Have you tried laughing to change your mood?

How many methods have you tried to heal yourself?

In this Episode 98, Monica Ramirez, the Warrior of Love, and Lynn Himmelman talk about how it can be one of the best ways to heal yourself and what new decision is therapy so you can identify the beginning of the trauma.

About our Guest:

Journeying from Heart-Broken to Heart-Centered Living | 2. Trauma-Release Through Forgiveness & LaughterAudience: women or men stuck in an unfulfilling job and a turbulent home lifeBio: Lynn Himmelman – Life-Transformation Mentor (B.Sc., B.Mus.), has been accelerating the healing & awakening of thousands of individuals & organizations through the powerful synergy of forgiving and laughing for nearly two and a half decades. She is a sought-after expert in resolving trauma, anxiety, and complicated relationship conflicts.

As a seasoned inspired laugher, she has been voted Toronto's Most Infectious Laugher in three Championships. Laughter became a mainstay in her life when it played a central role in her recovery from severe brain trauma. That's when she realized, firsthand, through her own recovery experience, that Laughter IS The Best Medicine and, when combined with forgiveness, that it is a powerful pathway to deep and lasting transformation.

Lynn has appeared on various media channels, including CBC National News, Global TV News, Rogers TV, Toronto Sun News, The W Network, That Channel, and most recently, CTV's show "The Social."

For further information, visit: http://www.forgiveandlaugh.com

About the Host:

Monica Ramirez/ Warrior of Love is a Transformational Belief Coach, I help support you to awaken to happiness and personal power from the struggle and confusion to feeling free, happy, and powerful.

I am a Certified Neuro-Linguistic Programmer (N.L.P.) I am a Certified Beyond Quantum Healer (B.Q. H.) Certified Life Coach, Certified Reiki Master, Multidimensional Energy Healer, Galactic Akashic Record, Psychic Channeler from the Family of the Light and my Higher Self Maia, Tarot Reader, Channel Readings, and artists.

The founder of "Path to the Heart", my signature Transformational System. I work with people coaching them one on one and in groups.

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Hello, everyone. This is Monica Ramirez, Warrior of Love. And thanks for being here. And today we continue with a series of portable looser. And we have a wonderful read bytes. It is Lynn Himmelman. If I said it right. And she it is, it is very interesting what she is doing something that I believe I need right now that it is she do several stuff, and one of them is the left yoga. I might I hope I didn't say wrong, and the new decision therapy, and let's find out a little bit more. And thank you, Lynn so much for being part of a soul talk.

My pleasure. I really delighted to be here. Monica,

he tell us a little bit about what is the new decision therapy.

Well, this is a beautiful gift that dropped into my life at a point in time where I was really giving up on myself and I was giving up on life. You know, I'd had a lot of really great things already happened in my life. And it didn't really make any sense to me, that my body, my physical body was not cooperating with all of my big dreams, I from the time I was young, I had wanted to be a singer and, and yet I was very shy and, and uncertain and self conscious. And it was a big leap for me to go into university and to get my music degree. And then, you know, things really started to take off I was becoming I was being paid as a professional opera singer, which seemed just so miraculous to go from this place of complete, shy awkwardness to being able to get up on stages in front of 1000s of people and sing but in the middle of all of that my body started to fail. And because the my body is my instrument, any of us that we're using, I mean, our body is the instrument for just about anything that we want to do in life. Yes. And so if that house that we live in every day isn't moving in synchronicity of us in terms of how we're imagining our life to be it can be very upsetting, depressing. And, and we can go into deep states of suffering around that. And that's exactly where I was stuck. And even though I had tried many, many different therapies, both in the you know, the medical and the non medical world to try and get on my feet, nothing seemed to be working. And then and I gave up. And at that moment of giving up new decision therapy showed itself it was developed by a marriage and family psychotherapist in the United States, who really got tired of having people come back to her year after year after year are seeming to repeat the same stories and to stay stuck in the same cycle of what you know what's been done to me, you know, and to basically just blaming life and blaming the people in their life for why they couldn't get on with it. Well, I think I was also one of those people. And this technique that she developed, got me out of that it got me out of my own way and the miracle and the beauty of it is it all happened within a matter of weeks.

Wow. Usually, the majority of the human beings roll with that card meeting good. I believe Monday majority are like that because there's a program that has been drilled into us since we're kids. We hear that It's always complain about the government's fault, or their schooling fault or someone else's fault. And they're they're trying to change. So it's a program that the majority of human beings scattered onto, they decide to change that. But it takes Cocker Usually when someone become the observer and cautious, and to change that, not a Greek that we did is very fast for for a modality. It is also a

few weeks, a few weeks. So I went from being someone who was struggling so badly that I gave up on myself and I decided, I guess I'm just an unhelpful anomaly. Within a short time of making that decision about myself, this dropped in, I stumbled upon it at a health show, which I wasn't even going to go to because I didn't think there was, I thought I tried everything. But someone in my life, who had never been to a health show convinced me to go disappeared within about 10 minutes after I got there, I was steaming out of the years, I was so angry that this person had dragged me there and then just disappeared. But you know, it was meant to happen. Because I was parked, you know, and I had this like, Ah, I was just so angry, you know, and I was just the wheels were turning 1000 miles an hour inside my head about what I was gonna say to this person when I found them. And then I was like, I don't see this person in the next minute or to I'm out of here. And then around walked this person who had been taking care of a booth. It was the first time ever new decision therapy was being introduced to Toronto, where I'm from Dr. Candace Blakely, who developed the technique was living in California at the time. And someone who trained with her, had a miraculous recovery had influenced her mother, who then had an miraculous recovery over a trauma that she went through. And she was 18 and had affected her whole marriage, her relationship with her daughters, that woman, that mother was there helping her daughter who previously she had been strange to, to introduce this to us in the great city of Toronto. And he told me her story, and it was so like, it was to me it was so mind blowing, I had to come back to the show the next day, to meet her daughter, who is this certified practitioner in the process. He stood me in front of a mirror. Before she did that, she had me touch certain points on my body stimulate certain points, I don't know, I didn't know for sure what she was doing. But those little adjustments, opened up energy pathways in me so that I was able to get back in contact with what was running my life. From the subconscious level, she was able to identify the exact moment in time where I had stopped having a strong relationship with life, she knew nothing about me, found this just through the technique and through tapping into the signals that my body was giving back to her, identified the age of 14. And all manner of emotion came flooding up. That I didn't even know that I was still harboring. Now we couldn't do anything with that at the show. But believe me, I booked a session with her. And was no looking back from there. Within five months of going through that process. I was training to become a practitioner and I had somehow miraculously shifted from someone unhelpful, who had to someone who had been empowered through this technique to lift other people up the way I was lifted up and that's what I've been doing for the past 25 years.

Welcome. Thank choosing to be part of this group. You have said yes to yourself. You've chosen to confront those limitations keeping you from achieving the life of your dreams. Monica Ramirez, Warrior of Love is a transformational belief coach. She's a psychic, Channeler certified NLP life coach be Qh that is hypnotherapy, Akashic Records reader, public speaker, writer and artist. She works with many modalities and has created her own like this one, to help you get over the limitations and achieve the transformation you desire. So you can anchor your emotions that you desire, when you will be hosting a new session every Tuesday at 7pm Central time leading the group through a guided meditation then proceeding to work with people individually. So join Monica here in this free journey by joining this seemed like.

Do you think that it has to do a lot with believing in yourself? Again, I have seen that with my clients over and over they point of the trauma, whatever it is, because they stop believing in themselves, they stop believing that they can transform and change their life or remove the sickness or limitation whatever it is, or it is because they're not believing in themselves.

Well, for sure that's there. And I you know, I would say I knew that was there, but I didn't know how to have it not be there. And all of the things I tried, you know, meditation, different energetic techniques, reading all the positive self help books, changing how I ate getting all the toxins out of my system, physically, you know, and what I didn't realize is that there were emotional toxins that were buried so deeply. I didn't even know they were there anymore. And that day at the Health show, I touched on levels of emotion that were harbored inside of me that I had never touched on through any other talk therapy, energetic therapy. It was a first for me. And I would say I'm one of those, you know, like I'm I'm one of those highly sensitive individuals, you know, and you know, like highly sensitive to my environment, to other people's energies. And I, you know, I would say back then, I didn't know anything about healthy boundaries. So of course, I let everybody else's energy consume me. And I somehow convinced myself because other people seem to think that if there was a problem in their life, it was because of me. And I would just so willingly took that on that I was the reason everybody else was measurable. You know, I made them and then I didn't know how to get out of that trap. And this technique that Candice developed, helped me get out of my own way, long enough to get out of that trap, and to be able to re perceive myself in relationship to others, and to, in a sense, reclaim my own inner domain right down to a soul level. Because this process that she developed, it's really a soul retrieval, you're able to go in to read through the wisdom of the body, because everything, everything is encoded there everything that you need to resolve what you think is unfixable the information is there. So, she developed, you know, it's like, I feel sometimes she taught me a way to read that inner wisdom, that inner languaging that exists within the body, and then translate it and give it back to the person who has lost sight of it there. You know, and as you go through the technique, you start to retrieve it so that then you're able to do it for yourself. You know, in the beginning I kind of I be I'm the guide. And that was her whole thing, you know, like she wanted it in the end to be a self help tool. In the beginning. You need someone who's trained to get the really, you know, incestuous clutter, inner clutter that just you can't seem to wade through on your own. And once that's cleaned up, then you've got this beautiful technique that you can that you can use anytime, anywhere, to just tune up whatever is

your way. He doesn't matter. We are coaches or healers, we all need what we're working with ourselves at one point or the other. And we'll have a bunch of blind spots. Because we're working and working or and we forget about ourselves. So many times, we have all those blind spots. And so we need sometimes therapists, coaches, or therapists, that can help us also see those blind spots. And it's like putting that on. Right? You have the parts on top of there's something underneath, and there's something more underneath. And we continue working with ourselves, I believe that we all have to continue working on to, I don't know, to when

It's an ending, ending. But I like to say, you know, like, I have actually gravitated away from that phrase of working on oneself, and into discovering, and getting more into a playful relationship with our life journey. Because the work never ends. So why not just shifted into a playful relationship of expanding how we enter into this game of life, you know, let's make the game fun.

It is easier to achieve that something in my own experience, it is when you become the observer. And I believe the universe is it likes to play jokes with us all the time. So it was showed your present you the the same thing that you've been doubting about yourself. And he just was so in a funny way. But to your observer, he used to get triggered by it, you're not going to see the comic, the committee side of the universe to you. Right?

Yeah, for sure. Yeah, observer. But there's more to it than just being an observer, because an observer suggests kind of being off to the side, like just kind of looking or watching.

It's removing the judge

It's a way because you see, we live we are here living in this beautiful physical house. So when we really fully get centered, like where we really are connected, on a deep level, right in here, it's like there's a core of who we are that we can connect to, then we can, it's more like, we're the eye in the center of the storm, everything is happening. We're in it, we're not off to the side here. We're in it, but we're so still, internally, like the eye in the center of the storm, that we do not get blown around in the turbulence. We're, we're part of it, but we're not.

If I understand you also do the Java, the laughing, Java, that I have tried, yes, there many times, but I used it to make time for that. But tell us a little bit more about it, how it works. And how do you work with that with people?

Yeah, well, to me, the two are very married to each other now, because they both made a profound difference for me. And, you know, when I went through the new decision therapy, that that did great things, and I became a lot lighter and happier and so on. But I was because I had spent so many years and trenched in trying to resolve my issues. I became very serious and, and that pattern of seriousness was still there. So the laughter yoga really helped to shake that loose from my system. And it's not an ordinary way of being in relationship with laughter. It's actually an extraordinary way of being in relationship with laughter. And it requires it requires palling laughter up from the inside of yourself. You already know how to laugh when there's a good joke. You already know how to laugh when there's, you know, a comedian or somebody says something witty. But do you know how to laugh, really laugh in a situation of adversity when you're in the middle of a great loss. losing someone that you love Have dearly a relationship breaking up unexpectedly, somebody's having a distorted representation that, you know, is so faulty. And yet you can't convince them otherwise, where it's just breaking your heart. Do you know how to laugh in a way that is healing your heart and soul? Right? It requires letting go of defining the appropriateness of laughing in the situation because we've been programmed to believe it's not appropriate to laugh in adverse situations. And yet, it is naturally programmed into our bodies to laugh when we're under extreme amounts of stress. And the only thing that stops us from doing that, is the faulty thinking that we have been taught that it is inappropriate. So I have gotten through great moments of grief, with the help of laughing

Yes, it changes your energy immediately in the moment, just start laughing is whatever is mental or emotional state toward you just flip.

Yeah, like we could start laughing right now. We don't have to have a reason. I don't have to tell a funny joke. I could just invite you to laugh with me. Kids do it all the time. They just laugh because they're moving their laugh. They just laugh because they're interacting with life. Babies don't laugh because they think something's funny. They're not even thinking yet.

So are you ready to laugh with me, Monica?

Yes.

And anyone else who's listening? Okay, it might feel weird, because we're so used to associating it with something in our mind. But go with it anyway, just ride with it. Because as we laugh, the body will not know the difference because we're still activating the same muscular mechanisms. And it's going to signal the body to release mood lifting endorphins, even if you were to fake the laugh and just go, I don't know if I feel like laughing haha, he Oh. You're already activating the systems to release. So I'm going to count us in you ready? 123 just any kind of laugh even a fake one? No, you know what, we're already laughing more right now than if somebody had told a funny joke. Because most laughs only laugh or like, they last for maybe three to five seconds. If something's really funny and laugh for 10 Two seconds. And if you want to use laughter as a tool to really shake things up for yourself and actually release deep seated tension, because the more you laugh and the longer you laugh, and this is going outside of the box, you're not going to do it in a normal way. You're going to do it in an extraordinary way. A stretched out exaggerated way because what do i Olympic lap leads do? They don't just keep it in the ordinary. They don't just walk an ordinary pace. They exaggerate the Expand they take it into a new level. Okay, so this is like laughter Olympics. So you start by challenging yourself to laugh even if it feels fake, keep it going for a minute. That's a pretty long stretch for most people. You know, just do that every day for a week and see it it could very well change things up for you you know and then even more

Oh, Lynn it was really my pleasure to have you here and, and just please let us know. Do you teach in groups or one on one?

Both I do one on one sessions, both online and in person for anybody who's in Toronto, and I do have a free stress interrupter that happens online every second Tuesday, which you can find on Eventbrite, but you could also go to my website to find that information. It's www.forgiveandlaugh.com.

I will be sharing her information down below, so you can catch her laughter and you can shift your energy. Thank you, Lynn. Thank you so much. And

Thank you, Monica.

And thank you for all our viewers. This is Monica Ramirez, Warrior of Love, and thank you for being in Soul Talk.