Is unforgiveness getting in the way of your well-being? Is it preoccupying you or dragging you down?
We all walk around with an idea of how we think people should treat us. We tend to harbor thoughts about how we have been treated unfairly. That's regardless of whether it involves a big or small offense. We succumb to unforgiveness without realizing its harm to us.
Dr. Ronald Ramsey, author, marriage counselor, and clinical chaplain, joins us in this episode. Dr. Ramsey’s interactions with couples, families, and patients showed him the damage of lack of forgiveness. He blends scripture, behavioral science, and insights to show the complexities of forgiveness.
Listen to this episode if you want to understand forgiveness and experience the long-lasting change it brings!
Ronald D. Ramsey, MEd, DMin, LMFT, is a marriage counselor and clinical chaplain. He’s also a retired organization development consultant specializing in large-scale culture change. He lives in Rochester Hills, Michigan, with his wife, daughter, and service dog, Theo.
He has been a counselor and chaplain to couples, families, and palliative care patients. He has witnessed firsthand the devastation caused by the inability to forgive. Through his book, Forty Days to Forgiveness: A Christian's Field Guide to the Forgiveness Journey, Dr. Ramsey hopes to help others heal from past hurts and prevent future emotional upheaval.
[13:19] “And in all of those situations, I've seen unforgiveness as a significant portion of the struggles that people deal with, even in the work environment, holding grudges, wanting to get even with each other, playing one-upmanship.” - Click Here To Tweet This
[25:08] “Unforgiveness is something that everybody experiences — whether they want to admit to it or not. And it's something that gets in the way of church fellowship, being an effective witness in the world, [and] having an effective testimony. It's hard to do those things when you're living in a state of unforgiveness.” - Click Here To Tweet This
[35:18] “Christ changed [forgiveness] when he came. We're all already forgiven under His blood, under the debt He paid for us. And what he's told us is that regardless of whether you're the offender or the offended [is that] you have a responsibility to try and create forgiveness.” - Click Here To Tweet This
[46:53] “Forgiveness does take time, and the research shows that it's not something that we can snap our fingers and do despite thinking that we can. It usually takes more time.” - Click Here To Tweet This
Acknowledging the depth of unfairness
Commitment to forgiving another person
Transitioning from negative to positive intentions
Internalizing your Christ-like spirit
Openness to changes forgiveness brings in your life
Nurturing those changes over time.
[56:17] “When you build your spiritual maturity, and you build your ability to be forgiving towards other people, you're not going to go back, go backward, you're going to be more spiritually mature in everything that you do.” - Click Here To Tweet This
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