Artwork for podcast On Your Terms
97. The Biz Pep Talk You Didn't Know You Needed
Episode 9727th February 2023 • On Your Terms • Sam Vander Wielen
00:00:00 00:22:57

Share Episode

Shownotes

When you’re creating content, everyone’s going to have an opinion. In this episode inspired by an episode of Frasier, you’ll hear which  opinions truly matter when it comes to creating content, expressing yourself in business, and establishing your brand and vibe.

In this episode, you’ll hear…

  • What to pay attention to - and ignore as a business owner
  • Why you can’t rely on external validation in your business
  • Discovering what it means to build a business on your terms


If you’d like a shoutout (and a chance to win a $20 gift card), just leave a review on Apple Podcasts and send a screenshot of it to me on Instagram via DMs!

Click here to find the full show notes and transcript for this episode.


RESOURCES:


CONNECT:


DISCLAIMER


Mentioned in this episode:

Legal Workshop

Do you feel lost thinking about how to legally protect your online business? Head to mylegalworkshop.com to sign-up for immediate access to my free 1-hour legal workshop, 5 Steps to Legally Protect & Grow your Online Business.

Legal Workshop

Transcripts

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Hey. And welcome back to On Your Terms podcast.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I'm your host, Sam Vander Wielen, an attorney turned entrepreneur who helps online

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

coaches and service providers legally protect and grow their online businesses

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

using my DIY legal templates and the Ultimate Bundle.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

On the show, each week, I bring you fresh tips on how to legally protect your business

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

and grow that business on your terms.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

It's kind of my thing.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I am so excited because today we're going to talk about where to put your value, where

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

to get your value really from in your business, and whose opinion we're really

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

considering when we're creating content, when we're expressing ourselves in our

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

business, kind of creating your brand and your vibe.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

This was inspired by a Frasier episode that I saw the other night, so I'm really excited

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

to get into it with you in a minute.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But I am also excited because next week is my 100th episode of On Your Terms.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I cannot believe that I've done 100 episodes.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

On the one hand, I have to be honest, I feel like it should be like a thousand episodes.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

It feels like a lot. And then on the other, I'm like wow, a hundred, but that's always

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

how I feel about things.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I can't believe it's 100 episodes next week and it's going to be a very special

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

episode. I'm going to give you my best podcast tips and tricks.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

A lot of people have been asking about what equipment I use and how I edit the podcast

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

and how I come up with content and how I've grown it and how I've gotten increased

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

downloads and all that kind of stuff and like how I use that as a podcast funnel.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I'm going to talk about that all next week.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I'm also going to be giving a little giveaway.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I'm going to give a package away of my favorite podcast related items.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So if you already have a podcast or you want to start it, you're definitely going to want

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

to listen because you could win my tech package for a podcast.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So before I get into the episode, I have to give a shout out to Crafty Mama On The Go who

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

shared a review on Apple Podcasts.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

She said, "Sam shares so much value on her podcast, helping the audience to navigate

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

complicated topics in easy-to-understand terms.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I always appreciate learning from her, even on topics that I already have background in.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Special appreciation for her detailed podcast notes and transcripts which help for note

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

taking on these complex topics."

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

If you're listening to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, please do me a favor and quickly

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

leave a rating and review on the podcast.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I would love to give you a shout out in a future episode.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

With that, let's hop into this episode, all inspired by an episode of Frasier.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I don't know if you're like a before bed TV watcher or maybe just like as you wind

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

down. But personally, I really like watching sitcoms that are like cozy, nice, like

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

feeling sitcoms that I know I've also seen before so that I'm not like, too paying

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

attention, right, like before I go to bed.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I can kind of relax. I know what the plot is.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I love the characters.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

They kind of feel like family, yada yada.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I kind of feel like that about Friends.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I really love Will and Grace.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I like love Frasier.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I love Cheers.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I used to watch Cheers a lot when I was a kid.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So any of this kind of like probably nineties.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I'm a nineties kids, like nineties sitcoms, they make me feel really nice before bed.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So as usual, watching one of these and I was watching Frasier.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And it's the episode I'm going to talk about, by the way, is season 3 episode 23 in case

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

you want to go watch it.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But I was watching this episode of Frasier and it's so funny because as, if you've seen

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

it before, you know that Frasier has a radio show a.k.a Modern Day podcast.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And the radio station decides to run a focus group because they want to learn more about

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

what people like about his radio show, what they don't like, all this kind of stuff.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So they bring together this focus group to talk about Frasier show.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

He's behind one of those like two-way mirrors.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And everybody who comes to the focus group is 100 percent positive, like they have

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

nothing to offer as feedback.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

They're like, oh, I love that show.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

He's so great, he's smart, yada, yada.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Except one guy who is the actor, Tony Shalhoub.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And so if you've ever seen Monk or something like that.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So in this episode where Tony Shalhoub is one of the focus group attendees, he's really

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

silent when everybody else is going on and on about how much they love Frasier.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And the focus group coordinator is like, "What about you?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

You haven't said anything." And he's like, "Well, I don't like him."

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

everyone else is saying how much they love him, right?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And they're like, "Well, tell us more." And he's like, "I don't know.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I just don't like it." And Frasier, who's behind the two-way mirror just loses it, like

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

he cannot stand it.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And if you've seen Frasier before, you know,

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Frasier is super self-absorbed and really into himself and goes off on these things and

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

whatever.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

He needs to know why Tony Shalhoub's character does not like him, so he actually

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

tracks him down. He works at or owns a newspaper stand in Seattle.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And so he tracks him down and he pulls up his car outside of his newspaper stand, and

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Frasier makes his father get out of the car to go ask Tony Shalhoub why he doesn't like

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Frasier. And when he asks Tony Shalhoub, Tony says, "I just think he's annoying." And

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

so that's all he'll say.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And he's just like, I just don't like him.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So the dad comes back and tells Frasier, and it's still not good enough for Frasier to

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

know. He's like, now I need to know more.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Like, why does he think I'm annoying?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Why doesn't he like me?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So Frasier goes to talk to himself.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

He drives this guy so crazy that the guy leaves his newsstand.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And in the process, I forget something happens, and essentially the newsstand

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

catches on fire and burns down, like after the guy leaves and as Frasier's standing

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

there.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But like my brain, the way my brain works, well, one of the ways one of the many, many

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

ways, is that whenever I see pretty much anything, I always convert business lessons

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

out of it. So when I saw this, I was like, it's so interesting to me because in this

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

episode I was thinking most people in the online business world, when they would teach

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

you a lesson out of this, what they would say is, don't worry about the one guy, the

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Tony Shalhoub, who didn't like you or thought who you were annoying, like in your

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

audience or online.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Listen to all the others that were in the room, the other 12 in the room, who all

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

thought you were amazing.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

If all these other people love you, then it doesn't matter that that one person doesn't

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

love you.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

there are always going to be people who don't like you, so just pay attention to the ones

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

who do. And I was thinking, that's actually not what I think we should do either.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I actually think we shouldn't listen to any of them because I was thinking as somebody

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

now who's been in business for six years, I was thinking that it's dangerous also to care

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

about and really pay attention too much to the people who do like you too.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

First of all, I mean, I have so many things to think about, to talk with you about today.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But I just think that we have to believe in our own businesses and ourselves more than

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

others. Right. And we can't get that external validation as to whether we're good

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

people or good enough people.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I think this often gets confused and where there's a lot of nuance in this is that it is

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

really important to take feedback about your products, right?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Because you want to create products that are really good for your actual ideal customer,

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

not just stuff that you like.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So we can't kind of have this everyone's opinion be damned approach when it comes to

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

actually creating our products.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But in terms of building an audience, getting feedback, you're going to get a lot of

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

positive feedback and you're going to get some critical or negative or just find out

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

people don't like you or people sometimes yes, make very mean comments.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

That's very rare, but it happens.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And I always say we can't really pay attention to either, because if we pay

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

attention to all the good stuff too, we're still putting our worth and our validation

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

and our kind of like North Star in the positive comments.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And so if I'm going to discount the negative ones, it's not that I discount the positive,

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

but I don't take them to mean that I'm a good person or I'm doing a good job or people

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

like me or don't like me.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Do you know what I mean? It's like we can't really pay attention to either of the

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

extremes.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Like with revenue, I always say to myself and to others, I'm like, you are not your

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

revenue. And so that means you're not your revenue.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

If it's really low, it doesn't mean you're bad, your business is bad, you're not a good

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

coach or a good service provider.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And if your business or your revenue is very, very high, it doesn't mean you're an

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

incredible person who can go around doing whatever the heck you want and never looking

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

back. So I take both.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Like I'm just like, I'm not my revenue either way.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

The revenue is data and it's feedback as to how well the product is doing, but like that

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

doesn't mean anything about me as a person.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

It's not healthy for us to look to anybody else or outside of all this for validation,

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

right? I mean, as humans, it's natural that we all want to be accepted and loved.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And so I'm always very compassionate towards myself.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Something I talked to my therapist about that, of course, you want to be like -- like

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

only -- people who say this whole like, I don't care what anybody thinks, to me and

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

apparently, according to my therapist, I won't speak for her, but I remember her

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

saying that that's a defense mechanism that we put up to say that you can't injure me

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

because I don't care. But really, we do care, which is why you're saying that.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I'm not saying who cares, do whatever you want.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

It's just that we can't only think that we're good or bad based on other people's

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

opinions, which is why I'm bringing up this example of Frazier, because I do think that

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

the majority of the advice that you're given would be just pay attention to the good ones,

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

just pay attention to all the people who love you.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

We're still putting your value in those other people's opinions, right.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

In episode 81, if you haven't listened to it already, I give you a pep talk about

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

believing in your business before other people do, and about being the Phillies, the

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Philadelphia Phillies of your own business.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So one of the reasons why I really believe in this and why I'm bringing it up is because

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

that's a great example of where you might not have that external validation for a

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

while. If you're in the earlier stages of your business, you might not be getting a lot

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

of positive feedback. You might not have a room full of people who are loving you.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

That doesn't mean that, first of all, you're not doing a good job and that you're not very

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

worthy and like a good coach, you also can't act like that because it's almost like you

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

have to act like you already have a room full of people and show up as if they're

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

already there in order to then one day look back and be like, oh wow, there's like a room

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

full of people here now.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Sometimes I kind of feel like that's how my business feels these days.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

It's like I feel like I kind of just showed up anyway.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And I don't feel like I acted like there were a lot of people or like there was a lot

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

of that excitement, but I just kind of didn't pay attention.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Like I just showed up anyway. I didn't really pay attention to it.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And then now I kind of look around sometimes I'm like, oh wow.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I think there are a lot of people here and they have a lot of thoughts.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

It's very interesting.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And I just think that's a healthier way to approach it.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And so if you did listen to episode 81, then you'll remember that my story about the

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Phillies was that the Phillies, my beloved Philadelphia Phillies where I'm from, they

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

were not considered to be a World Series worthy team this past year, to the point

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

where on the day that my father passed away actually, one of the last things he said, we

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

were all standing around his bedside talking and I was sobbing and uncontrollable was that

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

he said something about the Phillies.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

The Phillies were playing the Mets that day.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And he said Phillies win 3 to 2.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

They hadn't even played yet.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

They were playing that afternoon.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

He said this in the morning.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And everybody kind of giggled like, yeah, right, right.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Like the Phillies sucked.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

The Phillies actually won 3 to 2 later that day.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

It was really strange.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

My father was no longer speaking at that time, but it was really wild to see.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But, you know, the point was that , nobody expected them to be any good.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And looking back on it, one of the things I thought was really, really cool about this

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

year's Phillies team was that when they got to the World Series, it was like they

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

believed that they were going there all along and it was kind of like everybody else

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

was getting on board, right?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Like they didn't need everybody to be patting their ego the whole season saying, you guys

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

are a World Series worthy team, or they weren't like the hot team to watch or like,

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

anything like this.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

It was just like, holy, the Phillies got to the World Series.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And it was like everybody else was getting really excited for them, but they were kind

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

of like, yeah, this was the plan.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Like, we're here. This was the plan all along.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I really think it's very important in our business that we look for that within

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

ourselves that you work on really thinking that you're good at what you do, that you

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

have a lot to offer, that you're unique, that you're helpful and useful to people, and

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

that the right people will be attracted to you and find you.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And not that you need to continue to look for people who like you and then try to fit

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

yourself into the mold of whatever that means so that those people will continue to

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

like you, right?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I wouldn't put my value in those 12 people or so who were in Frazier's focus group who

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

loved him, because first of all, I thought, well, they can change, right?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

They can change their opinion.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

They can change their feelings about us.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

We say something that offends them.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

They find out something about us that they don't like, they change, right?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And we can't control that.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And so if we put our likability or our approval rating in their hands, then we're

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

basically saying that we have to keep shapeshifting ourselves to fit into whatever

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

it is that they want, which we can't control, and we don't really know what they

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

want.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Like what do we believe in?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

What do we stand for as ourselves, as business owners.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

What do you want your business's mission to be?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

What do you want your business's values to be?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And what do you want other people to think about when they hear about your business,

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

when they hear about you, when your name pops up?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Not just in terms of your name association.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Like I want my name to pop up when somebody think legal for online businesses, right?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But I also want them to think like cozy, down to earth, nice, decent person.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I want them to think of who I really am.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

That's not like an image.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

This is just like me being myself and who I am.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And so I have to have a really strong idea of what I want that to look like instead of

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

letting other people dictate what that looks like for me.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And I think the key is that by getting really clear on what you stand for and what

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

you don't stand for, you'll attract people who don't just necessarily agree with you

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

hundred percent. We're not necessarily looking for people who just think every

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

single thing that we think and never disagree with us like robots.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Instead, at least for me, I want to attract people who respect me for knowing what I want

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

or appreciate that I share my opinion and that we can have conversation and maybe

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

respectfully disagree or say like I don't love that thing that she does, or this thing

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

is a little different than what I would do.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But like, I really appreciate that she has a good moral compass.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

It doesn't need to be me.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I don't need to see me reflected in everybody else.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And I know that not everyone in my audience thinks like me, agrees with me, wants to have

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

a business or a life that looks like mine.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I know that not everybody is as sarcastic as I am or as dry humored as I am.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

That's okay. And I think most of the time the feedback that I get from people is that

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

they're just inspired by seeing me be myself, right?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Not necessarily because they have every single thing in common.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I think that by being yourself and not trying to be like the person that the 12

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

people in the focus group room think that you are, that you will inspire other people

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

to act more like them.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And I think at the end of the day, that's really what people want to do.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

They want to be themselves.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

They're looking for permission to be more of themselves.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Most people are really inspired by seeing you act like yourself and the people who are

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

not. It's because there's something going on with them that makes them feel like for some

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

reason it's not okay for them to act or to be or to express who they really are.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And you doing that really threatens them, right?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I really personally think instead of you trying to shapeshift and mold yourself into a

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

person who is likeable to the people who you're already attracting, I would just

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

encourage you to be more of yourself and that will inspire you, that will help you to

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

attract people who you inspire because they want to be more like them.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So if I start building my business based on whether or not they like me or agree with

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

everything that I say, I'm not really being inspiring or as successful as I think because

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

that could change, right?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

That can really shift.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But me being myself, I hope that I as a person continue to evolve and change and all

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

this good stuff, but that's going to change.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And the point -- but the thing that remained steady right and the point is that me being

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

myself is what stays the same.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Myself and my qualities can change, but being true to myself can be the kind of steady

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

point that inspires other people to do the same.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So I'm really curious what this brings up for you, what you're thinking.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I know it's really hard in online business because there's a lot of like aspirational

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

marketing and kind of lifestyle marketing where you share things that make people want

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

to like be in your orbit.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But I personally think that it's not all the crap that we like associated with, which is

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

like, oh, she drives a fancy car, she has a fancy house.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Yes, there are going to be people that are attracted to that, whatever.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

But the point to me would be more like people who I'm like, wow, I'm so inspired by how

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

she's so confident, she's so outgoing or I love that she just goes for what she wants,

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

and she does what she wants to do.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

She's really curious.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I love people who are curious.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I love people who are multifaceted.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I love people who are considerate of nuance and who don't make sharp, judgmental, harsh

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

opinions about things.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

That's the kind of stuff that I'm attracted to, not necessarily people who think exactly

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

like I do, drive the same car exactly like I do.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Right.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Where could you stop focusing on creating content from an angle of pleasing other

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

people so that you think that this is what people want to see versus really showing

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

people who you are truly and showing who you are, that you're committed to being yourself

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

and see how that inspires them instead.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I would love for us to stop putting our value in other people's opinions and instead

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

have this within ourselves and let everybody catch up.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So will you do me a favor?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Will you send me a DM and let me know what this brought up for you?

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I'm very, very curious if it was helpful to you at all.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

With that, I'll make sure that I link to the Frasier episode down below.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

I've also got my legally legit checklist for you down below where you can download the

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

five steps to form your business, get paid, protect your content, and so much more.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

So that will be done in the show notes and of course, my free legal workshop, Five Steps

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

to Legally Protect and Grow Your Online Business as well.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Otherwise, my DMS are always open at @SamVanderWielen on Instagram.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

And I can't wait to chat with you later this week.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Thanks so much for listening to the On Your Terms podcast.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

Make sure to follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you like to listen to

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

podcast. You can also check out all of our podcast episodes, show notes, links and more

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

at samvanderwielen.com/podcast.

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

You can learn more about legally protecting your business and take my free legal

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

workshop, Five Steps to Legally Protect and Grow Your Online Business at samvanderwielen

Sam Vander Wielen:

:

.com. And to stay connected and follow along, follow me on Instagram at @SamVanderWielen