That's what we want, right? So get ready to unlock your birth power. Take control of your journey. Let's jump in.

Losing my, poop vibes, right? I'm sure you guys want that. So as you guys are dropping in here, tell me who you are. Tell me how far along you are. Tell me what number, baby. All the things. I want to hear it all. Okay? All right. So we're gonna be talking about mastering your mindset because mindset, I'm just gonna tell y'all, spoiler alert, Your mindset is 90 percent of your birth, 90 percent of your birth.

So if you're new around here, my name is Trish, or you might know me as labor nurse mama. I am a long time, 16 year labor and delivery nurse and a mom to seven. I've given birth to six of mine. And I'm going to talk a little bit about how. Fear entered into one of my births and really changed the dynamics a bit, so we're going to talk a little bit about that today.

And I know you know this, because if you think about it, we spend so much time worrying about things instead of preparing figuring out what can we control in whatever it is we're worrying about, whether it's, your birth, or maybe parenting this baby.

So the role of your mindset is so important because it actually influences how you perceive the pain of labor. If that's not enough for you to start working on mindset strategies, I don't know what is. Because your mindset actually influences your perception of how bad labor hurts. So someone who goes into their birth.

And I know that happens to you. Because that happens to everyone. So for me, let me just tell you how mindset really played a role for me with So my son, Gavin, I was pregnant with him and I was actually having my birth photography, like my pregnancy pictures done. And I felt this very big movement.

Or you don't understand the plan of care, like you don't understand like what your doctor's recommending. You can go from being so calm and so confident to out of this world, insanely crazy with fear. And that's where I found myself with Gavin, because I wasn't adequately educated about what had happened what was going to be the course of action.

So we're going to talk a little bit too about the mind body connection. So one of the things that I teach inside of my classes is the it's the pain tension cycle, right? The fear pain tension cycle. And this is such a clear. way that your mind has such dominion over your body and how what happens up here can actually affect how your labor plays out.

frame of mind. However, if you're not prepared and you don't have coping strategies and you don't even know what to expect, you're like, is this labor? Is this not labor? I don't know. I'm confused. A lot of times what will happen is you start perceiving the pain as so much worse. And when you do that, it actually gets you onto a hamster wheel, this cycle, this pain tension cycle.

You get afraid. When you get afraid you tense. And our bodies are actually really created amazingly. I was talking about this on the last live and I got so many DMs and questions about it. So I'm going to tell you guys again, because it is a mirror.

It's miraculous, right? When we get afraid, our bodies are designed to do something amazing. Just like when we're a labor, our body is designed to do something amazing. But the two should not be hand in hand because they work against each other. So last week I was telling you guys that like, if we were out in the wild, we're a wild animal, right?

Now, I have to drill this into you guys, okay, because this is why I do what I do. This is why I created my birth courses. That is incredible. Fight or flight mode is insanely powerful. powerful. It's our superpower. That's why if a child gets trapped under a car in front of their father, the father can pick up the car because they go into this fight or flight and adrenaline starts pumping to your arms and to your legs.

You want your body to do what it's supposed to do. Now that goes back to the fear part. Or the fear, tension, pain cycle. I've been saying it wrong. Fear, tension, pain cycle. When your adrenaline kicks in, it makes you like more aware of what's going on around you so you can fight. During labor, we should not need to fight.

Now I know some of us do because we have, issues with the hospital system or whatever, but, or your mother in law, if you let her in the room and you shouldn't have. But during labor, you should not have to fight. So if your body goes into fight or flight, it's going to work against your labor.

Some of the things that we can do to work with our body, instead of our body, against it, instead of going into fight or flight, the number one thing you can do is, It is knowledge, whether it's learning coping strategies, whether it's having a knowledge of the process of labor, whether it's understanding what's happening in the birth center of your choice, whether it's a hospital birth center or the home birth, you still need to educate yourself for a home birth ladies still need to know what's going on because you're still going to labor and when you're laboring and you're in the right.

Does that make sense? Hopefully. You have to learn coping strategies, whether it's, we teach over 50 coping, different types of coping strategies, whether it's movements or breathing techniques, visualization, or, all these different breathing techniques that we teach to help you cope. Hope during labor and life in general because you can use a lot of them So we teach some deep breathing J breathing we teach you calming breathing that can help you at your doctor's office or if you're arguing with your partner and we teach you different techniques on managing your pain and Staying in the right mindset.

Stop telling yourself, Oh my God, I'm probably going to freak out. No, don't say that anymore. Get rid of that. Get that out of your head. And tell yourself, no, I'm gonna go in there confident, prepared, I'm gonna learn the coping strategies, and I am going to be a birth queen. Hopefully, you guys, this is like completely resonating with you guys.

Another thing that you can do is making sure that your coach is also adequately prepared. If they're prepared and they are, encouraging you and speaking back to things that you guys have learned, that's going to also keep you in that powerful mindset.

You just can't. I mean you can do a check off the box one from the internet, but you really want to take a birth class first because all the things you put on your birth plan, you need to understand what and why. You need to know when are those interventions appropriate. appropriate and when are they not appropriate because you can't really navigate that.

And I say this every time I teach you guys, but if you don't know your options, you don't have any. So you have to understand why would they use a fetal scalp electrode? What is an IUPC? Why would I get external or internal monitors? You need to know all of those things. And then you need to be confident to discuss your birth plan with your providers.

I could teach you all the things, but if you're still too scared to speak up and do the things you know are right, then you're not being the birth queen that you need to be. Okay, so combining all of these strategies is how you're going to have the most beautiful birth. And you're going to be able to go in there and keep the fear at bay, keep the adrenaline pressed down so you don't go into fight or flight.

And you'll be able to move through your birth gracefully and with so much confidence. All right, you guys, anybody have any questions for me? Let me see if I have any questions. I'm going to go down to the end for those of you guys who stuck to the end. Anyone have a question? Hello? Hello? Let's see. Let me see if I have any questions before I hop off.

Oh, here we go. Any tips for a first time mom with OCD? So I'm not sure if your name is Amy. I don't have my glasses on. Ann Parks, tell me this. My number one tip would be to take a birth class. Have you taken a class? Because a lot of times OCD will be out of control if you don't know what's happening. So that would be my number one tip.

Her partner or whoever's going to be in the room needs to take her class as well. How do you know when to go to the hospital? My last birth, I was 10 centimeters. When you got there, you need to go sooner. So for our second time mamas, we say when the contractions are less than five minutes, each contraction, 60 seconds for one hour, if it's your first baby, we say less than four minutes, each contraction, 60 seconds for two hours.

Okay. You guys have a fantastic day. day. As always, our new podcast comes out on Friday. Have a great day, you guys.

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