Join host Tessa Lynne Alburn to delve into the psychology of change and empowerment, exploring the essential elements required for personal transformation. Change is a crucial aspect of our life journey, but it often comes with challenges.

We'll discuss the key ingredients needed to navigate change successfully. Tessa shares her personal journey to success, emphasizing the importance of diverse experiences, cultural awareness, and extensive studies.

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●     Understanding the Energy Grid and psychological barriers that hinder change

●     Discover the Four Key Ingredients for Successful Change

●     Real-Life Transformation Story of how someone overcame anxiety to lead a joyful, empowered life throughcoaching and healing work.

●     Tessa shares insights into her personal success, emphasizing the importance of diverse experiences, cultural awareness, and the ability to receive divine guidance.

●     Learn about the critical role of trust in transformational relationships and what’s been lacking in the self-growth industry

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Tessa Lynne Alburn believes that every woman has the ability to learn to express their true voice, be heard, and fulfill their dreams.  

As a Feminine Energy Coach and Soul Connection Mentor for women, Tessa supports you in having the freedom you crave and strong connections with others, as you live powerfully with joy and a sense of adventure.

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Transcript:

Tessa (00:04):

Hi there. I want to talk a little bit about change and the psychology of

change because it's an important part of anyone's journey. It requires at least

these four things I'm going to talk about in a moment. Because when people

attempt to make shifts, no matter how small they are, they tend to fail because

there's what I would call an energy grid around them that's been cultivated

over time and that cultivation has gotten them where they are today. That

energy grid is formed of our thoughts, our beliefs, our traumas, and it's also

held in place by the beliefs and energy of the people around us, our families,

our social groups. Whoa, unless we want to fall back into the crab pot where we

were, we need, at the very least, these four key ingredients change requires

new skills. No one can suddenly adopt new skills without knowing what they are

and how to implement them.

(01:30):

So there's somehow involved, which is why you probably see really big

numbers out there on the internet. How do I do this, et cetera. People need new

skills. The second thing is that commitment is required, and I'm talking about

not just like a self commitment, but commitment to the new behaviors and the

way of being, how one is going to be. And in that, making small successes is

very important. It's important in the process so that we don't just give up or

say, oh, yeah, I'll get to that later. The third thing is consistency. This is

an absolute requirement. I'm not sure why this isn't talked about more,

honestly. Consistency in the practice of new skills, behaviors, and in the new

energy. So consistency is sort of like accountability on steroids. It's

consistency over time. This is essential. And the fourth thing is that all

change requires some kind of mentorship, a real support system to hold the new

energy while the person who's shifting is coming into that space. And one of

the ways we talk about having this is by having the guidance of someone who has

done it, somebody who's been there and has the ability not only to show you the

way, but to share that, right, to really help you to get it, and to help you

course correct when needed. One of my clients is a single mom. Her daughter's

grown now, but she was a professional. My client was a professional having a

really hard time with anxiety, and she was on medication to help mitigate it

and make sure she could handle her job and all the stressors that came and

juggle a lot of things in her life. But she couldn't count on the medications

working. So we started coaching and she came to me for one reason and then

quickly realized she wanted to go even deeper, do something much more useful

for the longterm.

(04:01):

And so she did this foundational coaching work with me, and then decided

to come out for a private retreat and just kind of really immerse herself. So

during that weekend, there comes a time when I'm working with somebody, there's

an arc to it. We get to sort of this really deep healing piece, and this would be

where she was going to access a new energy field of consciousness. And in that

part of the session, it's where she experienced for the first time in years,

she experienced true presence to herself and to her safety, because before

that, she was just trapped in a cycle of fear. And as a result of our work

together, she now lives a joyful, happy, connected, and interconnected life.

She's just like on fire. She's amazing. And her purpose became even more clear,

and she's thriving. In her words "I realized how trapped I was by my own

fear, terrified of making the same mistakes. So I have now broken through those

chains and shackles of fear, feeling more embodied and connected again to my

essential self."

(05:26):

I just loved working with her. When people find out a little bit about

my life and the humble beginnings where I came from, they tend to ask me, how

did I do it? How did I get to my level of success? And I give them a little

background. I've worked with women across the globe, and I've encountered many

different cultures and belief systems. I've traveled the world and actually

lived in several different countries, and those things have given me

perspectives into many of the issues that women face today around the globe.

And then my extensive studies in a broad spectrum of techniques definitely

supported me to be able to help my clients who weren't just necessarily another

version of myself. And I don't know if you know anything about the coaching

industry or the self-help space, but I think that's a really big mistake that's

made because people are complex beings. And as a mentor, I need to be able to

respond to a wide variety of clients and their unique needs.

(06:45):

Another important part of how I've been successful is that I receive

information in a divine manner. In other words, I receive information directly

from source. And that's something that I have focused on for many years, and

I've cultivated the ability to do that and to hear the fine guidance and to

know when it is coming from source and when it is not. Now in my professional

life, one of my expert skills is to develop trainings, and I've been hired by

other leading experts to design successful trainings for their businesses. Now,

by working as a consultant for other businesses, I began to see firsthand the

things that really caused people to be able to learn and to change their

behaviors. And over the years, I've created hundreds of trainings and many are

still being utilized, but even with great training materials, what I noticed

with these other coaches and trainers is that if they did not have strong access

to their own higher self and they didn't know how to create a truly safe

environment, the clients will unknowingly block the information that they're

being given. They'll block the ability to carry it through, or they'll block

the teaching in some way. They'll resist it. This is an automatic survival

response, and so it's a survival response to not feeling truly safe. And so

what's really important in any real transformational relationship is the

ability to trust that one is safe, emotionally, psychically, and spiritually.

And then when that safety is in place, then the client can learn to trust

themselves, and that's where real empowerment happens.

(08:47):

So I got to where I am today for a number of reasons. I studied

instructional design, I sought out experts, unique niches, and then translated

the key lessons into doable steps, and I think that's another sometimes missing

piece. It's like, oh, just think you're way into this. Or if you process all

these feelings, then you're going to be healed. But that's not true. There must

be a way to connect the dots from the healing into action in one's life.

Another thing that was important and still is, is that I incorporate sacred

space guidelines in all of my work with clients because it's absolutely

essential.

(09:41):

And of course, I understand the soul journey, especially finding one's

voice, the feminine voice, because that was on my soul growth path. And by

learning those skills and by taking that consistent action, I became who I

could be. So I really get it when someone has found themselves on a plateau,

spiritual or otherwise, or not feeling like they can really say what they need.

And I also know that we can each break through our plateaus and be supported in

a wonderful life, and we do get to have our dreams and see them through. And if

there's life stuff going on and we don't get exactly what we're asking for that

we can also be in the joy and the mystery of what's actually happening right

now and the acceptance of that. But I'm not talking about the rationalizing of

it or thinking yourself like, oh, that's okay, that I don't have that. It's

meant to be. No, that is not what I'm saying. I'm saying there's a whole new

level of acceptance of yourself, of others, of whatever is happening in any

given moment. And so with the sacred structure and the cycle of transformation,

frameworks that I provide, clients are able to succeed. And some of the things

that you could do now to have levels of joy and connection that you would

really prefer to be having would be to start by continuing to show up here and

to really listen. So maybe you're doing your multitasking, you're doing

something else, but I'm going to invite you to start listening to yourself,

your own inner responses as you hear what's being presented.

(11:52):

And I want you to start asking yourself again, whenever the last time it

was that you asked. What is it I might want? Because without that ask and that

clarity that comes from asking, you'll just continue to get what you get and

remain muddied or unclear or in roles that aren't really allowing you to

express your true self. Lastly, I'd like to invite you to be willing to put

some attention on yourself and get my three steps to reignite your soul fire.

And how you're going to do that is you're just going to go to Say Yes to Your

Soul podcast.com. Go there today and you can get that free download. Alright,

go ahead now. And as we close, I want you to give yourself a little self

appreciation. Take a moment, right? Appreciate yourself literally for taking

the time to listen today and to nourish yourself. Ah, there it is. Good. And

until next time, blessings and light.

Transcript:

Hi there. I want to talk a little bit about change and the psychology of change because it's an important part of anyone's journey. It requires at least these four things I'm going to talk about in a moment. Because when people attempt to make shifts, no matter how small they are, they tend to fail because there's what I would call an energy grid around them that's been cultivated over time and that cultivation has gotten them where they are today. That energy grid is formed of our thoughts, our beliefs, our traumas, and it's also held in place by the beliefs and energy of the people around us, our families, our social groups. Whoa, unless we want to fall back into the crab pot where we were, we need, at the very least, these four key ingredients change requires new skills. No one can suddenly adopt new skills without knowing what they are and how to implement them.

So there's somehow involved, which is why you probably see really big numbers out there on the internet. How do I do this, et cetera. People need new skills. The second thing is that commitment is required, and I'm talking about not just like a self commitment, but commitment to the new behaviors and the way of being, how one is going to be. And in that, making small successes is very important. It's important in the process so that we don't just give up or say, oh, yeah, I'll get to that later. The third thing is consistency. This is an absolute requirement. I'm not sure why this isn't talked about more, honestly. Consistency in the practice of new skills, behaviors, and in the new energy. So consistency is sort of like accountability on steroids. It's consistency over time. This is essential. And the fourth thing is that all change requires some kind of mentorship, a real support system to hold the new energy while the person who's shifting is coming into that space. And one of the ways we talk about having this is by having the guidance of someone who has done it, somebody who's been there and has the ability not only to show you the way, but to share that, right, to really help you to get it, and to help you course correct when needed. One of my clients is a single mom. Her daughter's grown now, but she was a professional. My client was a professional having a really hard time with anxiety, and she was on medication to help mitigate it and make sure she could handle her job and all the stressors that came and juggle a lot of things in her life. But she couldn't count on the medications working. So we started coaching and she came to me for one reason and then quickly realized she wanted to go even deeper, do something much more useful for the longterm.

And so she did this foundational coaching work with me, and then decided to come out for a private retreat and just kind of really immerse herself. So during that weekend, there comes a time when I'm working with somebody, there's an arc to it. We get to sort of this really deep healing piece, and this would be where she was going to access a new energy field of consciousness. And in that part of the session, it's where she experienced for the first time in years, she experienced true presence to herself and to her safety, because before that, she was just trapped in a cycle of fear. And as a result of our work together, she now lives a joyful, happy, connected, and interconnected life. She's just like on fire. She's amazing. And her purpose became even more clear, and she's thriving. In her words "I realized how trapped I was by my own fear, terrified of making the same mistakes. So I have now broken through those chains and shackles of fear, feeling more embodied and connected again to my essential self."

I just loved working with her. When people find out a little bit about my life and the humble beginnings where I came from, they tend to ask me, how did I do it? How did I get to my level of success? And I give them a little background. I've worked with women across the globe, and I've encountered many different cultures and belief systems. I've traveled the world and actually lived in several different countries, and those things have given me perspectives into many of the issues that women face today around the globe. And then my extensive studies in a broad spectrum of techniques definitely supported me to be able to help my clients who weren't just necessarily another version of myself. And I don't know if you know anything about the coaching industry or the self-help space, but I think that's a really big mistake that's made because people are complex beings. And as a mentor, I need to be able to respond to a wide variety of clients and their unique needs.

Another important part of how I've been successful is that I receive information in a divine manner. In other words, I receive information directly from source. And that's something that I have focused on for many years, and I've cultivated the ability to do that and to hear the fine guidance and to know when it is coming from source and when it is not. Now in my professional life, one of my expert skills is to develop trainings, and I've been hired by other leading experts to design successful trainings for their businesses. Now, by working as a consultant for other businesses, I began to see firsthand the things that really caused people to be able to learn and to change their behaviors. And over the years, I've created hundreds of trainings and many are still being utilized, but even with great training materials, what I noticed with these other coaches and trainers is that if they did not have strong access to their own higher self and they didn't know how to create a truly safe environment, the clients will unknowingly block the information that they're being given. They'll block the ability to carry it through, or they'll block the teaching in some way. They'll resist it. This is an automatic survival response, and so it's a survival response to not feeling truly safe. And so what's really important in any real transformational relationship is the ability to trust that one is safe, emotionally, psychically, and spiritually. And then when that safety is in place, then the client can learn to trust themselves, and that's where real empowerment happens.

So I got to where I am today for a number of reasons. I studied instructional design, I sought out experts, unique niches, and then translated the key lessons into doable steps, and I think that's another sometimes missing piece. It's like, oh, just think you're way into this. Or if you process all these feelings, then you're going to be healed. But that's not true. There must be a way to connect the dots from the healing into action in one's life. Another thing that was important and still is, is that I incorporate sacred space guidelines in all of my work with clients because it's absolutely essential.

And of course, I understand the soul journey, especially finding one's voice, the feminine voice, because that was on my soul growth path. And by learning those skills and by taking that consistent action, I became who I could be. So I really get it when someone has found themselves on a plateau, spiritual or otherwise, or not feeling like they can really say what they need. And I also know that we can each break through our plateaus and be supported in a wonderful life, and we do get to have our dreams and see them through. And if there's life stuff going on and we don't get exactly what we're asking for that we can also be in the joy and the mystery of what's actually happening right now and the acceptance of that. But I'm not talking about the rationalizing of it or thinking yourself like, oh, that's okay, that I don't have that. It's meant to be. No, that is not what I'm saying. I'm saying there's a whole new level of acceptance of yourself, of others, of whatever is happening in any given moment. And so with the sacred structure and the cycle of transformation, frameworks that I provide, clients are able to succeed. And some of the things that you could do now to have levels of joy and connection that you would really prefer to be having would be to start by continuing to show up here and to really listen. So maybe you're doing your multitasking, you're doing something else, but I'm going to invite you to start listening to yourself, your own inner responses as you hear what's being presented.

And I want you to start asking yourself again, whenever the last time it was that you asked. What is it I might want? Because without that ask and that clarity that comes from asking, you'll just continue to get what you get and remain muddied or unclear or in roles that aren't really allowing you to express your true self. Lastly, I'd like to invite you to be willing to put some attention on yourself and get my three steps to reignite your soul fire. And how you're going to do that is you're just going to go to Say Yes to Your Soul podcast.com. Go there today and you can get that free download. Alright, go ahead now. And as we close, I want you to give yourself a little self appreciation. Take a moment, right? Appreciate yourself literally for taking the time to listen today and to nourish yourself. Ah, there it is. Good. And until next time, blessings and light.