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Speaker:hello there boyfriend
Speaker:how are you this fine day
Speaker:I'm really good
Speaker:is it working
Speaker:yes excellent
Speaker:let's not touch shit
Speaker:I'm afraid to ask
Speaker:but I have a great question
Speaker:I don't even know what I was gonna say
Speaker:I'm so disturbed right now
Speaker:can I say something without
Speaker:you hate when I say can I say something
Speaker:I do but it's like a rhetorical request
Speaker:I know you're gonna say something
Speaker:but what do you
Speaker:but do you know what it means when I say that
Speaker:when I say can I say something
Speaker:it doesn't mean I would just say something if it was
Speaker:if it was hey
Speaker:what do you want for lunch
Speaker:what do you wanna do later
Speaker:can I say something
Speaker:I think for me means
Speaker:I have something a little bit vulnerable to say
Speaker:or I want to
Speaker:tell you something that's bothering me
Speaker:or I feel like it means it's something more serious
Speaker:is that well
Speaker:it's like the work up of like
Speaker:oh shit it's about to drop yeah
Speaker:so you don't like that
Speaker:you'd rather I just launched into it maybe okay
Speaker:so I get anxious
Speaker:I'm like oh
Speaker:what's he gonna say
Speaker:I'm causing you anxiety
Speaker:unneeded anxiety perhaps
Speaker:I hate when people do that
Speaker:you're gonna say it regardless
Speaker:oh right now
Speaker:yes I am oh
Speaker:I meant in life oh
Speaker:the thing maybe not
Speaker:you know me
Speaker:I might never say it
Speaker:but what is my response supposed to be no
Speaker:you may not say something
Speaker:great point
Speaker:it's it's a question for which
Speaker:I'm leaving you only one way to answer okay
Speaker:you're right
Speaker:what are you gonna say like no
Speaker:you can't say something
Speaker:especially because I have no idea what you're gonna say
Speaker:well so how would I shoot it down
Speaker:so we're just about to start the podcast
Speaker:afraid to ask
Speaker:and we have all these good questions that came in
Speaker:and one of them is really good it was um
Speaker:friend of mine asked me
Speaker:this is just like a phone call I have with the buddy
Speaker:and he goes
Speaker:hey would you ask your girlfriend
Speaker:I love by the way
Speaker:that you're my girlfriend and a doctor
Speaker:and my friends go like
Speaker:could you ask her this
Speaker:which I wanted to ask you to take a quick aside
Speaker:I don't mind
Speaker:I don't like when a stranger finds out I'm a comedian
Speaker:I do everything I can
Speaker:to not tell someone I'm a comedian
Speaker:especially in an Uber
Speaker:but then they go like
Speaker:oh tell me a joke
Speaker:it's sincerely the worst thing ever
Speaker:it's horrible
Speaker:cause they're not gonna laugh
Speaker:it's not this isn't back of a new
Speaker:you know that
Speaker:so somehow do you
Speaker:does it bother you when I
Speaker:is that like me saying
Speaker:do you tell me a joke when I say
Speaker:my friend has a question about
Speaker:how many times you should masturbate product oh
Speaker:ha ha ha ha
Speaker:that's what we're doing today okay
Speaker:uh it only bothers me when I'm at
Speaker:like a dinner party or something
Speaker:and I'm relaxing
Speaker:it's my time off
Speaker:and someone's like
Speaker:what do you think
Speaker:this rashes
Speaker:like when I'm about to eat
Speaker:you know it's crazy
Speaker:when we first met
Speaker:you did that
Speaker:no but someone did
Speaker:when we first met
Speaker:I go I don't like when people do this
Speaker:and you got on
Speaker:like when people ask medical advice
Speaker:because I really happen
Speaker:that's right
Speaker:and then we were in a green room
Speaker:and you were alone
Speaker:the green room is like backstage
Speaker:where comedians hang out before the show
Speaker:a guy I have never met
Speaker:as I walked in the green room was
Speaker:was I believe
Speaker:taking off his shoe and sock yes
Speaker:to show you a foot
Speaker:and that was our first show together
Speaker:it was an idea
Speaker:we first time we'd ever hung out
Speaker:I was like awesome
Speaker:so I get to provide free medical
Speaker:care in a green room
Speaker:it was super inappropriate
Speaker:and you were on stage laughing
Speaker:and he was showing me his foot
Speaker:yeah I could hear it and yeah
Speaker:I feel like that was super inappropriate
Speaker:well it's difficult to
Speaker:because there's a lot of legal ramifications right
Speaker:like I can't treat a patient if I say something right
Speaker:and either I don't have the full picture
Speaker:and I'm guessing and I get it wrong
Speaker:because I don't have their lab work
Speaker:you can be liable
Speaker:so doctors are very hesitant to treat their friends
Speaker:or even extended family
Speaker:yeah because if you don't have the whole picture
Speaker:and you're not their actual physician
Speaker:you can get into a lot of trouble
Speaker:sure when people open for me
Speaker:there are certain things I
Speaker:that I think will get them uninvited
Speaker:sometimes it's having a crazy party backstage
Speaker:I don't mind somebody has a couple drinks
Speaker:I don't drink
Speaker:I don't mind when people drink
Speaker:I like when you drink and you're fun
Speaker:you're a fun drinker
Speaker:but I don't like when someone pounds drinks
Speaker:I don't there's a couple things I don't love
Speaker:I don't like when someone
Speaker:invites a bunch of people back to the green room
Speaker:and my No. 1 is showing my girlfriend your foot rash
Speaker:and asking her to help you
Speaker:we're on the same page
Speaker:that we're not
Speaker:he was a nice guy
Speaker:super nice guy
Speaker:but that's a judgment
Speaker:that's a you know what
Speaker:no I'm not a comedian
Speaker:so he was trying to find like
Speaker:common ground
Speaker:I'm gonna give him the benefit of the doubt
Speaker:do you think he had good intentions
Speaker:you think he
Speaker:he really wanted
Speaker:and he probably didn't have
Speaker:we know he didn't have medical insurance
Speaker:he's a comedian
Speaker:that's not nice
Speaker:I'm not in any way joking with
Speaker:none of us have
Speaker:none of us have medical insurance
Speaker:maybe he was trying
Speaker:to get or you're saying
Speaker:you think he was breaking the ice or looking for actual
Speaker:yeah cause I'm not like the funny comedian type
Speaker:in the green room
Speaker:I didn't know what else to talk about
Speaker:he asked me what I did
Speaker:and then he kind of LED into stuff
Speaker:maybe he didn't know
Speaker:not a lot of people can talk to doctors
Speaker:yeah socially
Speaker:I mean right
Speaker:we're not exactly social butterflies
Speaker:so it's difficult to strike up a
Speaker:conversation
Speaker:think about that camera too close to you
Speaker:do you think one advantage of being a proctologist
Speaker:I'm not a proctologist
Speaker:no no I mean
Speaker:do you think that would be the advantage
Speaker:that no one's gonna go
Speaker:think of this little lumpy
Speaker:I feel like
Speaker:there are so many negatives in that specialty
Speaker:that I wouldn't take the one positive
Speaker:of not getting conned at a dinner party
Speaker:to talk about a butthole
Speaker:so many I think about this all the time
Speaker:not look at him
Speaker:do you know
Speaker:I think about this all the time
Speaker:I think about this all the time
Speaker:you can be any kind of doctor is a list
Speaker:the vaginas on that list
Speaker:and then you have like
Speaker:you could treat children
Speaker:you could do you know
Speaker:pregnancies and stuff
Speaker:and there's a guy out there that went
Speaker:asshole that's me
Speaker:that's all me
Speaker:best friends did that
Speaker:that's my passion
Speaker:do you think is vagina in a smaller font than asshole
Speaker:is that why he chose
Speaker:oh come on did you not see that one
Speaker:you have a friend who's a partologist
Speaker:yeah my very best friends doctors
Speaker:the same day we bonded
Speaker:we were intern
Speaker:so we're terrified
Speaker:we had to like run codes together
Speaker:like you are in school sweet
Speaker:and the very next day
Speaker:it's like nope
Speaker:now you're in charge
Speaker:and it's really scary
Speaker:so you become really close to the other interns
Speaker:I'm sure and
Speaker:my three closest best friends from intern year
Speaker:so I do women's health right
Speaker:so I do a lot of gynecology right
Speaker:my other friend
Speaker:you and the asshole guy could have a practice together
Speaker:you could so be in the front
Speaker:he could be wow
Speaker:so anyway he's a gastroenterologist
Speaker:but he does a lot of anal and rectal exams
Speaker:my other close friend is a female urologist
Speaker:penises she is
Speaker:and then my third one
Speaker:see that I that I totally understand
Speaker:oh no no I would never wanna do that so anyway
Speaker:we had really good dinner time conversation
Speaker:when you got the four of us together
Speaker:uh huh I can imagine a doctor
Speaker:non doctor to the table yeah
Speaker:they could never eat
Speaker:I totally appreciate that
Speaker:can I say something damn it oh
Speaker:but it is a thing
Speaker:this was the
Speaker:can I say something from the beginning
Speaker:what you know how you've been accused of um
Speaker:accused is the wrong word
Speaker:you've probably been accused
Speaker:of being blunt in your life right
Speaker:you're very open
Speaker:it's I do I do love this about you very open
Speaker:you very honest
Speaker:you very blunt
Speaker:and we're about to sit down to the podcast
Speaker:we're gonna discuss the questions
Speaker:and you you go
Speaker:oh you're wearing a uh
Speaker:you're wearing like kind of a funny T-shirt uh
Speaker:Christmas T-shirt and you go
Speaker:I'm gonna change uh
Speaker:for the podcast
Speaker:I go okay cool
Speaker:and then you took your shirt off and there you know
Speaker:there were boobs
Speaker:and I said as a joke I go
Speaker:hey how many cameras should I
Speaker:should I put over there
Speaker:like as if we were about to film ourselves in bed yeah
Speaker:stupid joke
Speaker:just trying to be
Speaker:trying to be funny
Speaker:and then you go um
Speaker:you go oh wow
Speaker:I've I've done that
Speaker:have you ever done that
Speaker:and then you put your shirt on
Speaker:and then you came back expecting us to just
Speaker:now do the podcast
Speaker:well I mean but for me
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:like it that sometimes you say something like that
Speaker:and then you move on with life
Speaker:and I was like
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:I think there's
Speaker:I don't know if we can podcast today well
Speaker:it wasn't like a porn oh I mean
Speaker:I guess it was
Speaker:I guess it was yeah
Speaker:see this is it again
Speaker:it's happening again I mean
Speaker:but it throws me like
Speaker:you say something and I don't
Speaker:think it was probably a long time ago
Speaker:and I don't even know if I wanna
Speaker:I'm gonna be honest with you
Speaker:I'm afraid to ask
Speaker:this is the perfect
Speaker:I don't even know if I wanna know
Speaker:but if it was a lot like I don't I
Speaker:things get in my head
Speaker:I get triggered sometimes
Speaker:obviously it happened before you
Speaker:met me or knew me
Speaker:but I think I have like this um
Speaker:they call it retroactive jealousy sometimes where I get
Speaker:I start it makes me uncomfortable
Speaker:and I'm not
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:and I get it
Speaker:you should be
Speaker:you're a beautiful woman
Speaker:you've obviously been with other guys
Speaker:that's this is life
Speaker:I've been with other girls
Speaker:believe it or not
Speaker:and I'm just gonna say
Speaker:why'd you say obviously about me
Speaker:cause you're
Speaker:cause you're beautiful and you're
Speaker:you've lived a life and
Speaker:but so I'm sorry
Speaker:but I I got uh
Speaker:I just
Speaker:it was not a big deal
Speaker:okay you know
Speaker:but it could have been
Speaker:I have no right
Speaker:this isn't I wasn't even in your life at that time
Speaker:I don't even know why
Speaker:I hate that I
Speaker:my body feels like this sometimes
Speaker:well I think everybody's different
Speaker:and has different levels of
Speaker:what they can and can't handle
Speaker:hearing from their past partner experiences
Speaker:you don't have nothing would bother you
Speaker:that's my guess true
Speaker:no oh my God okay
Speaker:there's a ton of stuff that would bother me
Speaker:okay all right
Speaker:when if I thought you were hung up on
Speaker:like a sexual experience from someone else
Speaker:yeah that I'd never fulfilled and I couldn't one up it
Speaker:that would be in my head forever
Speaker:no I'm very comfortable
Speaker:why are you uncomfortable just thinking about something
Speaker:women that you
Speaker:should I be the uncomfortable one
Speaker:no I'm thinking that you have that experience
Speaker:and so now that's all I'm thinking about
Speaker:I wasn't saying that
Speaker:I was saying it about you see
Speaker:that's why it see
Speaker:it's important to be honest right
Speaker:you have to be pretty honest
Speaker:but there are moments where
Speaker:yeah you know
Speaker:maybe you go like
Speaker:that is the biggest penis I've ever seen
Speaker:why not just throw it out there
Speaker:what do you know what I mean
Speaker:like if you tell a guy
Speaker:I'm just saying like lies for to be nice
Speaker:do you want me to say that about you
Speaker:I don't think so
Speaker:I don't think so as a bad
Speaker:I shouldn't have gone there um
Speaker:but no every right to uh
Speaker:and then what's funny is you go
Speaker:if you ever done set by the way
Speaker:what was your uh
Speaker:you just wanted to film a film something
Speaker:oh oh man okay
Speaker:uh yeah okay
Speaker:I was in college and it was my idea
Speaker:right I thought
Speaker:hmm why not
Speaker:so we did it
Speaker:and then immediately played it back together
Speaker:uh huh okay
Speaker:and I hated it
Speaker:how many cameras you guys have gone
Speaker:was it a film school
Speaker:what was your name
Speaker:what you know what
Speaker:that's what freaked me out
Speaker:is that you said something like I said
Speaker:I said wow what
Speaker:what was the exact wording
Speaker:you go I made it to tape like that once and I
Speaker:I I was like oh what
Speaker:what were the um
Speaker:like under what conditions
Speaker:I think I said you like
Speaker:what are you talking about
Speaker:and I just meant like
Speaker:what was the
Speaker:did you like
Speaker:did you go run a camera
Speaker:like a semi professional crew
Speaker:like I had like a
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:what is that big like muffler looking thing
Speaker:like a boom Mike
Speaker:I guess it's because every
Speaker:maybe I'm doing an age thing here
Speaker:I am 10 years
Speaker:what was that
Speaker:um I am 10 years older than you
Speaker:but I immediately
Speaker:assumed there might not be cell phones
Speaker:until I was picturing
Speaker:it was like that thing
Speaker:you got a hold of a video camera so
Speaker:so there was some premeditation
Speaker:oh yeah let the listener know
Speaker:you just pointed at a
Speaker:at a at a video camera
Speaker:well yeah it was like one of those
Speaker:and then right afterwards I watched it and I was like
Speaker:yeah like let's do this okay
Speaker:let's spice it up
Speaker:and then I watch it
Speaker:I was like oh fuck
Speaker:let's not spice it
Speaker:like it's disgusting
Speaker:I don't ever want to do it again
Speaker:but it was like
Speaker:watching yourself have sex is probably the one of the
Speaker:worst things I have ever done yeah
Speaker:huge turn off for me
Speaker:you don't look pretty by the way me no
Speaker:like I didn't like
Speaker:you know when you watch a porn and
Speaker:you're kind of like judging them
Speaker:like the girl looks pretty
Speaker:but I don't like her teeth
Speaker:the guy looks okay
Speaker:but I don't like his right nut or whatever
Speaker:you judge yeah
Speaker:but like when it's you
Speaker:you're like oh fuck
Speaker:I don't look like a superstar model
Speaker:I just look like someone's getting like fucking wow
Speaker:I don't wanna finish that
Speaker:but pounded it's yeah
Speaker:but it's not
Speaker:attractive right
Speaker:so I immediately destroyed the evidence
Speaker:the tape was actual tape
Speaker:so it's gone
Speaker:there's no I have
Speaker:I would be afraid to make it
Speaker:find it down the road okay
Speaker:I'd be afraid to make a sex
Speaker:I just don't have a really good memory you know
Speaker:and I feel like at the whole
Speaker:I'd be like line
Speaker:what we talked about all right
Speaker:it wasn't like that
Speaker:it was like just regular sex
Speaker:I didn't have a oh
Speaker:there was no there's no costumes or anything
Speaker:no really okay
Speaker:I am I'm glad I asked
Speaker:I do feel better
Speaker:but it wasn't anything special
Speaker:and I think that's why I could tell you yeah
Speaker:when you said there's cameras and hey
Speaker:we're gonna film in the bedroom with cameras
Speaker:I was like oh
Speaker:I've done that have you
Speaker:it never made me think like
Speaker:of another man and a sexual experience
Speaker:yeah that was better
Speaker:like you fulfill me
Speaker:so I'm fully comfortable
Speaker:telling you stuff that's happened in the past
Speaker:I get that I'm a maniac
Speaker:by the way I get that
Speaker:if someone heard this
Speaker:they'd go with this guy no
Speaker:what does it have to do with you
Speaker:I understand that I
Speaker:I just can't help it sometimes
Speaker:I think if you pulled men
Speaker:the average man would say
Speaker:he wanted to never think of his
Speaker:partner as being sexually active with other people yeah
Speaker:which is different
Speaker:because I think most women prefer their partner
Speaker:to have some experience hmm
Speaker:do you prefer the guy to have some experience
Speaker:but then not to hear about it
Speaker:just sort of go like hey
Speaker:what's your number
Speaker:how many people have you been with
Speaker:like that discussion is supposed to
Speaker:oh yeah you know
Speaker:she had a special move
Speaker:well we talked about our numbers
Speaker:right and it threw me at first
Speaker:you were like
Speaker:there's a comma in yours
Speaker:hahaha that's
Speaker:oh my God impressive
Speaker:oh my gosh I don't enjoy that
Speaker:but I suppose no wow
Speaker:mine was higher
Speaker:mine was higher than yours
Speaker:it wasn't very high
Speaker:it was a lot higher than mine
Speaker:yeah but I'm with you
Speaker:I'm with you
Speaker:I felt good about
Speaker:more than double
Speaker:yeah why did we even have that discussion
Speaker:who brought it up
Speaker:I think it's a natural conversation to have as a couple
Speaker:I think that's something that once you're like
Speaker:serious enough with a person
Speaker:maybe you would ask yeah
Speaker:it's a way to gauge their experience too
Speaker:right like um
Speaker:if you were like oh
Speaker:just with like my ex wife
Speaker:I would have been like
Speaker:fucking loser right
Speaker:and then if you were like really
Speaker:I think so yeah
Speaker:okay fair but
Speaker:but that's me
Speaker:a lot of people prefer their partnership
Speaker:I've had sex before right
Speaker:but then if you were like
Speaker:I can't remember
Speaker:I was at clubs all the time
Speaker:I had sex with like 200 people
Speaker:I would have been like
Speaker:oh my god and it would have been very intimidating
Speaker:for you to have like touch that many bodies and like
Speaker:used sex was just a vessel and not like a
Speaker:an intimate thing
Speaker:would it have been a deal
Speaker:a deal breaker
Speaker:or would you give me a chance
Speaker:that's a great question
Speaker:I would have given you a chance
Speaker:if I said what
Speaker:if I said 500
Speaker:I it would have been in my head
Speaker:I would have had a really hard time with that
Speaker:mm hmm okay
Speaker:but maybe not a deal breaker
Speaker:maybe it would depend
Speaker:that's a lot
Speaker:500 is crazy well
Speaker:I have known guys who have bragged about sleeping with
Speaker:a couple hundred women
Speaker:and I don't consider it to be bragging rights anymore
Speaker:I almost feel like that's a pathological condition
Speaker:where you have to sleep with that many people yeah
Speaker:you're not getting something out of it at that point
Speaker:I think so but what I mean
Speaker:if we flipped out
Speaker:what's what's too high of a No. 1
Speaker:even one other person
Speaker:what you mean in general
Speaker:I thought you meant in my crazy mind
Speaker:I looked this up once
Speaker:I'm gonna pull it up again
Speaker:what average numbers wow yeah
Speaker:I would say it certainly depends on age
Speaker:and um profession
Speaker:I would say what right
Speaker:you gotta think it's
Speaker:it's about access
Speaker:it's about opportunity
Speaker:well I think this is just a randomized 10
Speaker:I'm gonna say 10 well
Speaker:women and men differ
Speaker:okay men 10
Speaker:women 500% of respondents fucking lying
Speaker:so that's the other thing
Speaker:and I think that's really important yeah
Speaker:society makes women want to say
Speaker:they've had as few sexual partners as possible yes
Speaker:men have this like conquering feeling
Speaker:you want to be like the man in her life
Speaker:you want her to not be defloured
Speaker:you want her to have the white wedding
Speaker:dress and be innocent
Speaker:I mean there's a lot of stuff that goes into it
Speaker:women on the other hand are okay with men having a few
Speaker:we expect it kind of
Speaker:to be quite honest yeah
Speaker:I think a lot of women do expect you
Speaker:and you brag to your friends again
Speaker:you I'm using a generalized term right
Speaker:men are like no
Speaker:I actually do
Speaker:there was there was a study once
Speaker:I thought this was really fascinating
Speaker:or the average number of sexual partners
Speaker:women would reduce it by a couple
Speaker:men would increase it by a couple
Speaker:interesting
Speaker:interesting
Speaker:interesting right
Speaker:like what's the point of that
Speaker:why is it such a power move for a guy to be like
Speaker:I had sex with this many people yeah
Speaker:and a woman has to say
Speaker:I very rarely had sex hmm
Speaker:I you can hook me up to a lie detector
Speaker:I would never exaggerate
Speaker:the amount of women I've had sex with
Speaker:would not something I would do
Speaker:I don't feel that would be like
Speaker:a badge of honor of any kind okay
Speaker:so this is from the CDC
Speaker:whenever I like to give you statistics
Speaker:I always like to get an actual
Speaker:sure reputable score CDC yeah
Speaker:so the number of sexual partners in a lifetime
Speaker:the medium number of opposite sex in a lifetime
Speaker:in lifetime
Speaker:among sexually experienced women and men aged 25 to 49
Speaker:hey you're in this study so okay
Speaker:next year I wouldn't be allowed in
Speaker:so this is sexual partners lifetime
Speaker:and this and sex is defined as vaginal oral anal sex
Speaker:it's not including oral
Speaker:that's interesting
Speaker:that is interesting
Speaker:my number would go Jesus okay
Speaker:I think we gotta stop the podcast
Speaker:podcast is over
Speaker:I don't define it as that I just define it as like this
Speaker:is that there's one of those things where you just
Speaker:you continue and I'm like huh hmm
Speaker:I would say vaginal and anal sex to me would count
Speaker:okay but okay
Speaker:so the average that women reported
Speaker:this is self reporting was 4.3 partners in a by the way
Speaker:I studied uh
Speaker:psychology and a lot of my statistics
Speaker:self reporting means uh
Speaker:completely inaccurate
Speaker:go ahead I agree
Speaker:wildly inaccurate
Speaker:and men uh 6.3 4.3
Speaker:6.3 in a lifetime
Speaker:it the studies ruined because of the oral sex thing
Speaker:in my opinion
Speaker:so changes everything but great great information
Speaker:that's the average right but you have underliers right
Speaker:you had it was about 17% with one partner
Speaker:wow this is an interesting discrepancy wow so
Speaker:it was so 17% for women for one partner
Speaker:11% men reported one partner
Speaker:and then the rest of
Speaker:it's kind of like a wash of the numbers
Speaker:but then 15 or more partners
Speaker:women it was 13%
Speaker:men 15 or more partners 28% okay
Speaker:so you lost a lot
Speaker:you lost a lot
Speaker:there's a lot of wiggle room there
Speaker:sure so yep
Speaker:anyway that's what I say
Speaker:when I'm talking about someone with a huge vagina
Speaker:I'm in a lot of wiggle room
Speaker:what did you just say hmm
Speaker:I didn't mean to interrupt you
Speaker:did you just say someone with a huge vagina
Speaker:yeah that's where that phrase came from
Speaker:there's a lot
Speaker:of wiggle room
Speaker:go ahead do you wanna know something about that
Speaker:I'm gonna just smash the shit out of that okay
Speaker:why would a woman's vagina be stretched out
Speaker:why would a woman's vagina be stretched out due to
Speaker:give me the physiological reason
Speaker:and I'll explain it to you
Speaker:because something's been in there
Speaker:what's so your vagina is a muscle
Speaker:pelvic floor muscles yeah
Speaker:ton of them
Speaker:so with time
Speaker:with exercises
Speaker:you can strengthen it kegels make it tighter
Speaker:Kegel exercises are definitely part of that
Speaker:that helps a lot with urinary incontinence
Speaker:uh huh so anyway
Speaker:yes it's a muscle
Speaker:so if a woman is exercising actively
Speaker:you cannot tell
Speaker:that is she how she'll have a lot more strength
Speaker:do women count is that's
Speaker:I never knew that that was an extra
Speaker:like a woman feel like oh
Speaker:you know today's chest and trice
Speaker:tomorrow's bicep and vaginas
Speaker:oh it's so important
Speaker:it's so important
Speaker:I fucking hate trampolines now after kids
Speaker:like you can't do shit
Speaker:it's crazy what are you talking about
Speaker:I mean when you lose pelvic floor strength
Speaker:you pee your pants
Speaker:really yeah
Speaker:I have on a trampoline in public
Speaker:is this common
Speaker:extremely common for women and do you
Speaker:what is your
Speaker:it doesn't have to be vaginal
Speaker:it just has to be carrying a baby
Speaker:because your ligaments in your pelvis
Speaker:get kind of stretched
Speaker:and over time your pelvic floor weakens as well
Speaker:and so any woman
Speaker:particularly
Speaker:a woman who's carried a child is at higher risk
Speaker:of weakened pelvic floor muscles
Speaker:and incontinence is huge
Speaker:like you ask any woman who's had a kid
Speaker:to get on a trampoline
Speaker:you get slapped in the face yeah
Speaker:okay but back to the question though yeah
Speaker:you said a loose vagina
Speaker:just kidding yeah
Speaker:why would a vagina become loose
Speaker:you said you put something in there
Speaker:I see you put something in there
Speaker:maybe there's a
Speaker:there's a penis in there and it
Speaker:um or a child
Speaker:and it results in a bit of a loosey or goosey or vagina
Speaker:that's derogatory so anyway
Speaker:you're gonna be using your hand today
Speaker:um on yourself
Speaker:that will be the end of this podcast
Speaker:the connotation is a woman is loose
Speaker:because she slept around with a ton of guys
Speaker:it is absolutely
Speaker:that's what I kinda just said right
Speaker:what happens if I have sex with 100 guys
Speaker:with a small penis
Speaker:you have a sex with 100 guys with a small penis
Speaker:versus having sex with one guy with a huge
Speaker:like first scenario
Speaker:vagina remains intact yeah
Speaker:keeping it tight
Speaker:one man huge penis
Speaker:lucins it up
Speaker:what are what are we looking at first
Speaker:elasticity are we making a yeah
Speaker:are we gonna be a rebound
Speaker:it's accommodating the size of their partner hmm
Speaker:so the judgment shouldn't be there and also
Speaker:will you the frequency of sex changes things again
Speaker:if a woman's doing pelvic floor exercises
Speaker:changes things
Speaker:and what about masturbation
Speaker:if she uses a vibrator right
Speaker:the internal one so the
Speaker:the connotation that you have a stretch out vagina
Speaker:has nothing to do with frequency
Speaker:of the higher you're saying to say a woman like oh
Speaker:you're a hot
Speaker:like that like oh
Speaker:she's a woman yeah
Speaker:that makes sense
Speaker:yeah that um
Speaker:would be doubly
Speaker:difficult to deal with if you were a guy and you go
Speaker:oh wow it's a
Speaker:I don't feel any
Speaker:it's like loose
Speaker:then you're going
Speaker:the guy before me bigger
Speaker:exactly so the man should feel intimidated
Speaker:he shouldn't be judging the woman
Speaker:well I feel pretty good about your ex
Speaker:oh my God I'll do I'll
Speaker:I'll edit that out
Speaker:you don't have to edit that out but
Speaker:that was a real reaction by the way
Speaker:um
Speaker:I was gonna ask you
Speaker:was a compliment
Speaker:I think that I compartmentalize my sexual partners
Speaker:to such a level that it was a past okay
Speaker:that when you say stuff like that
Speaker:I'm like completely thrown off my game
Speaker:cause I don't think about it that way yeah
Speaker:like I still would
Speaker:respectfully give all of my previous partners
Speaker:their time and it's done
Speaker:and I don't recall sexual events with them anymore okay
Speaker:unless you bring them up
Speaker:or if like we talk about a video
Speaker:but like it's not yeah
Speaker:that one got me
Speaker:sorry about that
Speaker:and then uh alright
Speaker:I think now if you're watching on Spotify
Speaker:we're gonna play that video that we talked about no
Speaker:we don't have access to the video
Speaker:I apologize
Speaker:my sex tape video yeah
Speaker:I'm just kidding
Speaker:have you made a sex tape
Speaker:remember I said I I was
Speaker:I was at first triggered by you saying you made one
Speaker:and then I think I did
Speaker:but it was with someone I was with for a real long time
Speaker:what does that matter
Speaker:it was um you didn't even ask me about mine
Speaker:why are you justifying yours
Speaker:would you ask you what
Speaker:how long I've been with the person
Speaker:you were just like
Speaker:you made a sex tape
Speaker:on what date
Speaker:do you think it's appropriate to bring a camera
Speaker:I'm not letting you dodge the subject
Speaker:oh I made one with the person I was with for
Speaker:like years and years and years
Speaker:my longest relationship
Speaker:and where's that tape
Speaker:I think it still exists
Speaker:I'm afraid it's in my mom's attic
Speaker:did you ever watch it
Speaker:yeah I watched it and remember similar thing
Speaker:I remember very similar thing
Speaker:I watched and I remember thinking
Speaker:I like the storyline
Speaker:but they should recast this
Speaker:I think I just struggled with
Speaker:cause you're so vulnerable and you think oh
Speaker:maybe I look attractive and then you see it
Speaker:you're like fuck
Speaker:I do not look attractive yeah
Speaker:that was mine
Speaker:yeah yeah I didn't need like the pool guy
Speaker:to come clean my pool and like
Speaker:yeah with me afterwards well
Speaker:and you have in a pornographic film
Speaker:you have the best possible angles
Speaker:and lighting and we don't know we're doing it right
Speaker:you're just like
Speaker:it's just a guy with a camera
Speaker:I was trying to do like a POV like hey
Speaker:what's up right oh
Speaker:I was holding it which project
Speaker:yeah a true form oh my God yeah
Speaker:I was trying to do a a found footage pornographic film
Speaker:oh my God is it really in your mom's house
Speaker:I don't wanna say this because she'll listen
Speaker:no matter what I say to her
Speaker:she'll listen this podcast I'll be like
Speaker:you don't wanna listen to that
Speaker:she'll be like oh
Speaker:I won't should we have our earbuds in
Speaker:no I think I threw it away
Speaker:I probably threw it away you know what's funny
Speaker:this is gonna show you how old I am compared to you
Speaker:it's on a format of videotape that would require
Speaker:going to a special place to get it transferred
Speaker:they don't even make it anymore
Speaker:I think it was a Super 8 or something
Speaker:like some sort of weird
Speaker:it definitely not digital
Speaker:so it's gone forever
Speaker:so I would have to take it to a place and go
Speaker:could you do this thing
Speaker:if I even wanted to see it
Speaker:which I didn't want to see that
Speaker:that's like the awkward thing where you try to
Speaker:print like sexy
Speaker:pictures that you've taken for somebody at Walgreens
Speaker:yeah like the teenager
Speaker:watches them pop out one at a time of like your ass
Speaker:and then yeah
Speaker:I've obviously done that too
Speaker:I'm sorry you have
Speaker:well yeah why
Speaker:why polaroids
Speaker:it wasn't Polaroid
Speaker:why not Polaroid to me yeah
Speaker:why not just a phone picture
Speaker:why are you taking him to Walgreens
Speaker:but this is pre phone
Speaker:this is pre phone
Speaker:dude really
Speaker:really okay
Speaker:you've done some you've done some good stuff
Speaker:the guy at Walgreens thought so
Speaker:so this is like a gift yeah
Speaker:isn't it crazy
Speaker:isn't it crazy that like a
Speaker:what would be called a dick pic
Speaker:which I hate that phrase
Speaker:is it not so crazy
Speaker:nobody wants that though
Speaker:no oh I know
Speaker:I sent one penis picture of my whole life
Speaker:and my whole life is very vulnerable
Speaker:I sent like a
Speaker:a day where I was like wow
Speaker:this looks lighting's good
Speaker:and is things or something's happening
Speaker:I I seen the picture and I mean
Speaker:I mean I really took
Speaker:I took my time
Speaker:there's a ring light involved that I for my podcast
Speaker:I really took some time and I
Speaker:no makeup but um
Speaker:it's impressive
Speaker:I did last looks on it like okay
Speaker:last looks and I sent it to you
Speaker:and you were kind enough to go music yeah
Speaker:that's like
Speaker:you remember this
Speaker:you were very nice and you go um
Speaker:hey that looks good
Speaker:you know nice one
Speaker:and then um
Speaker:use really nice words
Speaker:and the next day you were like
Speaker:I don't like those that much
Speaker:don't do that again
Speaker:you like nicely recommended
Speaker:nicely suggested that I not ever do that again
Speaker:which I won't
Speaker:and I appreciate that
Speaker:I think penis
Speaker:photographs come across as cheesy or silly
Speaker:just like male strippers come across as comical and
Speaker:like almost like a joke
Speaker:like they're not the real thing
Speaker:it doesn't turn us on
Speaker:versus pictures of women in general
Speaker:if we do them seductively with lingerie or something
Speaker:it tends to really put you in the mood
Speaker:yeah I get it
Speaker:I Erica you don't want any more dick pictures
Speaker:I do not I like your
Speaker:the rest of your body
Speaker:just not your
Speaker:okay in a picture
Speaker:okay I don't think anyone would argue that no
Speaker:that's a very important clarification you said
Speaker:you know what I would be interested in hmm
Speaker:the homosexual population's opinion
Speaker:male homosexual males
Speaker:I mean of dick pics
Speaker:because I bet they fucking do a great job
Speaker:oh yeah and have a really good opinion of like
Speaker:what theirs looks like
Speaker:no seriously
Speaker:I feel like
Speaker:that would be very interesting topic to explore okay
Speaker:but as a heterosexual female
Speaker:I don't find penises to be
Speaker:um alluring
Speaker:I find like your ABS to be attractive
Speaker:or like that v that I told you I love
Speaker:like in your groin and like
Speaker:just like hide the goods
Speaker:you know it's weird
Speaker:is it like leave me wanting more yes
Speaker:the Peters picture definitely left you wanting less
Speaker:I remember the text you sent me back
Speaker:well how do you feel about like
Speaker:spread eagle pictures in like penthouse
Speaker:is it kind of like yeah
Speaker:that's a lot of
Speaker:um no I mean
Speaker:I guess like more is better
Speaker:I don't even understand
Speaker:oh really whenever someone is I
Speaker:I kind of compare it to sometimes someone to go like
Speaker:oh that chocolate guy can't eat it
Speaker:it's too rich
Speaker:I don't know what they're talking about
Speaker:are you serious
Speaker:I don't need a spread eagle picture
Speaker:no no really
Speaker:like if you saw like full frontal
Speaker:versus like a spread eagle one
Speaker:all right you got me
Speaker:I would rather see
Speaker:I need there to be
Speaker:I would even rather have lingerie
Speaker:slightly pulled up as opposed to totally naked
Speaker:you're right
Speaker:I don't want it all the way in there
Speaker:that's interesting
Speaker:uh huh yeah
Speaker:whenever I see a vagina picture is like way too close
Speaker:I got that guy
Speaker:use the wrong lens
Speaker:he's too close
Speaker:you got a pan back right
Speaker:cause you're way too close
Speaker:can't even tell what's happening in there
Speaker:do you think we're the norm
Speaker:or do you think everybody feels this way
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:I think most people
Speaker:I should say
Speaker:coming up on the next episode of afraid to ask
Speaker:I got two questions coming in
Speaker:and both of them
Speaker:are from people I know that pose this question to me
Speaker:and then said
Speaker:could you ask Doctor Erica
Speaker:they said could you ask your girlfriend
Speaker:and the first question is
Speaker:what is the normal amount of uh
Speaker:masturbating
Speaker:I'm afraid to ask
Speaker:but I have a great question
Speaker:ah do women
Speaker:so when you're a guy
Speaker:you're almost two different people
Speaker:before and after
Speaker:um you finish
Speaker:right so like
Speaker:there are things you
Speaker:cause you get excited
Speaker:there are things you might say or do that
Speaker:and maybe guilt plays into this
Speaker:maybe like a religious guilt
Speaker:but there are moments when
Speaker:right when after it happens
Speaker:like there's like
Speaker:kind of like a guilt
Speaker:like oh my God
Speaker:like I feel like
Speaker:I feel like back in the day I
Speaker:I wish that the perfect orgasm would be
Speaker:it happened right
Speaker:right as the girl was leaving
Speaker:door closes oh my God
