Some feelings and situations you simply can't netflix, amazon, tinder, drink, junkfood, smoke -away.

Sometimes you are being forced to sit through the pain ...

This is what I have learnt recently and would love to share with you for you to be better equipped than I was .

with much love and respect

A.

See how It feels once you admit where you are. See how people suddenly melt and also feel permitted to be real. This is what I want you to experience.

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Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I mean host Aurora, life coach and companion on this

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beautiful journey called life. If ever you feel the need to

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invest in yourself, if you feel stuck if you feel like you're

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not quite reaching your goals, your dreams, your potential.

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Don't hesitate and reach out to me and we'll make a plan on how

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I can help you. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you so

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much for being here. I deeply appreciate you listening. I

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deeply appreciate connecting with you have a Facebook or

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Instagram. It's just Yeah, an incredible blessing to be able

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to connect with people through my podcast here. Thank you. Take

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a deep breath for a moment. If you're not driving, car, or

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bicycle or operating machinery, feel free to close your eyes if

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it feels comfortable. And again, take a deep breath in through

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your nose. And then exhale through your mouth. Well, too

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often we forget to breathe. Yes, we do it unconsciously. But if

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we focus a little bit more prepared, limit more attention

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on how shallow or deep breath as you will notice that you're able

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to hack into your nervous system influence your nervous system.

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Same goes for when you don't pay attention, you can suddenly or

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over time, become anxious become uncomfortable on your skin. And

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you might blame the outside world for it. But maybe it was

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you not paying attention enough to your physical needs. So this

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is what I've experienced in the last couple of days. Your dear

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followers on Facebook, have read my post and I'm so deeply

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appreciative for all the love and kindness and healing vibes

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that you sent my way. As I expressed myself, openly and

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honestly and transparently. It was through breathing

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techniques, going for a walk, eating nourishing foods, not

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watching the news. And surrounding myself with good

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people that I was able to balance my emotional mental

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state out. It took a little bit of time, but I was not in a

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rush. You know, sometimes we try to Netflix, we tried to Amazon

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our feelings away. Of course the negative feelings read when

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we're in a good mood when we feel light, then we're less

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inclined to wanting to distract ourselves. We're more in the

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moment. But it is truly an art and a balancing act. To be able

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to stay in the moment when you don't feel comfortable. When you

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feel consumed by your thoughts consumed by your emotions. When

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you feel like you are your thoughts you are your emotions.

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It is very hard to see an end, it's very hard to know that it

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is just a phase it is just temporary. And it is something

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that we want to get out of as quick as possible. But the quick

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fix, as you can imagine, is not always a sustainable solution.

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So what I'm learning right now is to communicate when I'm not

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feeling 100% And there also it is important to know that I'm

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not doing that to burden people or to make people help me. I'm

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communicating this for them to know why I might be a little bit

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more distance why I might be a little bit more quiet, but not

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for others to fix me. You will see once To do that, that there

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is people around you who instantly jump into rescue mode

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and wanting to help you, and wanting to support you. And

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that's totally okay, that's so awesome and so precious. And you

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can take in the love and the healing vibes from others. But

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not in a taking fashion, you accept their gift, but you know

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that you are responsible for how you feel, and nobody else to

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sorry, and to know that you can sit in it for a while, and you

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can be down and low for a while. But you also know that it is

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temporary and that you will be able to find the tools to get

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yourself out of the funk. I find too often we are in resistance

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of not feeling well. We hate uncertainty, we hate pain and

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suffering. We hate feeling disconnected. We hate when

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people are not in agreement with us. And we instantly jump into a

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reactive mode resistance mode. And it is okay. You know, it

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doesn't make you a bad person if you do. But what I'm learning on

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my journey here, and what I want to share with you is that it's a

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huge waste of energy. It is okay to be sitting in discomfort for

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a little bit. And to figure things out and to find out okay,

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what is it that is bugging me right now? What is it that's

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still hurting me? But then instantly, to think about

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solutions is sometimes not an option. Right? Sometimes people

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are trying to help you and give you advice and are very busy and

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yeah, trying to make you feel better. But even that can feel

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abusive at times. Did you ever experienced that, when you felt

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very low and tired and somebody was trying to cheer you on. And

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it just didn't feel right. It didn't resonate with you. You

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were resistant to that joyous vibe of another person. And

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that's perfectly fine. Because you have to create that joyous

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vibe, that uplifting vibe inside of you, you have to learn that.

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And this is what I'm hoping to help you with, with my podcast

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and with my videos on Facebook and me being active as a life

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coach and personal trainer and podcaster that's my my biggest

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wish to give you tools to be fully authentic with your

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suffering and your pain that you might go through or will be

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going through in the future because it's part of life. But

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to then have the right tools in your back pocket and t know yet

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that you can shovel yourself out of it

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take a couple deep breaths. Now. Sometimes when we listen

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attentively to something we tend to hold the breath. We tend to

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go shallow tried to deepen your breath again. And I'll do the

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same. What I'm also learning right now is that sometimes we

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feel consumed by our emotions. I received some devastating news

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from Germany. And also this I shared on Facebook. It was a

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friend of my brother committing suicide and it really knocked me

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off my feet. I know that my efforts my work here is not

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going to prevent every person from committing suicide. I like

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this is not the power I have. I'm doing my best to understand

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people to listen to people to let people express themselves on

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my show. But that suicide really knocked me off my feed and I was

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so sad and I At the same time, I was able to keep my mission and

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mind, my heart mission, to show up for you to be there, Mondays

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and Thursdays, to produce something to create something

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that helps you, makes you feel good gives you, strength

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inspires you and makes you independent and empowered in who

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you are. And it is the first time in my life, I think that it

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happened this way, because I'm doing something that truly

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brings me joy and the mission, my vision is stronger than

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temporary, strong emotions that might lead me off my path. So

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maybe you've gone through extreme pain in the past. I'm

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sure when you listen to me, you can relate, I'm sure if you

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listen to my podcast, that you've gone through a lot. And

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you made it to the other side. And you're still here, you're

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wanting to grow your breathing, you can be so incredibly proud

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of yourself. And maybe next time you go through pain, you can

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remember my words, and know that pain and suffering is part of

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life. And it is so critical and important to find an activity

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something some call it your purpose, your sole purpose. That

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helps you to get up in the morning, no matter what. No

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matter what's happening around you, no matter what's happening

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to you. You have that strong drive to surf and engage in that

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activity because it helps you on several levels. But it also

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helps others. When you don't engage in that activity. You

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feel like you didn't really live that day, you didn't really

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connect with people or you didn't really give your best.

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But when you are, even though you fail at times, you're

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failing forwards. And you keep being driven with your mission.

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I wish that upon every person that I meet, I wish them that

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they find something that gives them true joy. And at the same

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time serve as a people, no matter what, no matter what

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you're going through, it is going to be an anchor for you as

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well. Right, I went through some dark times here. But for me to

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show up for you to produce my podcast here for you felt like a

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soul calling something that I needed to do in order to make me

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feel better in order to heal in order to find my true north. And

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this is what can guide you through suffering and pain. This

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is what's going to make you a more stable human being. Yes,

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you will depend on others, you will fall in love with others

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and you know, sometimes lose a piece of yourself in another

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person. But you have that one activity, or maybe several

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activities that anchors you down. That brings you to joy and

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contentment. And it will not always be easy, you will

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sometimes have to fight for it. And sometimes it will feel

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draining and sometimes you will be frustrated. You know it's not

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always unicorns and rainbows, even with an activity that is so

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extremely nurturing for your soul. But deep down inside, you

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will know this is the right path you're gonna stick to it, you're

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going to commit to it fully. Just like some people fully

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commit to a partner. You can fully commit to an action to a

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mission and you can do both. You can commit to a partner. You can

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commit to a mission and most importantly is that you commit

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to yourself and that you take your feelings, your emotions,

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your thoughts so theory is to some degree, but you know that

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you are not your feelings, you are not your thoughts.

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Especially if you are a person who watches the news and reads

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the newspaper, you have to distinguish, you have to make

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sure that you don't feel powerless by all this

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negativity. You have to know that, yes, there's the news. And

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there's this stuff happening in the outside world. But who are

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you and all of this? Who do you want to be? Do you want to be a

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nervous wreck? That runs from one corner to the other and

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screams? Like a chicken with a head chopped off? Or do you want

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to center into yourself into your mission, and keep pushing

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for that mission? Because you know, it gives you a deep sense

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of belonging, a deep sense of love and connection. And that is

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so incredibly important. And this is what got me out of my

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darkness here. Yesterday. If ever you feel like requesting an

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episode, if ever you want to comment, if ever, you want to

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give me feedback on this, feel free to message me. And I'll

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make sure to get back to you as soon as possible. take really

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good care of yourself. And if you want to send me a little

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token of appreciation, there's a link in the notes called buy me

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a coffee where you can buy me a coffee. All right, I leave you

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with this. And I will be back out there on Thursday, talking

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about masculine sexuality. What are we getting right about a

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man's sexuality and what are we getting? Totally wrong? An

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interview with a life coach, life coach who pretty much saved

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my life six years ago. So I'm excited to introduce him to you.

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All right. Bye bye.