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90 || Miniseries: Who... is on your "Affection and Duty List"?
Episode 909th July 2025 • Real Conversations about Aging Parents • Rebecca Tapia, MD
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Establishing My Affection and Duty List

In this episode I introduce a six-part series designed to help you navigate the complexities of supporting aging parents. I start by focusing on the 'who,' proposing the creation of an Affection and Duty List (ADL) to categorize individuals you might support. Using scales to measure affection (from -5 to +5) and duty (from 0 to 10), I discuss how emotions and obligations intertwine. Emphasizing the importance of connection, I encourage you to understand the underlying reasons for your feelings towards those on your list. This episode aims to give you a structured approach to identifying who in your orbit may require support now or in the future.

00:00 Introduction to the Series

01:33 Understanding the 'Who' in Caregiving

05:35 Affection and Duty: The ADL List

06:55 Affection Scale Explained

10:06 Duty Scale Explained

12:50 Combining Affection and Duty Scores

25:35 Fluidity of Affection and Duty Over Time

31:32 Conclusion and Next Steps

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