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Hi, I'm Steven Webb, and welcome to a gentle morning meditation for that voice inside that says, "It was
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your fault."
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And if you woke up this morning replaying something you said or did, or you tend to go to bed doing that,
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this is for you.
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You don't need to do anything with your body or your breath.
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Just become aware So allow your body to sit comfortably Finally, You can gently close your eyes And just
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become aware of your breath.
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Your body knows how to breathe And also your body knows how to relax the, we just allow We just allow
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these things to happen And while you're just settling in, I just want to say a few things I'll talk about
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self-blame.
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I just mean that voice inside that points to you and says that it was your fault, or you should not have
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done that, or you could have done something better, or with hindsight you could have done it a different
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way.
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All these different ways in which we just replay these situations and we think that we could have done
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it better So as you continue to invite your body to relax Your head and your forehead, your jaw and shoulders
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arms and fingers and your belly, even your legs and toes And even your eyebrows and every part of your
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body just allow it to relax in this moment Breathe in calm, breathe out breathe out, and let the moment
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be what it is Allow your breath to be what it is You may notice your mind has gone a little quieter If
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you're anything like me, you wake up in the morning and your mind is already busy.
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And not so much with today, but with yesterday.
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That thing we said, that thing we didn't do, the mind plays it again and again, like it's hoping for some
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kind of different ending The words that came out wrong, the message, the moment you snapped, the thing
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you forgot And there's a voice standing over all of it saying, you knew better And the strange part is
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that the voice thinks it's helping.
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It believes that if it blames you first and blames you hardest, no one else can hurt you with it.
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No one else can use it.
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It's like a guard that shouts at you to keep you safe Terrible manners, but it's a good heart So this
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morning, we just don't fight the voice.
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We don't correct it.
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We don't argue.
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We just allow it to be what it is.
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Allow that voice to be there Notice it in the same way that we notice the rain on the window And we say
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quietly, "I hear you.
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Thank you for trying to keep me safe And now let's just find where the blame sits in the body Most of
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the time for me, it just lands in the chest or low in the belly And rest your attention there just generally
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for a moment And each time you breathe out, just allow that place to soften a little Nothing to fix Just
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softer than it was And the Buddha said something really lovely about this.
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He said you could search the whole world for someone who deserves your kindness more than you And you
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would not find them nowhere, not one person You made a mistake It may not have even been a mistake, but
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someone may think you did, and that's repeating in your head And that's not the same as being a mistake.
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Blame keeps looking backwards.
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Kindness looks at you and says, kindness is here with you this morning Now we're going to do three affirmations.
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Just slowly.
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May I be kind to myself today.
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May I put down what I cannot change.
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May I know I am enough.
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Even on the days I get it wrong May I be kind to myself today May I put down what I cannot change May
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I know I am enough even on the days I get it wrong The voice of blame is one of hundreds inside of you.
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So is the voice that forgives.
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So is the one that starts again.
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Every one of them is trying to look after you in their own clumsy way You are allowed to begin the day
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forgiven In a moment, I'll guide you back, And we'll take this softness with us through the day, whatever
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comes.
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Ready to meet ready to meet the voice of blame with also the voice of forgiveness.
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And a smile and go, So "I'm human.
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It's what we do."
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So five, just become aware of the room you're in.
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Four, just gently open your eyes.
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Three, shake out your arms and maybe shake out your fingers and toes.
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Two, just look around slightly.
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And just one, just take a deeper breath and just feel a little bit of gratitude for your voices inside.
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They're all there to protect you in their own small way.
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They don't always get it right Thank you for sitting with me today.
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And thank you.
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Namaste.
