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Energy is infinity once you recognize
that the source of energy is living by the
Speaker:highest priority. Your highest value,
Speaker:your ontological identity
revolves around them
Speaker:In all probability somewhere in your life
you've had a moment where you've felt
Speaker:overwhelmed and burnt out,
Speaker:where you felt like you're just having
so many things hit you at once and you
Speaker:just couldn't handle it all. And you go,
enough's enough.
is, is why do we have that?
Speaker:Why have we set ourselves up for
that? And what do we do about it?
Speaker:And how do we recover from that state
of awareness and consciousness and
Speaker:experience? So if you have
something write with and write on,
Speaker:you might want to take some notes.
Speaker:Every human being has a
unique set of priorities
Speaker:and values. Now,
Speaker:you know I've talked about values
in almost every presentation I do.
Speaker:This set of values, this hierarchy
of values, this set of priorities,
Speaker:this list of things that are most to
least important in your life are unique to
Speaker:you,
Speaker:fingerprint specific
and determines how you
Speaker:perceive, decide, and act.
And determines, in a sense,
Speaker:your direction in life. And therefore,
Speaker:the hierarchy of your values
dictates your destiny.
Speaker:Of course your values
can change over time,
Speaker:and therefore your destiny can be tweaked.
Speaker:And your life's journey is the summation
of all those destinies along the way
Speaker:that make up your life's journey.
Speaker:Whenever you perceive that
things are supporting your
Speaker:hierarchy of values,
particularly your highest values,
Speaker:you tend to feel open and
excited you might say, elated,
Speaker:and you feel that, you know,
everything is kind of working.
Speaker:When things challenge it,
you feel resistance again.
Speaker:You have inside your brain an autonomic
nervous system. One, parasympathetic,
Speaker:when things support the value,
where you rest. And the other,
Speaker:the sympathetic where things challenge
your values and you waken and excite
Speaker:ready for fight or flight.
Speaker:Whenever you get too much
support, it can lead to boredom.
Speaker:Whenever you get too much challenge in
your perception, because it's perceptual,
Speaker:you can get burned out.
Imagine if somebody come
into a relationship with you,
Speaker:and I jokingly in my
Breakthrough Experience program,
Speaker:sometimes tease some female
in there, I say, if I was to,
Speaker:and I get on my knees and
I, if I was to say to you,
Speaker:I want to do whatever you want me to
do, whenever you want me to do it,
Speaker:just tell me what to do,
Speaker:I just want to be everything you want me
to be and everything else. They'll go,
Speaker:oh, get a life. Boring. And they'll
want a bit of a challenge too.
Speaker:They don't want a guy that's just
totally submissive. They want,
Speaker:they might want that
occasionally, but they want,
Speaker:they want somebody that
stands up to them too,
Speaker:has a little testosterone and
challenges them. But at the same time,
Speaker:if I say, look down on the girl and
say, now do what I tell you or else,
Speaker:and I really challenge her and force her
to do something she doesn't want to do,
Speaker:now she's burned out.
Speaker:So I first want you to know that
anytime you get overly supported,
Speaker:you become bored and juveniley dependent
on that which you are supported by.
Speaker:And whenever you are challenged,
Speaker:you can burn out and become precociously
independent and want to escape it.
Speaker:So you want to seek it
when it's supporting you,
Speaker:you want to escape it the other one.
Speaker:But if too much yin becomes yang
and too much yang becomes yin,
Speaker:and in actuality you need a balance,
Speaker:maximum growth and development occurs
at the border of support and challenge,
Speaker:boredom and burnout. In fact, in your
relationship, long-term relationship,
Speaker:you'll have times when your bored and
times when you're burned out
because they'll sometimes support
and challenge your values. Now,
Speaker:if you are doing something
that's high on your value and you
Speaker:have more of a balanced,
neutral, objective viewpoint,
Speaker:you're not subjectively biased,
but more objective in view,
Speaker:the probability of boredom
or burnout goes down.
Speaker:Whenever you're doing something that is
low on your values that are unfulfilling
Speaker:and you seek as a result of it, a
compensation by, from this unfulfillment,
Speaker:you seek immediate gratification and
you want a pleasure without a pain,
Speaker:then when the pains come, nature
has a balance of pleasure and pain,
Speaker:then you get even more burned out,
Speaker:because you now exaggerate the pain
because you're now more addicted to the
Speaker:pleasure. Anytime you're addicted
to pleasure, the pain hurts more.
Speaker:When you're embracing both
sides, pleasure and pain,
Speaker:the pain doesn't feel so much pain.
Speaker:That's why when you're pursuing
challenges that inspire you, you produce,
Speaker:when you're trying to avoid
challenges that aren't,
Speaker:you create distraction
and in a sense, distress.
Speaker:So one of the keys to transcending and
Speaker:going beyond the idea of burnout
is to prioritize your life.
Speaker:Because in most cases,
Speaker:the reason why we're doing and having the
experience of burnout is because we're
Speaker:feeling we're having all this stuff
that we don't really want to be doing
Speaker:burdening us,
Speaker:and we're not prioritizing our life
and finding somebody to delegate lower
Speaker:priority things to.
Speaker:If you're not dedicated to the highest
priority thing and delegating lower
Speaker:priority things,
Speaker:you can guarantee you'll be
overwhelmed by scattered other outside
Speaker:influencing and expectations.
Speaker:The way you know you have those is you'll
hear yourself saying, I gotta do this,
Speaker:I have to do this, I must
do this, I should do this,
Speaker:I want to do this, I'm supposed
to do this, I need to do this.
Speaker:Anytime you hear those
languages and those imperatives,
Speaker:it means that you've injected
the values of others.
Speaker:You've tried to do too many
things to please too many people.
Speaker:You're not prioritized and
focused and you're not,
Speaker:or you're not supert tasking where you're
integrating all those things into one
Speaker:focus, and you're going to get burned out.
Speaker:You're going to get frustrated by the
overwhelm of too many things at once
Speaker:or things you don't want at once
that challenge you. So it's,
Speaker:one of the keys is to say thank you,
Speaker:but no thank you to opportunists
that project their values onto you
Speaker:or people that you subordinate to and
inject the values of and say thank you,
Speaker:but no thank you. In the Breakthrough
Experience program that I teach,
Speaker:I take people that envy somebody and try
to imitate somebody and put people on
Speaker:pedestals and inject the
values into their life,
Speaker:I show them how to own the
traits of those people.
Speaker:I call it owning the traits of the greats.
Speaker:And taking them off the pedestal and
realigning so you're equal to them so you
Speaker:give yourself permission to prioritize
your life instead of living by other
Speaker:people's priorities.
Speaker:Anytime you've been infatuated with
somebody in a new relationship,
Speaker:for instance,
Speaker:you'll find yourself initially sacrificing
what's important to you to be with
Speaker:them for fear of loss of them.
So you end up doing low priority,
Speaker:weird stuff that you don't normally
do in order to be with them.
Speaker:And over the next few weeks, you
eventually get frustrated by that.
Speaker:You start resenting that.
You say, I want my life back,
Speaker:and you go back to priority.
Speaker:But anytime you infatuate with somebody
and put them up on a pedestal in any of
Speaker:the areas of life, spiritual,
mental, career, financial, family,
Speaker:social or physical,
Speaker:and you don't level the playing field and
you envy them and try to imitate them,
Speaker:you inject their values, you cloud
your mind with all these expectations,
Speaker:should's, ought to's, you're
supposed to's, got to's, have to's,
Speaker:must's and need to's.
Speaker:And then you end up feeling
like overwhelmed and burned out,
Speaker:because you're trying to do something
that's not really the most important or
Speaker:inspiring thing that you
spontaneously love to do.
Speaker:When you're doing what's highest on your
priorities, you don't burn out. I mean,
Speaker:I do programs 14 hours a
day, sometimes even longer.
Speaker:I'm sometimes 16 to 18 hours a day doing
programs. And you know, people say,
Speaker:well how do you do that? I've done that
for 59 days straight with programs.
Speaker:I don't get burned out because I'm
doing something that inspires me,
Speaker:that's highest in priority,
that I love doing,
Speaker:and I've delegated most
everything else off my plate.
Speaker:I don't have to do anything else except
teach, research, and write, and travel.
Speaker:So as a result of that, I don't get
burned out doing what I love. You never,
Speaker:ever get burned out doing something
you really are inspired to do,
Speaker:you can't wait to do it.
Speaker:But you will be burned out when you're
doing things that aren't highest in
Speaker:priority,
Speaker:which are usually a derived from
trying to take on too many expectations
Speaker:pleasing people that you've put above
you, injecting the values of people,
Speaker:again you put above you, and trying
to be somebody you're not. You know,
Speaker:that's why Emerson said envy is
ignorance and imitation is suicide.
Speaker:And why be second at being somebody
else when you can be first at being you?
Speaker:So it's key.
Speaker:The key to not having burnout and
to recover from burnout is to stop,
Speaker:make a list of everything
that's on your plate, write
Speaker:all those down what those distractions
are. Write down what you can do about it,
Speaker:if it's something you can do about it.
Write down who you could delegate it to,
Speaker:if you can delegate it,
Speaker:and the more people you delegate to
who are inspired to do it and are
Speaker:specialized to do what you could
delegate, the more freed you are,
Speaker:and you're not going to get burned
out that way. So delegate it,
Speaker:put a timeframe on it, get it off your
consciousness. Have a system for it.
Speaker:So whenever you're feeling overwhelmed,
Speaker:you've got some sort of prioritization
system and stick to priority.
Speaker:Find out the one thing that is most
empowering to your life that you
Speaker:spontaneously love doing that
really makes a difference out there,
Speaker:that produces the most,
and delegate the rest away.
Speaker:You will have more productivity,
less distractions and burnout.
Speaker:But burnout means that you're trying to
do something that you're challenged by,
Speaker:that you're not inspired by, that you
don't really love doing every day.
Speaker:And if you get onto priorities and
give up the things that aren't,
Speaker:you'd be surprised. Now some people
say, well I can't afford to do it.
Speaker:Well I thought that too
when I was 27 years old,
Speaker:I went out and bought a book called
The Time Trap by Alec MacKenzie and I
Speaker:realized that if I
stayed doing everything,
Speaker:I was going to burn out and
be frustrated and not produce.
Speaker:So I went ahead and hired
people and people said,
Speaker:well when you're wealthy you can do that.
No, I got wealthy because I did that.
Speaker:I didn't have wealth
when I started. In fact,
Speaker:I was scared to go out and delegate.
I didn't know if I could afford it.
Speaker:But what I did is I hired the person
and I got over to higher priority,
Speaker:more productive things.
I produced more income.
Speaker:And then I made sure I got somebody
when I delegated that produced more than
Speaker:they cost and I made more
income. And then I was freed up.
Speaker:I wasn't burned out by all the scattered
activities and I was able to go move
Speaker:forward in life.
Speaker:So prioritize your life and delegate
lower priority things and dedicate to the
Speaker:highest priority things. If you
do, you won't be burned out.
Speaker:And if you are burned out right now,
Speaker:make a list of everything that you're
doing, everything that's on your mind.
Speaker:Write down when it needs to be done.
Get reasonable on the timeframe.
Speaker:Write down everything
that can be delegated.
Speaker:If you find you don't
have anything to delegate,
Speaker:that means you're trying to do it all.
Speaker:And you can't possibly be inspired and
productive and not burned out when you're
Speaker:trying to do it all.
You can't do everything.
Speaker:You want to do the one thing and the the
things that are most inspiring to you
Speaker:and prioritize and delegate
lower priority things. If you do,
Speaker:you won't be burned out, you'll
be inspired by what you do.
Speaker:You'll have more energy.
Speaker:Energy is infinite once you recognize
that the source of energy is living by the
Speaker:highest priority. Your highest value,
your ontological identity revolves around.
Speaker:So whenever you're doing
what's most authentic to you,
Speaker:what's most inspiring to you,
most meaningful, most fulfilling,
Speaker:the thing you feel is
your purpose in life,
Speaker:the thing that makes the biggest
difference and contributes the most,
Speaker:and the thing you have most excellence
and knowledge in your core competence in,
Speaker:that produces the most income
for you, You don't burn out.
Speaker:You get inspired and you
can't wait to go to work.
Speaker:You tap dance to work as Buffett
says. And if you delegate it,
Speaker:you give job opportunities to
others, you help the economy,
Speaker:you end up getting people and make sure
you hire people that really love in
Speaker:their highest values what
you want to delegate,
Speaker:and you liberate yourself from all the
burnout and frustration and overwhelm and
Speaker:scatter that most people
trap themselves in.
Speaker:It's not what's out there that's doing
it, it's because you haven't said no.
Speaker:So be able to say thank you,
Speaker:but no thank you to people
who are opportunists that
want to take up your time.
Speaker:Make sure you don't put
people in pedestals.
Speaker:Find out whatever you see in them that
you admire and find out where you have it
Speaker:inside you. Because at the level of your
true self, nothing's missing in you.
Speaker:You just,
Speaker:you can't look up to somebody without
them representing a part of you that you
Speaker:may be too humble to admit you have, but
you have. Find out where you have it,
Speaker:wake it up.
Speaker:Realize you don't need to be sitting
there and subordinate to other people,
Speaker:you can appreciate and have reflective
awareness and see that what you see in
Speaker:others you have and honor them and respect
them and communicate what you value
Speaker:in terms of what they value. And
both of you move forward in life.
Speaker:But don't subordinate,
don't scatter yourself.
Speaker:Don't try to be something to everybody.
Speaker:Prioritize on who you
are and say thank you,
Speaker:but no thank you and prioritize your
life. And keep records of it on a form,
Speaker:because a short pencil's
better than a long memory.
Speaker:If you try to keep it all in your head
and not on some form that's prioritized
Speaker:form, you'll probably not do as
well. But if you prioritize it,
Speaker:either on an app or on a piece of
paper, I still use a piece of paper.
Speaker:I still love a piece of paper,
Speaker:then I write down my priorities
and stick to priorities.
Speaker:And get onto the highest
priorities each day.
Speaker:If you fill your day with high
priority actions that inspire you,
Speaker:it's not going to fill up with low
priority distractions that don't.
Speaker:But when you don't prioritize it,
Speaker:you'll end up automatically burned
out by scattering yourself and
Speaker:multitasking into all these areas that
you think you've got to do, have to do,
Speaker:must do, should, ought to,
supposed to and need to do.
Speaker:That's not the way to live your life.
Speaker:A quiet life of desperation is not as
empowering as a life of inspiration.
Speaker:So prioritize your life,
whatever's highest on your values,
Speaker:where you're inspired spontaneously to
act. When you do that, you're fluent,
Speaker:you're congruent, you're efficient,
you're effective, and you don't burn out.
Speaker:Nor do you get bored, because
you're inspired by what you do.
Speaker:So just wanted to share a few moments
on how to transcend the burnout
Speaker:state and also how to, you know,
recover from a burnout state,
Speaker:prioritizing your life.
It changes very quickly.
Speaker:You can take a burnout state and transform
it in a matter of minutes once you
Speaker:prioritize and get onto
track and delegate something.
Speaker:Don't be afraid to surround yourself
with people that are more qualified than
Speaker:you to do the things that you want to
delegate so you can do the things that you
Speaker:love. Thank you for being with me.
Speaker:And if for some reason you'd like to
learn more about prioritization and values
Speaker:and, and you would like to make sure
that you're not sitting there in burnout,
Speaker:please consider coming to
the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:I've shown people how to transform their
state from an inefficient burnout state
Speaker:and boredom state to an
inspired state on a daily basis.
Speaker:The Breakthrough Experience is pretty
extraordinary in helping people do that.
Speaker:If that's something you want to do,
Speaker:please join me at the
Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:I love helping people transform their
lives and become more effective and
Speaker:efficient in doing what
they love on a daily basis.
Speaker:Thank you for joining me today.
See you on the next round.