'm saying?

So.

So that would be the difference in energy.

So for any of you that aren't gonna put your whole heart and soul into that connection, don't expect any results other than what you get, which will be nothing.

Yeah.

You know, a whole lot of nothing.

So for Nancy, I hope this helps her connect with her mother, because my sense is her mother is easily accessible by Nancy.

It's just setting the stage.

It's setting the environment.

Another thing is every day just letting her know, mom, I still want you to be part of my life.

You know, I have that caricature up of my dad dancing.

You guys used to think it was my mom.

It is not.

And looks like, yeah, dad had a type.

So I've got a caricature of my dad up on the wall, and I invited him as soon as he died.

I'm like, dad, you know, I still want you to be part of my life, but it took four years for me to start being able to see him because I couldn't see through the tears.

My heart was broken.

I had a lump in my throat all the time.

And all of this blocks the other side from being heard and seen by you.

It's not that you're trying to.

It's the person that feels closest to the one who died that's always the last one to have the interaction, which is what mediums are for and why people will hear a cousin of theirs say, I had a dream.

And Tony said, he's good.

Like, he wanted me to let you know they'll go through everybody but you because they can't get through to you.

Your heart's just too broken.

So I hope that helps.

Nancy, your mom's been around the whole time.

Sort of what I was saying to Ann, you know, your.

Whose husband is there waiting for her, watching her, monitoring her, making sure she's okay.

And by okay, I mean that her Soul's being eased over to the other side.

Slowly and as smooth as possible.

For Nancy, who's not going anywhere, her mom's just watching her saying, do all the things I didn't do, all the things I told you not to do when you were growing up.

I'm sorry.

Like, go do those things.

Go travel.

You know, don't worry, you'll have the money down the road.

Just go.

You know, whenever you live an event, I know you don't do events anymore, but the ones that I would had seen, you would always tell people, like, that person wants you to do the things that were on their bucket list.

So go do it.

Yeah.

I wish so deeply that all those people would have sent you photos of them doing those things.

Right.

Like, wait a second.

Yeah.

We just had this whole interaction of you telling me that you're going to Ireland in two months.

Right.

I want to see the photos.

Yeah.

It's so true what you guys did.

I love.

You're such a little Looky Lou.

You've got to see everything.

I'm a visual being.

I want to know.

And there's.

I think it's my father's list is the woman who did take her dad's bucket list, and she did everything on the list and then wrote a book about it.

So you can check her out on Instagram, too.

For my father's list.

That was very interesting, and I hope that answered Nancy's question.

And I thank Claudia Ann and Nancy for calling in.

And I thank you for being here.

Thank you for having me.

Your insight actually helps a lot.

I'm Gen X, you're Gen Z.

Different perspectives, and sometimes you see things that I'm not seeing.

And I feel we give all a much broader perspective on it.

Yeah, there it is right there.

You finished my sentence.

I love that.

Okay, Sophia, I'm.

I'm here.

You know what's up.

Okay.

I'm intuitive, Mom.

Yeah, you are.

I know.

So thank you to my listeners.

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