Show notes

In this episode, Josh explores five reflections on love and breaking generational wounds. Key ideas include making the unseen visible by allowing others in, learning to connect through surrender, and the importance of receiving love to be able to give it. Josh emphasizes the complexities of love, which involves valuing, sacrificing, serving, and sometimes disagreeing. Quotes from Terry Real and Pia Melody highlight the importance of facing generational pathology and recognizing inherent worth in oneself and others. The episode concludes with reflective questions encouraging listeners to embrace God’s love, break generational cycles, and live wisely.

00:00 Introduction: Reflections on Love and Generational Wounds

00:09 Understanding Love: Letting Others In and Surrendering

00:23 The Essence of Love: Receiving and Giving

01:04 Marriage: A Path to Selflessness and Intimacy

01:26 Quotes on Generational Healing and Intimacy

02:43 Reflective Questions: Embracing Love and Breaking Cycles

03:20 Conclusion: Living Wisely with Love

About Josh Kalsbeek, LMFT

• As a Psychoherapist Josh helps people overcome their greatest struggles.

•Founder and CEO of Great Oaks Collective, and it's flagship program Overcome, a 10-Week virtual Intensive Outpatient Program for Christian couples experiencing sexual betrayal and addiction. www.greatoakscollective.com. 

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Words of Wisdom 139 On five reflections about love and

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breaking generational wounds.

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We want the unseen to be

seen by letting others in.

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We want the controllers to learn

to connect by surrendering.

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Loving God and others is never enough.

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You must let God and others love

you and learn to love yourself.

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Until you learn to receive

love, you cannot give it.

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If you need someone, including yourself,

to live or act a certain way in order to

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love them, then you've already lost them.

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Love doesn't mean acceptance

without consequences.

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It does mean valuing, Sacrificing,

serving, celebrating, disagreeing,

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saying no, and taking space.

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The best thing about marriage is

it prevents you from instantly

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fulfilling your desires.

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Marriage destroys

selfishness, if you let it.

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Your commitment and pursuit of

intimacy calls you far deeper

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than surface level satisfactions

and invites you into surrender,

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deep presence, and transformation.

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Quotes.

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"Family pathology rolls from generation

to generation, taking down everything

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in its path like a fire in the woods

until one person, in one generation,

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has the courage to face the flames.

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That Person Brings Peace to Their

Ancestors and Spares the Children

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by Terry Real as quoted June 25,

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Once recovery persons acknowledge the

truth of who they are and feel love for

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themselves in the face of that truth, they

are prepared to recognize it in others.

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They now have a personal spiritual

template that guides their vision to

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perceive other spiritual realities in

the world, the most important of which is

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other people, whom they now recognize as

having, like themselves, inherent worth.

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It changes the way they treat people,

and the way they are treated in return.

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This, ultimately, is what

makes intimate relationships

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possible, and it makes them work.

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By Pia Melody in her

book, The Intimacy Factor.

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Questions.

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Will you sit in the light of

God's loving presence today, and

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just breathe for ten minutes?

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Will you sit in the light of

another's presence, love with

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curiosity, and listen deeply?

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What is a generational wound

showing up in your life?

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What courageous step will

help break that cycle?

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Use these questions to guide your

prayers and journals this week.

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End note.

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Open yourself to love and

let that love guide you.

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Live wisely.

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Josh