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What If Everything We’ve Been Taught about Sex Is Untrue? with Cyndi Darnell
Episode 1615th December 2022 • Scarlet Society • Scarlet Society
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Even in today's modern age, not many people openly talk about sex with their partner or their family members and friends. Discussions around sex require vulnerability which people are not always willing to do. Sex and pleasure are nuanced and personal. It's magical, and it's different for all of us. 

In this episode, Cyndi Darnell sheds light on the topic of sex that very few have done before, and that's by providing an unlearning of the messages and conditioning we've been fed, no matter our sexual preference or gender. She offers a new way of expanding our vision around desire and eroticism. Cyndi is a relationship therapist, clinical sexologist, and leading authority on desire and libido. She is the author of the new book, Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire. To learn more, visit

Join Stacey and Cyndi as they engage in a raw, deep, freeing conversation about sex that will make you think, what if everything we've been taught about sex is untrue?

“Sex is not the center of the universe, but it's a pretty big piece of the universe, and while we pretend that sex doesn't matter, we gloss over some of the most important opportunities for reflective connection that a human has.”

- Cyndi Darnell

 In This Episode:

- 00:00 Introduction from today's host, Stacey Lindsay

- 02:06 What drove Cyndi to write the book, “Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It?”

- 05:25 What's the disconnect with feeling obliged to have sex with your partner even when you don't feel like it?

- 11:35 What is it about sex that Cyndi wants readers to explore and unveil?

- 20:13 What does “genderized sex” mean, and what's the problem with that?

- 26:57 What is eroticism, and how do we discover our “erotic templates” for ourselves?


- Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire by Cyndi Darnell

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