iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: when
we're on our phones, we're just elsewhere.
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:the quickest way for you to create
misery in your current life is
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:to wish you were somewhere else
or in some way to be elsewhere.
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:The understanding that the way that
we interpret the events in our lives
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:matters more than the events themselves.
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:Right?
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:obviously we, we have
to care for ourselves.
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:We have to care about our lives.
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:Um, but the reality is that other care.
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:Is actually a much
better mood boost, right?
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:So if you're interested in raising
the way that you feel like improving
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:your wellness, your meaning, your
mattering in life, the quickest
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:path to that isn't self-care.
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:It's other care.
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:Russell Newton: Hello listeners
Thank you for joining us today.
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:Our guest is Iuri Melo.
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:is a licensed clinical social worker, as
well as the co-founder of School Pulse,
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:which you can find at school pulse.org.
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:Iuri, as we normally do here, take a few
minutes, introduce yourself, and we'll
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:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
I love it.
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:Russell, thank you so
much for letting me come.
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:I love the, I love the topic, I love the
title of your podcast and, uh, I hope
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:that I can find lots of fun ways with
maybe some ideas and some strategies to.
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:To make those skills Right.
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:Really come to life to your listeners.
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:But, so yeah, my, my name is Iuri Melo.
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:I'm a, I've been a licensed clinical
social worker now for a long time.
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:Most of my time and experience
has really been as a
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:psychotherapist, uh, of 21 years.
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:I'm still doing that, uh, while at
the same time trying to, to create
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:this, this wonderful service that
started about seven years ago.
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:And maybe I'll tell you just a
little bit about that in a moment.
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:But I'm, uh, originally
from, from Portugal.
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:I was actually born in Africa, a long
ways away, then moved to Portugal, grew
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:up there, then came to America right at,
at the age of 15 and have stuck around.
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:And, uh, I have to admit, it's,
it's been a real, a real fortunate
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:and a real blessing in my life.
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:I'm a married man.
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:My wonderful Katie.
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:I've got five incredible kids.
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:Uh, three of them that are kind of
out of the house, one that's here, but
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:that's about to be gone in about a week.
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:And then we'll be left with our
amazing little girl who's well little.
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:She's 14 and kind of just
starting high school this year.
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:And, uh, uh, it's, it's, it's
been a really wonderful time.
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:I, we live in a, in a wonderful place.
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:If, if any of you are familiar with, uh,
Southern Utah, we're about an hour and 45
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:minutes away from Las Vegas in this little
pocket of just beautiful high desert.
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:We're kind of in between the
Grand Canyon, lake Powell, Bryce
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:Canyon, Zion National Park, and St.
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:George just kind of resides in
that kind of high altitude desert.
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:And, uh, as a result
of that, there's just.
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:Unbelievable.
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:Beautiful world class climbing all around.
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:Um, and I've been climbing now for a lot
of time and actually was kind of, uh, a
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:founder in a way, in a unique way of what
I call it venture based therapy, which
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:is actually, I actually take my amazing
clients and we take advantage of this
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:incredible location, and we rock climb,
we boulder, we do canyoneering, we do
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:repelling, and we use that as kind of
part of this therapeutic experience, not,
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of communicate some sort of a therapeutic
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:concept, but as I say to my clients,
like, by the time you and I are done,
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:you're gonna be a legitimate climber.
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:Like, so this'll be.
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:A skill, right?
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:Something a a, a piece of mastery that
you can utilize at any point in your
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:life and just enjoy and just be outside,
exercise and do something incredible.
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:And so that's just a little bit about me.
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:We, we started School Pulse
about seven years ago.
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:I'll tell you briefly
about that, if that's okay.
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:Uh, interestingly enough, uh, as
probably as it is with most things
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:we've kind of recognized, or, or, or
really the program came as kind of
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:the genesis of, of some crisis that
was happening here in our community.
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:We had, in 2017, uh, we lost about seven
students to suicide here in our community.
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:It was.
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:Uh, there, there were lots of
suicides, lots of student suicides,
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:and a good friend of mine who was a
local principal here, uh, a principal
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uh, and definitely whose focus was
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excellence, and he reached out to me.
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books and, uh, he, I think his concern
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students to suicide, some of my children
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:were actually going to that school.
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:Uh, and he just felt like all that
he really had at his disposal were
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:just reactive tools in a sense.
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waiting for crisis, and then the
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:crisis would blow up and then
everybody would kind of rush around.
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intervene and to, to bring peace,
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:But he decided that he
wanted to do a lot more.
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:Um, and so we kind of had these
mastermind type discussions and
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:brainstorming sessions about what we
could do, you know, whether we could
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:add more resources or, or how could
we be a little bit more proactive
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intervention type of way.
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:Uh, and then I reconnected with a
good friend of mine who's a software
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:engineer, true genius, uh, who helped
us to kind of put this idea together.
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:And within very quick moment,
we decided that we were going to
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:Uh, and then later on a few years,
we actually ended up not, not only
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providing a live team of support.
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:And so throughout the year, during the
summer, over the holidays, before and
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:after school, we have this incredible
team that we train that provides
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:these students with an enthusiastic,
kind, gentle, and understanding voice.
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:We have the most comprehensive mental
health resource for teens in the world.
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:And I know that that.
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:It can sound so silly and
and cliche, but it really is.
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:We have it, we created it, we put
it together, uh, and we deliver that
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:to schools in addition to another,
to a whole suite of services.
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mentioning that you were a school
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:counselor, uh, at, at one point.
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:And that's actually one of those pieces
is our hope is that we can walk into
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:any school and immediately amplify and
multiply their ability to reach out
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:And so whether you're, you're
an administrator, right?
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:And you're looking to enhance, you know,
the, the mental fitness of your students,
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students, we can help you to do that.
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:We're evidence-based.
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:We're, we're grounded in positive
psychology, growth mindset, and other
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:cognitive behavioral strategies.
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just extraordinary value.
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:Some of our stories, honestly,
Russell, I mean, are just, I mean,
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type stuff that's just incredible.
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:All the way from students who
are just doing wonderful, right?
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:And we're enhancing their experience
all the way to students of course
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:who are deeply troubled, right?
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:Who are struggling with, you know,
symptoms of depression or anxiety, or
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:whose parents are divorced or they're
reporting physical or sexual abuse,
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ideation or self-harming or homicidal
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:ideation all the way to school shootings.
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:I mean, these are just things that
we have dealt with and are dealing
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:Uh, but we're so honored.
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:Our outcomes are just phenomenal.
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:And it's amazing to me, you know,
that we can do so much good, uh,
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:not just through some of our amazing
resources that we deliver to schools,
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:but also through our live text-based
support and our email campaigns.
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:It's just really exciting, um, but really
challenging y'all at the same time and
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:So, so that's just a little bit about me
and what I'm kind of doing right now, but
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:Russell Newton: Thank you for that.
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:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: bet.
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:Russell Newton: I say we as a society,
I think appreciate the kind of
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:It makes me a bit emotional,
just, uh, hearing the story
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:I know how difficult it is.
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:I just to get this, you were working as
a social worker and you teamed up with
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:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Yeah.
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of grew the company together.
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still connected with us, is still
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kind of the, the force, right?
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:He came to me, we began the conversations,
and then Trent and I, right.
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grown it over the past seven, eight
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I, I mean, I still look at us.
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years in as really a startup, like,
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year we're just, we're creating more.
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:We really just try to
listen to school counselors.
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what's the problem, what are the
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:problems, what are the struggles?
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in and plug in the solutions.
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perspective, we believe that we're just
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and streamlined way than anybody else.
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that when, whenever we present ourselves
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ourselves to them as a, as a multi-tier
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they're dealing with specifically.
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suicide prevention, student wellness, you
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and emotional learning opportunities.
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of the, you know, the Walmart version,
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like Target, like a target solution
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like, to what they're looking for.
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we talk to school counselors, man, I mean,
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we have this earlier?
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can connect so well with that population.
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the mental health hub of the school.
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I, I dare say that they probably
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graduation and things like that.
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dealing with scheduling and probably
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of that kind of mental health
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probably where they would rather be.
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have a lot of time to do that.
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that additional help and really to
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we can just connect them with.
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share with you Russell, for you,
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look at and take full advantage of.
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anything like that, or it's just yours
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look at especially and uh, we really want
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:Russell Newton: You said uh, was it
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did teach in a small private school
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many years full-time, and then worked
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the kind of that the public schools
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we did experience a few suicides,
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there, over a period of.
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really is devastating, even to
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known that individual, just to,
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difficult of a situation and it was
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because it's a, you mentioned, uh,
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with, those that are doing well, you
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having the best of times, you make
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and those that are really struggling.
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that was, you know what?
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that is it could be the starting
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and experiencing abuse and having those
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it could be the real quiet kid that's
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a particular individual is experiencing
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can't say enough, I don't how valuable
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to parents, to students and their friends.
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that triggered this, this space?
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:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Sure.
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:Russell Newton: don't, don't ask this as
a political or economic or any kind of
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No, no, no.
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:Russell Newton: that many, in that
short of timeframe, in that geographic
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an anomaly from the normal statistics
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:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Uh,
it, it, it was, I, I think that there was
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in this mountain west region of kind
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Colorado, Arizona, New Mexico, uh, those
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I at least, you know, compared, I think
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uh, just experience a little bit of
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of, of teen suicide than other states.
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that, I mean, I would say that,
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really specific there that's happening
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I think about, uh, you know,
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um, mental health concerns or these
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to kind of trend in a negative way.
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seen that now, and I think, I think it
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can't think of his name anyways, but
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health crisis and really said that it's
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just this incredible amount of students.
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and as a school counselor, you saw
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talking about, uh, really extreme
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feeling consistently sad and hopeless.
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40 to 50% of like high school
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that reported, you know, feeling
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past year we're talking about
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significant amount of issues.
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been some really interesting research.
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read the book or heard of the book.
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the author, I think poses some
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researched and well documented.
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to where all of this is coming from.
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turning the focus a little bit
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blamey type of way, but I think he
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very interesting, especially to
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targeting the idea, right?
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in, in a way are creating some
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overprotectiveness, some of, uh.
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we sometimes preach fear to our
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specifically about, um, phones and the
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technology and the significant impact
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this kind of loneliness epidemic, this
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pretty compelling argument that that
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not just in the lives of adults, which
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the lives of our kids.
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a fear, fearful perspective, I'm
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actually find a way to, to deal with that.
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now I think that there's absolutely
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they're gonna find a way to manage that.
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hands and I think they'll probably end
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a little bit through that valley
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bit and deal with some of the
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of loneliness, in terms of
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loss of connectivity to others.
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the best predictor that we have
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uh, are positive relationships.
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where you are into some other place.
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feel somewhat disconnected.
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a quote in that book that really stuck
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current registration or, or generation or
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and this includes me, I'm
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on our phones, we're just elsewhere.
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constantly tell people is, the quickest
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current life is to wish you were somewhere
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content that we have, obviously
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it's really encouraging.
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grounded in positive psychology.
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in a negative way, but I absolutely
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to help them to be where their feet
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watching a movie and really just be
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like, the TV is on and I'm on this
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and so is everybody else in the room.
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reality of where we are.
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me and I recognize that
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am, but I'm also saddened that.
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that we have just literally
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cocoon and we enter that world.
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that we exit our reality, right?
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into this multiverse a little bit.
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he's, he's talked about.
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as we look over the past decade of this
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convincing that phones unfortunately have
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lives of children and adults in a way.
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things and we wanna, we wanna build
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utilize all the wonderful things
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that, that technology is providing.
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of challenges for them, challenges
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and become better as a result.
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consecrate that experience for their good.
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pieces there that, that are
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:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Yeah.
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:Russell Newton: Uh, and uh, I just
wanted to say, as I say in many of
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schooler that's feeling alienated or,
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that you're propounding proposing, uh,
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:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
Sure, sure.
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:Russell Newton: for work
for college age students.
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they work for parents.
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differently, but it's the same concepts.
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years, uh, it comes back so many times
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seems that they have to be taught a new
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new fan, new people to the podcast.
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being present, uh, that they, I I was
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talking for, my question was gonna
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what piece of advice would you give?
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you presented, so appreciate that.
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the best solution are real relationships,
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of, of Eckhart Tolles, the Power of Now.
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Oh yeah,
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:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Yeah,
that was, it's like a top 10 for me.
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the attention that it should, uh,
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encapsulates the entire book.
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to get the concept across, but,
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:so let's take a step back.
398
:You, you said your, your practice is based
mostly in, or maybe you should tell me,
399
:you mentioned CBT, uh, and the, so your
techniques and, and your theory of, of
400
:treatment based in CBT or draws from that.
401
:Is that right?
402
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
It, it is.
403
:Yeah.
404
:I, I, I think as a therapist over the
years, and I do lots of things, but,
405
:uh, I mean including experiential
type things, but, but I do have
406
:a, a tendency to kind of practice
this type of psychology, right.
407
:That focuses, I really to say on
the power of our psychology, right?
408
:The understanding that the way that
we interpret the events in our lives
409
:matters more than the events themselves.
410
:Right?
411
:And it's, and it's this idea, right?
412
:It's, it's this idea that,
413
:Russell Newton: Yeah,
414
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: sure,
415
:Russell Newton: that is,
416
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: it,
417
:Russell Newton: strong.
418
:We can't
419
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: yeah.
420
:Russell Newton: We do say
it frequently, but yeah.
421
:Repeat that phrase and then continue on.
422
:I apologize for interrupting
your thought there.
423
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
No, no, no.
424
:Not at all.
425
:I can, lemme see if I, so the way that
I would say it is, in fact, I would
426
:say it within the idea of like, that
your psychology is everything, right?
427
:Like your ability to interpret.
428
:The events in your life matters more
than the events themselves, right?
429
:And, and we're just these meaning
making machines like that's, or
430
:these spiritual, these souls, right?
431
:That, that, and that's what we do.
432
:Uh, and when we do that
incorrectly, right?
433
:When our lenses, right, when
we're looking at the world from
434
:a real pessimistic perspective,
uh, then life is really difficult.
435
:And actually, I mean, life is difficult
even with the optimistic ones.
436
:It's just that an, an optimistic lens
allows you, it, it energizes you, it keeps
437
:you lit, it keeps you going, it keeps you
persistent, it keeps you moving forward.
438
:And it, whereas that kind of
pessimistic, pessimistic lens, right?
439
:When we feel like events are permanent,
that problems are pervasive, uh,
440
:when we feel like we're to blame
and that we're powerless, like
441
:when we feel and believe that.
442
:Then there can only be one outcome, right?
443
:And that is a loss of energy.
444
:It's a loss of motivation, and we end
up feeling hopeless and powerless.
445
:Right?
446
:And so even if we were just talking
kind of about the difference, right?
447
:Between kind of pessimism
and optimism, right?
448
:We're really talking
about a cognition, right?
449
:It's, it's a pattern of thinking.
450
:It's a pattern, it's a way, a
mental strategy of looking and
451
:interpreting the events in your life.
452
:And when we view things, let's say
from an optimistic perspective,
453
:uh, I mean, it's just proven right?
454
:We perform better period, we
perform better for longer, we
455
:perform better during challenging
times, and we feel more hopeful.
456
:We, our mood has improved.
457
:Our sense of energy and motivation is
improved simply because we can learn.
458
:And I think that's a really key
piece of just cognitive behavioral
459
:therapy and really positive
psychology or growth mindset.
460
:Psychology is this idea
that we're not these rigid.
461
:Creatures.
462
:Right?
463
:I'm not just like a pessimist
or naturally unhappy, right?
464
:The idea here is that we can learn these
things, we can learn optimism, we can
465
:learn to have a better perspective.
466
:We can modify the lenses through which
we see the world so that we can see a
467
:better, more helpful reality, right?
468
:And so, cognitive therapy, right, is
really born from this concept, right?
469
:That when we can change our cognition,
when we can change our interpretation
470
:of life, then our life changes.
471
:The events in our life changes.
472
:Uh, another, you know, fabulous book, uh,
you know, man's Search for Meaning, which
473
:I'm sure you've heard of, or I'm sure
that your readers have listened to, right?
474
:It is all about that, right?
475
:It's about taking something
right that is so immensely
476
:difficult for us suffering, right?
477
:But viewing that suffering.
478
:From a lens that is a little
bit more empowering, right?
479
:That allows us to not just be resilient,
but actually allows us to grow, right?
480
:Which is pretty daring actually, right?
481
:I mean, whether you're thinking about,
you know, man's Search for meeting
482
:or some of our incredible veterans
or soldiers or, uh, active, uh, you
483
:know, police officers or people who
are doing some of these crisis things,
484
:those are really challenging, right?
485
:I mean, I can't imagine there being
something that's more terrible for
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:the human psyche than just combat.
487
:Like, it just has to be
so unbelievably difficult.
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:And yet the goal, and I say this with
incomplete ignorance, that I have not been
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:in that place, but with total compassion
and hope for those individuals that I've
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:had the pleasure and honor of helping and
treating and assisting in my profession.
491
:But my goal for them is never to,
if I dare to be really bold, my, my
492
:ultimate goal, and I might not even say
it out loud to them, it isn't just to
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:be resilient and get back to normal.
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:My goal for them is, man, I, I
wanna take everything that's,
495
:that has occurred to you.
496
:And in some way I wanna synthesize that
and somehow make that I, I want to,
497
:the word that I'll use right, is to
consecrate or to make it holy for you.
498
:Like I want you to come out
better, wiser, stronger.
499
:Like, I want that experience to somehow
like become this beautiful thing, right?
500
:Like beauty from ashes sort of a concept.
501
:Um, and I say that once again.
502
:I fully acknowledge
totally ignorantly like I.
503
:I don't know their experience.
504
:I certainly don't pretend to
know, and I would never say that
505
:I do, but that's my wish for them
as their friend, to be honest.
506
:Like, I wanna take everything
you've gone through and I
507
:wanna somehow like mix that in.
508
:And in the end, I want it to be awesome.
509
:I want it to be beautiful.
510
:I want it to be a source of strength
instead of a deficit for you.
511
:Like a hundred percent.
512
:And I wanna do that same thing for
myself, uh, in, in that respect.
513
:But anyways, I, I, I think cognitive
therapy, I wanna say that that's kind
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:of like the golden standard of therapy.
515
:I mean, it's well documented,
it's well-researched, the
516
:evidence backs it up, right?
517
:When we are able to change, right?
518
:Our interpretation of events, our
thinking, the way that we view our
519
:external reality, um, we do better, right?
520
:When we can recognize
some of our distorted.
521
:Thinking, right?
522
:Whether it be our, you know,
our catastrophizing, right?
523
:Or whether it be like the way that we
generalize events, you know, well, this
524
:happened to me then that means it's gonna
happen to me now and it's gonna happen
525
:forever and ever and ever and ever.
526
:Well, that's how the brain runs.
527
:That's how the brain, the
brain predicts future events.
528
:The problem is, it's not true, but this
is what the brain does all the time.
529
:And so by helping people recognize
some of these fallacies, right, some of
530
:these patterns of thought that generally
originate in the brain, but that
531
:aren't productive, they're not helpful.
532
:They're kind of originating from
a survivalistic organ, right?
533
:That's meant to protect us.
534
:But that, in a sense, kind of
fails to help us to thrive, right?
535
:Or to really grow and progress.
536
:And that's where, you know, I think
positive psychology can come in.
537
:That's where a lot of.
538
:Other philosophies or even the
world's religions can come in, right?
539
:Where we're really looking for a way to
thrive instead of just focusing on the
540
:negative aspects of the human condition.
541
:Right?
542
:Uh, which has also been kind of
a really interesting shift in
543
:psychology, you know, for really for
the entire history of psychology.
544
:And psychology has really been focused
on the human defic deficiencies, right?
545
:I mean, we've written five versions of
the diagnostic statistical manual, right?
546
:That basically list every possible
diagnostic that, that, that we can
547
:have that's wrong with this, right?
548
:All the way from how depressed we are,
OCD, obsessed, I mean everything, all
549
:the personality disorders and positive
psychology has really come in, you know,
550
:over these past few decades and really
said, Hey, we need to make a shift
551
:right away from just listing the human
deficiencies and really talking about.
552
:Not just what we're doing well, but
more importantly, how do we go about
553
:living a really good or wonderful
or meaningful or purposeful life
554
:and figuring out how to do that.
555
:And so it's really moving away from
this medical model of therapy, right?
556
:Which is, you know, you break your
arm, you go to the doctor, right?
557
:We're kind of almost passively
waiting for crisis to occur to what
558
:I feel is a much more preventative,
proactive, focused on how we can really
559
:live wonderful lives that we feel
good about, that we feel proud of.
560
:Even when there is sadness,
even when there is grief,
561
:even when there is anxiety.
562
:So I, I'm quite the fan.
563
:I think that that movement
has been wonderful.
564
:Uh, and interestingly enough, it's,
it's reflective of some, of, some of
565
:the Eastern philosophical teachings.
566
:It's really, you know, it really
connects well with even some of
567
:the religious, you know, whether
they be Christianity or Judaism.
568
:And so it's, it's really important.
569
:I, I feel like psychology
has made a real positive turn
570
:at, at least in that respect.
571
:Yeah, that's probably more than
you wanted to know, but geez.
572
:Russell Newton: no, I, I
appreciate all those insights.
573
:When I, when I first heard the
term positive psychology, not
574
:that many years ago, really.
575
:I think I interchanged it in
my head with pop psychology
576
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Yeah.
577
:Yeah.
578
:Yeah.
579
:Russell Newton: kind of dismissed
it and I'm, I'm wondering if our
580
:listeners might feel the same way.
581
:Um, yeah, positive psychology is very,
is is interesting because it, I used
582
:the terms in a episode a few weeks ago.
583
:It's eclectic and pragmatic.
584
:Um, whatever works from whatever source,
uh, to some extent, uh, what works
585
:well for the client it came from, is
probably a good thing for that client.
586
:And I, I appreciate you adding in, uh,
a quick blurb there about medicine even,
587
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: sure.
588
:Russell Newton: uh, uh, modern
religions, whatever they might be.
589
:Because there are different things
that work for different people.
590
:And if you're tool, you know,
to the, to the man with a
591
:hammer, every problem is a nail.
592
:Uh,
593
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
For sure.
594
:Russell Newton: you have
enough things in your toolkit.
595
:You can find something that works
for the person that's struggling, you
596
:can find the right thing for them.
597
:And I think positive psychology, uh,
maybe comes closest to that of, of
598
:most anything we've seen in, in our
lifetime of finding the thing that
599
:works best for the particular situation.
600
:And going from there.
601
:I also appreciate what
you said about thriving.
602
:Uh, you know, we shouldn't be
satisfied with being, okay, there's
603
:a commercial out now that's fine.
604
:Is not okay.
605
:Or something O okay is not good
enough, or I forget exactly.
606
:I don't even know what it's for.
607
:I've seen it once or twice,
but it basically, you know,
608
:average, um, making it from day
to day isn't what life is about.
609
:we should, we should look for,
uh, something better than that.
610
:Taking all those things that make us
the person who we are and funneling
611
:them thrive and excel in, in.
612
:The appropriate areas that may be
business, that may be most likely it's
613
:in personal relationships and, uh,
the way we see the world and deal with
614
:others, but could be in other, could
be in academics, could be in sports,
615
:could be in a number of things as well.
616
:But it still comes back to
that fundamental piece of
617
:relationships and presence,
618
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Sure.
619
:And, and I, yeah, and, and I think I'll
interject there for just a quick moment.
620
:I, I, I think what they're attempting
to do, right, specifically with,
621
:uh, you know, positive psychology
and that kind of movement, it's.
622
:I mean, there's, it's, it's kind of
the, what people call kind of the
623
:fourth wave of psychology, right?
624
:The first kind of being psychodynamic
and Freud and you know, then
625
:behaviorism and then kind of
humanism, which is really more similar
626
:to what positive psychology is.
627
:And then, you know, positive psychology
really being that fourth wave, that fourth
628
:movement, uh, with really that emphasis.
629
:And, and I think what they're
attempting to do, and I feel like
630
:they're doing quite a good job.
631
:And I appreciate you differentiating
between, you know, kind of, you know,
632
:what, what people would consider
kind of positive psychology, right?
633
:And that movement, that's evidence-based,
it's, it's built on practice, uh,
634
:versus kind of pop psychology, right?
635
:Which, which sometimes are these kind
of terms, right, that arise, right?
636
:Whether it be from kind of a
popular speaker or something on
637
:social media or whatever, right?
638
:And sometimes they're, they're useful.
639
:They can even be kind of
connected to maybe a deeper truth.
640
:Uh, but I find that a lot of
times they are not, um, and,
641
:and can actually create a mental
expectation that becomes an obstacle.
642
:Um, you know, and, and so I
mean, I'll give you kind of a,
643
:and this is a simple example.
644
:Uh, and, and I know that as soon as I
say it, I'm gonna, I'm gonna create some
645
:problems for myself, but that's okay.
646
:I'll back it up and I'll,
I'll, I'll do the best I can.
647
:But it's kind of like, think of it
like the self-care movement, right?
648
:You know, there's, there's a lot
of talk about, you know, self-care
649
:and you gotta care for the self.
650
:And, and of course that
that's true, right?
651
:Russell, like, I'm not here to say like,
you know, you should treat yourself like
652
:trash and don't do anything for yourself,
because that's just ridiculous, right?
653
:Uh, and obviously we, we
have to care for ourselves.
654
:We have to care about our lives.
655
:Um, but the reality is that other care.
656
:Is actually a much
better mood boost, right?
657
:So if you're interested in raising
the way that you feel like improving
658
:your wellness, your meaning, your
mattering in life, the quickest
659
:path to that isn't self-care.
660
:It's other care.
661
:So the more the, yeah, the, the,
the less time we spend obsessed
662
:about our own happiness, and
the more time we spend, right?
663
:Caring for others, doing things
and being engaged in things that
664
:matter, whether to your life or in
things that are larger than you.
665
:The evidence says like
that's the quickest path.
666
:Happiness.
667
:Like now, the quickest path now is that,
and so yes, you can have your bubble
668
:bath and you can get your massage and
you can do these wonderful things,
669
:of course, like do those things.
670
:But just realize, right, that what
the adv, what the evidence is actually
671
:saying is in the short and long term,
that other care is actually a better
672
:form of treatment instead of self-care.
673
:Right?
674
:And I know that this sounds
a little competitive, right?
675
:I'm kind of like, well, you know, this is
better than the other and this is better.
676
:And we do have a way, we have a
tendency, right, to view things
677
:within this like, well, one is
better, or which one is the firth?
678
:Or which, and actually it
doesn't need to be like that.
679
:We, we have this, I don't know why we
we're always trying to, to place things
680
:kind of in this hierarchical way, and
I don't think it needs to be that way.
681
:Like I, I think caring for our lives.
682
:Of massive importance and of equal
importance is making sure that
683
:our focus is engaged in caring,
in altruistic type pursuits.
684
:Because that's just
what the evidence shows.
685
:And so, and I mean, there's
a million of these, right?
686
:Where we're just, you know, like the, the
whole idea of like, you know, live your
687
:truth or that term doesn't even make sense
to me because the moment you put yours
688
:before truth, like it's no longer truth.
689
:Like it's, I mean, you could say, you
could say like, you know, live your
690
:opinion or your beliefs, sure do that.
691
:But, but, but don't mistake yours
and truth, even though I suppose
692
:at some point it could be right.
693
:We're now we're talking about kind of
philosophical objective or absolute
694
:truth, but I, I just think we get
ourselves in the trouble and it's
695
:quite arrogant, I think, to think that.
696
:To kind of label that erroneously.
697
:And so little things like that.
698
:And, and these are more like soapbox type
things for me, but I am, I have to say,
699
:right, I mean, as a therapist of 20 years,
like wordsmithing is kind of what I do.
700
:Russell Newton: Right.
701
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
we speak matter.
702
:They matter because
703
:they provide structure to our reality.
704
:Like it's how we say it, how we
say it, how we think it, how we
705
:frame it becomes the reality.
706
:And so communicating in ways that
I feel are helpful, encouraging.
707
:And are actually built kind of
on a foundation of truth matters.
708
:And I think when we don't,
I, I think we actually harm
709
:ourselves and others a little bit.
710
:And I, I don't wanna be disparaging 'cause
that's not useful either, but things
711
:like that bother me a little bit because
712
:I, I think they create
expectations that don't help us.
713
:Like I, I'll give you another
example, Russ, and I'm probably
714
:boring you to pieces here, but,
715
:Russell Newton: No.
716
:No.
717
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: and
this is not a, an uncommon thing, right?
718
:I mean, I, I've, I've got this, just
these five unbelievable kids, right?
719
:And, and, um, you know, and, and here,
for example, in my house, like we,
720
:we don't, we don't say the F word.
721
:And, and the f word doesn't
mean like the f bomb.
722
:It, it's like, it's the word fair.
723
:I feel like fairness is an
incorrect construct, right?
724
:It's just not a good construct.
725
:Right?
726
:And I'll add to that f word, to the
word, the D word, which is deserve.
727
:I don't do deserve, I don't do
deserve, and I don't do fairness,
728
:because those two constructs create
an incorrect expectation in our minds
729
:that ultimately leads to bitterness.
730
:It leads to us being upset.
731
:It leads to weird comparisons
that aren't helpful.
732
:And so I tell my kids all the
time, like I, I honestly just
733
:don't even use that word.
734
:I, I just, I try to find a different one.
735
:Whether it's, I try to be
just, I try to be equitable.
736
:I try to be.
737
:Wise.
738
:Uh, but I don't, I don't do fair.
739
:I'm not here to make things
look the same between you.
740
:My kids, like, if I want to treat this
one this way and give them this and
741
:this one this way, because I think
that's the best thing that I can do,
742
:then that's exactly what I'll do.
743
:And I, I don't work within
that fairness construct.
744
:Right.
745
:And the deserving one, it's,
it's basically a ploy to
746
:get you to buy something.
747
:It's like, you know, you deserve this.
748
:Yeah.
749
:I don't, I don't do that.
750
:Doesn't make sense to me.
751
:It once again creates a, I think
an an odd expectation of me being
752
:entitled or deserving of something.
753
:If I want something, then I better
get out there and work for it
754
:and do the best I can to get it.
755
:But I don't, I don't do deserves, yeah.
756
:I don't do deserves
757
:Russell Newton: Yeah, that's, uh,
758
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: so.
759
:Russell Newton: great
parenting device advice.
760
:Great boss advice.
761
:Uh, great coach, great teacher advice.
762
:Anybody that has, people that
they're working with, uh, in a, in
763
:a, some kind of leadership position.
764
:Yeah, whatever it might be.
765
:So many things in there.
766
:Uh, I wanna go back and pick
up just a few questions.
767
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
I love it.
768
:Russell Newton: of my own.
769
:I love.
770
:Live your truth in scratching
out the, your, uh, just don't we
771
:simplify that and just live truth,
772
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
I like that.
773
:Russell Newton: uh, because your
truth, you know, and I, you couch that.
774
:And of course there's some,
some understanding there that
775
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Yeah.
776
:Russell Newton: can't live another
person's life, but if I live real
777
:truth, my truth will be truth.
778
:That, that's very strong.
779
:I, I just like that phrase, scratch
out, leave out your live truth.
780
:Um, and part of what you said, a good
part of that reminded me, you talked
781
:about other care, uh, reminded me of
Stephen Covey's, uh, I believe I'm
782
:attributing the, the phrase correctly.
783
:You know, don't try to be
understood, try to understand.
784
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Yeah,
785
:Russell Newton: and that's, that's the
same concept as other care, I believe.
786
:I think you're taking a little
bit further with more than.
787
:Um, the one is more like in, in a
conversational basis, but you are
788
:talking about in a real hands-on
relational way to seek to help others
789
:in some way, and that is the quickest
way to happiness and self-satisfaction.
790
:That's, that's quite strong.
791
:I appreciate that.
792
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
you bet.
793
:Yeah.
794
:That's a great, uh, I, I love that book.
795
:I think that was one of
his seven habits, right?
796
:Was seek first to understand
then to be understood.
797
:Um, interestingly enough, right?
798
:That was.
799
:I think that that book was significant
enough because it created that
800
:little bit of a shift, right?
801
:From kind of this, the
psychology of, of illness, right?
802
:To a psychology of success, right?
803
:Seven habits of highly effective people.
804
:Like that was kind of that paradigm
shift to let's look at what brings joy
805
:instead of just, you know, how do we,
'cause in a way, it's, it's one thing
806
:to help someone feel less sad or less
anxious, and it's a whole other to
807
:help somebody feel joy or to live a,
a li or, or like to feel confident.
808
:Those are two different things.
809
:Russell Newton: that's such a huge
difference and we don't always see that.
810
:Yeah.
811
:Um, yeah, again, to the, the thriving
to, to thrive in life, you know, just
812
:feeling better is not good enough.
813
:uh, we should move beyond that and
not be satisfied with the average.
814
:That's fantastic.
815
:I did want to go back one, uh,
man's search for meaning the
816
:Viktor Frankl, is that correct?
817
:Yeah.
818
:I just wanted to make sure I had
that in my head and I wanted to, uh.
819
:I sure that's the book that
we were referencing there.
820
:It's interesting I didn't plan the
segue, but, uh, your comment reminded
821
:me of Stephen Covey, and we're getting
close to, uh, the timeframe here.
822
:I usually end the podcast with two
questions, and one of them relates
823
:to Covey's book, the Seven Habits.
824
:Uh, do you find in your life
825
:that you have certain habits that, uh,
and, and could be what, what frequently
826
:comes up is a habit of gratitude,
gratitude journaling, or a morning
827
:stack, um, know, certain things that
people do, uh, a uh, set aside time
828
:for reading and learning, you know, a,
a cold plunge, whatever it might be.
829
:On a physical side, it
might be a spiritual.
830
:Uh, do you have things in your life
that you'd be willing to share that
831
:you would recommend as far as a habit
stack or in light of Stephen Covey's
832
:book, that Habits of Successful People?
833
:Uh.
834
:Maybe pulling from the, the whole concept
of positive psychology, which enc, which
835
:encapsulates a lot of things there that
you could recommend, uh, for listeners
836
:to, consider incorporating their life
to help improve their, their mindset,
837
:their self concept, and, and so forth.
838
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Yeah,
I'll, I'll, I'll share a couple that
839
:have been, uh, I think a part of my life.
840
:Um, and I would say, uh, I
mean I, I, I'm a family man.
841
:I, I've got, I mean, my spouse
and, and my five children and that,
842
:so I would say caring for them.
843
:I, I have to just say like, I
mean, that, that is, there is a
844
:hierarchy there for me, right.
845
:And, and that lands squarely
as, as number one, right?
846
:And, and when I feel like I am doing
well there, I, I think that frees my
847
:mind to do well in these other areas.
848
:Right?
849
:And so this, this kind of.
850
:Private success, uh, precedes some
of my other success, I think is
851
:act, interestingly enough, we're,
we're quoting Stephen Covey, I
852
:think that's what he said, private
successes, proceed public successes.
853
:And so that's a really important one.
854
:It reminds me of another quote, you
know, like, you know, no, what was it?
855
:Like no other success can compensate
for failure in the home kind of concept.
856
:And so that, that's a really key piece
for me is I just, man, when that part
857
:of my life is, is not well, uh, it's,
it's my mood, my focus is impacted.
858
:And so what I would say is do what
you can to invest deeply there.
859
:Simply be even from just
a, a hedonistic way.
860
:Like, just because when it
isn't, the impact is so.
861
:It's, it's, it's powerful.
862
:Um, but, but I would say more of a habit.
863
:Uh, and I, and, and I'm not
obviously perfect at this
864
:all the time, and sometimes
significantly better than others.
865
:Uh, and I'll take this
one from Tony Robbins.
866
:I don't, I'm sure you all,
everybody knows who Tony is.
867
:He's just like a fabulous speaker.
868
:And, but he talked about, I
mean, years and years ago.
869
:I, I remember listening to one of
his little CD collections and, and he
870
:talked about this hour of power, which
is kind of a habit stack or, or kind
871
:of a, a, uh, a miracle morning type
idea of just when I begin my days.
872
:Um, and this is just my own personal,
right when I begin my days with a
873
:run, uh, either alone, preferably
with friends, like it's even
874
:better when I do it with friends.
875
:But even when I do it
alone and I try to stack.
876
:Some learning during that run, whether I'm
listening to a podcast or a book, uh, or
877
:even something that's kind of spiritual.
878
:Uh, and by the time I put,
879
:before I even eat a piece of toast
or, or have a yogurt in the morning,
880
:like I feel like my day is a success.
881
:Uh, and, and that impacts my
mood so much in the mornings
882
:that I almost become annoying.
883
:And, and I, and I say this jokingly
because my, my wife will say that to
884
:me and she's such an awesome person,
but she's just like, oh my gosh, you're
885
:like, you're so annoying right now.
886
:And it's in part because I'm just like.
887
:Joyous.
888
:Like I just feel good like in the morning
when I create this little miracle morning.
889
:And it's a combination of you
doing something physical, right?
890
:Something educational, something
spiritual, whatever that is, whatever,
891
:whatever your practice looks like.
892
:Whether that's beginning your day
with a walk, with a swim, with
893
:meditation, with yoga, with a walk
with your partner or your spouse
894
:or with your dog, whatever that is.
895
:But I'm telling you like just
crank that engine and get it
896
:going and reap the benefits.
897
:So I would definitely say do what you can.
898
:Do what you can.
899
:And I'm not here to
create pressure for you.
900
:Like, and by the way, I am not here to
create happiness for you to be happy.
901
:Like you gotta be happy.
902
:But I would just say if you can find
a way to add a miracle morning to your
903
:life, um, a little routine, whether it's.
904
:15 minutes, 30 minutes, uh, I
think you'll see real impact, like
905
:real impact, like in your life,
in, in your success, in your mood,
906
:potentially even in your relationships.
907
:Uh, so I would definitely say that.
908
:And then the other suggestion that I would
give, and I think positive psychology
909
:is, is I think doing a wonderful job.
910
:I think talking specifically about
the way that we connect to people
911
:finding purpose and meaning in lives.
912
:And I would just say
just as your friend, like
913
:find a way to connect to things
that are just larger than you.
914
:And the evidence is so
overwhelmingly good there.
915
:And I, and that could be a
variety of things, right?
916
:All the way to a sports community, a
community in your area, a group in your
917
:area, a sports team, wherever you are.
918
:Obviously like communities
of religion, right?
919
:Or, or other philosophies.
920
:Like the evidence is just so good, right?
921
:When you find those things that
are larger than you and you connect
922
:to those, and perhaps even more
importantly, when you connect to those
923
:people in those communities, right?
924
:I would just suggest to you find
something like that and join it and be
925
:a part of it, um, because the evidence
is really, really good at not only
926
:that, increasing your overall sense of
joy, meaning purpose, and happiness.
927
:Uh, but it's also really important
for you to just be within those little
928
:communities and creating these little
networks that there's a, a great little,
929
:um, quote and I'll massacre it, but
it's something to the effect of like.
930
:Um, people multiply your,
well, let's see, relationships.
931
:Multiply your joys and divide
your sorrows, something like that.
932
:Positive relationships.
933
:Multiply your joys and divide your
sorrows, and that's what you're doing.
934
:Um, and there might be some of
you that are like, well, you're
935
:a, well, what if I hate people?
936
:Or what if I'm not very good socially?
937
:Or what if I'm this And, and, uh.
938
:I would just respond with nothing
but just love and compassion.
939
:But I would also gently challenge you
a little bit, and I would challenge you
940
:right away with this in a cognitive way
by saying, um, you're, you're describing
941
:yourself as this rigid individual that
doesn't change or as enabled to change.
942
:And the reality is that we're
the most sophisticated pieces
943
:of machinery in the universe.
944
:Like, and it's not survival
of the fittest, it's survival
945
:of the most adaptable.
946
:Like that's why you've survived this far.
947
:'cause we adapt, we evolve, we grow.
948
:And so I would say yes, more challenging,
more difficult, perhaps you even
949
:lack some aptitude or whatever.
950
:But I'm just telling you, this
is what the evidence says.
951
:Take yourself, drop yourself in the
middle of these people, places and
952
:things and do what you can to engage
and create a little network there
953
:because it's absolutely lifesaving.
954
:So.
955
:Anyways, couple of thoughts.
956
:Russell Newton: fantastic.
957
:I appreciate your, um, consistently
presenting evidence-based material.
958
:Uh, what it, it's really a, it's a phrase
that we have in the podcast description
959
:that it's, it is evidence-based, it's
not, and maybe that's a difference in
960
:positive psychology and pop psychology.
961
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
sure, sure.
962
:Russell Newton: Tony Robbins.
963
:You know, when I first heard
of Tony Robbins, I thought,
964
:yeah, it's pop psychology.
965
:It's somebody, uh, you know, he is
a good, he is, he's charismatic.
966
:He,
967
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Yes,
968
:Russell Newton: well.
969
:He can control a room.
970
:He can, but,
971
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: I.
972
:Russell Newton: as I've learned a little
bit more about him, I find that he is,
973
:uh, he has some powerful things that can
really be beneficial for a lot of people.
974
:Uh.
975
:And one last thing on my part, you,
you mentioned part of a bigger story.
976
:One of my earliest, one of the first
record interviews that I did, I don't
977
:like to call 'em interviews, uh,
conversations I did on the podcast,
978
:uh, was with a businessman in, in
Minneapolis, and he has a, a, a small
979
:business, uh, 50 employees or so.
980
:But the employees that are in the company,
no one has ever left his employee.
981
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Wow.
982
:Russell Newton: And that,
that to me is astounding.
983
:Right?
984
:Uh, and he's been in business for
many years, so it's not a, you
985
:know, it's not been six months.
986
:Some of them have been with him for 10
or 15 years, if I remember correctly.
987
:So I asked him about that and
he, he referred to that too.
988
:People wanna be part of a bigger story.
989
:He references college football.
990
:Uh, or any of the things that
you talked about, but people
991
:wanna be recognized in that.
992
:And it's necessary for a lot of people
in different ways, whatever it might be.
993
:You know, if you hate
sports, there's something,
994
:iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Sure.
995
:Russell Newton: that makes you
want to be part of a bigger story.
996
:And he used that in his business
philosophy make the office part
997
:of a bigger story for his people.
998
:And so it wasn't just, you know, come to
work, get it over with and, and be gone.
999
:It was, uh, more of a, uh, touchy feely
is the wrong phrase, but, uh, brought in
:
00:59:05,838 --> 00:59:11,298
a lot of those psychological, uh, concepts
into the office to make it not just a job.
:
00:59:12,408 --> 00:59:15,198
and I found that very interesting
that you referred to something very,
:
00:59:15,198 --> 00:59:16,698
very similar to what he had said.
:
00:59:17,598 --> 00:59:18,108
Uh.
:
00:59:20,058 --> 00:59:24,348
I think, you know, in, I have two
questions that I do at the end, uh, uh,
:
00:59:24,618 --> 00:59:28,398
one about habits and one about advice,
and I think you gave the exact advice that
:
00:59:28,398 --> 00:59:30,528
you would've if I rephrase that question.
:
00:59:30,528 --> 00:59:33,678
So, uh, we've got the two final
answers that we normally go for.
:
00:59:33,678 --> 00:59:36,198
What I didn't ask you about,
and I'll give you a chance here
:
00:59:36,198 --> 00:59:39,018
to, to plug your website, uh, to
:
00:59:39,083 --> 00:59:39,503
iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
Oh sure.
:
00:59:39,618 --> 00:59:41,208
Russell Newton: you want
and give us a closing word.
:
00:59:41,208 --> 00:59:42,318
If you have anything left.
:
00:59:42,648 --> 00:59:46,158
Uh, you said you've written,
you've authored the book or two.
:
00:59:46,788 --> 00:59:47,748
iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
Yeah, I have.
:
00:59:47,868 --> 00:59:49,248
Russell Newton: And we haven't
talked about those at all.
:
00:59:49,248 --> 00:59:50,928
So tell us about your books.
:
00:59:51,138 --> 00:59:52,578
Tell us about your website.
:
00:59:52,638 --> 00:59:58,338
Uh, this is not, limited to a locality.
:
00:59:58,818 --> 01:00:00,618
Best I can tell from
looking at the website.
:
01:00:00,618 --> 01:00:03,648
So if schools, if parents are
interested in finding out more,
:
01:00:03,648 --> 01:00:06,048
they can look@schoolpulse.org.
:
01:00:06,798 --> 01:00:12,288
you provide individual services,
uh, online or even for those
:
01:00:12,288 --> 01:00:15,648
local in Utah, please feel free
to share something about that.
:
01:00:16,038 --> 01:00:16,428
And.
:
01:00:17,148 --> 01:00:21,288
Uh, leave us with a parting word and, and
we'll sign off and let our, uh, listeners
:
01:00:21,588 --> 01:00:21,858
iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Yeah.
:
01:00:21,978 --> 01:00:23,208
Russell Newton: some of
this great information that
:
01:00:23,208 --> 01:00:23,958
we presented to 'em today.
:
01:00:24,888 --> 01:00:25,278
iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: Yeah.
:
01:00:25,278 --> 01:00:25,908
That's awesome.
:
01:00:25,908 --> 01:00:27,828
Thank you for, for that opportunity.
:
01:00:27,828 --> 01:00:28,098
Yeah.
:
01:00:28,153 --> 01:00:30,198
I, I, I've written a couple of books.
:
01:00:30,198 --> 01:00:34,938
One of them was Mind Over Gray Matter, um,
and that was the first one that I wrote.
:
01:00:34,938 --> 01:00:36,738
And, and I just have to say that was.
:
01:00:37,518 --> 01:00:40,278
Such a meaningful experience for me.
:
01:00:40,303 --> 01:00:45,558
I, I, I wanna say that maybe I
was 12 or 13 years into my private
:
01:00:45,558 --> 01:00:47,868
practice then, and, and it was so
:
01:00:50,028 --> 01:00:50,688
awesome.
:
01:00:50,928 --> 01:00:58,248
Uh, I, I think to just take some of
this stuff that was just marinating up
:
01:00:58,248 --> 01:01:03,318
there in my mind, some of my experiences
and just putting them down on paper.
:
01:01:03,318 --> 01:01:05,628
And I think there's a part of me
that always wanted to do that.
:
01:01:05,628 --> 01:01:12,618
My mom was an unpublished, but in my
opinion, just an incredible writer, poet.
:
01:01:13,548 --> 01:01:16,608
And so I think that there was
a part of me that, that wanted
:
01:01:16,608 --> 01:01:17,778
to do a little bit of that.
:
01:01:17,793 --> 01:01:18,948
And, and I did.
:
01:01:19,458 --> 01:01:22,878
And then I followed that up with
No Thy Selfie, which is kind
:
01:01:22,878 --> 01:01:24,558
of a, a book more for teens.
:
01:01:25,008 --> 01:01:28,068
Uh, we're actually kind of an Amazon
bestseller, which was kind of fun.
:
01:01:28,698 --> 01:01:30,108
Uh, and, and I.
:
01:01:30,543 --> 01:01:31,473
And I did that.
:
01:01:31,473 --> 01:01:34,863
So those are the two books is Mind Over
Gray Matter and Know Thy Selfie, and
:
01:01:34,863 --> 01:01:36,723
they're available on Amazon, of course.
:
01:01:36,723 --> 01:01:39,423
But, uh, and then of course School Pulse.
:
01:01:39,423 --> 01:01:46,203
I obviously, we are doing, we're
serving schools, schools, districts,
:
01:01:46,203 --> 01:01:49,893
private schools, state departments even.
:
01:01:50,583 --> 01:01:55,833
And our goal really is
to change the paradigm.
:
01:01:56,018 --> 01:02:02,313
I, I, I feel like we're, we
can be a little enamored with
:
01:02:02,313 --> 01:02:05,103
just the risk factors, right?
:
01:02:05,103 --> 01:02:10,383
I, I feel like a lot of our
interventions at the school level are
:
01:02:10,383 --> 01:02:14,733
just interventions, meaning we're,
we're just, we're just kind of a step.
:
01:02:15,453 --> 01:02:16,323
Too late.
:
01:02:16,833 --> 01:02:18,243
Uh, and all of it matters.
:
01:02:18,243 --> 01:02:21,603
Like I, I, I, once again, I'm,
I'm not trying to be critical.
:
01:02:21,603 --> 01:02:27,333
All that I'm suggesting is a
move from intervention, which I
:
01:02:27,333 --> 01:02:29,013
think is where we live, right?
:
01:02:29,013 --> 01:02:34,083
It's kind of that medical model that I
described and kind of this paradigm shift
:
01:02:34,083 --> 01:02:37,413
towards proactive prevention, right?
:
01:02:37,833 --> 01:02:39,183
Which really falls.
:
01:02:39,393 --> 01:02:42,843
It's a move away from
what are the risk factors?
:
01:02:42,843 --> 01:02:47,793
What are the signs of suicides to
what are the protective factors?
:
01:02:47,793 --> 01:02:49,413
Like, what are the things, right?
:
01:02:49,653 --> 01:02:53,763
What are the kinds of attitudes,
behaviors, psychology, mindsets that
:
01:02:53,763 --> 01:02:56,553
we could adopt into our lives, right?
:
01:02:56,553 --> 01:03:02,493
That could actually insulate and protect
us from suicide, from depression, from
:
01:03:02,493 --> 01:03:04,323
anxiety, from post-traumatic stress.
:
01:03:05,103 --> 01:03:10,233
And, and I say that right as a
bit of a social scientist myself.
:
01:03:10,938 --> 01:03:15,768
To recognize that, I know we can't
ultimately end all of those things,
:
01:03:15,768 --> 01:03:18,648
but the evidence really is good, right?
:
01:03:18,648 --> 01:03:26,028
That when we have these protective areas,
right, flowing nicely in our lives, right,
:
01:03:26,388 --> 01:03:28,660
that they really do protect us, right?
:
01:03:28,728 --> 01:03:34,158
And yes, you know, the quarterback
or the cheerleader or the this, those
:
01:03:34,158 --> 01:03:36,408
people are just as vulnerable too.
:
01:03:37,098 --> 01:03:40,608
But the reality is they have a, they
may have, and other people do like
:
01:03:40,608 --> 01:03:45,558
a lot of protective elements that
make it less likely than they will.
:
01:03:45,558 --> 01:03:49,308
And that's really what we wanna
bring to the school, is we want to
:
01:03:49,308 --> 01:03:51,978
help students succeed academically.
:
01:03:51,978 --> 01:03:54,408
We want them to participate
and to be engaged.
:
01:03:54,408 --> 01:03:58,428
We want them to improve their
behavior and decision making, right?
:
01:03:58,668 --> 01:04:02,028
So that the culture and the overall
environment at the school is better.
:
01:04:02,538 --> 01:04:06,048
And that's really what we
do, but we wanna do it right.
:
01:04:06,453 --> 01:04:11,403
With that less focus on just the
how do we stop suicide, which is a
:
01:04:11,403 --> 01:04:13,773
good focus and we deal with that.
:
01:04:14,403 --> 01:04:18,033
But man, how do we build mental fitness?
:
01:04:18,123 --> 01:04:19,713
How do we build excellence?
:
01:04:19,743 --> 01:04:24,003
How do we build an awesome, an
extraordinary mindset that would
:
01:04:24,003 --> 01:04:26,073
ultimately lead to an extraordinary life?
:
01:04:26,103 --> 01:04:27,423
Like that's where we live.
:
01:04:27,993 --> 01:04:32,163
And if as a school or a district
you're interested in really doing
:
01:04:32,163 --> 01:04:40,023
that, my humble pitch is we are
the solution like for that better.
:
01:04:40,443 --> 01:04:43,233
And, and I think some of our
resources will show that.
:
01:04:43,233 --> 01:04:45,903
And, and, and I'll share that with you.
:
01:04:45,903 --> 01:04:49,443
And as far as just, you know,
any, you can reach out to me,
:
01:04:49,443 --> 01:04:50,973
you can go to school post.org.
:
01:04:50,973 --> 01:04:54,463
You can reach me at Iuri@schoolpost.org
:
01:04:54,483 --> 01:04:54,903
as well.
:
01:04:54,903 --> 01:04:56,253
It's spelled IURI.
:
01:04:56,253 --> 01:05:02,433
But, um, but honestly, I, I'm just,
psychology has been so fun for me.
:
01:05:02,438 --> 01:05:02,448
It.
:
01:05:03,198 --> 01:05:05,088
I think it's been a positive in my life.
:
01:05:05,508 --> 01:05:08,658
Uh, I feel like it can be that
way towards other people as well.
:
01:05:09,378 --> 01:05:16,278
Um, but I would, I would say to
you it's, I think you actually
:
01:05:16,278 --> 01:05:17,658
even made kind of a statement.
:
01:05:17,808 --> 01:05:22,368
Um, you know, specifically,
it's almost as if like, it's,
:
01:05:22,428 --> 01:05:24,498
it's not enough to just be okay.
:
01:05:24,498 --> 01:05:26,238
The, the concept of thriving, right?
:
01:05:26,478 --> 01:05:30,468
Like the idea that we can thrive,
not just survive, not just hang on.
:
01:05:31,128 --> 01:05:35,358
Uh, and I think beyond even that, right?
:
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And I'm not here to create
some pressure, right?
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Like, you, you have to be happy, you
know, at, at like a seven or an eight or
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don't be satisfied for a three or a four.
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And, and, and I, and I think really
what I, what I'm trying, what I, what
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I like to talk about is kind of this
concept of emotional maturity, right?
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Which is, it's our ability to experience
the full spectrum of emotion, right?
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All the way from the negative tens.
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To the positive tens.
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Right?
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And, and certainly we want to function
more right up here on the positives
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because when we are right, you know, it's,
it's like that Copernican switch, right?
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Like the idea that happiness or
success revolves around happiness,
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not the other way around.
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And so, obviously we
want to promote wellness.
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We wanna promote optimism.
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We wanna promote positive feelings,
uh, and exciting feelings in our lives
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because we just seem to do better.
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We're more patient, we're more
resilient, we deal with things better.
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01:06:36,273 --> 01:06:41,373
Um, but it's also important to
realize that there's a real, um,
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that there's real meaning in some
of those dark undertones, right?
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In some of, of those pieces in our lives.
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And so it's, it's less of a pressure
to be here and more maybe that
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realization that every moment.
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Can prepare us for the very next moment.
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Right.
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Um, I'm reminding, in fact, speaking
of Tony Robbins, you brought him
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to mind that he used to tell this
really awesome story about Nelson
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Mandela when he was, you know, kind of
unjustly in prison for like 37 years.
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And that he had this interview, uh,
you know, with the reporter once he
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had been released and he was president
and he had, you know, trying to
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abolish apartheid in South Africa.
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And he has this interview, um, allegedly.
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I actually have never quite found a
record of that, but I've told this story
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a million times because I think it's so
powerful, you know, and this basically
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01:07:37,728 --> 01:07:42,978
this reporter him, you know, how did you
handle the, you know, the, the injustice?
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01:07:43,008 --> 01:07:45,048
You know, how did you deal
with the suffering, right?
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And, and allegedly he says what?
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Suffering, right?
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It was preparation, right?
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01:07:51,588 --> 01:07:57,198
And that concept, right, that we
can somehow swallow stuff, right.
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And like synthesize it in there
and then to have it come out
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as preparation is magnificent.
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01:08:06,483 --> 01:08:06,873
Right?
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01:08:06,873 --> 01:08:07,503
Is,
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is, is That's the extraordinary mindset.
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01:08:13,293 --> 01:08:17,733
That's how we become
invincible in a sense, right?
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01:08:17,733 --> 01:08:22,202
Is, is, is we have a, a, a
psychology that just is willing,
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01:08:22,323 --> 01:08:24,332
it's open, it's soft hearted.
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01:08:24,332 --> 01:08:29,553
It's, it's kind of got that growth mindset
concept to it and it allows us to just
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01:08:29,553 --> 01:08:35,193
bounce back, not just to that normal,
but to bounce back as preparation, right?
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01:08:35,193 --> 01:08:37,502
It's actually preparing me for more.
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01:08:37,502 --> 01:08:40,148
So anyways, some fun
things to think about.
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01:08:41,542 --> 01:08:41,823
Russell Newton: Absolutely.
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Thank you so much.
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01:08:42,798 --> 01:08:46,622
You know, I'm, I'm really looking forward
to editing, uh, this episode because there
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01:08:46,622 --> 01:08:48,542
are a lot of little pieces in there that.
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01:08:49,638 --> 01:08:52,667
Uh, we could go back and probably
spend another half an episode on
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iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
You bet.
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01:08:53,388 --> 01:08:55,428
Russell Newton: that you ran
through some really strong things
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01:08:55,428 --> 01:08:56,457
there, and I, I appreciate that.
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01:08:56,758 --> 01:08:57,138
iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
You bet.
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01:08:57,138 --> 01:09:00,917
Russell Newton: Um, when I was
growing up, I grew up in church.
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01:09:00,948 --> 01:09:06,377
Uh, we were a very religious family
and my pastor at the time frequently
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01:09:06,377 --> 01:09:14,957
used the illustration of if there's
a dangerous road, uh, with a, a steep
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01:09:14,957 --> 01:09:17,028
drop off a cliff beside the road.
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01:09:18,138 --> 01:09:22,908
His approach to working with families
and with the members of the church to
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01:09:22,908 --> 01:09:28,788
put a guardrail by the road, not to put
a hospital at the bottom of the cliff.
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01:09:29,957 --> 01:09:30,428
Uh,
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01:09:30,728 --> 01:09:31,247
iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
really good.
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01:09:31,968 --> 01:09:35,688
Russell Newton: which is exactly, I think
in line with what you say, prevention
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01:09:35,688 --> 01:09:39,438
and proactive, not reactive treatment.
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It's difficult to do,
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01:09:41,372 --> 01:09:41,883
iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse: It is.
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01:09:41,988 --> 01:09:44,028
Russell Newton: but, but
so is reactive treatment.
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01:09:44,268 --> 01:09:44,598
Uh.
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Just some very great stuff there.
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I really appreciate your time.
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Uh, I hope the listeners got a portion
of the benefit out of this that I did
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01:09:56,463 --> 01:09:58,083
because I, I really learned a lot.
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01:09:58,653 --> 01:10:03,483
Um, listeners, this was Iuri Mellow,
and I'm gonna spell it because
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01:10:03,483 --> 01:10:05,403
it's, uh, it is Portuguese, right?
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01:10:05,673 --> 01:10:13,353
IURI, Iuri Melo, MELO, uh, author
licensed clinical social worker,
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01:10:13,803 --> 01:10:17,043
but co-founder of school plus.org.
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01:10:17,523 --> 01:10:21,663
Uh, available through that
website if you'd like to
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01:10:21,693 --> 01:10:23,973
contact him directly by email.
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01:10:25,833 --> 01:10:26,643
just some.
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Fantastic.
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01:10:27,753 --> 01:10:28,713
Uh, did I say author?
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Couple two books there that,
uh, we have out there that we
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01:10:31,683 --> 01:10:33,183
should, we should look at as well.
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01:10:33,363 --> 01:10:34,443
Thank you so much for your time.
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01:10:35,103 --> 01:10:39,693
I appreciate it greatly and wish you
great success, uh, with school plus.org
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01:10:39,693 --> 01:10:40,893
and, and the many other.
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01:10:41,373 --> 01:10:44,763
Ventures, you know, and, uh,
we need to do a follow up.
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Maybe you can get in touch with me.
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01:10:46,053 --> 01:10:47,433
If you ever wanna do
a follow up interview.
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01:10:47,433 --> 01:10:52,443
I'd like to find out more about,
uh, your, uh, adventure therapy.
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01:10:52,443 --> 01:10:53,073
Is that what you called
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01:10:53,163 --> 01:10:53,973
iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
Oh, yeah, yeah.
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01:10:54,033 --> 01:10:55,113
Adventure based therapy.
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01:10:55,113 --> 01:10:55,383
Yeah.
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01:10:55,683 --> 01:10:56,043
Russell Newton: Yeah.
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It
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iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
kind of what I've call it.
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01:10:57,183 --> 01:10:57,483
Russell Newton: Bound.
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Is it similar to that?
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01:10:58,893 --> 01:11:01,023
iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
Uh, it, it, it, it is, but Outward
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01:11:01,023 --> 01:11:04,533
Bound, it's kind of done in like in
group settings or things like that.
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01:11:04,533 --> 01:11:07,293
And, and for me, it's,
it's one-on-one, right?
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01:11:07,293 --> 01:11:11,702
It's, I mean, we'll leave my office or
we will, we'll meet outside, or we'll
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01:11:11,702 --> 01:11:15,303
meet at the climbing gym and we're
just, we're doing extraordinary things.
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It's, I think therapy can sometimes be
a little stale or I would definitely
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01:11:20,973 --> 01:11:24,243
say for adolescents and teenagers,
it's a little bit threatening.
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01:11:24,933 --> 01:11:27,303
Uh, but climbing is not.
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Climbing is not.
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01:11:28,773 --> 01:11:32,223
And, and, and I think sometimes parents,
you know, really want their child
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01:11:32,223 --> 01:11:34,683
to come in and to gain some benefit.
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01:11:34,683 --> 01:11:38,163
And, but a lot of times for teens,
the benefit isn't, you know, that
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01:11:38,163 --> 01:11:42,393
I'm gonna give them some like, really
powerful like cognitive jewel, right.
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01:11:42,393 --> 01:11:48,813
And it's just gonna be like, uh,
for teens it, it, it has to feel
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01:11:48,813 --> 01:11:51,063
great when they're with a therapist.
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01:11:51,063 --> 01:11:54,633
Like it's, it's, I think it's almost
a little bit more emotional than it
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is cognitive for them becomes more
cognitive as they become adults.
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01:11:58,063 --> 01:11:58,483
Russell Newton: Mm-hmm.
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01:11:58,783 --> 01:12:00,903
iuri melo, Co-founder SchoolPulse:
And, and the climbing experience, like
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01:12:00,903 --> 01:12:03,963
I said, is just, it's, it's so easy.
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01:12:03,993 --> 01:12:08,013
It's, it's like naturally
a trusting environment.
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01:12:08,283 --> 01:12:12,303
I mean, there's just some real cool
things that happen very quickly.
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01:12:12,723 --> 01:12:17,583
You know, when I'm belaying a kid that's
50 feet up in the air, like there's
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01:12:17,583 --> 01:12:19,833
some trust that hap and by the way Yeah.
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01:12:20,013 --> 01:12:22,533
And they're doing that to me
as well, which is kind of wild.
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01:12:23,193 --> 01:12:24,933
So it's kind of wild.
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01:12:25,668 --> 01:12:29,298
Russell Newton: Uh, and I, I thought of
this several times during the process, uh,
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01:12:29,298 --> 01:12:31,248
of your describing the, the system there.
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01:12:32,838 --> 01:12:39,408
It really is a, a great on-ramp for
the kids that need something more
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01:12:39,408 --> 01:12:41,748
extensive or something more in depth.
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01:12:42,468 --> 01:12:47,118
We talk occasionally about the
social morays or the hindrances to
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01:12:47,118 --> 01:12:48,582
someone saying, I'm in counseling.
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01:12:48,738 --> 01:12:49,698
I need counseling.
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01:12:49,968 --> 01:12:51,528
I'm thinking about getting counseling.
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01:12:51,948 --> 01:12:54,858
You know, we talk about, well call
it coaching or call it mentoring, and
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01:12:54,858 --> 01:12:57,138
you don't have that social stigma.
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01:12:58,323 --> 01:13:01,983
But I could see, you know, if I've
been getting text messages and emails
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01:13:01,983 --> 01:13:06,783
from an organization that have been
helpful, that that's just a great on-ramp
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01:13:06,783 --> 01:13:10,653
to, to lower some of those barriers
and to make those students as those
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01:13:10,653 --> 01:13:15,813
young people just, uh, more willing to
take the next step when they need it.
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01:13:15,813 --> 01:13:17,433
I think it's a great
service you're providing.
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01:13:17,613 --> 01:13:19,233
As I said, I hope you have great success.
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01:13:19,593 --> 01:13:24,513
Uh, maybe you can expand and provide
that next for college age students and
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01:13:24,513 --> 01:13:27,843
then on up into young professionals
because I think the process is very
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01:13:27,843 --> 01:13:33,633
strong, uh, and I think people at
all stages of life, there's, there's
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01:13:33,633 --> 01:13:36,963
a great bit of benefit there that
can be had for a number of people.
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01:13:37,083 --> 01:13:40,983
Alright, listeners, Iuri Mellow
author, co-founder of School
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01:13:40,983 --> 01:13:45,933
Plus I keep wanting say School
Plus, but it's school pulse.org.
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01:13:46,143 --> 01:13:48,213
Thanks for being with us today, listeners.
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We'll see you next week.
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Have a great one.
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Bye.