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Hello darling heart and welcome to the drink less, live better podcast. This is the podcast that helps you to see that drinking
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less doesn't need to be stressful, lonely, or boring. I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided to have a year alcohol
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free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back. With my experience and training, I now help other women with their
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alcohol free or drink less adventures. You can find out more about me and sign up to my 5 day drink less challenge at drink
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less live better dot com. Things you'll never hear me say part 3. There's no need to cry. There's no need to cry goes in the
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same filing pile as you've got this or if I can do this anyone can. Please see previous episodes for more on these. It's the
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same filing pile of doom that I try very hard never to use or look at. I also won't say, please don't cry, or crying won't
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help, or anything else to try to stop the tears from coming. If we're working together face to face I might at some point
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offer you a tissue, or perhaps my sleeve if I haven't got a tissue spare, but I won't try and encourage you to stop crying
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or tell you there's no need to cry. Tears are an amazing outward physical expression of our emotions. I've often wondered
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why we don't cry more as a society. We laugh and smile easily, and we know that's a sign that we're happy. Why can't we cry
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easily to show that we're sad? Did you notice what I said there? We laugh and smile to show we're happy, but are we always
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happy when we're doing that, or are we giving other people what they want to see? Do we hide our sadness to make life more
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comfortable the bad guys get you down, dry your eyes, I could go on, but it all boils down to the same thing, the denial of
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our true feelings. Do you notice your feelings, emotions and responses to them? If something upsets you and the natural reaction
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to it feels like a big snotty cry, then don't hold back. Side note here, I know there are people who manage to look elegant
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when they cry, but I'm all for authentic ugly crying. I think a good cry needs to run its course to consume you temporarily
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and then to slowly blow itself out like a storm coming to an end. To be able to be with someone while you ride that wave of
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emotion is a magical thing. To have someone with you who can see you truly express yourself and not encourage you to edit
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yourself is powerful beyond measure. Who have you got in your life who you know you can properly cry with, who won't tell
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you to get over it or god my absolute worst, man up, who do you feel really safe with? Getting our true feelings out into
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words takes a whole load of vulnerability, honesty and bravery. We need to surround ourselves with a magic few people who
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can allow us to safely say the words we want to, to express the feelings we are experiencing. There's nothing wrong with crying.
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There is sometimes a need to cry. There is sometimes a want to cry. Let's practice welcoming the tears, the true expression
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of our sadness emotion. Let them flow and then, when you're good and ready, go for a nice walk, take a bath or let's talk
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some more. Thank you so much for listening in today. Let's do it all again next week, and, p s, I believe in you.
