When Porn or Hollywood are your sex educators, it can get confusing when things don’t work that way for us!

Why is it that the things that are supposed to turn us on, sometimes turn us off? How come our desires can vary or be so different from our partner’s?

Dip into some of things Clare and Janet chat about in this episode:

05:12   Where are you on the arousal scale?

09:02   Why does one person have more desire for sex than another? Do you understand how your sexual arousal system works?

13:14   How biological difficulties can affect sexual desire.

17:10   The impact of stress and obesity on attraction and desire.

18:22   What are the things that turn you on and what turns you off? Emily Nagoski: Come As You Are

24:51  The way you feel about your body affects your arousal.

Want to know more?

If you want to hear about what to do if lust and sexual attraction in a relationship start to fade, listen to episode 7 Lust or Bust

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About The Sex and Relationships Podcast:

This podcast is for anyone looking for information or help with their sex lives or relationships.  Your hosts Clare Pendergast (PgDip/COSRT) and Janet Eccles (MSc MA/COSRT/Sup MBACP) are sex and relationship therapists. In each episode they chat about common problems they see in the therapy room and draw on their years of experience to give you some insights, advice and top tips to help guide you through your relationships and sex lives.