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Energy is infinity once you recognize

that the source of energy is living by the

highest priority. Your highest value,

your ontological identity

revolves around them

In all probability somewhere in your life

you've had a moment where you've felt

overwhelmed and burnt out,

where you felt like you're just having

so many things hit you at once and you

just couldn't handle it all. And you go,

enough's enough. need a break,

. Well, the question

is, is why do we have that?

Why have we set ourselves up for

that? And what do we do about it?

And how do we recover from that state

of awareness and consciousness and

experience? So if you have

something write with and write on,

you might want to take some notes.

Every human being has a

unique set of priorities

and values. Now,

you know I've talked about values

in almost every presentation I do.

This set of values, this hierarchy

of values, this set of priorities,

this list of things that are most to

least important in your life are unique to

you,

fingerprint specific

and determines how you

perceive, decide, and act.

And determines, in a sense,

your direction in life. And therefore,

the hierarchy of your values

dictates your destiny.

Of course your values

can change over time,

and therefore your destiny can be tweaked.

And your life's journey is the summation

of all those destinies along the way

that make up your life's journey.

Whenever you perceive that

things are supporting your

hierarchy of values,

particularly your highest values,

you tend to feel open and

excited you might say, elated,

and you feel that, you know,

everything is kind of working.

When things challenge it,

you feel resistance again.

You have inside your brain an autonomic

nervous system. One, parasympathetic,

when things support the value,

where you rest. And the other,

the sympathetic where things challenge

your values and you waken and excite

ready for fight or flight.

Whenever you get too much

support, it can lead to boredom.

Whenever you get too much challenge in

your perception, because it's perceptual,

you can get burned out.

Imagine if somebody come

into a relationship with you,

and I jokingly in my

Breakthrough Experience program,

sometimes tease some female

in there, I say, if I was to,

and I get on my knees and

I, if I was to say to you,

I want to do whatever you want me to

do, whenever you want me to do it,

just tell me what to do,

I just want to be everything you want me

to be and everything else. They'll go,

oh, get a life. Boring. And they'll

want a bit of a challenge too.

They don't want a guy that's just

totally submissive. They want,

they might want that

occasionally, but they want,

they want somebody that

stands up to them too,

has a little testosterone and

challenges them. But at the same time,

if I say, look down on the girl and

say, now do what I tell you or else,

and I really challenge her and force her

to do something she doesn't want to do,

now she's burned out.

So I first want you to know that

anytime you get overly supported,

you become bored and juveniley dependent

on that which you are supported by.

And whenever you are challenged,

you can burn out and become precociously

independent and want to escape it.

So you want to seek it

when it's supporting you,

you want to escape it the other one.

But if too much yin becomes yang

and too much yang becomes yin,

and in actuality you need a balance,

maximum growth and development occurs

at the border of support and challenge,

boredom and burnout. In fact, in your

relationship, long-term relationship,

you'll have times when your bored and

times when you're burned out

because they'll sometimes support

and challenge your values. Now,

if you are doing something

that's high on your value and you

have more of a balanced,

neutral, objective viewpoint,

you're not subjectively biased,

but more objective in view,

the probability of boredom

or burnout goes down.

Whenever you're doing something that is

low on your values that are unfulfilling

and you seek as a result of it, a

compensation by, from this unfulfillment,

you seek immediate gratification and

you want a pleasure without a pain,

then when the pains come, nature

has a balance of pleasure and pain,

then you get even more burned out,

because you now exaggerate the pain

because you're now more addicted to the

pleasure. Anytime you're addicted

to pleasure, the pain hurts more.

When you're embracing both

sides, pleasure and pain,

the pain doesn't feel so much pain.

That's why when you're pursuing

challenges that inspire you, you produce,

when you're trying to avoid

challenges that aren't,

you create distraction

and in a sense, distress.

So one of the keys to transcending and

going beyond the idea of burnout

is to prioritize your life.

Because in most cases,

the reason why we're doing and having the

experience of burnout is because we're

feeling we're having all this stuff

that we don't really want to be doing

burdening us,

and we're not prioritizing our life

and finding somebody to delegate lower

priority things to.

If you're not dedicated to the highest

priority thing and delegating lower

priority things,

you can guarantee you'll be

overwhelmed by scattered other outside

influencing and expectations.

The way you know you have those is you'll

hear yourself saying, I gotta do this,

I have to do this, I must

do this, I should do this,

I want to do this, I'm supposed

to do this, I need to do this.

Anytime you hear those

languages and those imperatives,

it means that you've injected

the values of others.

You've tried to do too many

things to please too many people.

You're not prioritized and

focused and you're not,

or you're not supert tasking where you're

integrating all those things into one

focus, and you're going to get burned out.

You're going to get frustrated by the

overwhelm of too many things at once

or things you don't want at once

that challenge you. So it's,

one of the keys is to say thank you,

but no thank you to opportunists

that project their values onto you

or people that you subordinate to and

inject the values of and say thank you,

but no thank you. In the Breakthrough

Experience program that I teach,

I take people that envy somebody and try

to imitate somebody and put people on

pedestals and inject the

values into their life,

I show them how to own the

traits of those people.

I call it owning the traits of the greats.

And taking them off the pedestal and

realigning so you're equal to them so you

give yourself permission to prioritize

your life instead of living by other

people's priorities.

Anytime you've been infatuated with

somebody in a new relationship,

for instance,

you'll find yourself initially sacrificing

what's important to you to be with

them for fear of loss of them.

So you end up doing low priority,

weird stuff that you don't normally

do in order to be with them.

And over the next few weeks, you

eventually get frustrated by that.

You start resenting that.

You say, I want my life back,

and you go back to priority.

But anytime you infatuate with somebody

and put them up on a pedestal in any of

the areas of life, spiritual,

mental, career, financial, family,

social or physical,

and you don't level the playing field and

you envy them and try to imitate them,

you inject their values, you cloud

your mind with all these expectations,

should's, ought to's, you're

supposed to's, got to's, have to's,

must's and need to's.

And then you end up feeling

like overwhelmed and burned out,

because you're trying to do something

that's not really the most important or

inspiring thing that you

spontaneously love to do.

When you're doing what's highest on your

priorities, you don't burn out. I mean,

I do programs 14 hours a

day, sometimes even longer.

I'm sometimes 16 to 18 hours a day doing

programs. And you know, people say,

well how do you do that? I've done that

for 59 days straight with programs.

I don't get burned out because I'm

doing something that inspires me,

that's highest in priority,

that I love doing,

and I've delegated most

everything else off my plate.

I don't have to do anything else except

teach, research, and write, and travel.

So as a result of that, I don't get

burned out doing what I love. You never,

ever get burned out doing something

you really are inspired to do,

you can't wait to do it.

But you will be burned out when you're

doing things that aren't highest in

priority,

which are usually a derived from

trying to take on too many expectations

pleasing people that you've put above

you, injecting the values of people,

again you put above you, and trying

to be somebody you're not. You know,

that's why Emerson said envy is

ignorance and imitation is suicide.

And why be second at being somebody

else when you can be first at being you?

So it's key.

The key to not having burnout and

to recover from burnout is to stop,

make a list of everything

that's on your plate, write

all those down what those distractions

are. Write down what you can do about it,

if it's something you can do about it.

Write down who you could delegate it to,

if you can delegate it,

and the more people you delegate to

who are inspired to do it and are

specialized to do what you could

delegate, the more freed you are,

and you're not going to get burned

out that way. So delegate it,

put a timeframe on it, get it off your

consciousness. Have a system for it.

So whenever you're feeling overwhelmed,

you've got some sort of prioritization

system and stick to priority.

Find out the one thing that is most

empowering to your life that you

spontaneously love doing that

really makes a difference out there,

that produces the most,

and delegate the rest away.

You will have more productivity,

less distractions and burnout.

But burnout means that you're trying to

do something that you're challenged by,

that you're not inspired by, that you

don't really love doing every day.

And if you get onto priorities and

give up the things that aren't,

you'd be surprised. Now some people

say, well I can't afford to do it.

Well I thought that too

when I was 27 years old,

I went out and bought a book called

The Time Trap by Alec MacKenzie and I

realized that if I

stayed doing everything,

I was going to burn out and

be frustrated and not produce.

So I went ahead and hired

people and people said,

well when you're wealthy you can do that.

No, I got wealthy because I did that.

I didn't have wealth

when I started. In fact,

I was scared to go out and delegate.

I didn't know if I could afford it.

But what I did is I hired the person

and I got over to higher priority,

more productive things.

I produced more income.

And then I made sure I got somebody

when I delegated that produced more than

they cost and I made more

income. And then I was freed up.

I wasn't burned out by all the scattered

activities and I was able to go move

forward in life.

So prioritize your life and delegate

lower priority things and dedicate to the

highest priority things. If you

do, you won't be burned out.

And if you are burned out right now,

make a list of everything that you're

doing, everything that's on your mind.

Write down when it needs to be done.

Get reasonable on the timeframe.

Write down everything

that can be delegated.

If you find you don't

have anything to delegate,

that means you're trying to do it all.

And you can't possibly be inspired and

productive and not burned out when you're

trying to do it all.

You can't do everything.

You want to do the one thing and the the

things that are most inspiring to you

and prioritize and delegate

lower priority things. If you do,

you won't be burned out, you'll

be inspired by what you do.

You'll have more energy.

Energy is infinite once you recognize

that the source of energy is living by the

highest priority. Your highest value,

your ontological identity revolves around.

So whenever you're doing

what's most authentic to you,

what's most inspiring to you,

most meaningful, most fulfilling,

the thing you feel is

your purpose in life,

the thing that makes the biggest

difference and contributes the most,

and the thing you have most excellence

and knowledge in your core competence in,

that produces the most income

for you, You don't burn out.

You get inspired and you

can't wait to go to work.

You tap dance to work as Buffett

says. And if you delegate it,

you give job opportunities to

others, you help the economy,

you end up getting people and make sure

you hire people that really love in

their highest values what

you want to delegate,

and you liberate yourself from all the

burnout and frustration and overwhelm and

scatter that most people

trap themselves in.

It's not what's out there that's doing

it, it's because you haven't said no.

So be able to say thank you,

but no thank you to people

who are opportunists that

want to take up your time.

Make sure you don't put

people in pedestals.

Find out whatever you see in them that

you admire and find out where you have it

inside you. Because at the level of your

true self, nothing's missing in you.

You just,

you can't look up to somebody without

them representing a part of you that you

may be too humble to admit you have, but

you have. Find out where you have it,

wake it up.

Realize you don't need to be sitting

there and subordinate to other people,

you can appreciate and have reflective

awareness and see that what you see in

others you have and honor them and respect

them and communicate what you value

in terms of what they value. And

both of you move forward in life.

But don't subordinate,

don't scatter yourself.

Don't try to be something to everybody.

Prioritize on who you

are and say thank you,

but no thank you and prioritize your

life. And keep records of it on a form,

because a short pencil's

better than a long memory.

If you try to keep it all in your head

and not on some form that's prioritized

form, you'll probably not do as

well. But if you prioritize it,

either on an app or on a piece of

paper, I still use a piece of paper.

I still love a piece of paper,

then I write down my priorities

and stick to priorities.

And get onto the highest

priorities each day.

If you fill your day with high

priority actions that inspire you,

it's not going to fill up with low

priority distractions that don't.

But when you don't prioritize it,

you'll end up automatically burned

out by scattering yourself and

multitasking into all these areas that

you think you've got to do, have to do,

must do, should, ought to,

supposed to and need to do.

That's not the way to live your life.

A quiet life of desperation is not as

empowering as a life of inspiration.

So prioritize your life,

whatever's highest on your values,

where you're inspired spontaneously to

act. When you do that, you're fluent,

you're congruent, you're efficient,

you're effective, and you don't burn out.

Nor do you get bored, because

you're inspired by what you do.

So just wanted to share a few moments

on how to transcend the burnout

state and also how to, you know,

recover from a burnout state,

prioritizing your life.

It changes very quickly.

You can take a burnout state and transform

it in a matter of minutes once you

prioritize and get onto

track and delegate something.

Don't be afraid to surround yourself

with people that are more qualified than

you to do the things that you want to

delegate so you can do the things that you

love. Thank you for being with me.

And if for some reason you'd like to

learn more about prioritization and values

and, and you would like to make sure

that you're not sitting there in burnout,

please consider coming to

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I've shown people how to transform their

state from an inefficient burnout state

and boredom state to an

inspired state on a daily basis.

The Breakthrough Experience is pretty

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If that's something you want to do,

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efficient in doing what

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Thank you for joining me today.

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