Episode 4

FAITH WITH FRIENDS PODCAST

Health Communication Patterns and Ground Rules for Fighting Fair With Dr. Lidia Martinez

Communication is a process, and we can’t be perfect communicators in a day. Learning and practicing the techniques every day and being patient with ourselves and others go a long way. If we embrace healthy communication, we’ll have an audience and be able to resolve and fix conflicts. In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Lidia Martinez, a marriage and family therapist. Dr. Martinez is also a licensed mental health counselor and master’s level addiction professional.

During the episode, we talk about healthy communication patterns. We also dive into eleven ground rules that you can use to avoid and resolve conflicts in a Godly and biblical Manner.

During this episode, you will learn about;

[01:39] Why there was an increasing rate of divorce during the lockdown

[03:35] Different patterns of communication

[07:16] Eleven Ground rules for fighting fair

[33:00] Why you should always judge the action, not the motive

[34:51] Formula for adding an extra layer of communication when angry

[36:32] Communication as a tool for resolving conflict

[40:02] About Next week podcast, “21 things that can improve your skills “

[41:19] Uplifting scriptures and words of encouragement

[46:04] Moment of prayer

The 11 ground rules for fighting fair

#1 Remain calm (07:28)

#2 Express your feelings in words (08:23)

#3 Be specific about what bothering you (09:51) 

#4 Deal with one issue at a time (10:47)

#5 No hitting below the belt (12:57)

#6 Avoiding accusations (17:24)

#7 Try not to generalize (19:26)

#8 Avoid make beliefs or exaggeration (20:23)

#9 stop stockpiling your complains (24:44)

#10 Giving others the space to do things their way (26:32)

#11 Establish grounds rules (30:43)

Notable quotes

●      Loves keep no records of wrongs (Corinthians 13:4-8)

●      A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverb 15)

●      When you make accusations, you’re not going to get the response you want.

●      Be more solution-focused than problem-focused

●      What we feel in our heart comes out of our mouth

●      Always hold back the why and give people the benefit of the doubt.

Connect with Lidia Martinez

Website: https://www.drlidiamartinez.com/

Email: info@drlidiamartinez.com

Keywords:

Communication, ground rules, calm, accusations, biblical conflict resolution, personal growth, healthy communication, improve your marriage, deepen relationships, humble communication. 

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