Fake It Till You Make It... or Do It Till You True It?

In this episode, we challenge one of the most common self-help mantras: “Fake it till you make it.” Instead, we explore a more sustainable, honest, and empowering approach—“Do it until you true it.”

Through personal stories, psychological insight, and practical advice, we break down why faking confidence can sometimes do more harm than good, and how small steps can lead to real transformation.

Top Topics Covered:

The Problem with Faking It: We talk about how pretending to know something can lead to broken trust, missed opportunities, and internal stress, especially when the stakes are high.

The Power of Small Steps: Real confidence is earned through repeated actions. Whether it’s learning first aid or public speaking, each small action builds a foundation for long-term success.

Psychological Frameworks: We explore concepts like cognitive behavioral theory, James-Lange theory, and Bandura’s idea of self-efficacy to support why behavior can shape belief.

Honesty vs. Performance: There’s a fine line between boldness and deception. We discuss how to be honest about your capabilities while still stepping up to new challenges.

Takeaways:

This episode reminds us that confidence isn’t a magic switch—it’s something you build. You don’t need to fake your way into anything. You just need to take the next honest, actionable step. Whether you’re tackling a new role at work, facing anxiety, or just trying to grow in life, the habit of small, intentional actions will carry you farther than any performance ever could. “Do it until you true it” means showing up, learning, growing—and in time, becoming the kind of person you once only hoped to be.

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