When dating, it is possible we’ve all been in a “pick me” mindset, and even though it is very common, life gets so much easier and enjoyable when we break free from this syndrome. In today’s episode, Becca is joined by a previous Dating in the Bae guest, Kathryn Ely, founder of Imperfect Thriving, to have an enlightening discussion around confidence, healthy boundaries and the most important pillar of self love: knowing what you want. Tune in and get your notepad and pen out, because Kathryn shares amazing ways to transform into a more loving, confident and authentic version of yourself!

Jump straight into:

02:03 - “I just want to impress them!”: Why trying extra hard to be liked by others is so common among both women and men in the dating world.

06:01 - Kathryn’s first 4 steps to get over the “Pick Me” Syndrome. (You’ll reeaaallly want to take notes on this one)

15:46 - How to prevent ourselves from falling into the classic Comparison Trap, and attract the right people into our lives.

18:59 - The final step: The importance of boundaries, protecting our non-negotiables, and always standing up for ourselves.

26:57 - The power of confidence, why we should never beat ourselves up for having feelings.

31:19 - How to deal with overwhelm more effectively, and why not having a plan will allow us to enjoy life at its fullest!

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