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In this week's Wellness Wednesday episode, Evan covers the well known saying that "you are the average of your 5 closest friends". This statement is extremely true and can be seen in my life, and likely yours as well. While surrounding yourself with people who are high performers, and people who are going to lift you up instead of bring you down, there's a person that is even more important to think about.

In this episode Evan discusses who the most important friend in your life is. It's a person that can be your biggest fan, or your worst enemy. Best of all, you have control over how this person treats you. Be sure to tune in to learn about how this one person can make the biggest impact in your life.

As always do everything with good intentions and connect to your elements.

Disclaimer:

This podcast is for educational purposes only, it is not a substitute for professional care by a doctor or other qualified medical professional. Evan Roberts is not a medical professional and this podcast is provided on the understanding that it does not constitute medical or other professional advice or services. Statements and views expressed on this show are not medical advice, this podcast, including Evan Roberts and any guests on the show, disclaims responsibility for any possible adverse effects from the use of information contained in this episode. If you think you have a medical problem please consult a medical professional.

going on, everybody.

Welcome back to the elemental Evan show.

Thank you all so much for tuning in on this episode today, I wanted

to start off this episode with a quick little tip or recommendation

that I use every time I eat sushi.

So for sushi, which I'm a massive lover of, there's a few really

local, delicious sushi spots near me.

And honestly, it's something that if I had the money, I would probably be eating

it way more often, but nonetheless.

Less.

I wanted to mention that with eating sushi, there are a few

things that we need to understand and kind of be concerned with.

And one of those major things is the mercury levels.

So.

Being that I enjoy sushi.

And a lot of the times it does include things like salmon or tuna, which are

going to be higher up on the food chain, meaning that they're going to have

higher levels of mercury because they are basically accumulating the mercury

as they continue to consume fish at lower levels of mercury, but it will

store and build up in the beaker fish.

So if you're eating fish that are larger or higher up on the food

chain, they're going to tend to have higher levels of mercury and.

As we all know, mercury is not something that we want in our bodies.

So a little hack that I do every time I eat sushi, I actually start

out with a ton of chlorophyll.

Um, a lot of times I'll also finish with chlorophyll.

Uh, this might sound like a weird or difficult thing to do, which by the

way, if you're not sure what chlorophyll is, it's actually the green pigment

of a lot of vegetables and plants.

So chlorophyll, the reason I like to take it is because it is able to.

Cleanse the blood and help bind to heavy metals and help remove

them out of the body, which is massive when you're eating sushi.

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So I go ahead and instead of taking a powdered form of chlorophyll,

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Now in term in terms of today's episode, which by the way, sorry for the long

rant, but that is something that I have done for a long time while eating sushi

and I've had my fiance for sure, but also other people tell me like, man,

you need to share this information.

Because it's also a pretty odd thing to see someone crush, you know, 30

pills or tablets of chlorella, right before eating some sushi, um, seems

like a pretty odd thing, but there is a lot of rhyme to the reason there.

And, uh, I hope you guys enjoy that and give that a go as well.

Now in terms of today's episode, we are going to be talking about

a, kind of about a quote that you're probably very familiar with.

Sorry.

I'm not sure who came up with this quote, but nonetheless

you've probably heard it before.

And it goes, you are the average of your five closest friends.

Now, if you've never heard this statement before, um, I mean,

it's pretty self-explanatory but basically just says whoever your

five closest friends are, that is pretty much who you're going to be.

The average of, like, you're going to have similar interests.

You're going to have a similar, similar lifestyle, probably do similar things.

Um, you know, there's a lot of rub off that.

Comes from hanging out around a certain group of people.

Now a very simple way to think of this is, think about if you let's

say you have five friends and all of them love to go golfing.

Chances are you're probably going golfing too, right?

Because that's just a way in which you all enjoy spending time

together and feel that it's a nice way to connect with one another.

You know, and the same thing can be true for a very.

You know, very many, uh, scenarios such as maybe you like to go

out and run, then, uh, all your friends, uh, enjoy running, right.

Or maybe your friends all love going to music festivals.

So it's very likely that you also go to these music festivals.

Uh, so, so on and so forth.

That's basically what it's saying is just when you hang around people, you

are naturally going to start adopting their lifestyles and their interests.

It's just kind of the way things work.

And I think it's very true.

I mean, you can see it in probably your own life and also

the life of those around you.

Now, this can be a good or a bad thing because, you know, for example, if you

hang out with a lot of broke people, uh, sorry, broke people, you're probably

also going to start falling into that category as well of being broke.

It's very true.

It's very sad to say, but it is unfortunately the truth.

Now of course, there are going to be outliers in this, and it's not going

to be 100% true all of the time, but.

Overall, this is going to be the case, because if you think about it,

someone who hangs around a lot of let's just say wealthy people is probably

also going to be wealthy themselves or on their way to being wealthy.

This is going to come about just through hanging around the other people and

being at events that these people go to because someone who's wealthy and

rich is probably going to be going to other events that have a lot of

wealthy and rich people as well.

And therefore you're going to be able to network and just essentially

climb that ladder and find yourself in a better financial position.

Whereas if you are hanging out with a lot of, you know, broke people, you're

probably going to do things that don't require a ton of money and is probably

not going to put you around a lot of people who are going to expand you.

Uh, in terms of money.

So kind of moving beyond all that.

Uh, so this makes sense that obviously your five closest friends are going

to have a big influence on you.

And if you are growing, you'll likely notice.

And I'm saying growing, not physically like tall, but if you are growing

mentally or as just a person and your lifestyle is changing.

You might notice that you might lose some friends or even just lose contact or hang

out with those friends less and less.

This just makes sense, because if you hang out with a group of people that

the only way you guys connect is by hanging out on the weekends, watching the

games, grilling up some wings and steak and throwing back a couple of beers.

And all of a sudden you start changing your lifestyle into.

Let's say now on the weekends, you're going out and running or surfing,

or, you know, you're trying to be a little bit healthier and, and

not really drink or eat bad food.

These things are going to eventually come up and you're just naturally not going to

be into the same things as those people.

So naturally you might move away from your old friend groups, and that's not

to say you won't still keep in touch with them, but the frequency in which

you hang out with them might lower.

And this is not always true.

Your friends might be growing with you.

Um, your friends might be into the growth that you're going through

and want to be on that path as well.

Um, you know, and that's awesome.

Uh, if that is the case, but nonetheless, you can outgrow your

friend group and that's okay.

You can find people too, who are already at the level of what

you're trying to be, and then become the average of those people.

Right.

But, and here is the main point that I'm trying to make today.

Who's the person or the friend that you spend the most time

with out of all of your friends.

And it's the same for everyone.

So you can take a moment and think of this.

That person is you.

You are the person that you spend the most time with, right?

You can't get away from yourself.

You're always with yourself.

Right.

But unfortunately, A lot of the times, people are not very

good friends to themselves.

If you look at a lot of people's self-talk what does it look like?

Probably look, something like, oh man, I'm such an idiot or geez, why did I eat that?

I feel so bad.

I ah, like I have no self control.

I'm the worst, you know?

Or.

Ah, man, I'm just, you know, a piece of crap or whatever it may be.

I've heard all of these things.

I've even said a few of these things, right.

But we need to understand that this self-talk, while it might seem very.

Not important.

For lack of a better word, or maybe not having a very strong impact.

The opposite.

The opposite of that is actually very true.

It is having a very strong impact on you and how you show up and

really how you perceive yourself and also how others perceive you.

If you were to just think of this from a different point of view.

Such as what, if you had someone around you that was saying the same things

you say to yourself all day, but this person is now saying them to you.

We would probably start a fight with that person.

We're like cut off all connection with that person, all communication,

because we wouldn't allow someone else to speak that way to us.

We wouldn't allow someone to tell us.

Oh, yeah, they're just terrible at remembering names.

They're terrible at directions.

They're a terrible person.

Oh, they're an idiot.

They can't understand anything.

They, they always mess everything up, you know?

We wouldn't allow someone to talk that way to us.

Right.

I mean, I absolutely would not.

And I know a lot of the people that I am surrounded with would not allow

someone to speak that way to them.

So why do we allow ourselves to speak that way to ourselves?

We really shouldn't.

If you actually think about, and this is a quote from Jim quick.

If you think about your body as, or your brain, sorry, as being a supercomputer.

Well, your self-talk is like the program that your computer is running.

Okay.

So your mind is always listening in on your self-talk.

And that self-talk is sticking to you.

Right.

And the thing that's crazy is this is something that's in our control.

We don't have to talk to ourselves.

Demeaningly right.

We don't have to constantly put ourselves down.

We can actually choose to reframe those negative, you know, sayings

that we're saying to ourself into something that's positive.

We can change that.

Oh, I'm such an idiot into.

Oh, man, I'm really smart.

Or, you know what?

I'm learning so much in this moment.

I'm going to remember this and become smarter so that the next time this

happens, I will be able to address that situation better and handle it better.

Right.

Like that reframing is massive.

Now in the beginning, when you're trying to change this frame

of thought and our self-talk.

It might be a little difficult and that's okay.

Right.

Anything for the first time it's going to be difficult, especially when

you've been doing something for such a long period of time in a certain way.

Right.

Old habits die hard.

So we have to be consistent and work on breaking them button.

Uh, but fortunately it is something that can be done and after

enough work, it will become easy.

Right.

So in the beginning, when you catch yourself saying

something that's demeaning.

That's the first step is you want to catch it?

You want to understand that?

Hey, I am having negative self-talk and that's not.

Okay.

So that's the first step you want to catch it?

Then the second thing is reframe it.

What are you saying to yourself?

That's negative.

And why are you saying that?

Okay now reframe that.

If it's you're being an idiot, well, change it into

you're an intelligent person.

And whatever the reason you're calling yourself an idiot for was just a mishap

and you are learning from that scenario and going to do better in the future.

Right.

It's very easy ways of reframing everything that we're saying to ourselves.

And another reason I'm really hitting on this.

And I really want you to understand just how important our self-talk is.

Is that you actually have somewhere between 60,000

and 80,000 thoughts per day.

And I can't remember the exact statistic, but it's something like over 90%

of those are reoccurring thoughts.

So if you are having some thoughts or self-talk, that is reoccurring

every single day and it's bad.

Self-talk.

That is almost going to become your persona.

It is going to become your personality.

It's going to become you.

If you continuously put yourself down and call yourself an idiot.

Very likely you're going to start acting idiotic.

You're going to do things that you expect yourself to do because.

Right.

You call yourself an idiot all the time.

So when we change that up, it can really do wonders for us.

It can.

For one, it will make you feel less like an idiot, right?

I'll make you feel better.

Good.

Self-talk can do massive things for you.

Um, in terms of, even if you think of like giving a public speech,

like you wouldn't want to have someone telling you that you're an

idiot, you're going to do terrible.

You're going to freeze up all these different things, right?

You want to be able to have someone at your side being your hype man saying,

look, you're going to go out there.

You're going to be confident.

You're going to do well.

You're going to deliver the speech perfectly.

You know, if you stumble at all, that's fine.

Catch yourself.

Like you want that hype man at your side, all to all at all times.

And you absolutely can have that in yourself, right?

You are absolutely in control of your self-talk.

You can be reactionary right away, but catch that reaction.

If it's a bad reaction and poor, self-talk turn it into a good response, right.

Something that's going to be constructive and help build you up.

It's something that's in your control right?

In this life.

There's very many, many, many, many things that are outside of our control.

I mean, honestly, there's actually almost everything is outside of your control.

Uh, except for.

You, you are within your control.

You control how you respond, how you show up what you say, what you do.

That is what you control.

So, this is literally something that is in your control out of all the.

You know, in fit infinite amount of things that are outside of your control.

This is one of the things that is actually in your control.

You can catch yourself talking poorly to yourself, talking down

to yourself, demeaning yourself.

And you can rephrase that.

You can turn it into something positive and you can build yourself up.

You can be your own personal hype man, which is what.

We all need, right.

We all need a flavor.

Flave at our side.

Just hyping us up.

And, uh, yeah.

So if you are having poor self-talk, I highly recommend that you just start

slowly working on at least recognizing it.

Right.

Recognize when you're having this poor self-talk.

And if you're able to please rephrase that, even if it's something simple,

you don't have to go super in depth if you're just, you know, like, I don't know,

saying you're bad at directions, right?

Like, oh, I'm terrible with directions.

Just put it into something like, Hey, you know what.

I'm getting better or I'm, I'm not that bad, right?

Like, Um, I'm doing better or if you're calling yourself an

idiot or whatever, it may be.

If you can rephrase that into, you know what, I'm actually pretty smart.

I'm actually a pretty good person.

Right.

You know, like find something to rephrase it at least a little bit,

and you can go further and further into how you want to rephrase that.

But in the beginning, just keep it simple and really recognize when you're doing it.

And you'll probably be surprised at how often you are putting yourself down.

So that's going to do it for today's episode.

It's a very simple, easy, quick episode, but nonetheless, I think there's a

ton of importance and impact in what I'm saying in today's episode, I

believe that this can have a huge.

Impact and shift in people's lives.

Uh, especially for someone who has really negative self-talk because

if you've ever seen someone with a really negative self-talk, I mean,

you can see it in their being.

You can literally see how they compose themselves, what

they think about themselves.

Right.

It keeps them from taking certain chances or putting themselves out there because

they just think so poorly of themselves.

So.

For that person, whoever you are.

I hope this message spoke to you.

That's my goal with all of these episodes is I just want to provide you with free.

Education and information on topics based around health and wellness.

And hopefully it's something that you can take and apply to yourself today.

And even if you don't have bad, self-talk.

Go ahead and just pay attention to when you are having self-talk and recognize.

Is there any negative self-talk in there?

Is there.

You know, is it completely a hundred percent good?

Self-talk whatever it may be, bring awareness to it and, uh, use this to

improve your mentality and your overall wellbeing and how you feel about yourself.

Right?

Cause you're an amazing.

Person you are here for a reason.

Literally, if you think of all of the circumstances that had to come together

for you to be here listening to this episode right now, it is insane.

I mean, the fact that you were born, the fact that the sperm got to

the egg, you were born without any issues you came out and you know,

you're alive, you're breathing today.

You woke up today.

Right.

You had lungs in your, or sorry you have air in your lungs, your eyes open.

Um, you know, you're able to be blessed with another day and eat food

and for some God forsaken reason.

You found this episode?

I'm joking.

I'm very happy.

Uh, that you found this episode and whoever turned you on to

it, or however you found it, I am super grateful for that.

But nonetheless, you found out about this episode, you found out about this

podcast and you decided to tune in today.

So for that reason, it's insane that, you know, you are here today listening

to this episode, and I hope that it made some impact and always remember that you

have so much to provide to this world and so much to bring to those around

you and your community and to yourself.

So never sell your soul.

Just never sell your shell.

Getting towards the end of the episode.

Y'all didn't uh, sorry, never sell yourself short.

You are an incredible powerful person.

You can do so much and you are capable of so much.

Always remember that.

Talk yourself up.

And go out there, tackle the day.

Uh get after it become better get that 1% better be a little bit better than

you were yesterday and i'm so grateful for all of you tuning into this episode

um as always connect to your elements and do everything with good intentions

Y'all i got so much love for every single one of you listening and i

appreciate you for tuning in Uh have a beautiful rest of your week and i will

see you next wednesday so have a great one until then and much love peace