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Celebrating 200 episodes! Sharing Our Most Talked About Episodes of 2023
Episode 2007th February 2024 • The ReLaunch Podcast • Hilary DeCesare
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Welcome to a landmark celebration, our 200th ReLaunch episode, where I take you on a journey through the transformative power of fresh starts and new beginnings. Listen in as we look back on the myriad of past ReLaunch stories from a diverse group of guests who have generously shared their insights and experiences. Each story underscores the potent influence of a well-executed ReLaunch and the ripple effects they have had on our collective pursuit of purpose and possibility.

Highlights:

05:15 - Dr. Ellen Vora reveals some practical tips to nourish your mental health (Episode 151)

12:35 - Bri Seeley explores the concept of becoming your future self (Episode 188)

18:12 - Eileen Wilder shares actionable insights for boosting your business's bottom line (Episode 169)

22:42 - Beatte Chelette imparts her three key questions that she asks in tough times (Episode 161)

28:04 - Mariel Hemingway shares a profound moment of Self Realization, sparking a mission to reassure others that they are already okay (Episode 168)

43:56 - Theresa "TGo" Goss discusses breaking free from the constraints of traditional platforms (Episode 155)

48:57 - Shannon McKinstrie delves into the business impact of social media and shares tips on effective Instagram funneling platforms, with Instagram (Episode 154)

53:39 - Diane Forster introduces her three step intentional living process called Love It (Episode 189)

01:00:07 - Amber Shaw dives into mindful planning in order to maintain a balance between healthy habits and the occasional treat indulgence (Episode 149)

01:06:03 - Bobby Vargas explores the biggest mistake many women make with makeup and permanent beauty treatments and it is not the products they are using (Episode 171)

01:10:55 - Heidi Kristoffer shares the moment she took a pause and decided what she was doing wasn't healthy for her anymore and started doing what she meant to be doing (Episode 174)

01:15:28 - Tori Archibald's introduces the superpower that we all need to develop - Self-belief (Episode 180)

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Hilary DeCesare:

Wow,just pinch myself. It is the 200th episode of the relaunch podcast. And I gotta tell you, it has been a wild ride. Think about that, whether it was 30 minutes or an hour of conversations, you are thinking right now to yourself, potentially, that's a whole lot of hours more than 100. And probably more like around 150 hours which I have been coming to you live. And every single week, and I have loved every minute of it. It truly I talk about being fired up, it lights me up to bring you incredible people that have amazing relaunch journeys and the stories behind what made them who they are today, and we went from the Silver Line relaunch to then just the relaunch podcast. And now we are entering into the second season. I know I'm like laughing because 200 episodes is that really one season, but we're gonna call it a second season. And I'm going to go even deeper. Now I'm going to be pushing even more. The comfort level of me making sure that what I'm getting people to say is new and fresh, and maybe haven't heard it from them. But also tying everything together, making sure that you understand the significance of what the story the relaunch journey is to how they have come out the other side. And what they're doing today that really deserves attention deserves you to know tips and strategies and what they're doing from a business perspective, entrepreneur, perspective, life mindset, you are in the room with these people, as we have conversations together. And so as I look forward, so excited to be thinking about our our next group of incredible people that we're going to be bringing on but right now, what I want to do is acknowledge 10, or maybe an extra one in there, from this last year 2023 That really these interviews stood out that they were so impactful to me. They were they were the beginning of brand new relationships, they seated others. And I thought I would do a recap of those so that you have the the highlights right here so that they would motivate you and ignite you and spark you into momentum into what you're going after manifestation is something that we all have the ability to do. But I want you to be so inspired by these conversations that you take action, micro actions, everyone tune in, tune into what is possible for you and tune out all the noise. Because as you hear from people, there are so many interviews I've done and I have asked them at the end. You know, would you go back and change what happened to you and we're talking some of the most unbelievable relaunches, just heart wrenching tears coming out of my eyes, not one person to date has said they would go back and change it. So let's begin this jam packed episode of the relaunch podcast and some incredible people that made the airways that much more incredible, exciting, and delightful. So I'm your host, Hilary DeCesare. And these are my favorite moments of 2023.

Hilary DeCesare:

You're listening to the ReLaunch podcast and I'm your host Hilary DeCesare, best selling author, speaker and transformational coach widely recognized in the worlds of neuro psychology and business launches, which cultivated the one and only three HQ method helping midlife women. Yep, that's me to rebuild a life of purpose, possibility and inspiring business ventures. Each week, we'll be diving into the stories that brought upon the most inspirational relaunches while sharing the methods and and it has secrets that they learned along the way, so that you too can have not just an ordinary relaunch, but an extraordinary relaunch.

Hilary DeCesare:

First up, we have Dr. Ellen Vora a board certified psychiatrist where she actually addresses the attention, economies impact on mental health. And she urges conscious and self loving navigation. For this information she offers practical tips from I love this catching morning sunlight on your face to using blue blocking glasses. Are you using yours? You're going to find out why. And that helps with nourishing that mental health. So listen away. Enjoy the clip.

Hilary DeCesare:

So, Dr. Ellen, what about I knew what you were talking about that blue light? What what is it about that light? That that really causes us to be like, I can't sleep I gotta grab my phone. I need to but yeah, as you said, which I which I love the whole do my notes that I need? What am I missing? So what is that? What is it about that that kind of makes us go crazy? Yeah,

Hilary DeCesare:

Dr. Ellen Vora: so our circadian rhythm our sleep wake cycle is cued by a number of different things activity level temperature when we eat food, but primarily the lion's share. It's cued by light. And this is actually a brilliant design. Because on that proverbial Savanna of evolution, it was by definition laid out during the day, and by just finished and dark out at night, and that orchestrates our hormonal Millia. Whether we're in cortisol state during the day, we can feel awake and alert, or that we secrete melatonin at night, which helps us feel sleepy. And in modern life, the script has flipped. We're indoors during the day. And then at night, we're doing scrolling. And our brain is getting these mixed messages. And thanks, Why sure I'm tired. I've been awake for a long time, it's probably bedtime, we pull out our son our phone. And it might as well be as though it's saying to the brain, good morning, the sun is rising, and it suppresses our melatonin. So one of the best things we can do to support sleep is to get very strategic about our light cues. And that starts first thing in the morning, making sure we get actual sunshine into our actual eyeballs that starts the clock. People call it a circadian walk. It's not through sunglasses, it's not through a car windshield, it's the real thing. And then after sunset through

Hilary DeCesare:

a window or do we have to be outside, it actually has

Hilary DeCesare:

Dr. Ellen Vora: to be outside to really be white of all of these will decrease the way the wavelengths of light are getting into our eyes and to a part of our brain called the suprachiasmatic nucleus. So it has to be the real thing. And importantly, if you wear glasses that have a blue lens filter, like for screens, you want to take the glasses off for a moment and let the real sun get into your eyes. But then what happens?

Hilary DeCesare:

Now I finally get why, you know, in in cities that have a lot of rain, we always hear about, you know, higher levels of depression, because what you're recommending is, and I live in Boulder, Colorado, you're recommending, Hey, wake up, and if there is sun rising, go out. And just is it okay, if we close our eyes and not look directly at the sun, but just close our eyes and let that let those rays at least hit your body?

Hilary DeCesare:

Dr. Ellen Vora: Yes, importantly, you want to sort of look in the general direction of the sun blink a little bit, squint a little bit, you don't need to be you certainly don't want to be hurting your eyes and staring directly at the sun. But you do want to be taking in that morning sunlight and if it's overcast or rainy, you need even more time outside in the morning. And then what happens after sunset is also critically important. And we used to be surrounded by moonlight and fire and these days it's the psychedelic light show of modern life we have ambient light pollution and screens and overhead lighting. So there are a couple of options here to protect the circadian rhythm. You're welcome to throw your phone into the ocean and move off the grid and raise chickens and homestead that's a great solution. Short of that I think blue blocking glasses are a pretty good harm reduction strategy. And it can block some of that blue spectrum light and then you're not suppressing your melatonin quite so potently.

Hilary DeCesare:

And so you're recommending we wear these blue blocker glasses as we are working on computer

Hilary DeCesare:

Dr. Ellen Vora: throughout the day. Most of all sunset until bedtime.

Hilary DeCesare:

Oh interesting. I was gonna say it's going to be a little difficult given that you know, even this show is a live show but we are on video if I'm wearing my my very fancy blue blocker glasses. And I was also laughing when you were telling this story that you know, dealt with directly. And it's like a medical warning don't look directly into the sun. And so you remember when you were young and the Eclipse, and you would make the cups and the teacher always said, don't look, and there will always be the wise guy that I looked, I looked, I looked. So I want to moving into, you mentioned at the very beginning about burnout, and that this has reached this all time high, and that we really are a generation of just we're exhausted, we're burned out. What are you recommending to your patients? And what are you seeing that actually works in regards to not getting to that place of burnout?

Hilary DeCesare:

Dr. Ellen Vora: Yeah, so there are some pipe dream wishes like that we had better work life boundaries, that we weren't always in positions that were understaffed, and boundary lists, and we were working all the time. These are nice things to work towards saying less doing less, or saying no and doing less. But what I find is a really effective intermediate strategy is to focus on the foundational aspects of our physiology. It's things like getting enough sleep, nourishing our bodies, and moving our bodies and having some connection with nature. When we do this, then at least our physiology helps us be resilient in the face of our stressors. And when we're not doing this, our own physical body becomes one more stressor, one more source of burnout in our lives. So I actually like to focus on the physical body first, and that's foundational, and then we can handle the stresses when it comes to burnout. I think it's also critically important just to recognize, we're living in the attention economy, which means our attention is the commodity being competed for by smart companies. They've done their homework, they know behavioral psychology, and they prey on our fear response and instill uncertainty and doubt and controversy, which makes us rubber neck and we give an increasingly large share of our attention. They get more clicks, more ad revenue, but our mental health and our burnout is the collateral damage. So it behooves us to navigate the information landscape eyes wide, open consciously self lovingly, and make sure that we're not just handing our attention over to every shiny fear mongering sensationalized headline.

Hilary DeCesare:

Ah, so good. Sometimes you just don't realize how a few simple mindful changes can actually really improve you in a day to day basis.

Hilary DeCesare:

So in this next clip, I welcomed Bree Seeley, a coach, TEDx speaker, and founder of Infinite HERizons, where she talks about the prevailing statistics actually discouraging change. And she delves into coaching techniques for new entrepreneurs, she emphasizes the significance of envisioning one's future self, you know how much I love this, your future identity. She details how this vision aids in decision making in the present, so cool. I love this impactful exploration of transcending limitations, and she then helps us build a strong foundation for our own personal growth. Enjoy this small segment?

Hilary DeCesare:

What's the best way to really get into the right mindset, because the statistics out there, of course, they still put these things out, which by the way, it's changing. We're just not hearing enough about it, because they still want us to be, you know, held in this vise grip of like, no, no, no, no, keep doing what you're doing. How do you how do you coach people through this?

Bri Seeley:

You know, especially if it's a new entrepreneur, I mean, I really just help them continue to tap into what that future self looks like. In fact, I'm actually I'm getting ready to launch a new program that's just around becoming your future self. The more that you can understand who that person is and how they operate and what they believe and the way they make decisions and like, the more that you can get that understanding in that knowing and see yourself already doing it in the future, it's easier to make that decision in the present moment. So that's one of my favorite things to do. I do it through visualizations. I do it through hypnosis. I do it through asking really great questions and sales calls. And even helping entrepreneurs, women who are already entrepreneurs say yes to that next level. It's a similar thing. It's like we really have to get that vision like and are you willing to trust that because you have that vision in your heart, that you're going to be able to do what you need to make that vision visible from your eye? eyes as well, too.

Hilary DeCesare:

Okay, I'm gonna add this is so awesome because just recently I had a group of women coaching call. And one of the women said, so help me understand if I am creating this future version of me my my new identity in the future where I have this company and I'm impacting, and I'm growing it and I'm showing up as my, you know, she said, Three HQ version of myself. But how do you cross the chasm between where they are today? And where they want to go? What do you how do you coach people through that?

Bri Seeley:

This is one of my favorite things. So I stopped, we stopped seeing them as separate from us. Because they're not separate from you. So the whole thing about understanding how your future self makes decisions, is not just to know how they make decisions, it's so that you can start making decisions in that way. You once you know your future selves perspective, their belief system, their thought patterns, you literally get to start seeing through their eyes, and then there is no separation, you're not going to your future self. She's not out there somewhere in some faraway land, you're not taking a journey to go find her. She's already within you. So it's less about going to her or you know, figuring out like any of that stuff. It's it's truly about becoming her. And like so many I'm doing a webinar this week. I know our episode will come out after this but it's called like becoming exponential. And it's like really, the new program is called like the Beyond Boundaries blueprint. And it really is all about like, how do we break through those boundaries within us that are holding our future selves down and keeping us from operating like her acting like her walking like her talking like her believing like her thinking like her seeing through her eyes making decisions like her. Because once you can do those things, you are her.

Hilary DeCesare:

That is so well said. And the way I love there is no separation just like there is no separation of all you being you the women that you have been to get to where you are right now. It's built up. It's that foundation. It's building yourself. It's building blocks. There is a part of that G zone that I talk all about. You hear me talking three HQ head heart, highest self, the headquarters of you as the most important thing to you to the planet right now you got to be all about you first. So that then you can impact others, but the G Zone your great zone gratitude zone. You've got your growth zone. Right.

Hilary DeCesare:

Don't forget about the goal zone too. But let's talk growth. God that was so huge. Ah, thank you Bri.

Hilary DeCesare:

But next up, let's talk a little bit about your business. And I was joined by author and founder of speaking school, Eileen Wilder. She is somebody that I admire so much a true powerhouse. And she shares actionable insights for boosting your business's bottom line and she dives into the importance of high ticket offers. Right? No more low, low ticket. Let's let's uplevel your value. She stresses the idea that not having a 10,000 30,000 even $100,000 offer means that you might be leaving money on the table. If you don't make the offer. No one can take it. How true is that? Enjoy this clip with Eileen, I want people to have a takeaway right now. You have perfected what you did that day. You have perfected the general course that you were selling at that point, the 21,800

Eileen Wilder:

and it was not perfected. I can go into that.

Hilary DeCesare:

It was not. But I want to know the most important takeaway and what people could put into what they are doing right now that would impact their bottom line. Their profit margins. The

Eileen Wilder:

two takeaways are if you're not doing high ticket, you're leaving money on the table.

Hilary DeCesare:

Here that every other way to say create a high ticket offer

Eileen Wilder:

if you do not have a $10,000 a $30,000 a $100,000 or higher offer you're leaving money on the table because offer you don't make it No one can take.

Hilary DeCesare:

Did you hear that? The offer that you don't make? No one can take and I'm sitting here, I don't have 100k offer. You don't. It's just hey, come on everyone challenge. We're challenging you right now you have

Eileen Wilder:

to objectify it. It's not personal. It's just map. If you don't have the offer, no one can take the offer, so you never know who you're going to be speaking to. So you should have like what I did, Hillary was I printed out on my apartment wall a piece of paper that said, $10,000 $30,000 I think I probably did 20,000 hours because I must have I made that offer at 21 820 $1,000 100,000 hours. And I would just write on these pieces of paper, just little notes, when ideas would come to me what could be in that offer?

Hilary DeCesare:

You know, it's great, Eileen, is that tomorrow? My team flies and we're doing our annual retreat. This is the first part of the day. Like,

Eileen Wilder:

why not? And I once thought about it, and I was like, you know, there isn't like high ticket offer police. That could be like, No, you can't. What I mean, like, it's

Hilary DeCesare:

like, what is holding? What is I'm going to say what's holding me back? I guess me so I'm in is there is no high ticket police it

Eileen Wilder:

just kind of like the introduction. And many times it's just we just haven't thought about it. We just haven't really focused the mind upon it. So everyone listening like why just why not? And then and then like, take it one step further and be like, how much fun could I have? Like, what cool stuff could I put inside this offer that I would love to be a part of to deliver on? Like, one of my clients was like, Eileen, can I like Oh, to my to my course like an A castle? I'm like, off. Yes, yes.

Eileen Wilder:

So you know, like, you know, tell me what it is I want to come. So I think just having that

Hilary DeCesare:

so funny. I'm sitting here as you just said, and I'm like I want to come like that would be a really cool place to get whatever you're teaching whatever transformation whatever result you're going for do it in a really cool location. Yeah, love it.

Eileen Wilder:

So bring play bring fun like just bring an energy to it. That's not heavy because offered creation and offer delivery should feel fun.

Hilary DeCesare:

Okay, did that get your wheels turning event? Right? It was big. Eileen is huge, so good. But it can sometimes seem a little bit overwhelming.

Hilary DeCesare:

Before you continue, you mentioned at the beginning, right multiple relaunches. Yeah, you just heard everyone. You said you're broke. You're an immigrant, your husband that you're going through, you know, divorce, divorce alcoholic, you're a single mom, you want to support your daughter. I mean, that in itself, right? Multiple multiple multiple relaunches and before you start to continue, is it was it just innate in you that you were going to see your your survivor? That's what I when I hear you talking about this, you have something that is ingrained in you that you're gonna get knocked down, you're gonna get up again. But what how do you what do you what do you lean into to be able to do that? Is it your faith? Is it spirituality? Is it like, what is it for you?

Hilary DeCesare:

And in the next clip, we're going to help pull out of you that doubt when you're feeling overwhelmed. And during this amazing interview with growth architect and founder of woman's code. Beate Chelette explores the intrinsic resilience, resilience of her she delves into the mindset that actually propels her through some of the challenges that that literally could have flattened others. Beate shares a powerful mantra and it is I will not drown in a puddle. I will not drown in a puddle and reveals three key questions that she asks in tough times. You got to hear these three. The conversation actually takes a relevant turn as we discuss navigating uncertainties in today's changing landscape. So check this out.

Beate Chelette:

I will not drown in a puddle.

Hilary DeCesare:

How good is that I will not drown in a puddle.

Beate Chelette:

So good. There's three things I asked myself is what I'm trying to do possible. Well, if somebody else does it, it's possible. And my second question is, if it's possible, then is it possible For me, well, I mean, if it was possible for somebody else, it should be possible for me to. So that's a yes. And then I then my next question is, how can I make it happen for myself? Like, what do they do? That I'm not doing? And these are really tough questions to ask, you know, especially right now. So a lot of people are now in this, what do I do? What do I do? What do I do? Fines are, you know, putting jobs on hold, things are canceled? I am not making the money I was making even last year everybody's talking about the recession, the media, you know, when it when it bleeds, it leads. So it's all negative, negative, negative. And it's like, almost like, you know, everybody's going like, I'm gonna just wait one more time. What do you do? And so you have to now go and say, is what I'm doing working? That's a yes or no question. Because it either is, or it is not. I had to ask myself this question, literally, about two months ago. And I said, Something is not working. And I am going to have to force myself to look at this. And I did. And so I realized that I needed to get, you know, my, my q4 goal was leads my q1 goal was sales for this year, and to get the sales process figured out, because it's, it's not working. Not the way I want it to work.

Hilary DeCesare:

Okay, now, you know, let's be honest, everybody. I mean, I'm raising my hand as well. You know, we all things are changing so fast that you're, you're calling us out on the table.

Beate Chelette:

Yeah. But But that's, that's what it needs. I mean, we said we were going to rip the band aid off. So let's just rip it off all the way with the hair and everything attached to it, and of whatever the trail

Hilary DeCesare:

just got laid. We all just winced.

Beate Chelette:

Yeah. And so so then you look at this, and you say, Okay, now, if I really were to look at my cash flow, add my numbers, and what's on the book, it's what's in the pipeline, where the leads are coming from how my conv ersion rates are.

Beate Chelette:

And then you go, you know, in the gym this morning, when it was listening to my music, I was doing my workout, I felt really great. And now that I'm looking at these numbers, I'm not feeling so great anymore, because I feel that there's something looming here. And that is, I'm going to have to make a change or something will happen the ship is sinking. So now what are the options the options are? And this is what you asked me? What do you hold on to when other people back off, I double down.

Hilary DeCesare:

I will not drown in a puddle. Since this interview, I continue to use that mantra. It is so good, so profound, so important.

Hilary DeCesare:

Next up is the amazing Mariel Hemingway, an actress, author and mental health advocate. And it is in this clip, she actually shares a profound moment of Self Realization, sparking a mission to reassure others that they are already okay, how good does that sound, she's going to tell us that we're okay. And that we possess the power to live all of our best lives. We're going to go on and explore societal pressures, personal challenges, emphasizing the journey towards self discovery. And that place of self love. Remember I talked about like, you know, self sabotage, and we can't just jump to self love. Sometimes we got to, you know, not be the Evil Knievel and try to do the Grand Canyon all in one you gotta go self sabotage, to self like to self love. We're going to be getting into that and hearing what Mariel has to say.

Mariel Hemingway:

I was like, Holy crap. I am okay. Right. It was that moment. Was that? It? I guess it was it was the beginning of a relaunch. Right? It was a beginning of an understanding that I am okay. And then I realized over several years after that time, that I'm okay. applies to everybody. Everybody's okay. Right. Everybody's not broken. Everybody's not their worst self. They just haven't found the way to get to their best self. It's like working with you and this, you know, the H What do you call it

Hilary DeCesare:

three h Q,

Mariel Hemingway:

three HQ. Doing that you find what already exists inside you. This is not new. It's not new to your soul to your unconscious mind. It's just maybe new to your habitual daily life. Right? And then you may Make it habitual make it you make it part of your everyday you make it part of your blood, right? So I realize that kind of part of my mission was to just go out there and say, Hey, everybody, it's okay to get help. But you're already okay. You're already beautiful, you're already loved, you already have a great body, you've already got everything you think you're searching for is in you. Now, let's help you find the way to get there. And that's kind of what I feel. My journey has been about I'm I'm always like, how do I get to be a better version of myself. And that's my first book was called Finding my balance. And, and that's kind of what I think about every day, I'm always finding my balance every day is a journey of

Hilary DeCesare:

how do I feel? So when I think about, you know, and as you said, the three HQ, it's, you know, the head heart herself. And I always look at herself, that best version of you. And we think of it as you have this wise woman inside you. And she's trying to talk to you. But we're not letting the that that we can't hear what she's having to say, because we're so tuned out. And, you know, I love the Dalai Lama's saying to you, you know, you're okay. And for so many of us, we're searching for somebody to tell us. You're okay. But why is it in your, in your mind and your understanding? Why is it so freakin hard? To let yourself know that you know what you are? Okay, exactly where you are doing exactly what you're doing? You know, I

Mariel Hemingway:

think it's, you know, I think it's hard because we live in a society that demands that we're performing all the time. And we and I think we are brought up I don't know. I don't know about you. But I grew up in a generation that define themselves by how other people thought of you. I mean, especially I was in the movie industry and modeling. And it was always about what I look like I, you know, I didn't approve of myself unless somebody like hordes of other people approved of me. And it wasn't until I went, Wow, I get me, I actually love me, I couldn't have said that 20 years, 25 years ago, it just, it couldn't have happened. It was too scary. Right? It was too scary to say that it felt wrong. And I was brought up to believe that that was almost like an arrogant way to be and I was so scared, I'd be arrogant, or, you know, whatever it is, I think. I think trauma from our childhood prevents us from allowing ourselves to say, Hey, I am okay. And I am I am the orchestrator of of my show, right? I get to, I get to guide this ship. And I don't think we're given permission. And I just want to tell everybody, you've all got permission to live your best life. Right?

Hilary DeCesare:

Everybody hear that? Right now? A llama doesn't have to say it. Nobody else needs to say we just heard it. Marielle says you are okay. You can live your best life, you can live what you're supposed to. And you said something really interesting about childhood. And we're pretty much you know, you and I are, you know, very similar in our age and what we're trying to do and how we're trying to impact people. And I do think it is truly so valuable that when people hear this idea of like things happen in our childhood, right? You had childhood trauma that happened to you that you have been, you know, sorting through your whole life. I had a very successful orthopedic surgeon dad, who was very much number one love was his profession. And so I was always searching for like, Hey, I'm over here, like, you know, and I'll never forget, he said, um, he said probably about maybe when I was in my early 20s, he said, Wow, you were, you know, in God love my dad. He just says it as he, he hears it in his own head. He said, You were really an ugly duckling. And now you've really, you've kind of turned into this swan and I'm like, Ah, yeah, thanks. You know, and I remember this because my brother and I just got together and I said, you know, he was kind of commenting about, you know, the non existent parent and how he's really trying to do the opposite of that and how I really took my kids and I thought that was really insightful. What I remembered about my childhood and And how I was just yearning. I just wanted approval. And I know you had childhood trauma. I know that your mom ended up getting very ill. And you said in interviews, and I did you know, I watched that running from crazy and how you said, you know, you spent most of those formative years as a caregiver. So what what are you like when you think about that time, and you also said in the, in that wonderful documentary, you talk about, that you even looked at your kids outside playing, and you're almost jealous of that free spirit that they had. Help us understand how you have been able to deal with some of those, those traumas that are very impactful, and it still allowed yourself to have relaunches and have generational relaunches with your kids.

Mariel Hemingway:

Yeah, thank you. Yeah, it that was, it was that was a turning point, that was probably a big turning point in my life is that I think not so much when I was seeing it. But when I realized that that's how I felt, right? feeling jealous of your toddlers, or your three or four year old, five year old, six year old kids who are out there giggling and playing. And I didn't know how to do that. I hadn't done that as a kid really that often. Because I felt, and this is not all poor Marielle none of that I this was my family, I love them. So I decided that I was going to fix them. At seven years old, I made this choice, I'm going to be the fixer, I'll like clean up messes and drunken nights and broken glass and blood on the walls, I'll fix it, I'll clean it up. And then we'll have we have a chance to be better, healthier, and happier. But what it did is, you know, and I'm sure there's so many of your, of your people in your tribe who will relate to this, you know, it's it's, it's that thing where you, your childhood kind of gets, it gets, you know, stopped in a way you become an adult far too soon. And you know, I just had a grandchild, like literally a month ago.

Hilary DeCesare:

Congratulations.

Mariel Hemingway:

I know, it's super cool. And, and I think about how, you know how I keep sending my daughter things about just play just have to, you know, like, I want to know, you know, I mean, she knows, she knows that. There were times in her childhood where I was trying to organize things and make things right and perfect. And this and that, and the food. And, you know, when I had two daughters, each one got four grapes. And, you know, so there was no, but it was like I wasn't when it came down to like, go outside, just hang out and play and play on the swing. I was looking at my watch, wondering like, how much longer is this? Not because I didn't love them. And because I didn't enjoy their joy. I didn't know how to partake in that. I didn't know how to participate. It was so sad. So cut to I have a wonderful life partner, Bobby. And we've been together now, like 14 years. And I remember when I first like literally first going I think we'd been going out maybe two, maybe three months. And one day he's like, let's play hide and seek and I was like, That's so great. And I also have to say that we're he, he was negative than I was. And first of all in sanely embarrassed. I was like so I think I've my entire body went like read and and he was like, I was like, you know, like it just felt like I had no control over how I was going to look in awkward position.

Hilary DeCesare:

It was just good for him.

Mariel Hemingway:

He was amazing. I mean, he goes, Oh yeah, you can so off. He went and he hid right. And I'm like, I'm embarrassed. I'm like, oh my god, this is

Hilary DeCesare:

so good.

Mariel Hemingway:

What's really taught me how to play. And now we play red light, green light. You know, we do things on the beach. We laugh every day we have a belly laugh that is, you know, you think that we were certainly not 60 years old, right? We would not think that we laugh all the time. We're always if we go to a restaurant, you know, the proprietors will often come over and you keep it down and we'll just the two of us and Like, we're playing games, it's crazy. But that play that play that I didn't. In other words that saying you're never too old to relive your childhood or whatever it is, it's true. You get this is just a choice. We just decided we're adults, we just decided that we were getting towards senior citizens. I don't even know what that means. Like, that's not gonna happen. I mean, when we're 105, it's just never gonna happen. Because because we've made the choice that life is all about, you're never, you never stop growing. So getting back to your original question about relaunch, I honestly feel like this is the beginning of my life. Our lives are

Hilary DeCesare:

I just got chills for you. It's so good. Because too many people are so serious that they can't laugh at themselves. They can't laugh in situations. I mean, you know, when I start working with people, and I can very quickly give them like a one to 10 on the serious meter, right? That 10 is like, whoa. And the first thing I asked them to do, I'll be like, okay, belly laugh. When was the last time you actually had a belly laugh? And people, you know, I go from there. And they're like, Well, I haven't really had a belly laugh in a while. I'll be like, the last time you just laughed, like, oh, we need to start back at the basics. Like, let's just go back in time. And I really like the idea of you said, Bobby, Bobby brings that out my husband II, he does the same for me. When my mom passed. I felt like, my my other half my laughing my my joy, my, the fun element, we had more belly laughs together than I've had with any one else ever. And so I said to my husband, I said, you know, you just don't, you're not you don't you don't enjoy life as much as my mom. And you said, Oh, really? Is that a challenge? Because I'm going to take you there. And since then, I mean, it's been like you challenge someone to enjoy life more. You challenge on like, where's your belly laugh, like, you know, Matthew McConaughey says, You got to exercise every single day, right? You got to have a sweat, ice, you got to have a laugh. You got to laugh. It's the best therapy and I know, you're, you're all about mental wellness. And God, how important do you think that is? And why do you think we become so frickin serious?

Mariel Hemingway:

Well, you know, we do live in a world that wants you to believe that it's all like, you know, tomorrow, it's all gonna be over and you know this and that, you know, like, cover yourself up because God knows what's happening. And for me, it's just like, No, I'm not going to and that's not a that's not saying it's not political. It's not a belief. It's just like I refuse to allow the outside society or or maybe it's even corporate society to determine how I'm going to lead my life.

Hilary DeCesare:

So good Muriel, so good. And I've just enjoyed getting to know you so much. I just I admire I respect you so much. I actually was a huge fan of your grandfather in high school and did my my senior project on him. So it was really quite a quite a pleasure to get to know you with the podcast segment and also some of the other things so amazing. So with challenges you all know about my tuning process.

Hilary DeCesare:

And in this next clip, I talked to my dear friend, Teresa goddess, otherwise known as Tico. That's what we're all calling her. She is a media producer, host author. She is also a co host to the ReLaunch Reel, which we are working on together it's going to be launching on her brand new incredible TGoTV, this big network, it's going to be on all the smart TVs. It is going to be the next evolution of where media is going. And I actually in this specific clip I'm taking her through this actually episode I'm taking her through the tune in process, where her micro action step leads us into the talk about the future of media. You got to know where it's going What's the focus on television, digital revenue channels, transformative impact of how AI comes into all this. So join us as we discuss breaking free from the constraints of traditional platforms, right? Can't keep going forever, there's always something new coming out. She's going to talk about the rise of self publishing and the exciting possibilities that lie ahead in the world of media creation, all while tuning in, enjoy this clip.

Hilary DeCesare:

Where do you think even because, you know, where's TV going, where's media going? What's happening?

Hilary DeCesare:

Theresa "TGo" Goss: Well, it's already happening, but it's going to be even bigger. You don't think right now that, you know, they took the cable and tight on payment, pretty much people are not the cable on cable, I like now they're streaming now they're doing all of that. But there's all of these, like broken type channels that are coming up. But the new technology and with AI and all of that television itself is gonna make me wrong, you can feel it, but it's gonna make a rebound the way it used to be when I was a kid, because I'm a little bit older than you. And it'll be are all in the

Hilary DeCesare:

mid zone. I have to say Brene, Brown said middle age is 35 until you're dead. Pipeline girl.

Hilary DeCesare:

Theresa "TGo" Goss: So in the near future, I absolutely believe that, remember, the old revenues, we're gonna have digital revenue channels all over the world that people are creating, and being able to pipe into and not be dependent on the giant social media platforms that are out there right now. Because right now we're pretty much a slave to a different rhythm. We're a slave to cable. And before now, it's big social media platforms. And platforms decide that your your page or your channel doesn't fit with their new guidelines, they can just take you away. And I know a couple of people that have had millions of people following them. And then they got an email saying, you're outside the guidelines, you're gone. And they were out of business, I have heard that chair,

Hilary DeCesare:

not just one or two, there are Yeah,

Hilary DeCesare:

Theresa "TGo" Goss: there, there's gonna be a way to bridge traditional television, with social media the way it is, and create your own platform yourself that you can spread to the world, or just so local region, if you're in Chicago, and you only want to be in Chicago, you can digitally create it so that you're only in Chicago. So I think that's where it's time,

Hilary DeCesare:

I think that this is going also, when you think about, you know that I just read your book, we've talked about that where you live, start devoting your life, and you have traditional publishers. And I think of those as being kind of the big, the big stations, the big, the big boys out there, big, big morning, I really want to say, and then you've got hybrid, where you have the ability to self publish, but you have a publisher that helps you along, and then you have self publishing. Do you think that the way media is going is that it's going to be a lot like that, where there's going to be the ability to self publish to self promote to self create your own media channels? Yes.

Hilary DeCesare:

Theresa "TGo" Goss: We' re already doing Yeah. What are you doing? You know, and it's like, thanks to companies like Amazon and others, you know, it's really easy to self publish, but with digital platforms. You know, you don't need and you can leave it up to that person, if they want to turn it into print or not. What was augmented reality and artificial intelligence with all of that?

Hilary DeCesare:

It is a constant shift, isn't it? It really is start was so powerful. Now you know why I just enjoy being her co host, you know, continuing to build so much incredible content experiences for all of you. So keep, you know, going to the Instagram, the relaunch code, because we'll have a lot of those right there that you can actually get involved with not just in the airways, but in person went

Hilary DeCesare:

Now this actually brings me to my next guest Shannon McKinstrie. She's a social media strategist for business owners. And Shannon delves into the business impact of social media platforms, with Instagram, which is her top choice for building connections and successful funnels. So as social media marketing is changing by the hour she actually shares tips on effective Instagram funneling, highlighting the role of email marketing, listen in on how you can leverage Instagram because this is not just here. Now this is where the future is going. And you need to know this so that you can be visible. Let's go let's start here. Your What is your favorite platform that you think can make the biggest difference for your business?

Shannon McKinstrie:

I mean, I Instagram hands down. Tick tock, of course is what everyone's talking about. I'm there I'm loving it. I I have actually had some really good conversions on there. But what's interesting and I've looked all into this even people I know in Tik Tok with huge followings and smaller followings on Instagram, they convert more on Instagram. My theory is that we're still learning Tik Tok. And we're it's we still have a guard up a little bit with the people, we follow Instagram, we've been following a lot of these people for years, we trust them, we'll throw our money at them. But tick tock, it's still like a lot of these people are strangers to us. So that could be one thing. But I know for me, and my clients and stuff, no matter I have clients across the board, you know, brick and mortar places, service providers, Instagram, Instagram, Instagram, is especially because it's very easy to build your funnel with Instagram.

Hilary DeCesare:

So for those that don't have a clue of what you're talking about, yep. What, what is the right way to build a funnel on Instagram?

Shannon McKinstrie:

So I'm big into email marketing to email is where I mean, it's incredible if you can get someone on your email list, like that's a big deal. And using Instagram stories, so really build that connection because here's the thing. We are following people at the end of the day, even if we're following Nike, we want to follow the people. Right? I tell everyone, if you want to see how social media is changing, go on tick tock and go to brands like I don't know American Eagle Wendy's. You wouldn't even know what they're selling the product comes second. Its people its people trying things on. Yes, they're putting the clothes on or they're eating the food, but you're listening to the person watching the person etc. So Instagram is so personal Tik Tok has been like that, too. But when Instagram first started out, it was personal. It was our friends, our families, we were showing our coffee, the ocean, like, we didn't know what you're doing. We were just taking pictures in the moment throwing it up with a cheeky caption and calling it a day. Right? Right. It's a business and then we were all like, sell, sell, sell. And from the beginning, I was like you guys, no one's on Instagram to buy things they're in there they are to follow people. And if you can get them to trust you as a person, they will then buy your thing. So with your funnel, you know, I always tell people like, you don't need to go off the bat and start selling just start connecting with people. And and what's

Hilary DeCesare:

the best way? What's the best way to connect? And I've I've heard often that stories is where you can just be you. Yes, that's where you can just like, you know, show what you're eating show where you are, show what you're doing. Give a little of that like, craziness of you? Yes. But you don't want to do that in your posts

Shannon McKinstrie:

a little different. Right? So unless you're a blogger, right, you know, that's all you share is personal life things. Typically, but with stories, I tell everyone, like you don't sell a lot and your content. I'm like, because I'm selling stories. And that's where, you know, I'll use my stories every day to have at least one goal in mind. Okay, do I want to build my email list? today? I'll use the question box and sticker, the little sticker box and stories and I'll say, Hey, guys, I'm sending an email out tomorrow, drop your email below if you want in. Right and then in my emails is where I'm connecting even more telling stories selling my services. Or I'll use the link sticker and say, Hey, go grab my $37 guide. And then boop, boop, boop, boop. But in stories when you start off to selling there can be turned off.

Hilary DeCesare:

Ah, thanks for those incredible insight Shannon.

Hilary DeCesare:

Next up is Diane forester who is the mindset coach, founder of the inspiring I Have Today TV network, she introduces her three step intentional living process called love it. Thank it, bring it. I gotta tell you, I have gotten to know Diane and she is such a force to be reckoned with. I am so excited to call her my friend. I'm collaborating with her. You're gonna see some incredible things coming out from both of us together. I mean, I I'm giddy about what we're going to be doing. So this episode explores the idea that framing aspirations as big dreams might inadvertently place them on a pedestal. And instead, she wants you to align with aspirations. That's the key in order to manifest it. You know how I love this conversation. So listen in. So I have to ask you got a three step intentional living process. Can you go through it?

Diane Forster:

Yes. It's called love it. Thank it, bring it.

Hilary DeCesare:

Love it. Think it bring it how good

Diane Forster:

thank you love it and get thing. Bring it.

Hilary DeCesare:

Bring it, bring it so bring it now three steps. Totally

Diane Forster:

easy. Love it is about love your life, no matter what you've been and through, it's all been there as a gift. It's been there to teach you. It's helped you decide what you do want worse versus what you don't want. It's given you wisdom and clarity and experience. And so you and you have a life that I mean, the fact that you you have had a life and you're here right now, you just gotta love it and embrace it. That's your past. Thank it is about the present moment. And being in gratitude and appreciation for everything you have right now, from the bed, you get to sleep into the cup of coffee, to the shower, to the clothes on your back, everything even though you want more, be grateful for what you have right now be grateful that you have this moment. It's why our company's called I have today. Ring it is about your before

Hilary DeCesare:

you go on with that. I love that you're saying you know, the gratitude, being thankful of what you have today. That's the secret to getting more that is the secret to your own incredible growth. So it's I love that you're saying that include that in that today. Thankful, knowing that you want more, it's great. But by being thankful for what you have today, that's how you get what you want in the future. So good. Okay, and then bring it, bring it into the

Diane Forster:

power that is you intentionally creating your future that is deliberate. And that takes awareness, that takes visualization that takes desire, that takes removing doubt, and replacing it with determination, like you really get to have anything and everything that you want in this life. And the only thing that separates us, from here to where what we want is the level of doubt in between. That's the only thing when you resonate with, I'm certain self

Hilary DeCesare:

doubt, self doubt brings. I mean, that syncs all ships,

Diane Forster:

all ships, I have six words you need to remove from your vocabulary. And that is one of one of the six words like you just just get rid of doubt. You don't need it. It's it's not serving you want why doubt? You know, if you've got an idea of vision, you've when you've received the that you have received that. Okay, that is yours that came into your awareness for you. It's already done in the quantum field. So when you get that you go, Oh, wow. Like I got the vision for I have today how big it is. I didn't I didn't dismiss it. I just parked it over here and said, Well, I'm going to start with this thing. And so over time, yes, of course, it's been evolving. And it's always been evolving in divine timing. I've always gotten blue, when spirit has said, now.

Hilary DeCesare:

Okay, I have to I am like smiling from ear to ear for those that are watching this. Because, you know, I think I even mentioned you my big dream is to be a co host with Jota copy. Like I want to do a whole relaunch show with her. So you know, that's a big dream. So I have I parked it out there. It's out there. The universe knows that. That's what I want. And I gotta tell you, I am continually so grateful when all these little teeny breadcrumbs started happening. And I'm like, oh, yeah, you're getting me closer. But you gotta be as you said, you got to be thankful for what I have today. You don't have her. She's not mad. She's not there yet, but she will be. And you mentioned six words. And I've only heard one can you give us the others as well?

Diane Forster:

I can. But I just want to interject something for you. Okay, because you said something really important. How do you know that's a big dream is being a co host with Hoda, really a big dream?

Hilary DeCesare:

No, of course you are, you know, here, if you're listening, it's not it's just meant to be. And she made me

Diane Forster:

I'm not saying anything about it. But for you. When when you say big dream, you're now putting it out there. And yes, of course, it's going to happen in divine timing for you, honey, but here's when it will happen. As soon as you align with it. And you are ready for the onslaught of fame, fortune and so much abundance that's coming to you from that one appearance. And I

Hilary DeCesare:

tell you, I think what you just said is one of the I have interviewed I think now upwards of 200 people I've never thought of it that way that is so profound to me that you know, I call it skeezy goals scary and crazy goals your year out. But I also say okay, what is the big dream The one big thing you really want? And you're right. Why am I saying big when

Diane Forster:

Don't put it on a pedestal!

Hilary DeCesare:

Yes, yes, yes, Diane. Make sure you go back and listen to that one one more time. I was so fired up when we wrapped up i I literally was like, Alright, what's next? And we just at that exact moment, we just started to say, Oh, what about this? What about that? So, so good.

Hilary DeCesare:

This next clip with Amber Shaw, who is a mind and body transformation coach, she helps us explore the balance between maintaining healthy habits. And actually indulging in occasional treats. You can do it Everyone, listen. And as she shares practical insights into her nightly, she's got a nightly five minute routine, visualizing the next day's meals, and then incorporating mindful planning. And she's gonna give us these valuable tips on integrating health conscious planning into daily life and enjoying treats drumroll, because that's what I like, and like my little treat once in a while, but you're not gonna have guilt around it. Listen in. How do you how because you're so yummy guide, you've got this amazing body, if you're just you radiate health, how do you now plan for yourself over you know, the next couple of days or three days or four days, when you're maybe going on a business trip? Or you're going on vacation? Or you're going, you know, how do you then incorporate in still trying to be respectful of your habits and not blow the habits you've created?

Amber Shaw:

Well, and that's a great question and actually even ties into my third, my third, you know, thing about really, you know, breaking that cycle is really leaning into the fact that like, Healthy Living is really about, like being more consistent and not being perfect. It's not about it's about progress over perfection. So it doesn't require being perfect. And so, to answer your question, on the day to day, I literally do spend about five minutes every single night when I wrap up my day, I have a planner, I'm old school, I like to write everything out. Because I like to cross things off, like I do with a pencil, like it's all thing, but I literally look okay, like what is my day, and I visualize where I'm gonna get my food and right, so it's like, okay, it's tomorrow morning, I've got this podcast interview, and I've got this, okay, so that means tomorrow morning, before I get going, I need to go ahead and make a robust smoothie that I can have with me, because I'm back to back and I know like that, that or, Oh, I've got this business meeting over here. Oh, my gosh, my favorite salad places over there. So I'm going to leave five minutes early. I'm going to order to go I'll pick it up so that after my meeting, it's little planning, things like that, that can make all the difference. Now when traveling. Here's the thing when traveling, traveling doesn't have to be any different. Like for years I looked at traveling on vacation. It's like an all out binge fest, right? It was like, it was like my excuse to like I'm on vacation. Oh, let's go. And I still do like probably indulge me. Yeah, over Christmas. I mean, yeah, it was I drinking and eating way more than I normally do. Yes, but it wasn't it was different. It wasn't from a place of oh, this is my time to binge. It was oh, this is just the season this is just where it's at. I'm enjoying it. Like every like this is this is different. So I think that when you are traveling, or you are on vacation, it really is just leaning into this like these and it goes back to this. I'm a you know, I'm a grown up. So when I can eat what I want, anytime these foods are available to me any time going on vacation isn't that doesn't mean it's like my only opportunity. I am I am empowered, like right, that's taking back your power from food. We've we've we've for so many of us, we've given our power away to food, it's taking that power back and being like, I made my own choices here. And it What that allows you to do, because most of us will agree when you go all in and like overdo it like on the cheesecake and that whole big bowl of chips and do all that. How do you feel after you physically? Like

Hilary DeCesare:

you feel terrible? I feel

Amber Shaw:

terrible, right? And so and so that's the thing is that what that's the space I was talking about when I was saying that when you just give yourself permission and be like I can have that if I want it does open up the space to tap into. You know what the last time I said, Well, I went all in I actually felt like crap after I ate that entire piece of cheesecake. So I still want the cheesecake. I'm gonna have it but I'm gonna eat it until I'm satisfied. And then that's good because I can have it anytime I want. I really Oh Amber,

Hilary DeCesare:

I've heard something. You just You just triggered something in my brain here. I've heard that after you have initially taken a bite, like let's say pecan pie, which is one of my favorites. Then you have another bite and your tastebuds are still on high alert, high alert, they're they're on fire and then by the third bite, you're not even reached the receptors are not even at that level to give you that that jolt again the appreciation of what you're eating. Is that true or is that something that I just I've heard and maybe it's like, well,

Amber Shaw:

I you know, I don't know the actual science behind I'm not but I will say mentally, I will say I will say that that is you will find if you are listening to this and you start practicing this, I promise you are going to find it. You are going to find that because I hear this from clients all day every day. Like, oh, I had I had the cake, but literally, I had just a couple bytes. And then I was like, I'm good. And I so I do think I want to look this up after the service. I'm like, is there some science behind that? Because I do think that it's true. And I know from my own self that like, yeah, once you if you really are really in tune with your body, and you're letting go of this idea that I'm doing anything wrong, that this is my only time to eat it and like blah, blah, blah, blah, and you just be present and like actually just commit to like, I'm having this I'm I'm ready for it. And like being mindful of it. I guarantee you, you're gonna have a few bites and be like, I'm good. Like that was satisfying to me. I don't need any more. You will mind you, you will have a shift.

Hilary DeCesare:

Did you write all that down? Yes. What a great reminder as we're at the beginning of the year, so let's jump in to some more self care.

Hilary DeCesare:

In this clip from my interview with Bobby Vargas love this woman have had I've even been in Times Square with her taking pictures of the billboards that we were on together. And we had just such a connection. I loved having her on. She's the founder and CEO of Bundela. I use her supplements. She's got these great gummy bears that are yummy, and they do a lot for my body. It's so good. She shares a powerful insight on the biggest mistake many women make ready for this with makeup and permanent beauty treatments. It's not about the products themselves, but rather the tendency to actually neglect oneself. So we all know, hustle, bustle daily life. Well, women often prioritize others over their own well being all right, my hands raised. I get it. I do it. I agree. All right. Let's listen in.

Hilary DeCesare:

What do you what do you think is the biggest mistake that a midzone woman does with makeup with permanent make whatever you think, what are those mistakes that you're like, hey, just avoid them?

Bobbi Vargas:

Yeah, yeah. Honestly, it's not even about the product itself. I think the biggest mistake us as women do any age, mind you is neglect ourselves. We placed everyone else's needs above ours. But when it comes to product to answer your question is we're in the process of neglecting yourself, you'll run out of the house and not maybe grab your your chapstick or your lip gloss or your mascara because you have to run and take the kid to school or whatever the case is, or walk the dog because he's going to pee in the house if I don't take him out. So it's the secondary placing ourselves secondary to anything and everything is what's wrong. Because we if you really think about it, I had a friend who told me he said, a selfish mom is the best mom, I thought who thinks that way. But now I understand that this was maybe 20 years ago that he said this to me. And now I understand what it's not selfish. It's self love. You know, when you love yourself so much everyone around you, your kids and your husband, your environment is just so happy because you're happy. Now the minute you don't feel good, that energy, because you're huge on energy, that energy transfers him on, does it feel good to know I don't feel good? My wife doesn't feel good. No, I, you know, I'm having a lousy day because my mind is weather. So it's, it's so important to place yourself. You're the MVP of this game, life is a game and you're the most valuable player. And so the game doesn't matter if the most valuable player is injured or is her or doesn't feel well, right. So remember that and that would be my best advice to all women is place yourself ahead of anything in everything your mind fit, spiritually fit and physically fit before anything. And that's to serve others, not just not to be selfish, but that's ultimately it. I'm 100% able to give you 100% But we're not feeling 100% You're getting whatever percentage I'm operating on. And it's not fear that you're not giving people and yourself 100%

Hilary DeCesare:

Now it's interesting because he says Happy wife happy, happy life. And I sit here and I give right I my mind call after call and I I love the process of watching somebody literally like open up to the world. Because they've been so close. They've been tuning out and be able to tune in to, you know, changing your channel, changing your energy. But so many times, you know, I can get caught up in helping, helping helping and there was a chapter in my book that I wrote about my husband a bringing me a panini and it was warm and gooey. And I was in the middle of writing a book and I was in my office. What felt like, you know, 48 hours a day. I know that's especially literally I felt like I never left and he showed up with this warm, gooey thing and I'm like I finally just realized, and I wrote it in the book, I wrote it about the Panini principle. And I wrote about the pause principle where sometimes we just have to pause and say, Where am I? Where am I right now? Not everybody else. Because as your tank gets more and more depleted than you can't give, and sometimes as we get older, our tanks, you know, adrenal fatigue is like a real thing, everyone, I mean, this is like, No, you know, it's legit, no joke. And we just have to be so careful that we don't get ourselves to that point. And if you do, it's recovery time, right. So your company really is designed, as you said, you know, it's that that inside spirit will then lead to that, you know, outside happiness and where we go.

Hilary DeCesare:

You heard that right, put yourself first. This perfect reminder aligns right into our next clip with wellness expert. Hi, Dee Christopher. I adore this woman. We hit it off, we connected. We are like, I swear to God, two peas in a pod. She lights me up. And this is the clip where she's sharing the moment she took a pause and decided what she was doing wasn't healthy for her anymore. And what happened next, she completely shifted her life. She is now doing what she's meant to be doing powerhouse in the yoga world. She again, is just you gotta You gotta listen in. She just she she comes out. You can almost smile as you're just listening. So enjoy.

Heidi Kristoffer:

I just knew something was wrong. And the world just felt so hot, like heavy, like the air felt heavy. That's I physically felt like I couldn't get up. I was like, oh, something's wrong. And I had a scale and a closet, linen closet and back of like, 900 towels, and I drew it out. And I was like, Oh, I weighed 85 pounds. No. Oh,

Hilary DeCesare:

my Wait a second. So you were What show are you doing at that time? Because I know you've done a ton. What were Yes.

Heidi Kristoffer:

You know, at that time, I had actually just shot three back to back network pilots. So for anyone who doesn't know what that is, when networks like major networks, are doing new shows, they're looking at new shows. They will Greenlight what are called pilots, which are the pilot episodes. So the origin story of a series is the pilot. And so I had shot three back to back pilots, which is really intense to do one a season. So three was like, oh my god, this is amazing. But I also woke up weighing nothing, but that the correlation was the lower I weighed the more at work. And that is when I decided that we wanted to be pregnant. And my body was like, yeah, that's not happening.

Hilary DeCesare:

Yeah, either. You need a little bit more fat on those bones when you're going to try to have babies and all that. And I can't believe having grown up in LA. And my in the school that I went to had a lot of celebrities, a lot of parents and everything. Three pilots. That's crazy. Yeah,

Heidi Kristoffer:

I I was I struggle not to say I was so lucky. Because I worked my patootie off i Yeah. You know, as you mentioned, I went to Cornell, I went and did bada which is the British American drama Academy. So I got to work with Royal Shakespeare Company. Like I did theater, I got the classical training. I really dug into it. I had no interest in being on camera whatsoever. But that's where the money so that's what agents and managers send you on. But that's the moment that I was like, Oh, this isn't healthy. This isn't sustainable. This isn't. I can't have a family. With this body. I physically can't. Every doctor's telling me that at some point. I have to listen, because they went to medical school. Not me.

Hilary DeCesare:

You were so you were really feeling just wiped out fatigued. You had lost all this weight. Were people telling you? I mean, I guess not industry people are like, Oh, you look great. Yes.

Heidi Kristoffer:

And that was exactly what I was getting. And I you know, I'm very fortunate and that as a teenager, I never had an eating disorder. It wasn't. That wasn't what was the fabric of me. I was too busy doing musical theater at the time to worry about something as silly to me as wait. Because camera wasn't my world back then. And it just, it's sort of like you're so busy on set. There's never time to eat. If you do eat maybe you shove a protein bar down your throat maybe some of the fruit from craft services and that's it and you're exhausted when you get home and you go to bed you wake up you do it again. So it was yeah, it was just such a wake up call and I didn't love what I was doing. And that was also the part of it that so many people would kill to do what I was doing and I I really didn't enjoy it because I loved theater. And so when I got pigeonholed into television and movies, and I was on a soap opera fo r 10 years, I just kind of fell out of love with entertainment as a profession as an actress

Hilary DeCesare:

Wasn't I right? You just smile. She's so just uplifting. I'm excited to do like so many different things with her this coming year.

Hilary DeCesare:

Well, now we move into Tori Archibald, another, just incredible. She's an Ozzy, she brings international to a new level. I gotta tell you, when she came on, it was one of those lightning moments. They say lightning doesn't strike twice. We were like sitting there. It was off the charts the conversation, she talks about something so incredible coffee dating, I felt like we were doing at that point, you're gonna hear a word that I swear to God, I've never heard Gob smack What the heck is gobsmacked? You gotta listen. And, and she talks about self belief as a superpower. And when you hear this, there will be such a connection between you, yourself, between others, you're going to be like, Yes, this is what it's all about. It is truly about finding that calling that purpose and understanding. It doesn't matter what people say, go do it. Let's make it happen. Let's make it happen together. And so we've got something very exciting that we're going to be announcing we are collaborating on a massive event in September that you need to know about keep following on the relaunch co.com To hear more about it. Now let's hear more from Tori.

Tori Archibald:

I realized and recognize the power of storytelling. And I recognize that people were so far behind in the way that they were tapping into brands and storytelling to create and deliver impact that I came up with an idea that I would start my own agency with no experience, no media connections, and no money. Okay, again,

Hilary DeCesare:

how old are you right now, when you're doing this, Tori

Tori Archibald:

I'm 24. I'm 24 years of age. And I thought what you know, you need to get feedback when you have an idea, especially when you have no money, you have no relationships in the in the area that you actually want to excel at, the best thing you can do is to go and connect with other people. And I'm a big believer in the power of connection and communication. So I started coffee dating with people and telling them my idea. And there was one distinct coffee meeting with an ex boyfriend of mine, who then went on to be the chairman of a global media agency. And I remember sitting down with him and saying, I want to create an agency that's going to build really powerful brands. I'm going to work with the world's top performing retailers, celebrities and influencers, and I'm going to make an impact. I said I could just feel it in my bones. And he said, I don't think you should do that. You've got absolutely no experience no connections. I think you should go off and get married have three kids join a few golf clubs. And that would be your life story. Like forget about it. And I remember just sitting there absolutely gobsmacked going, no one will believe in me. Now, I believed in myself. I always have always backed myself. I've always said self belief is my superpower. I wrote a book about it. I remember walking out of that coffee day. And I leash I don't know whether we can swear on your podcast, Hillary Yes, you can I leave you.

Hilary DeCesare:

And I don't know what it is. But But I gotta tell you Godsmack could be my new favorite word. It's so good. And also, I love this coffee date. And I really, we're having a coffee date right now you realize because you, you came with two cups of coffee. And I've got my tea right here. So we're having a coffee, tea. It's a coffee, tea, chocolate.

Tori Archibald:

It's a coffee change on my watch on your meeting. And I literally was like you I am doing this. Everyone said no to me. And no one in Australia would give me a chance. And I knew and you know these through the power of business as well, you need one, my key client to make a difference. You need one standout client that's going to put you on the map that's going to get people talking. But most importantly, with that client that you attract, it has to be anchored to your values, intent and purpose. So I said to myself, if I anchor every single move that I made to passion, because I was really passionate about creating and building brands, building my own business, and really making a difference out there integrity, because I didn't want to work with us halls. And delivering was a third value because you're only as good as the last podcast chat. The last presentation the last delivery of what you do, along with my intention purpose was to create and build powerful brands around the world make an impact, deliver extraordinary sales for people, that one client was going to put me on the map. And so I went about hold

Hilary DeCesare:

on hold on you you move fast, and I can I can no doubt but I have to say when you Say you, you said passion, integrity and delivery. And you know what you and I are so aligned, I would even go in as much and say, the geography, that joy of life, right, the fun factor of bringing it all together. And there was one other thing you said, rejection is projection. So were you finding from the time you were having these coffee dates to things started to work out, I often find people are rushing through the building phase, right? We want it. Why is it taking so long, it didn't take that long for that person or that person. But a lot of times, we don't know what's really behind.

Hilary DeCesare:

Bam, bam, bam. How good was that? Well, at this point, you have now had glimpses of what we're doing and where we're going. And everything about the ReLaunch Podcast from these incredible shows, go back, listen to the whole thing. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart, for putting this out there in your communities for giving me those amazing reviews. That's what lights me up, I read them, I read each and every one of them. And again, you're sharing with others, which is I think the the biggest compliment you can give me is just having I love when I get a text or a DM that says, Hey, I just shared this with my community or this person, and it really impacted on. So please keep reaching out to me. And let me know what other people should I be interviewing whose other stories should I be sharing. And as we go into our second season, I want to be bringing more of what matters to you, of helping you inspire you, give you that that spark that will ignite you into that future version of you. So again, thank you for being a part of our first season 200 episodes, we just hit in the top 20 I think we're 18 on all the top and all of the podcasts in the world for entrepreneur, which is such a huge, just I literally want to thank all of you for making that happen. And then we are quickly getting to be in the top 50 of all business podcasts. So I know we'll make that happen as well. Again, can't happen without you. So my heart tears. And as I always say live now love now relaunch now into your incredible, incredible G zone, your growth zone gratitude zone. Great sound. And let's make your dreams come true. Take care, and we'll see you next time.

Hilary DeCesare:

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