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Unknown:Hi, everybody. Welcome to another episode of no Halo
Unknown:was here. It's our 50th episode. Sure is sure is yeah, sorry.
Unknown:That was probably really loud. As you can hear, I am releasing
Unknown:a cold right now. So I'm celebrating that fact that I am
Unknown:almost pretty much I go off on the road to recovery
Jane Stark:on the road to recovery. Yeah.
Unknown:Yeah. It's all good. So today, we thought we would riff
Unknown:on, like 5050 Episode 50 episodes,
Jane Stark:or we learned what we're where we're at. We're also
Jane Stark:launching our very first group program today. So it's a big
Jane Stark:day. Big day round here, gents. Releasing a cold. Yep, we're,
Jane Stark:we're on episode 50. And you have your serenity beta round
Jane Stark:starts this afternoon. Super exciting. Super exciting. So we
Jane Stark:don't have a big format plant. Who am I kidding? We never have
Jane Stark:a big structure to our episodes. But yeah, today, we really kind
Jane Stark:of were like, Let's just, let's just talk about this and do some
Jane Stark:reflection and ask kind of maybe do a bit of interview style.
Jane Stark:Questions for each of us. If you hear some rattling My dog is in
Jane Stark:our office or in my office. So oh, you can hear that. I can
Jane Stark:hear a little chains clinking. Okay. So 50 episodes in. We
Jane Stark:launched our podcast in April of 2021. Yep. We have consistently
Jane Stark:released an episode every week since then. So first of all, I
Jane Stark:actually just want to pat myself on the back. Maybe you too, I
Jane Stark:don't know. But for me, that's big. Like, I'm not always the
Jane Stark:most consistent person. Yeah, we've talked about this. You're
Jane Stark:not either. So let ourselves on the back here that like we have
Jane Stark:managed to every week. Get an episode out. We haven't missed a
Jane Stark:week.
Unknown:So yeah, like, um, except we did take a purposeful
Unknown:break over Christmas.
Jane Stark:Right? We did. Yeah, that was intentional and
Jane Stark:planned. Yep. Yeah.
Unknown:But we have, you know, did I well, I can't do it this
Unknown:week, are we we've shown and also celebrating big shout out
Unknown:for each other.
Jane Stark:Yeah, I was just gonna say that. That's, that's
Jane Stark:been the key as well, that's been beautiful. And this is not
Jane Stark:to say that people who don't, you know, deliver an episode
Jane Stark:consistently weekly, there's nothing wrong with that. You do
Jane Stark:you? I think for us, it was really that was something we set
Jane Stark:out to do. We really wanted to see if we could make this a
Jane Stark:consistent practice. And yeah, that's been one of the beauties
Jane Stark:of it is we've been able to support each other. So there
Jane Stark:have been weeks where we just, it would didn't work to record
Jane Stark:together, whether it was holidays, illness, whatever,
Jane Stark:summer so we've been able to switch each other off. And
Jane Stark:sometimes you've as you heard, if you listen regularly, you
Jane Stark:might hear a solo episode from Jen or myself. And that's yeah,
Jane Stark:we also don't really batch our episodes. No, we don't wait. In
Jane Stark:the beginning, we were ahead by about three or four episodes,
Jane Stark:which felt really good. That's kind of fallen off. But we've
Jane Stark:actually found our rhythm with
Unknown:under rhythm is showing up. I think and and doing much
Unknown:more than three or four in advance I don't think is
Unknown:practical or doable. It doesn't you know, we're we're week ahead
Unknown:right now. Yeah.
Jane Stark:So doesn't feel like we're very much about what's in
Jane Stark:the moment. For us, it feels like it. It flows when we talk
Jane Stark:about we may talk about like the context of the information we
Jane Stark:want to share is much for me, I know especially as an
Jane Stark:experiential person comes out much stronger when I am relating
Jane Stark:it to the experiences in my life in my world. And I think we've
Jane Stark:just found that flow, right where it just feels like okay,
Jane Stark:what's going on right now that we can talk about and bring to
Jane Stark:the podcast. So yeah, so that's been an interesting learning
Jane Stark:too, because I think, you know, we we kind of dabbled in this.
Jane Stark:Do we batch episodes? Do we try and record a whole bunch on one
Jane Stark:day and have a recording day, and it's just never really
Jane Stark:flowed for us?
Unknown:Yeah, we went I think well, that I think part of that
Unknown:is that 50 episodes of learning what works and feels good and
Unknown:feels right for us, and also being open to try new things.
Unknown:So, excuse me one sec, you have to take that over because I'm
Unknown:about to hop on mute myself.
Jane Stark:Here's another first what we saying so the learning,
Jane Stark:the learning piece has been trial and error. And I think
Jane Stark:that's the other thing we haven't, we've both been very
Jane Stark:open that this was going to be a trial and error that this was an
Jane Stark:experiment. I think, another place where we can recognize
Jane Stark:ourselves is that we have taken the pressure off, which,
Jane Stark:interestingly, has been a big conversation for both of us in
Jane Stark:the last couple of weeks and looking where we are putting
Jane Stark:pressure on ourselves to do things, whether that be in
Jane Stark:launching, you know, this group program or other things that
Jane Stark:we're doing in our collaboration together. And oh, it should look
Jane Stark:like this are all the pressures on to do that. And I know,
Jane Stark:again, I'm really deconditioning myself from that and looking at
Jane Stark:where am I putting all this extra pressure on myself to do
Jane Stark:things. And I'd say that we haven't really done that with
Jane Stark:the podcast, I've never really felt like we've been under
Jane Stark:pressure or really made it like, even with the recording every
Jane Stark:week, it didn't feel like oh my God, there's so much pressure to
Jane Stark:get another episode recorded. Sure, there were some weeks
Jane Stark:where we're like, oh, like, like, what are we gonna talk
Jane Stark:about? We got to get that episode out. But it didn't. It
Jane Stark:just didn't have that same heaviness. It's felt very
Jane Stark:organic, which is
Unknown:felt we Yeah, I think natural and also, giving
Unknown:ourselves permission to explore this process, in a different way
Unknown:has also been really beneficial. So I think we've, in addition to
Unknown:showing up for each other. I've showed up for the podcast, we've
Unknown:showed up for you, our audience that our listeners, knowing that
Unknown:there's, you know, all kinds of, you know, nuggets and fun, and
Unknown:maybe you look forward to having us in your ears each week, we
Unknown:don't know. But if you do, please tell us because that
Unknown:might be kind of nice to hear as well, celebrating 50 episodes.
Unknown:The other thing I wanted to celebrate was, let's see, we've
Unknown:had I just pulled up our stats, oh, well, I had my coughing
Unknown:fits. So
Jane Stark:nothing like multitasking blew
Unknown:up. And one of the things that we've had, we've had
Unknown:almost 1800 All Time downloads on these numbers may not be
Unknown:huge. But for our first 50 episodes with, I'm gonna say
Unknown:minimal marketing, we really haven't talked about it too
Unknown:much.
Jane Stark:No, this is very experimental for us, right? This
Jane Stark:is very much an organic. Let's try this and see what happens.
Jane Stark:So we didn't set out for any big specific, audacious number goals
Jane Stark:or things like that. No. So where are we going with that? So
Jane Stark:yeah, we've had 1800,
Unknown:we've had eight, almost 1800 Altarum downloads. Let's
Unknown:see, in the last 90 days, that's almost 400 downloads. Yeah, so
Unknown:that's, that's kind of cool. Because that's basically in the
Unknown:last three months. Almost, let's see 1800 quick math, that's
Unknown:almost a fifth, almost a fifth just in the last 90 days. So
Unknown:that's slightly, that's showing improvement, basically, and
Unknown:showing growth and showing. So I think what I'm trying to say
Unknown:here is that it all works. And based on this 5050 episode
Unknown:celebration piece, I say the takeaway is don't be afraid to
Unknown:experiment, and to take the pressure off yourself and play
Unknown:with what works
Jane Stark:and what doesn't work and let it you know, I
Jane Stark:think it's just as important to look at what doesn't work and
Jane Stark:what maybe feels like a quote unquote, failure. And learn like
Jane Stark:it's just, it's all information, right? It's just learning. So
Jane Stark:it's also interesting, we haven't for a little while, but
Jane Stark:I think you know, soon you and I will sit down and look at what
Jane Stark:topics you know what episodes are getting the most downloads
Jane Stark:and listens and whatnot to, to sort of understand what's
Jane Stark:resonating and what's not. But we also, again, we set out and
Jane Stark:as projectors, we're very much in this space of we need to put
Jane Stark:out what feels good to us. Yeah, in the moment. And I think
Jane Stark:that's also something that we have intentionally kind of
Jane Stark:decided that we're going to do like if it doesn't feel good,
Jane Stark:we're not forcing it.
Unknown:Yeah. We're gonna be following we're not really trend
Unknown:followers.
Jane Stark:No, no, that's why our Instagram is spotty and our
Jane Stark:social we're actually in this right now in this in discussions
Jane Stark:around like what, what are our marketing tactics or avenues? I
Jane Stark:don't even like the word tactics, and I'm a marketer, but
Jane Stark:But what are what are the avenues that feel good for us? I
Jane Stark:mean, this Morning Jen and I, we kind of set up big blocks of
Jane Stark:time to co work and record our podcast and do whatever needs to
Jane Stark:come up. So before hopping on recording this, we were having a
Jane Stark:conversation about, about some of the marketing. And you know,
Jane Stark:I asked Jen like, well, what, what are the things that we do
Jane Stark:that actually feel good while we're doing them? I think that's
Jane Stark:something that I'm really curious to dive into more and
Jane Stark:explore. And the podcast was one right, that was one of our top
Jane Stark:things were like, You know what? I really like recording the
Jane Stark:podcast. It's fun. It brings, it brings me joy.
Unknown:I like writing love letters.
Jane Stark:Yeah. Yeah, that's going that's working really
Jane Stark:well. And we've been tying the love letters on the podcast a
Jane Stark:little closer together. Lately, which has felt really good. So,
Jane Stark:you know, just really throwing up the rulebook is what we're
Jane Stark:doing.
Unknown:Yeah. I think these times call for stuff like that,
Unknown:though. Yeah, there's, I mean, projectors are also guides.
Unknown:Yeah. So we are meant to be throwing out the rulebook in
Unknown:many ways and fighting. We are the we're at that leading edge
Unknown:of new ways of interacting and new ways of bringing, sharing
Unknown:and showing wisdom with, with and to the world. So as we
Unknown:explore our projectionist for ourselves, we also share that
Unknown:those aspects with our audience and hope that, you know,
Unknown:whenever you pick up great, whatever isn't for you right
Unknown:now. Also great. Yeah, matter. Yeah. Yeah, no, thanks. No
Unknown:difference. Take what you want from and
Jane Stark:just knowing and that trusting that the right
Jane Stark:information will hit the right people at the right time. Yeah,
Jane Stark:what we share, right, like, and I'm curious. Okay, so one of the
Jane Stark:questions I wanted to ask you, and you can put this back at me,
Jane Stark:but is there anything after 50? episodes, what would reflecting
Jane Stark:back? What would you do differently? If anything?
Unknown:I think I don't know. It's kind of I think regret is
Unknown:too strong a word for something like this. Like, there's nothing
Unknown:I regret, no, yeah, that's folded everything. I think that
Unknown:trust in that everything unfolded the way it needed to in
Unknown:that process. I'm really happy that we launched with amplify
Unknown:you, for example, I think that was such a beautiful choice.
Unknown:That worked for us. And if you are thinking of launching a
Unknown:podcast, then definitely talk to Michelle and her team, because
Unknown:we were so supported all along the way. And we have been
Unknown:continued to be supported
Jane Stark:by salutely. That's been Yeah, I'm so glad we made
Jane Stark:that decision in the early days to hire an editor. And we
Jane Stark:actually hired AMPLIFi, you and Michelle's team as sort of a
Jane Stark:podcast coach, so they actually helped us do all of the
Jane Stark:beginning stuff when you're launching a podcast. As we
Jane Stark:quickly found out there's a lot more to it than just hopping on
Jane Stark:Zoom and recording. Right. There's there's all these other
Jane Stark:elements to get set up to get your podcasts actually up and
Jane Stark:out there and syndicated? Is that word? Yeah.
Unknown:I think so. And all that distribution channels.
Unknown:Yeah,
Jane Stark:that's what I mean. I feel like syndicated is more
Jane Stark:of like a radio word anyways. But so we hired them to help us
Jane Stark:get it out to the world, then we actually because, again, we
Jane Stark:wanted this to be a very organic process. And we wanted to learn
Jane Stark:through it. We actually took the editing in house very briefly.
Jane Stark:And Jen, you took on the actual putting like sound side of it
Jane Stark:and putting it all together, because you have that skill set.
Jane Stark:Yeah, we quickly learned that that was not the best, most
Jane Stark:effective use of our time. So that's another lesson. And maybe
Jane Stark:a little nugget here is just because you can do something
Jane Stark:doesn't mean you should do it.
Unknown:I think that's a good, that's a better way of
Unknown:describing it. Because again, I don't know if I would have done
Unknown:anything differently, because I kind of wanted to know how much
Unknown:time it would take to an energy it would take to process our
Unknown:podcast. I think, you know, when you have double audio tracks,
Unknown:it's slightly different. It's not actually that much more
Unknown:time, it's just a bit a bit more, slightly more complex. But
Unknown:what we discovered was that the distribution platforms, and the
Unknown:level of service provided by the by, you know, an editor and
Unknown:having the editor was far more value than actual the actual
Unknown:time of editing because it's not just the editing, it's the
Unknown:distribution is the following up. It's the creation of the
Unknown:graphics and all those in now you take on the graphics, but
Unknown:it's also I don't know There's just,
Jane Stark:yeah, there's been you think of right. So that's
Jane Stark:been, yeah, that's been worked really well for us.
Unknown:So love that. You know, like you've mentioned before, I
Unknown:love that word for starting for serenity today, the same day we
Unknown:record our 50th episode, I think that's just a beautiful Hallmark
Unknown:type of type of environment. And maybe you can hear the this
Unknown:celebration and excitement in definitely in my voice, but
Unknown:probably in both of our voices. Because it's I think it's just
Unknown:been an interesting journey these last couple years. A first
Unknown:of all, the meditation process together when that pandemic
Unknown:first broke out, and then launching the Podcast, the
Unknown:podcast, which has now led to our group program, and it's
Unknown:like, it's roughly around springs. So this is maybe
Unknown:something to note for us.
Jane Stark:Right, interesting. So this is the 50s. And this is
Jane Stark:March 3 today that we're recording this, it's gonna come
Jane Stark:out on March 15. But we launched it in April. So we're actually
Jane Stark:coming up on our one year anniversary of actually
Jane Stark:launching the podcast, actually,
Unknown:I'm pretty sure that we started that meditation process
Unknown:on March 15. March 13, or 15th it was that because COVID hit in
Unknown:March 2020. We had March of that. So I love finding these
Unknown:little patterns. Uh huh. Like,
Jane Stark:I just find that really interesting. You're
Jane Stark:right, essentially saying these things, right. I know, totally
Jane Stark:nerding out on this pattern and everything. Some people be like,
Jane Stark:Yeah, okay. It's just coincidence. Oh, no, I'm gonna
Jane Stark:go with like, no, they sent me do that. It's
Unknown:a fun. We liked it. We like to see patterns. Yeah.
Jane Stark:Yeah, that's an interesting observation. So
Jane Stark:yeah, so coming up on a year since we've launched it. Fear
Jane Stark:serenity launches. Today, we're going to be running the waitlist
Jane Stark:for the next round. If your serenity is going to open very
Jane Stark:soon as well. We're going to just start to run cohorts at
Jane Stark:this. Yeah. Which also feels really good and fun. But, and I
Jane Stark:think what you were saying was how Yeah, one thing led to the
Jane Stark:other led to the other led to the other, our 321. Countdown?
Jane Stark:Yep. Came in there where we can where we're working two to one.
Jane Stark:Yes, with clients. And it's all just kind of organically grown.
Jane Stark:I would have trying these different things and out of I
Jane Stark:think the the podcast has allowed us to continue to
Jane Stark:explore topics that we were already sort of exploring
Jane Stark:offline together. But it's allowed us to bring them to a
Jane Stark:different platform. And it's also allowed us to it's, or it's
Jane Stark:encouraged us to carve out I think more time in our actual
Jane Stark:work days, like if I look at the way this evolved, right? It was
Jane Stark:all of a sudden, were like, Okay, we need to actually set
Jane Stark:some time to record. Okay, we actually then also need to set
Jane Stark:aside some time to discuss what we're going to record and then
Jane Stark:creating. So we've just been creating more and more time in
Jane Stark:our schedules to be like, Okay, we need to get together on Zoom
Jane Stark:and talk about this or that. And that's how these programs came.
Jane Stark:Yes. Right. It was the conversations were not just
Jane Stark:Okay, let's it felt like it felt too limiting almost to be like,
Jane Stark:Okay, well, let's just talk about this on the podcast. And
Jane Stark:okay, let's record our podcast, there was just this bigger
Jane Stark:energy, where it's like, oh, my gosh, we need to go ahead. No
Jane Stark:finish. Go ahead. I
Unknown:was gonna say like, we need to keep building on the
Unknown:momentum of that moment. Yeah. I'm gonna mail delivery. It's
Unknown:the momentum in the moment, I think is one of those things to
Unknown:follow. And not shutting down that energy. And I think that's
Unknown:probably been an really interesting way to call it a
Unknown:lesson. But I really interesting learning from the last year is
Unknown:we've talked about following the energy before. So as we follow
Unknown:the energy, that means following the momentum and not shutting it
Unknown:down. And also, honoring those slow periods, and not trying to
Unknown:force it. And being aware of when that slow period is, is you
Unknown:self sabotaging. Or, it's like it's this finely nuanced place
Unknown:of, of momentum, forward momentum. And also observational
Unknown:awareness in the moment.
Jane Stark:And integration, maybe it's the word that's
Jane Stark:coming to maybe, yeah, like, you know, you get the forward
Jane Stark:momentum, and then things slow down. And I think we get kind of
Jane Stark:uncomfortable or dissatisfied. But really, what if that is
Jane Stark:actually just the time to integrate what you've just grown
Jane Stark:into. And we have to honor that space in the fact the more we
Jane Stark:can sit with that and be with that allow the integration to
Jane Stark:happen, the faster the next burst of momentum comes? Yeah.
Unknown:Yeah. Oh, that's a nice pattern. So maybe, I think for
Unknown:our listeners, if you don't necessarily pick attention to
Unknown:your energy levels. This would be I think, a big takeaway for
Unknown:both Jada and i is, as we communicate to you, our
Unknown:listeners, pay attention to your energy levels, you really do and
Unknown:work with them. Because you'll actually get more out of it.
Unknown:You'll have deeper restful integration periods, and you
Unknown:will have more effective momentum and energetic periods.
Unknown:Mm hmm. That's them. I
Jane Stark:have a thought and it's not coming out. So. Okay, I
Jane Stark:was like, I know, I like the gents looking at me. Like you're
Jane Stark:gonna say something. I'm like, Yeah, I am. It's not for me so
Jane Stark:fully for like what you shared? Yeah, I mean, I think I don't
Jane Stark:know if I have much more to say on that. You summed it up
Jane Stark:nicely. Thank you. So. Okay. 50. So Dan, where do we want to go
Jane Stark:from here?
Unknown:Oh, good question. Where do you want to go from
Unknown:here? Well, we have talked about are we going to say it in
Unknown:public? I think we shouldn't say in public? should or shouldn't
Unknown:healthy female relationships. Oh, this direction? Yeah. So
Unknown:this came out of a podcast conversation we had a couple
Unknown:weeks ago with Melissa and Catherine from the Yoni codes.
Unknown:And you'll hear they're actually their guest episode was last
Unknown:week, both of Yeah, both of us both
Jane Stark:both of our episodes are would have been released on
Jane Stark:March 8, International Women's Day. So yeah, it's a we it'll be
Jane Stark:last week from when you guys hear this.
Unknown:And so then Jane and I were reflecting on some of the
Unknown:questions that they'd asked us, and we started looking at, well,
Unknown:what what makes a healthy female relationship, whether it's in
Unknown:business, or friendship, or otherwise? And how do we, how do
Unknown:we not let the wounding or the inherited or the traumas or
Unknown:whatever, get in the way of what is it like a fantastic
Unknown:collaborative relationship?
Jane Stark:Yeah, those were really good conversations. And
Jane Stark:they was, we didn't It's funny, we, when we were a guest on
Jane Stark:their, their podcast, we were going to talk about something
Jane Stark:totally different, not just you and I, like the four of us had
Jane Stark:kind of talked about, like loosely what we were going to go
Jane Stark:on and be guests on. And they we hopped on and they're like so we
Jane Stark:have a thought we have an idea, we'd really like to like Are you
Jane Stark:are you open to kind of changing it up. And we really want to
Jane Stark:talk about this, we want to understand more about how you
Jane Stark:guys operate being asked Jen and I, in what we're doing together,
Jane Stark:and we were game. And it turned into this really juicy
Jane Stark:conversation and actually helped Jen and I unpack a little bit
Jane Stark:more and reflect on our friendship and our collaboration
Jane Stark:together over the last year in a bit. And so that seems to have
Jane Stark:opened up something for us where we're really like, quite
Jane Stark:fascinated by this. And also noticing that their seat like
Jane Stark:how many I'm calling them like Duo's, with female Duo's, we're
Jane Stark:seeing in business because yes, and it's Yeah, because it is
Jane Stark:it's two women coming together, whether it's partnership, like
Jane Stark:full on going into business together, or doing kind of more
Jane Stark:what Jen and I are doing, where we're collaborating, we're
Jane Stark:building this organic, sort of business, but we still each have
Jane Stark:our own businesses and practices. And there's just
Jane Stark:something that's really intrigued us around that and
Jane Stark:how, how we how we operate in those realms. And so that's kind
Jane Stark:of been what we started unpacking. And I think what
Jane Stark:we're gonna
Unknown:do is we're gonna be talking more about this, I
Unknown:think, in the next definitely in the next 50 episodes,
Unknown:definitely. Yeah. And it's also, you know, we're gonna have more
Unknown:guests around that, I think it's important to have these
Unknown:conversations because as we move through these times of
Unknown:unplugging from who we all were as humans like and where we're
Unknown:all headed. Again, this is the protector guiding moment, but
Unknown:it's kind of letting it's it's not as simple as letting bygones
Unknown:be bygones as the expression goes, but it's not letting your
Unknown:wounding getting the weight get in the way of a potentially
Unknown:amazing and world changing collaborative partnership,
Unknown:whether it's two people, three people or four people. So yes,
Unknown:this is doing your own work. And yes, this is working together.
Unknown:And I think that Jane and I have we live we walk our talk, we
Unknown:live, we live
Jane Stark:and that's what we want to unpack because and
Jane Stark:that's what Melissa and Catherine really dug into is
Jane Stark:like, how does this look for you guys? What do you do? And that
Jane Stark:was the reflections where we really had to sit back and we're
Jane Stark:like, Yeah, we really do walk the walk and we really do our
Jane Stark:own healing work. And we I mean, we just had we just had a
Jane Stark:situation yesterday minor. Yeah, but we're in a conversation Jen
Jane Stark:drops something on me that I wasn't really expecting. And
Jane Stark:fair, I
Unknown:did not do it very gracefully. So as I fully take
Unknown:responsibility for but yeah, it was,
Jane Stark:but then I had a strong reaction. So and it's
Jane Stark:it's a small deal. But it's also a small deal because right away
Jane Stark:like within an hour or two from that happening, I sent Jen a
Jane Stark:message and just was like, Hey, I just want to clear the air
Jane Stark:here. I know, I had like, really strong energy around that. And
Jane Stark:my reaction was really strong. Like, I just need to like, let
Jane Stark:you know and process kind of what was coming in and defuse
Jane Stark:it. Yeah. And you know, same thing it was, that's when she
Jane Stark:wrote back and she's like, totally, I felt it too. And
Jane Stark:yeah, like, I recognize I kind of dropped a bomb on you. And
Jane Stark:could have, you know, shared it in a different way. And it's
Jane Stark:like, awesome, great, we can move on. But in a lot of
Jane Stark:scenarios, and I've had it in the past too, like where I
Jane Stark:wouldn't have even spoken up. And it's not that I would have
Jane Stark:necessarily harbored that as like resentment, it would have
Jane Stark:turned in something bigger. But it also is those little like
Jane Stark:death by 1000 cuts, right? When we if we don't clear those
Jane Stark:things quickly. And in the moment, it they can very easily
Jane Stark:start to become bigger, because then there's another one and
Jane Stark:another one and you're holding on to them.
Unknown:So subconsciously or otherwise, yeah, might your mind
Unknown:might say, Oh, I've let that go. But then actually inside, that's
Unknown:why like, we both like, I'm so grateful. You thought you've
Unknown:asked me before I was gonna box you I'd be like, I totally did
Unknown:not say that gracefully, or in any clear way at all. It was
Unknown:like, yeah, it was just like it was my clouded sick mind going.
Jane Stark:Like, it really wasn't a big deal. But this is
Jane Stark:where again, like just being able to like be like, oh, yeah,
Jane Stark:this felt kind of awkward. Yeah, so you're in the air clearing,
Jane Stark:but it takes it takes doing your own work to do that. It takes
Jane Stark:really being like, they're not easy conversations to have,
Jane Stark:whether it's in your own, like intimate relationship or in
Jane Stark:friendships, or in business relationships, exactly right.
Jane Stark:And it also takes trust for you like, like, I trust you, I knew
Jane Stark:that you would be able to hear that. And that you would be able
Jane Stark:to, like, we could just have that conversation and clear the
Jane Stark:air. That's another important piece, right? The person that
Jane Stark:you're sharing with elegant,
Unknown:I think that's probably another 50 like 50 things to
Unknown:celebrate is like the as this goes on the level of I'm gonna
Unknown:say respect and integrity and our collaborative friendship and
Unknown:partnership, whatever you want to call, it doesn't really
Unknown:matter. Yeah.
Jane Stark:And we don't know what we are. But it doesn't
Jane Stark:really matter. I'm like, do collaboration.
Unknown:I don't know. It's just whatever, it isn't matter. It is
Unknown:what it is. It's just a beautiful friendship. And it's
Unknown:so it's deeper than a beautiful friendship. But I think as we
Unknown:move into these moments, it allows another level of depth of
Unknown:integrity to to be within each of us. Yeah. And we know that
Unknown:strengthens what each of us brings to the world, both
Unknown:together and separately.
Jane Stark:Yeah. And also, the I think the last one that maybe
Jane Stark:I would share, that is how we are starting to find our own
Jane Stark:roles within what we do. Yeah. And that's been really cool.
Jane Stark:Right? Like, and finding this, this rhythm of like, okay, well,
Jane Stark:do we both show up? Like even you know, we're like, in the
Jane Stark:beginning days of the podcast, it's like, okay, we're doing
Jane Stark:this together. And I think we even again, it wasn't even a big
Jane Stark:Convo, but I think there was sort of this like, hey, well,
Jane Stark:I'm happy to take this as a solo episode, if you're not
Jane Stark:available. Are you good with that? Right? Because it's like,
Jane Stark:so is this a podcast? Where we're the co host? And we always
Jane Stark:show up together? Are we good? With like, yeah, you know, we
Jane Stark:had to have those discussions. And then and finding those
Jane Stark:roles, like you've taken on writing our love letters. And in
Jane Stark:that rhythm, every week, I do our graphics, I do some of the
Jane Stark:more like, behind the scenes stuff. And so the
Unknown:design work, so which is not really behind the scenes,
Unknown:that's the public
Jane Stark:part. And that part isn't but some of the
Jane Stark:discussions or the strategizing and the, you know, that stuff.
Jane Stark:And so yeah, it's been kind of cool to find our way in that and
Jane Stark:to find, and I think also, helping each of us think more
Jane Stark:deeply into like the value that we bring to the the relationship
Jane Stark:or the partnership without having to feel like Oh, is she
Jane Stark:doing more than me, or is she this or is it okay, if I show up
Jane Stark:like this
Unknown:never even occurred to me like, again, I've had those
Unknown:really open conversations around, like if I do more
Unknown:videos, for example, which we probably will do in the future.
Unknown:Like, we'll probably do some together. And I'll probably do
Unknown:more on my own simply because I'm like, it's a really easy
Unknown:format for me to communicate. And so, you know, Jane, you've
Unknown:had that conversation both with me and in your own head is like,
Unknown:Oh, am I, as equally valuable? If I'm not? Yes. Equally
Unknown:visible? Yeah. Yeah, that's interesting conversation.
Unknown:Whereas in business for yourself, like, or you are doing
Unknown:a collaborative partnership, the division of how you think about
Unknown:the labor and your perception of it. Yeah. Is Yeah,
Jane Stark:it's really important, right? Because, and
Jane Stark:that's been a big learning because exactly that like if one
Jane Stark:person is more visible, do we need to be equally visible, like
Jane Stark:all of these things. And really, what I love about the way we're
Jane Stark:navigating, it is like, what feels good. And I really want
Jane Stark:to, I really love some of the like, the bigger the strategy
Jane Stark:and the getting, like some of these pieces together. And Jen's
Jane Stark:like, awesome. Take that. Like,
Unknown:I don't just tell him what I have to write. Yeah.
Jane Stark:Right, tell me what I have to write or where I have
Jane Stark:to show up. And because you're, we know that your zone of
Jane Stark:genius. And one of the big things that you want to do is
Jane Stark:build community and show up and teach and, and these kinds of
Jane Stark:things. And so I'm and for me, I'm like amazing, do that, like,
Jane Stark:that's where you shine. So really starting to learn. And
Jane Stark:this has been a learning, I think, for us through this of
Jane Stark:what are each of our zones of genius, and how do we support
Jane Stark:each other in those areas and continue to lift each other
Jane Stark:more, and make sure that we're not in this space of oh, if
Jane Stark:one's doing something and the other one has to do it so that
Jane Stark:we're equal. But that
Unknown:see that because we've done the work on evac solves and
Unknown:with ourselves and with each other. Yeah. So anyway. Yeah, I
Unknown:think this feels like a good place to wrap it up.
Jane Stark:So right place,
Unknown:I'm celebrating 50 episodes celebrating. Launch of
Unknown:fear serenity. Stay tuned if you're interested in more of
Unknown:your serenity, because there is more coming your way. Yeah,
Unknown:waitlist coming soon. And next cohort starts again, soon. We
Unknown:just have to finalize a date and then we'll share it here. If
Unknown:you're interested in receiving our love letters. Definitely do
Unknown:sign up on the links below. We'll put that there yet that
Unknown:will keep you hearing from us each week. It's usually like a
Unknown:summarized riff on the podcast episode with a few other nuggets
Unknown:inside. And I don't know if do you have anything else you want
Unknown:to share? Say? Nope. Amazing. Thank
Jane Stark:Yes, we did it. Who? Super excited to see where to
Jane Stark:reflect back. See we're at at 100 episodes. Yeah, because
Jane Stark:learning continues and sweet, great learning journey,
Unknown:the process unfolds. Have an amazing day, everybody.
Jane Stark:We'll see you next week or talk to you next week.
Jane Stark:Bye. Bye.
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