Mother’s Day is coming. And if you've had a few Mother's Days that end with you getting into bed feeling totally wiped out and resentful, this podcast episode is for you. I’m talking all about how to create your best Mother’s Day plan for a day you actually enjoy!
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This Mother’s Day, I send my love to all the mothers. For the first mothers, the forever mothers, the motherless mothers, the childless mothers, and the not-yet mothers. I love you. I see you.
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Mother's Day has a way of ending up the OPPOSITE of ideal for most moms.
A lot of times, moms spend Mother's Day cleaning up the kitchen after a messy breakfast in bed, followed by a lunch that's focused on their mother or mother-in-law, and then capped off by a rushed take-out dinner with all the regular bedtime routine shenanigans.
I’m just going to say it - Mother’s Day is FOR moms!
Usually, two things keep moms from creating their ideal day: guilt and not asking for what they want.
I want you to know that it is okay to not want to spend every minute of Mother's Day with your kids. Getting breaks from your kids is actually super important, so if you want a few kid-free hours on Mother's Day, it’s okay.
You might also feel guilty about balancing how to honor your mom, mother-in-law, etc. with getting what you want from the day, too. It can be a lot of people to please, especially if you live in the same town. People-pleasing is not what Mother’s Day is about, and you might not be able to satisfy everybody. Think about what you want from the day and take it from there.
I want Mother’s Day to be amazing for you, so I’m going to help you work through these common obstacles and make a plan and design a Mother’s Day that actually feels good to you. One where you get what you truly want from the day.
It is your job to figure out what you want and then ask for it. Here’s how…
Step 1: Decide what you want
What does your ideal Mother’s Day look like? Take a few minutes to really think about this or journal on it. What do you really want? How do you want to spend your Mother’s Day?
Is it a break from kids? Time with your friends? Alone time? A visit with your own mom? A special family activity?
Do you want to sleep in? Shop? Go out to lunch? Spend time outdoors?
Step 2: Communicate your plan
If it's going to be a day where we honor and celebrate our experience as mothers and let the people around us honor and appreciate us, then we need to figure out a way to communicate what we want.
Talk to your partner (if you have one) about your vision for the day. Ask them if they think that plan will work. Are they willing to try something new if that’s what you want?
If there are other mothers involved, reach out to them and see what they have in mind for the day. If you’re hoping for a more relaxed day, ask if you can have a shorter visit or if they’re open to celebrating together on Saturday or a different weekend. If they aren’t willing to change their plans or expectations, can you take your ideal day a week later?
Having these conversations in advance is really, really helpful because it helps you get on the same page and make a real plan.
If Mother’s Day can be hard, the day after can be even harder. Even if you manage to have a wonderful Mother’s Day, you’ll probably still have what I call the Mother’s Day Hangover.
On Monday morning, when you walk into the kitchen and start packing lunches, getting kids up and off to school and doing your other regular parenting and work tasks, you might feel a little disappointed that life is back to normal. Your special day is over.
Or you might feel resentful that you didn’t get the Mother’s Day you wanted. Maybe your partner wasn’t supportive or your family left a big mess in the kitchen waiting for you.
This is the time to reset. Acknowledge and recognize those feelings. Sit down with a journal and write them out. Be honest about what happened and how you’re feeling. Let it pass through you. Take care of yourself and give yourself some compassion.
I also know that some of us are sitting with feelings of grief and loss on Mother’s Day (myself included). If this is you, give yourself a little tenderness and consider this when designing your day.
This Mother’s Day, I send my love to all the mothers. For the first mothers, the forever mothers, the motherless mothers, the childless mothers, and the not-yet mothers. I love you. I see you.
And I’m wishing you YOUR most ideal Mother’s Day yet.
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Well, hello. This week, I'm doing something I've never done
Speaker:Become, and I'm replaying an episode that I
Speaker:published when my podcast first came out, episode
Speaker:14. And it's about how to have a
Speaker:great Mother's Day. And I relistened to it a I think it's
Speaker:such a good episode a I wanted to
Speaker:really I care so much about Mother's Day, and I
Speaker:also may recently made this joke. I was like, the rest of
Speaker:May is payback for Mother's Day Become May is
Speaker:so insane for a, and it's like there's so much going on.
Speaker:And, it just made me laugh. And I was like, we really
Speaker:need to make sure that Mother's Day is amazing
Speaker:for us. Like, it serves us. It gives us what we need. It gives us
Speaker:what us what we want because we kinda need to bank
Speaker:that, like, self care in order to have capacity
Speaker:to get us through till the end of the school year. So
Speaker:I just love this episode so much, and I wanted to give it to you
Speaker:again. And I am wishing you just the best
Speaker:Mother's Day, and I hope you enjoy yours a ton.
Speaker:So here is that episode.
Speaker:Hello, everyone. Welcome to another episode of the
Speaker:podcast. I'm your coach, Darlene Childress. And a,
Speaker:I wanna talk about Mother's Day. So if you're listening to this
Speaker:in real time, Mother's Day is this coming Sunday.
Speaker:And I really wanted to help you
Speaker:design a Mother's Day that actually feels good to you.
Speaker:One where you get what you want from the day and then you actually enjoy
Speaker:it. Because if you've had a few Mother's Days
Speaker:that, you know, you're you've been a mom for a while, you know that
Speaker:some mother's days don't go that great. Right? There are times
Speaker:when we end up getting into bed at the end of the night feeling super
Speaker:wiped out and resentful. And so, if that has ever
Speaker:happened to you, then this episode is for you.
Speaker:Because what happens is Mother's Day, it has a way of ending
Speaker:up like the opposite of ideal for most
Speaker:moms. A lot of moms, what they do is they spend Mother's Day
Speaker:cleaning up the kitchen after a very messy breakfast in bed. So, it's
Speaker:like super cute. Your kids are a bring you breakfast in bed a then it's
Speaker:not really ever that great a. Maybe for you it is a
Speaker:it's never really been that great for me and for most of my clients. And
Speaker:then you finally, kinda, get up and the kitchen is a disaster. And it's like,
Speaker:well, what's this Mother's Day? Right? And then it's, like, kind
Speaker:of followed by a lunch or a weird brunch that's
Speaker:focused on, like, either your mother or your mother-in-law. It's,
Speaker:like, focused on a different mother that's not you. And then
Speaker:it's the day is capped off by, like, a rushed takeout dinner, and then
Speaker:you have to still do all the regular bed time routine shenanigans. Yeah? So,
Speaker:like, last year after Mother's Day, I was scrolling through, like,
Speaker:all the mom Facebook groups that I'm in, and someone wrote this
Speaker:post. They wrote, like, can we start a fuck mother's day
Speaker:post? Anyone else have a shitty day?
Speaker:So this mom a started this thread, and
Speaker:there were a bunch of comments that followed in that post. And here's some of
Speaker:the things a moms were saying. They're like, I spent my a
Speaker:day grocery shopping and cleaning and my kid taking my phone
Speaker:half the morning for his game. So she just worked
Speaker:all day and then didn't even have her phone for entertainment.
Speaker:Another mom wrote like, me, my sister let the cat in and
Speaker:it peed all over my shoes, and then my 9 year old asked me why
Speaker:I was wearing the same shirt I wore yesterday.
Speaker:Someone else just wrote a pretty tough day over here. Don't even really a
Speaker:revisit it or explain it. You know, another one's like grateful
Speaker:this day is over. Someone else, okay, for real. I need to cancel Mother's Day
Speaker:next year. And someone else calm, my problem with Mother's Day is that it's like
Speaker:every other day except I have different expectations.
Speaker:So, you know, we have she has these ideas like like help with
Speaker:kids and dishes and no one ever end up ends up doing
Speaker:that. So and for all of these
Speaker:posts, there were lots of people, like, liking and hearting and, like, me too
Speaker:and raising their hands and all of that. So a.
Speaker:Like, I want you to take back Mother's Day. If it's going to
Speaker:be a day where we honor and celebrate our experience as
Speaker:mothers and, like, we let the people around us sort of
Speaker:honor and appreciate us, then we are gonna need
Speaker:to figure out a way to communicate what we want. And that's what this
Speaker:episode is a. Because what moms tell me that they really
Speaker:a do is they want to sleep late so nobody
Speaker:really wants breakfast in bed if you're sleeping in because you want to be able
Speaker:to sleep as late as you want to sleep right They wanna stay
Speaker:in bed, like, linger in bed. That's like
Speaker:a mom's dream, really, because so often we have to
Speaker:get up and get right to kids or they're like in our
Speaker:bed and we're like, Here we go. And you gotta start the morning routine a
Speaker:all of that. So moms want to sleep late. They want to stay in
Speaker:bed. They want to have a long a shower.
Speaker:Maybe a spend some time getting ready properly. I want to
Speaker:spend maybe a spend maybe a few hours without
Speaker:their kids, like either shopping or getting a massage or being with a friend,
Speaker:and then doing something with their kids, something simple that actually
Speaker:works with their children, like a picnic dinner at the park. If grandma
Speaker:wants to come, great. And then be off duty for bedtime.
Speaker:This is what I'm hearing from moms. This is what they want. They just want
Speaker:sort of a day that works for them.
Speaker:So what keeps moms from creating their
Speaker:ideal day? So here's the two things that I see
Speaker:when it comes to Mother's Day that are the obstacles for moms
Speaker:in actually creating a Mother's Day that they like. So the first
Speaker:one is not asking for what they want so I'm a to talk
Speaker:about that one in a minute the second one is feeling
Speaker:guilt for wanting what they want
Speaker:so the first one is not asking for it the second one is feeling bad
Speaker:for wanting it so I want to clear up the guilt thing
Speaker:for a in the first place I want you to know
Speaker:that it is okay to not want to spend every
Speaker:minute of Mother's Day with your kids. A, you're with
Speaker:them a lot, and if you get a
Speaker:chance to have a break from your children
Speaker:and then miss them a little bit and then come back together, you're gonna
Speaker:feel a lot more grateful for them. Right? Too much of a good thing
Speaker:can become not so good of a thing. Right? So
Speaker:if you want time without your children on Mother's Day,
Speaker:you do not need to feel guilty about that. You do not need to think,
Speaker:Oh my God. I'm such a bad mom. I don't even want to see my
Speaker:kids on Mother's Day. That's okay. You're with them
Speaker:a lot. So getting breaks from
Speaker:your kids is super important it's actually one of the things I
Speaker:teach in my program because it it
Speaker:is vital that you have time off of
Speaker:mom duty that's part of becoming a calm
Speaker:mama is by having time where you
Speaker:aren't you know parenting so if
Speaker:that means having a a few kid free hours on Mother's Day
Speaker:and then you can enjoy the rest of the day with your kids, that's okay.
Speaker:Maybe you want some time with them in the morning, then you want a
Speaker:little break in the afternoon a then see them for bedtime, or maybe you don't
Speaker:want to do anything in the evening. You wanna kind of have that
Speaker:night off. Whatever it is that you want. If you want to have
Speaker:a break from your children, I don't want you to feel guilty about wanting
Speaker:that. The other factor
Speaker:that comes up a lot when when it comes to guilt is
Speaker:the guilt about balancing how to honor, like, your mom
Speaker:or your mother-in-law on the same day that you want to be
Speaker:honored. It's it's a lot of people to
Speaker:please. Right? Especially if everyone lives in the same town. You've got
Speaker:you as the mom who's actively parenting in this
Speaker:season of your life, the mom who is doing
Speaker:it right now, you, and then you have
Speaker:your mother and your mother-in-law who are
Speaker:ultimately grandparents at that point. Right? And
Speaker:they yes. We love and honor our mothers, and it
Speaker:can be confusing about who gets whose a day is
Speaker:it. So people pleasing
Speaker:is not what mother's day is about. Trying to figure out
Speaker:how to satisfy your mother, and your mother-in-law, and your stepmom, and all
Speaker:of that that it can be really difficult to satisfy
Speaker:everybody. So, when you think
Speaker:about Mother's Day, I want you to think about what it
Speaker:is you want. It's really
Speaker:important to ask for what you want, but before you can
Speaker:even ask for it, you have to get clear about what that is. So here's
Speaker:my question for you. Ready?
Speaker:How do you want to spend Mother's Day?
Speaker:What is your ideal mother's day I want you to spend a few
Speaker:minutes right now listening to this podcast or
Speaker:coming back to it or pausing it wherever you are and
Speaker:thinking or journaling about what an ideal a
Speaker:day would look like for you What do you actually
Speaker:want? The Mother's Day that I
Speaker:described earlier in this episode is really what I wanted when my kids were
Speaker:little. I wanted a big giant break from them
Speaker:because they were always around. I felt like I was on duty all the
Speaker:time. I also never had a chance to go shopping, like
Speaker:clothes shopping, or hang out with a friend. And so
Speaker:I wanted to do some of those things on Mother's
Speaker:Day. I wanted to have time to, you
Speaker:know but, really, I wanted to go clothes shopping a lot lot because I really
Speaker:didn't have much time to do that when the kids were little. So thinking about
Speaker:how you want to spend the day. So I wanted a little bit of time
Speaker:with them, a little bit of time by myself, and then, actually, I really
Speaker:wanted to spend time with my mom friends. So what we
Speaker:did when my kids were little is I'd spend time
Speaker:with them for a little while, and then I would separate from
Speaker:them. So I'd kinda send in the morning and early afternoon, a I would go
Speaker:do something by myself for a little bit, like, you know, go to the mall
Speaker:or something. I sound like I really love shopping, but I just never really had
Speaker:a chance to do it. And and then I would meet up
Speaker:with a friend for, like, a like a drinker, like a
Speaker:like a little mini meal. And we would just sit and
Speaker:chat on Mother's Day. And it was absolutely delightful to me.
Speaker:And my husband would be putting the kids to bed a then
Speaker:I would come home right at tickles and, you know,
Speaker:a. And I a have to do all the bedtime routine. I would just give
Speaker:hugs and kisses a then I would be able to have the evening to relax.
Speaker:That was my ideal Mother's Day for a really long time.
Speaker:And I want you to think about yours. It's if it's
Speaker:really important for you to spend time with your mom, then make that happen
Speaker:think about it if it's really important for your
Speaker:partner to spend time with their mom
Speaker:Have your partner think about it. So,
Speaker:first, your job is to imagine what you want.
Speaker:And then if you have a partner, go have a conversation with them
Speaker:and let them know what you would like. Ask them, hey, this is
Speaker:what I'm thinking. Would it work for you? Like, talk about
Speaker:past Mother's Day. Lay out what worked for you in the past and what you
Speaker:want to change a ask if they're willing to try something new this year.
Speaker:Maybe your partner has it in their mind that you're going to have this
Speaker:long family day and you're like I
Speaker:don't want to do a family day. I want to do a family day next
Speaker:Sunday. I want to just do like my day.
Speaker:So, having this conversation in advance is really, really helpful.
Speaker:Now, the other mothers, right? There's lots of other mothers involved. You've
Speaker:got stepmoms, your mom, mother-in-law, birth moms.
Speaker:So take a minute. Reach out. See what they had in
Speaker:mind. Kind of let your mother-in-law know
Speaker:like, Hey. I, you know, I would
Speaker:like to have some time by myself. I'd like to have some time with just
Speaker:my family. So, is it cool if we don't do Mother's Day
Speaker:on A, but we do it on Saturday or if we
Speaker:do it next weekend? So you
Speaker:can offer you can share what your ideal day is a then
Speaker:ask if you can spread out the celebrations over a few weekends or
Speaker:shorten the time that usually you usually spend together on Mother's Day
Speaker:so that everyone can get their desires met.
Speaker:I remember sitting with a mom years a, and it
Speaker:was it, it wasn't Mother's Day, but we were sitting together
Speaker:and she said to me that a this
Speaker:was the first time in her life that she had had Mother's Day and her
Speaker:kids were, like, 10 a a 12 or something like
Speaker:that. And they had recently moved to California and
Speaker:a their home state. And it was the she said, this is the first time
Speaker:I've had mother's day to myself. And I was like, what do you what do
Speaker:you mean? And she's like, every year, it's always been about my husband's
Speaker:mother. She hosts a big brunch, and we're there all day. And the
Speaker:expectation is that we're there all day a that, you know, I'm being a.
Speaker:And this was a person who's really introverted. And it took a lot of
Speaker:energy to be around someone else's family all day long.
Speaker:And she didn't know how to advocate or ask for herself or ask her partner
Speaker:for what she wanted. And it was only after they moved that she
Speaker:realized, oh, wow. I could have a mother's day that's
Speaker:just focused on, like, what I want. So
Speaker:we don't wanna hurt the other moms. Right? We don't wanna hurt your mom
Speaker:or your mother-in-law. We wanna honor them as well or your stepmom or whoever's
Speaker:in the picture. And, but also by
Speaker:saying I A you and I'd like to
Speaker:do things differently this year. Would you be open or willing?
Speaker:So, they may or may not be, and that's just a great way
Speaker:for you to get information a then find out if things
Speaker:are, you know, not gonna go your way. And it's not a, you
Speaker:know, it's not a I was gonna say a cross you wanna a, but if
Speaker:it's not, you know, a boundary you wanna hold up,
Speaker:that's fine. You could decide, like, okay. I planted the seed for in the future
Speaker:or, hey, a, my to your partner, I'm gonna do my own Mother's
Speaker:Day the following weekend. Like, I want my Mother's Day. Your mom isn't willing to
Speaker:give it to me or my mom's not willing to give it up. So I
Speaker:want Saturday or I want next Sunday. So
Speaker:you can still get that day of rest if you want it. A,
Speaker:all it takes to create what you want is getting
Speaker:clear about what that is and then asking for it.
Speaker:So it is your job to figure out what it is you want a
Speaker:then ask. Not feeling guilty for wanting
Speaker:it, not discounting what you
Speaker:want, but actually asking for it.
Speaker:So now here's here's the thing I wanna
Speaker:tell you. Even with the best plan,
Speaker:like, the perfect ideal A Day or even, like, a
Speaker:night a day that doesn't go right, like, whatever happens on mother's day,
Speaker:you will probably still have what I call the mother's day hangover.
Speaker:Right? So on Monday morning, you might walk into
Speaker:the kitchen and start to do all of your regular parenting
Speaker:tasks, getting lunches, getting kids up,
Speaker:getting kids shoes and socks on, backpacks packed, getting kids to
Speaker:school, getting back to work. Right? All your regular
Speaker:parenting tasks. And you might feel a little disappointed
Speaker:that life is back to normal. Like, you may be
Speaker:like, wait. Yesterday was great. I like, like, that version
Speaker:of my family where everybody helps out a everybody's really
Speaker:nice and everybody's really, you know, super like, my my
Speaker:partner's really interested in helping me and all that. And, like, you might just be
Speaker:like, oh, like, back to the reality of it. So
Speaker:mother's day hangover. Okay. Another thing could
Speaker:happen to you where you walk into the kitchen and you feel resentful because
Speaker:you didn't have a partner who was, like, really supportive and helpful and, like,
Speaker:got all into it and stuff. And there's dishes in the sink, and yesterday's breakfast
Speaker:in bed is still all over the counter. And, you know,
Speaker:you you just kind of feel resentful. You wake up and you're like, well, that
Speaker:sucked. Or maybe
Speaker:you woke up you might wake up feeling a little bit sad
Speaker:because maybe there was a conflict in your family
Speaker:or you didn't. Your kids weren't willing to take that a
Speaker:day photo that you wanted or they wouldn't smile or, you
Speaker:know, there was no sweet, I love you. You're the best mom ever a. Or
Speaker:you're looking on social media and you're like, I didn't have that.
Speaker:So I want you to acknowledge and recognize that
Speaker:sometimes the day after Mother's Day is not fantastic. I call
Speaker:it the Mother's Day hangover. It's very a, and
Speaker:it's just how it is. So mother's day can
Speaker:be hard a the day after can be even harder.
Speaker:And a
Speaker:want to and you want to reset that,
Speaker:you can overcome those big feelings
Speaker:by just acknowledging them, by recognizing
Speaker:that they're there and they're true. Because it's really easy
Speaker:to rationalize your feelings away and trivializing them
Speaker:or discounting them. I also think women tend to, like,
Speaker:gratitude themselves out of their emotion. Like,
Speaker:well, at least my kids gave me a hug
Speaker:or, you know, oh, I should feel grateful because I have children or I should
Speaker:feel great. We kind a, like, grateful ourselves out of
Speaker:our emotions, and that's just
Speaker:kind of rationalizing your feelings away without being really honest. If
Speaker:you're really truly grateful, awesome. But if you're not and you're using
Speaker:gratitude to avoid feeling your feelings, no.
Speaker:It is really easy to ignore our ignore our feelings by
Speaker:a ourselves, or eating cake, or binge watching
Speaker:inventing A. Guilty. But the truth is
Speaker:that when we avoid our emotions, we actually set ourselves up for more
Speaker:disconnecting behavior either with ourselves, our partner, or our
Speaker:children. And I I know you don't want that. Right? Because you a
Speaker:become a calm mama. So you want to feel connected to
Speaker:yourself and connected to your kids and connected to your partner.
Speaker:So instead of avoiding your emotions, just name them.
Speaker:Sit down with a journal and write them out write down I
Speaker:feel sad that my children didn't give me a card
Speaker:I feel resentful that I had to do housework on mother's day
Speaker:I am angry that my mother-in-law got more recognition than I did
Speaker:So you're a you're doing here is you're you're setting
Speaker:yourself up for as best a you can have. You're setting up
Speaker:your ideal Mother's Day and
Speaker:afterwards you're being honest with your feelings
Speaker:about what happened. Now this process of kind
Speaker:of writing out like I'm mad at so and so and I'm hurt and I'm
Speaker:resentful it might feel really petty a I'm telling you it's not.
Speaker:It's actually the opposite of petty. It's very deep and
Speaker:honest work. It's how we unravel some of
Speaker:our behavior because when we're, you know, showing up like all
Speaker:resentful towards our kids and it's the day after Mother's Day and we're kind of
Speaker:like get in the car. I get a little grumpy.
Speaker:Like, that's not how you want to show up. I know it's not.
Speaker:And so offering yourself compassion, self a,
Speaker:is the way to move you through your feelings so that you can
Speaker:be the mom that you wanna be. So, actually, I have a
Speaker:complete podcast episode on this topic. It's that
Speaker:episode 9 pause and reset your emotions a we'll link that in the show notes.
Speaker:So you can go back and learn
Speaker:really how to process negative emotion. So
Speaker:the coolest part about practicing self compassion
Speaker:a know, towards yourself is that the more you do it with
Speaker:you, the more you recognize and name your own emotion,
Speaker:the more you're able to offer compassion towards your children.
Speaker:The more in touch you are with your emotion, the more in touch you'll be
Speaker:in, you'll be with them, with their emotion.
Speaker:And so that practice of self compassion
Speaker:is really really important for you because it a feels really
Speaker:great to take good care of yourself and it helps you become the mother
Speaker:that you you know the parent that you want to be
Speaker:So the last thing I want to spend a few minutes talking about
Speaker:so we've talked about you deciding what you
Speaker:want and and mother's day, giving you permission to ask for that,
Speaker:giving you some strategies to figure out how to get that get make that
Speaker:a. Talked about the Mother's Day hangover,
Speaker:how it feels, kind of, the day after, depending on how
Speaker:things go, how to move through that emotion. Now, I want
Speaker:to talk about loss and grief. So
Speaker:my mom, she passed away in 2020, and this
Speaker:is my a Mother's Day without her a
Speaker:a Mother's Day this year falls on her birthday a
Speaker:so I am approaching this Mother's Day with a
Speaker:lot of extra tenderness towards myself.
Speaker:So when I think a, for me, this year, my ideals my
Speaker:ideal Mother's Day, it involves kind of a lot of
Speaker:laying in bed, a gentle walk in the woods,
Speaker:an early dinner with my kids,
Speaker:and an evening with
Speaker:our family. Like, that's what I want. But I know that all
Speaker:morning a early afternoon, I need to be
Speaker:alone this year and just kind of miss my
Speaker:mama, and I'm gonna give myself permission to
Speaker:do that. I may not need to do that every mother's day, but
Speaker:this year I've tapped in, I've thought about my ideal day, and I a that
Speaker:that's what I need. Now, this
Speaker:is also the 1st Mother's Day without my older sister
Speaker:who passed away in October, and I'm
Speaker:I'm thinking a lot about her children and how they're missing
Speaker:their mom and how painful this day will be for them.
Speaker:So if you've lost your mother or
Speaker:you know people in your life who've lost their mother,
Speaker:Mother's Day might be really tender for them, and we
Speaker:wanna honor and recognize that. There are
Speaker:also moms who have lost a child,
Speaker:And this day brings sorrow to them, because
Speaker:they're missing the people that they that
Speaker:they love. They're missing their children.
Speaker:Maybe that child, you know, was
Speaker:it was a miscarriage, or it was, you know, a child that
Speaker:died young or in maybe they're a grandmother and they're
Speaker:missing their adult child. Just honoring
Speaker:and recognizing that for mothers who've lost a child
Speaker:a, Mother's Day is very much a day that brings sorrow.
Speaker:There are also moms who are not parenting the
Speaker:children that they that were born to them, like first
Speaker:mothers, birth mothers. So we don't know
Speaker:everybody's story, but for some moms they're holding that.
Speaker:That part of them, they're holding that story. And they're grieving.
Speaker:There's also the stepmoms, and they
Speaker:don't always get an acknowledgement on this
Speaker:day, on a day. Especially if
Speaker:the the mother is still in the picture the other mother
Speaker:and so stepmoms don't always get a that
Speaker:they deserve on this day so this
Speaker:A Day I want you to hold space for you I want you to create
Speaker:your own ideal day. I want you to feel whatever you're feeling,
Speaker:and I want all of us to hold space
Speaker:for all the mama. And I
Speaker:am sending my love to all the mama, the first moms,
Speaker:the the first mothers, those who are celebrating their first Mother's Day,
Speaker:the forever mothers, the motherless mothers, the Childress
Speaker:mothers, the not yet mothers. I
Speaker:see you, and I recognize that today may not a,
Speaker:I keep saying today, that a day may not be the easiest
Speaker:day for you. And I want you to give yourself permission
Speaker:to allow for whatever emotion comes up. You
Speaker:have permission to grieve in your own way if you are grieving.
Speaker:If you're not grieving, you have permission to make Mother's Day
Speaker:exactly what you want it to be a to enjoy
Speaker:your kids and your life, and your partner,
Speaker:and anything that any part of your life that you love, you get to
Speaker:enjoy it on this day. So, I am sending you lots of mother's
Speaker:day love, and I am wishing that this
Speaker:is your your most ideal mother's day
Speaker:yet. Alright. I'll see you
Speaker:next week.