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If you’re coming home from work completely depleted… snapping at your family, skipping plans, or just feeling flat, even though you kept it all together at work...
This episode is for you.
We name the false binaries popular culture keeps you in, that prevent change
& better questions to ask yourself to have more energy at the end of each day, that don’t involve biohacking or quitting.
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📍 If you're coming home from work, feeling completely depleted, stumping your family, skipping plans, or just feeling really flat even though you kept it together at work, this episode is for you. By the end of the conversation, I want you asking better questions such as, why does overgiving at work feel me hollow at home?
What invisible cost is my, I've got it faced, challenging my body, and how do I recognize over-functioning when I'm technically getting it all done? 📍
I want you to imagine that your nervous system is kind of like a phone battery. Imagine that your job requires a constant hotspot, so it's you're always on, always available, always giving a signal out.
So what happens to your battery when you are constantly on your hotspot? It drains really quickly, and then usually you'll plug it in. I did this the other day. I had to hotspot. You plug it in and I was like, it's connected for like an hour and a half. Why? It's still on 23% because it was draining faster than it could recharge.
This is what happens when you are in a job that is. Not nourishing you, not filling you up. And I, I know that you, I go, I know that you get, I know that you get this, but just kind of like, hold on. Let's see that we're all on the same page. I wanna validate what you're experiencing. 'cause when you walk through the door to your partner, your kids, your people, you were on red, like you're coming up as low battery and you want to be present.
I know that you do, but what if there's just simply nothing left to give? This is what was happening to a client, I'm gonna call her Sam, who came to me, um, very much in that same kind of predicament. Her biggest thing was that she wasn't being the mother that she wanted. Um, but I think it was really hard for her because everyone would say to her, oh my God, you are unstoppable.
Look, you're holding so much. You're doing such a great job. And she would kind of just smile and be like, yeah, I wanna like cry inside. Like, I'm not okay. Um, but she felt like she couldn't really let anyone down.
She was used to being the reliable one, used to being the strong one used to holding it all together. And she, it was like, she was like, I don't really have a choice. You know, if I don't, well, it'll all fall apart. And I think that's really true when you're holding like a team of people and you, you're a parent and you've got maybe people relying on you, but there's a cost for that and you're here.
Because you're feeling that. And in addition, I think it's important to understand that there are these false binaries that we may fall into, especially if you have a DHD or complex PTSD or just a sensitive system. And so many solutions are kind of focused on these false binaries, but they miss the mark for us, and they make us feel less understood and make things hotter than they need to be.
We are pushed to kind of pick a side of these therapy says it's all in your head. Um, or like, you can kind of fix it if you do this or if you, I dunno. Self-improvement says it's your subconscious beliefs and, um, biotherapy says it's your functional medicine something. You need more supplements or something.
Hustle culture says if you could just discipline yourself and manage your time better then. You would be on it, everything will be totally fine. And then there are the, there's this structural critique that says it's all in the system. It is all the patriarchy, it is all the nine to five. We should all be able to work from home, or we should never be able to work from home.
It's all, it's all about who you voted for or who didn't vote for. And I think the truth is more in the interaction of these, the space where our inner patterns meet our outer pressures. So I want you to, and this is so personal to you, so you have to ask yourself, when I over-function, when I do more than what my battery wants me to do, let's say at work, our goal is to get you coming home with energy, which means that we need to be using less of our battery at work.
So when I use so much of my battery at work, what is happening inside? Am I people pleasing and saying yes. When I actually wanna say no, am I working with my shoulders up towards my ears and I'm like, really focusing on getting this thing out because, oh my God, if I don't do it, am I not receiving feedback that fills my cup either because it's not available or because I don't believe it?
Um, am I just, is it just sensory overload and the bright lights are too much? Is it time blindness and then what's happening outside? So is there really an unrealistic workload or have you just told them that that's not realistic? Maybe they just don't know. Um, or is it really truly an unrealistic workload?
Is it because you're always expected to be on and you're always expected to be available and responsive? Is it because this, the team player energy actually just kind of says, don't advocate for yourself and what you need? And then which combination of these is kind of tripping you in a circuit until you're depleted.
So what is your specific sensitivity? Let's say if you're a people pleaser, or let's just say you have trouble advocating for yourself and saying no, and your boss doesn't understand, they've never done your job, so they don't understand how much time, energy it takes to do it, but you can't tell them.
That's an unrealistic expectation. Um. What would be happening for you? Where are you kind of, let's say, like leaking battery at work? Because of the way that these two things come together. Because if we can stay away from being in fix yourself versus fix the system slash the boss, it's their fault, then we get a little bit closer to something that's actually helpful.
Because it might not be you versus the system or money versus depth and meaning in my work. Or it may not be, UM, therapy versus somatic therapy or whatever, CBT versus somatic coaching. It may not be that. It might be something a little bit deeper. So for Sam, that meant that we stripped away a lot of her rules and we kind of just went with more of that inquiry.
So that looked like. Addressing the part of her that thought she would be forgotten and not promoted if she didn't overdeliver. Okay, cool. Mm. Interesting. That might, there might be some truth there, perhaps, maybe. Mm. Can we check and can we see how true that might be or, and then on the other side of that, is there a part of you that's saying yes just to feel valued and maybe you could get that value from somewhere else?
And then also, can we. Consider and advocate for communities that provide you that really good feedback and value in a way that you can receive. It's more about kind of like living in that question instead of a test that you need to pass in a yes or no. It's like, it's, it's these questions. What, what do you feel in your body when you say yes, but you want to say no, pressuring your chest and not in your stomach, kind of a glazing in your eyes.
Or if you imagine disappointing somebody, what sensations arrive? Could you just stay with them for three seconds?
I. And learn what's in there. And it sounds kind of boring on a podcast, but it's actually incredibly important because this is where your way of navigating the specific world that you are in will arise. If A DHD is a part of your wiring, what rhythms such as like time blocking or body doubling, let your attention patterns actually become a strength instead of a liability.
If trauma is in your history, what little things tell you that you're sliding into foreign or freeze? I have a friend and she was like, I'm so grateful. My inner child shakes andt, like tremors when she's coming forward. And I know that she's there and that's my sign and it's time that I need to self connect.
And then also, let's look outward. Let's look what expectations are you. Believing exists that are actually structurally there, or where are you absorbing somebody else's responsibility? What little containers can you have externally, such as like rules around your inbox, caps on your meetings each day? A friend of mine, she was like, I just started taking 10 minutes a break.
Like I made all of my meetings 50 meters strictly instead of an hour. It's amazing. And I was like, yeah. She's like, I'm a whole new person. I'm like, yeah. She's like, I have energy at the end of the day. Yeah, just that little break. It's crazy. Right. Um, she's like, I took a walk. Yeah, maybe that's all you need for Sam.
It was very much that all of these things kind of came together and her, her whole system felt more comfortable with, oh, I can be at work without disappearing past myself. And that is what helped her come home at the end of the day with energy. Her kids noticed first it was less snapping, less learning out, less being on her phone.
They started playing a little bit more than her partner noticed. There was suddenly energy for bedtime connection and then that snowballed on. So what would it look like in your life? And if you are thinking, okay, Sheridan seems to kind of get this, and I think maybe this could help for me. Let's have a chat.
Go ahead and book a free curiosity call. It's this pressure free, super curious, simple way for us to sense whether or not I could support you, whether or not we are a fit to work together. It fits your season, it makes, fits my season. Um, I'll have a chat. I'll leave that link below in the notes, or if you're ready, if you are like, yes, I am ready for change.
Let's figure this out. I wanna map my energy leagues and I wanna. Create some shifts that actually help me show up at the end of the work day with energy for my family. Um, book a 90 minute Somatic Clarity session and we will make sure that you have energy at the end of the day, at the end of the week for the things that are most important for you.