EPISODE RE-RUN

In this episode of 'Dare To Be Iconic,' Amanda shares her personal journey of overcoming perfectionism and the importance of daring to be oneself despite fears and societal pressures. She emphasizes the beauty of imperfection in shaping our unique identities and discusses strategies for embracing flaws and being kinder to oneself. By sharing examples from her own life, Amanda inspires listeners to recognize their own icon worthiness and to be 'imperfectly iconic.' Check out Amanda's journal 'Break Up With The Past Fall in Love With The Future,' available on Amazon, and join the radiant icon community at daretobeiconic.com.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome to Dare To Be Iconic: Join the Radiant Icon Community!

00:40 Defining Iconic

01:20 My Journey to Embracing Imperfection

03:26 The Art of Being Imperfectly Iconic

04:46 Owning Your Imperfections

06:47 Embracing the Unexpected

07:57 Next Steps: Dare to Be Iconic Mindset

Amanda Paolicelli:

What's up, radiant icons?

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And welcome back to Dare to be

Iconic, the podcast made for

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icons daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli,

and I'm so excited you're here today.

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But before we get into it, I dare

you to go to daretobeiconic.com

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to join our radiant icon community.

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And check out my Amazon storefront

linked in the show notes to check

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out my journal, Break Up With The

Past, Fall In Love With The Future.

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Now, I will die on the hill that

this is the year of the icon.

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So how can you be an icon?

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And what does the word iconic even mean?

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Are you ready for your tea

time sesh, radiant icons?

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Now let's get into the tea.

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Let's start off with what

the word iconic means.

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Now, in this context for Dare to

be Iconic, right, it's all about

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your own unique version of iconic

and daring to be yourself and being

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comfortable and confident in your skin.

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So when I say the word iconic, I

genuinely mean living authentically

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and true to you, and stumbling boldly.

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So how can you be an icon?

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You need to be okay with being imperfectly

iconic, so embracing your imperfections.

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And I know we all don't like that.

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Like literally owning up what

scares us and what we aren't,

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like, perfect in is one of the most

terrifying things anyone can do.

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But you know what?

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Dare to be Iconic all started for me to

share my story in hopes that it resonates

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with one of you radiant icons so that you

can dare to be iconic in your daily lives.

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So let's talk about how I struggle

with imperfection and how it really

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inspired this whole Dare to be Iconic

mindset and made me the icon I am today.

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My whole life, I've been a perfectionist.

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I have struggled with the concept

of being perfect and having to

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adhere to these standards ever since

I was, like, little baby Amanda.

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And a recent example would be when I

was filming my first podcast episode.

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So it was honestly early this week, and

I was just so hard on myself because it

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wasn't coming out the way I wanted it to.

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It wasn't coming out perfectly, and I had

this idea in my mind of what it should be.

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Like, it should be like all the other

self-improvement podcasts out there.

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It needed to be X, Y, and Z way.

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No.

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The, the whole point of Dare to be

Iconic, right, is to be iconic in

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my own unique way, and my version

of iconic isn't the same as everyone

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else in the market, and that is okay.

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So the way I'm gonna approach this

podcast is gonna be completely

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different than so-and-so.

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But I need to be okay with that

and normalize that just because

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it isn't the way that someone else

is doing it doesn't mean it's not-

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Perfect, in quotation marks, to me.

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So I just need to

embrace my imperfections.

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And I was really, really down on myself.

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After I had finished recording, I

was in such a depressing, messy mood.

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And my friend Danny would be so happy

that I said that, so shout out Danny.

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Um, but I was just like, "I should quit.

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I'm a failure.

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This is gonna suck.

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No one's gonna listen to me."

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And you know what?

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If this isn't their cup of

tea, that's okay, because I'm

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being authentic to myself.

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The way for me to be authentic to myself

is to just talk to the camera right

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here in my bedroom on this mic like

I'm talking to one of my best friends.

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Because that is the whole point

of Dare to be Iconic, is being

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authentic to me, and that's how I

shine and thrive in my iconic-ness.

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Let's talk about how to

embrace imperfection.

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So how can you be imperfectly iconic?

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This is a hard one for me specifically,

because I suck at giving myself grace.

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I suck at being kind to myself.

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I don't like admitting when I've failed.

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I don't like to admit that I'm

imperfect, but we all are, you know?

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So it shouldn't be something that

I'm ashamed of or embarrassed by,

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but I always get in my head about it.

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One way that we can be imperfectly

iconic and be the icons we are is

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by embracing our imperfections and

by being kinder to ourselves and

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giving ourselves grace and accepting

that we will fail, and that's okay.

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Think of imperfections

as a painting, okay?

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So every unsuspected stroke or

splatter makes up this beautiful,

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messy canvas that is our lives.

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Our lives shouldn't be perfect,

because life is imperfect.

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And that's okay to embrace

those imperfections, because

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that's what makes us iconic.

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That's what makes us unique and

beautiful and the icons that we are.

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So how do we get over that

hurdle of being imperfect?

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We have to own them and say them out loud.

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So I'm going to own my

imperfections right now.

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Now, my therapist would

say I'm a queen at this.

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I love to create unnecessary

chaos for myself.

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I love it.

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And as many times as my therapist

tells me, "Stop creating chaos

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for yourself," I will continue to

create unnecessary chaos in my life.

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That's just always gonna happen.

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I will overthink certain situations

and play them multiple times in my head

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because I just want them to be what?

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Perfect.

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Yes.

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So I create this unnecessary

chaos in my life that I do

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not need, but I do it anyway.

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So I need to start giving myself

grace when I do it and start

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recognizing those patterns.

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And I am getting better at

it, but it is a struggle, so

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that's an imperfection of mine.

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Another one would be right after

the breakup, I carried the shame

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that we talked about in episode one.

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Like, I was just letting this

narrative that my ex wrote of me

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dictate and define my entire narrative

and how I perceived myself and

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how I moved and went about life.

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I should have been kinder to myself.

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This was the first time I

was getting my heart broken.

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That is going to hurt, and I'm

not always gonna get it right.

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I was in this transitional period,

and I wasn't giving myself the

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grace and kindness that I deserve.

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I needed to do that.

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And another one that I can think of is

honestly right now with the podcast.

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This is something that I have dreamed

of for two years now, and it's

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finally coming to fruition, and that

is, like, the most exciting thing

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I've ever done so far in my life.

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That this dream is actually coming

true, and I'm, I'm creating and

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I'm making it happen, but I'm

not always gonna get it right.

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There is a learning curve with

anything new that you start, and

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you're not always gonna be perfect.

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I'm a CEO for the first time

in my life of my own company.

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I'm not always gonna get

it right, and that is okay.

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I have to accept that sometimes I'm

gonna fail, that sometimes it's not

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gonna go the way that I want it to.

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But it's happening the way it should.

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So in turn of that, I need to

trust my path like I trust an Uber.

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And I know that's a lot easier

said than done because trust is my

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word for 2024, and we are, we are

going through it right now, y'all.

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But we can talk about that later.

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But we need to start trusting

our path, and that's within

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embracing the imperfections

and being imperfectly iconic.

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That's how you be an icon.

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You need to stumble boldly, live

authentically, and dare to be iconic.

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Dare to be your own

unique version of iconic.

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Honestly, just appreciate the

beauty in the unexpected moments.

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We have to keep trusting this

beautiful painting that we're creating.

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Even if the strokes and the splatters

don't make sense at that particular

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moment, that is okay, because

everything is happening for a reason.

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So embrace it and trust the process.

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Trust that path like it is an Uber.

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I dare you to write out your

imperfections, cross them out, and

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accompany the lesson that goes with it.

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And for more, check out my

journal, Break Up With The Past,

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Fall In Love With The Future.

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All right, radiant icon, now that

we know how we can be an icon, next

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week we're diving into that dare to

be iconic mindset, the mindset where

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you can create the dream life that

you've always wanted for yourself,

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how you can step into your power, and

how you can be the icon that you are.

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If you liked today's episode, make

sure to leave a review, share it

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with your friends, and remember,

radiant icons, dare to be iconic.

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I'll see you next time.

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