What If You Could? Unlocking Potential with Laurin Wittig

In this episode we get curious about:

• The impact of limiting beliefs on personal and professional life
• Personal stories of overcoming these beliefs to achieve abundance
• The role of pivotal questions in breaking through self-imposed barriers
• Practical advice on identifying and challenging one's own limiting beliefs
• The influence of the book "The Artist's Way" on personal creativity and overcoming barriers

Learn more about Laurin Wittig...

Bio: Laurin Wittig is an intuitive healer, spirituality mentor, founder of HeartLight Wellness and the Heartlight Women's Circles, host of the Curiously Wise: Practical Spirituality in Action podcast, and an award-winning author. Laurin is also a co-facilitator of the Triple Goddess Women’s Circle.

Laurin’s own journey to great health on a non-traditional path awakened many of her own healing gifts, and illuminated a passion to assist others to travel their paths in this lifetime with less pain, and deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them, bringing them to a place of greater ease, and joy. 

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What If Solo

Were not an issue. Could I do this thing that is like in my heart is what I, I really was subconsciously wanting to bring forward.

Hi, and welcome back to Curiously Wise Practical Spirituality in Action. I am Laurin Wittig, your host. And today I want to talk about something magical that has certainly helped me. And I've seen helped others break through some limiting beliefs. To create abundance in, in different ways, abundance can be described in many ways.

We have beliefs that were handed down to us, perhaps from our family, from our religious community, from schools, from media, there's, there's all of these beliefs that we carry with us. That. Often are not truly our own, we have assimilated them, if you will, from, from those around us. And because so often they come from trusted sources, parents, grandparents, teachers, you know, other, other leaders, other, you know, beloved family members.

There are limiting beliefs about the work we can do. There's limiting beliefs about you know, how, how much traveling we can do. For example there's limiting beliefs around all kinds of things. I have a limiting belief that I'm working on that I can't run very well and I can't run very far. And I want to change that.

And so I'm going to be using this question for me because I've identified that as a, as a limiting belief. I'm not going to take you through that now because I got to work through it myself first, but. These are the kinds of things that we carry with us. I've never been athletic. I can dance, but I can't run.

And sometimes we don't even know why we have them. And we don't think to question them because honestly, most of the time, they're kind of subconscious. They may not even be something you're aware of. That is. Directing you and controlling your your willingness or your ability to, to open the gates to open up the possibilities to something better, something new, something different, something that you choose to believe because you have some, some evidence in your life for that belief being true for you.

And we didn't have Google. You know, I mean, we had the Internet. We had, you know, I did work on computers. But it wasn't as robust as it is now. So researching at that point was like an academic thing. You know, you went to a library, you found books and you, you, that's what you did. And I hadn't, I had not wanted to study history in when I was at university, because to me it was all old dead white men and wars.

And so I had no clue how to write, how to research. What a woman's life would be in, because if you're writing a romance, you got to have a heroine and a hero. Right. And I really didn't know how to do that. And it was very intimidating to me. And, and I, you know, I'm, I was, I did well in school, but I don't consider myself an academic.

You could always write about what you do. You know, you could, I could use my own apartment. I could use my own job. I could, you know, those kinds of things. I could use very much use my experience because of. I, you know, was writing in the time that I was living in. That's not the way writing historicals works, right?

So so I limited myself to that because I didn't think I could do research and at least any research that I'd have to do about like a job or you know, a city I could do because I got maps and I've got, you know, I've got people I could talk to who live there and have that job, that kind of thing.

You know, it was more of a, I want to do this. So I have the experience of it. So I understand what the whole process is like and where my weaknesses are, which I didn't really think about at the time, but that's what it really showed me, which was Awesome. Because then I could, I knew what to work on. So about the same time as I'm, I'm like figuring out what am I going to write next?

And I started another Contemporary short contemporary thing. And it's just not, it's not lighting me up. I'm not being drawn back to it. And about this time, a friend of mine who was also learning to write had started working with this book called the artist's way. It's written by a woman named Julia Cameron and it's The subtitle is a spiritual path to higher creativity and the whole community that I was part of at that point, which was Washington romance writers, part of romance writers of America were really buzzing about this book.

But there was one chapter where the question to work on that week was what if time, money and resources and responsibilities were not an issue, what would you do? What would you create? And that was really hard for me at first. It was like, well, but I have, you know, I have two small kids and I'm a stay at home mom.

And but it also then turned out to be very freeing because literally she said, just right, just let whatever comes out, come out and you know, don't stop to edit. Don't worry about punctuation. Don't worry about spelling just, and she had his handwriting which, Connects with a very different part of your brain than say typing does.

And I still use it to this day when I get stuck and I need to brainstorm something like this episode. I, I get out pen and paper and I hand write and I get, it's a way of accessing my, my inner knowing a little easier and quicker, but she had us do this task. And what happened was I basically in an hour.

I had to learn the history at least, but I chose a very specific period. So I knew I only had to learn the history around that, and then I needed it to be in the Highlands. And the serendipity was that there wasn't really written language at the time. It was a non literate society, the, the clans in the Highlands.

And And I had an anthropology degree that had included some archeology. So I really had to provide, I really had to delve into that part of the research, which was my jam. It wasn't, it wasn't read the history books. It was look at the day to day life of people through their, their artifacts and through the, the oral traditions of songs and poetry and that kind of thing.

What's next. And that's, what's led me into this, this part of my life here where I'm a healer and I run women's circles and I have a podcast and all these wonderful, fun things that I'm doing now. But the second story I want to share with you where this question came up, my husband and I, we lived in the DC area at the time, his business was in DC.

And we, for two years. We searched for a place where we could afford a house because I wasn't working and afford, you know, either the school to pay for school, which we were already paying 15, 000 a year for our kids to be our, five year old and our 10 year old in school. Yeah.

Kind of thing. So we, we were really having trouble balancing this with needing to be within , a reasonable commuting distance of downtown DC. And we just couldn't find it. We couldn't find it. We couldn't find it. And we were kind of at the end of our rope because we were, we were kind of in a sick house.

We also knew we were in , the air pollution, path that it took over the city and then out over us, we were in Maryland. And so we needed to get away from, from that. Cause that also was an asthma trigger. And and we just, we were tired of being in traffic all the time. there was one weekend, my husband came in from a trip to Lowe's and he said, you know, it's time to move when it takes you an hour to get to Lowe's on a Saturday morning.

And so, you know, there was just this sort of increasing pressure on us to figure out how we could move into a place where we would be happier, where we would be healthier, where we would be, you know not so hemmed in by the city, by the traffic. And still be able for my husband to get to work in a reasonable amount of time and home again.

And we're just both so frustrated. And and we had, we had been to Williamsburg, Virginia a few times with the kids as a, just like a long weekend getaway. And we really loved it down here. This is where I live now. We loved it because the history was here. There was a college, so there was a lot of cultural stuff going on.

And I wasn't, I wasn't willing to really, you know, have him suffer that, that much so that we could live in a nicer place. So we brainstormed that, okay, so what if maybe you only had to be in DC a couple of days a week? Maybe, maybe there's a, you know, we have to get a a little, you know, apartment somewhere up here where you could come and be here for two or three days and, and I would have to single mom it, which frankly, when you're home 24 seven with your kids, you're single momming it a lot anyway.

And so it, in some ways it kind of freed us up to, to be more flexible. And to just sort of change, change the dynamic of, of how, you know, we defined how we live together with family. And we we found we, we, when we decided to do that, we knew we had to come down here and look around and really see, cause we'd only been here as tourists basically.

And so we came down for one weekend and we, I had found a place online. It's a gated community, which was not what we were looking for, but it was, you can build in there. They were still building out. So you could build a brand new house that would be healthy for our son and for the rest of us, frankly.

We should go look at it. We're here. Why, why not just go look at it? So we did. And, and we bought a lot about in about 24 hours, we bought a lot that we could build on. And and we began that process of selling our house. And moving from the D. C. area to Williamsburg, Virginia, and everything fell into place, not just for us moving the kids. To a new home , that had to be built, it didn't exist yet, a new school system, you know, and that whole transition, which required us, we sold our house before it went on the market, we found an apartment where we could live for six months until the kids finished the school year, [00:18:00] we found a townhome here in the neighborhood we're building in.

That was in the right school district to move to during the summer so the kids could start school in their new school. We found a builder that was that that was very technological. So they were able to build more quickly than your average 1 because they were using, you know, computers to, to schedule everything.

And they had, you know, their, their, I don't know, they were able to do a quick, quicker, not quickly. It's not a quickly process, but quicker. That all happened. And in addition to that, my mom had a little apartment that she used as a, almost as a guest house in the, in the condo that she lived in. And it was just a little furnished efficiency and she said, you can use that for free. You know, she was supporting us because at the time that was going to be a big problem to have to pay a mortgage and a rent in the D.

We had the support we needed from family. We had, you know, just magical events about how everything lined up to make it happen when we needed it to happen. And and we've been here now for 24 years. During the pandemic, it was interesting because my husband and I realized we haven't lived together seven days a week in a long time.

Were not an issue. Could I do this thing that is like in my heart is what I, I really was subconsciously wanting to bring forward. So my first book and a house that has been a wonderful place to, to raise our kids in a wonderful town. That's got all kinds of fun stuff going on and the air is clear and there's lots of nature around us.

And and just everything got actually got easier. Once we did, once we made this move and, and if we hadn't said, what if we don't have to tie ourselves to a reasonable commute to DC, what could we do? And and, and so I offered this today because first of all, it's been on my mind, obviously, but we're so full of limiting beliefs and we're so full of things that we think we can't do because we don't have the knowledge, the wisdom, the money, the time, whatever.

You'll meet the right person or, you know, you'll find the right neighborhood on, on the internet. It's just, it's a magical word that takes you from limiting beliefs To empowering beliefs and we need to dream right now more than I think probably ever in the history of the world. We need to dream what's really going to light us up.

I believe we all have a purpose. I'm not even sure I know what mine is yet, but I know I'm getting closer to it. And so this one question, what if time, money, other resources, responsibilities were not. An issue, what would you do, or what would you create, I invite you to play with that question and start playing with what if, what if, what if it's a magical [00:23:00] thing to ask.

So I hope that, I hope that this is helpful. Sparked some interest in you about exploring, first of all, what limiting beliefs are holding me back that are not your beliefs or that are no longer serving you. Some of those beliefs served a purpose for a while, but you're not the same person you were a decade ago or two decades ago or six decades ago.

And so explore those, you know, where those limiting beliefs might be and play what if. What if that belief was not true? What if, instead of allowing that to contain me, what if I looked at the alternative? That could empower me. So I hope you've gotten something from this. I invite you to to share this with anybody else who you think might benefit from it.

Thank you so much for joining us today on Curiously Wise, I hope this conversation has left you feeling inspired and curious about the world around and within you. After all curiosity is the key to growth and understanding. So keep asking questions and exploring new ideas. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider subscribing and or leaving a review. It helps us be found by others. If you're curious to learn more about me or my healing practice, Heartlight Wellness, head over to my website https://heartlightjoy.com. Until next time. I'm Laurin Wittig. Stay curious.