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Ep 002. Reinvention Story Part 1 - From Texas City Girl to Becoming Adventurous & Outdoorsy
Episode 223rd October 2024 • The Adventurous Reinvention • Allison Boyle
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In this episode, Allison will be telling you part one of her personal adventurous reinvention story and how she went from being a city girl from Texas to becoming outdoorsy and adventurous through backpacking.

Key Points Discussed:

  • FIRST Backpacking Experience: Allison's first challenging hike from Happy Isle to Little Yosemite Valley, marking the start of her outdoor journey.
  • Adventurous Transformation: A "year of yes" led to solo travels, new adventures, and meeting her second husband.
  • Life Path Changes: Overcame life challenges, including depression, divorce, and a move to California, sparking a shift in personal identity.
  • Empowering Others: Creation of She Dreams of Alpine (her now business) and the "Backpacking Badass" program to teach and inspire women in the outdoors.

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You're listening to the Adventurous Reinvention podcast. I'm

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Alison Boyle AKA She Dreams of Alpine and this is the

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show that's dedicated to all the adventurous spirits out there who have either

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been transformed by the outdoors or interested in what it

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looks like to step into a new adventurous and courageous kind

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of identity in their life. It doesn't matter what your background is in the

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outdoors, what age you're starting at, or where you grew up. If

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you're curious about the outdoors and using adventure as a way to

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reinvent yourself, you're in the right place. I'll be

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sharing all kinds of personal adventure stories, lessons I've

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learned from the mountains, teaching what I know about the outdoors and leadership,

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and interviewing some amazing adventurous women all along the

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way. I've been coaching women on becoming safe, confident, and

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self sufficient backpackers and leaders of their own adventurous lives

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since 2018. And I know exactly what

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big fears and self doubts can pop up along the way. I have

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so much to share with you, so let's dive in. Okay.

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Welcome, my friends, to episode 2 of

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our adventurous reinvention podcast. I'm

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so excited to share this story with you. Some of you may have heard this

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or you may have heard versions of this story, but I'm excited

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to kinda share it here on this podcast so it has a place to live

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and can be revisited. And this is essentially my

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part 1 of my adventurous reinvention, my own

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personal adventurous reinvention story. And,

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basically, there have been a few really key pivotal moments in

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my life where I can look back now and see that I

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completely reinvented myself. And so today, I wanna share with

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you part 1 of that story. And this is

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the literal story about how I went from being the girl

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from Texas without a single outdoorsy bone in her

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body to being the kind of woman who spent literally

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almost every single weekend, like, hiking, climbing,

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backpacking. I got into mountaineering, a little bit of canyoneering. I

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was just obsessed with being outside and being that

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kinda woman who did those kinds of things. So

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I reinvented myself by first becoming a

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backpacker, and now my life is completely different

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than what it was like before I kind of was introduced to the

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outdoors. So today, I wanna walk you through this

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concept of how backpacking has played a huge role in my life and

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making me the woman I am today. So I

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want you just to just allow this conversation to be

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kind of like a seed of possibility for yourself.

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Like, it's an idea. Let it be a curiosity.

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Open up to if you're brand new to the outdoors maybe you

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are just a hiker or, like, you're just starting to even get into that.

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Let this be something that opens up possibility that

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could happen for you. Right? There's all these ideas and

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possibilities floating out there, like, ways of being, these

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different career options that we have, ways that we could live our life,

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adventures that we could go on, experiences we can have,

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things that we can create and bring to life. There's so many

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possibilities. Right? And maybe you floated into my

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world here at she dreams of alpine for whatever reason,

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and maybe that reason is that I'm here for you

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and your life as a way to present a new idea

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and a new possibility or a new way of being that maybe you

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haven't considered before. So for

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me, that thing that literally drives me every

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day is sharing the message and the idea that the outdoors can

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literally change your your life. So,

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my favorite way to teach somebody a new way of

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being or more appropriately like an adventurous

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way of being is by teaching them how to be

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reinvented by becoming a confident and self sufficient

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backpacker. And I remember my dad when I first started my

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business back in 2018. I remember he asked

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me, won't I get tired of talking about backpacking?

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And I knew really confidently then when I started my

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business that that answer would be no because it's

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so much more than just backpacking.

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For me, backpacking was one of the pivotal ways that

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I personally reinvented myself way back in

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2013. It was absolutely a

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turning point in my life, and you could consider it kinda like my

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butterfly effect. Right? So if you've

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never read the book by Elizabeth Gilbert, it's

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called Big Magic. I highly recommend it if you've never listened to it

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before or read it before. She talks about creative

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living beyond fear in that book. And I even if you don't

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consider yourself a creative type, I think this book is worth

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everyone should read it. It's just a fantastic book. And I love the way

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in this book how she talks about curiosity and she talks about

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ideas. So in her book, Big Badgic, she talks

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about how ideas and for the purposes of this

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podcast, let's extend that to possibility,

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and how ideas and possibility just exist,

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and they are, and they exist in this world. All kinds

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of possibilities for our lives just exist. Right? And

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sometimes the way we're introduced to them is through an idea,

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a curiosity, listening to a podcast or somebody

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else's story. Right? And in these moments, we have a

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choice to partner with that idea or that curiosity

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or that possibility and bring it into reality into our

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own life, or we can dismiss the idea and move

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forward with what we're doing. Right? It's a partnership. But

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the idea or the possibility will move forward regardless

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to find another partner to bring it into reality if you choose to

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ignore it. So I love this concept of partnering with

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ideas, and I think about it a lot.

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And she talks about this concept in relation to relationship to

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creation and ideas and creative pursuits, but I think it's equally

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as applicable to possibilities and ways of being in our life.

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So these are all there are all these,

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like, ways that we can be and exist and

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identify in this world and this this life that we're living.

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Right? And it's I think it's really fascinating

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because there's all these different career paths and life

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paths that all of us humans can take.

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I remember when I was, like, 1st listening to

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podcasts for the first time, and I was, like, listening to Tim Ferris podcast or

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something like that. And I kept seeing these interviews, and I was,

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like, wow. These people live wildly different lives than I am, and I just

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never even considered these as options for myself.

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So when I stopped to think about it, like, people

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show up and exist and live in this world in so many wild and

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unique ways, and that's, like, very exciting. And

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what I didn't realize though until backpacking entered

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my life is that I actually had some say

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about which possibilities came true in my life, and not even that.

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I actually could create whatever I

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wanted in my life. So I think when I

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was younger, I originally thought, like, I am who I am.

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Like, I identify how I identify. I'm not outdoorsy. Like, these are

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the cards I've been dealt. Right? I can't just change who I am.

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And that's how I kinda operated my life. Like, I'm just

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a, I'm just a perfectionist, and I'm just this, and I

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could never do that, and I'm not brave enough for that, and I'm just a

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scared person, and I'm just really shy. Right? I just had these

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identities that were so solidified in me that I just thought were

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things you couldn't change. But what I began to

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realize through backpacking is that I can be different

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than who I thought I was, and I can be someone I

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never imagined was possible for me. So

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I wanna back up a little bit and tell that

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story. So So when I was younger, I was

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definitely a box checker. I was, you know, type a and a

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plus student. I was born and raised in

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Texas. I grew up there my whole childhood,

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in the Houston, Texas area, and, you know, I actually

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got married really young. I got married at age 19,

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and then I went to college because that's what you

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do. You go to college, and I got into

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a career path as an engineer to do something

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respectable, and I was just anticipating I'd be an engineer for the rest of my

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life, and that's just what I thought you were supposed to do,

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checking off all the boxes that I thought I needed to do to check

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off to live the right kind of life, right,

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as if there were a right or wrong way to live, a life

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that was completely mine. But when I was younger, I just felt like

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you're presented with your, like, sort

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of basic options of life plans, and then you just

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kind of follow it without bothering to question, like, is this what I want?

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Is this the path that I wanna go down? And even being open to the

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idea that you can change your mind, that was something that was

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also foreign to me. Like, I just thought, thought, I've made my decision, and this

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is the path that I'm on. Right? A solid career path, a

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strong retirement plan, kids, a house, a marriage,

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and old age. Right? Check, check, check. That's kind of

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where I was headed. But in college

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excuse me. In college, life kinda sorta threw

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me a curve ball. And to make

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that story a little shorter, I basically started to

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question things. I was really frustrated by who I

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was. I mean, I think college kinda brings this out of all

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of us a little bit. Like, we're questioning everything. We have a lot of

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curiosities start to bubble up. And all these things I had

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not experienced, I felt like I had missed out already

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on so much of my life even though I was so young then, and I

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was feeling unfulfilled and I was, like, sad about things,

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and that's when I started to kinda, like, look for those quick

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dopamine hits. Right? And so I started to, like, party and drink a

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lot, and, you know, that's what I was living for. I would

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go steady, and then I would go party with my friends, and it

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was, like, a temporary relief to all the questions and tension

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that I was resisting to answer about myself and who I wanted to be at

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the time. And I think when I was younger, my

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brain, when it was presented with all those questions, like, who am I? What do

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I wanna be? It was like, no, Allison. Don't mess this up. We have

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boxes to check. You can't just change your mind. You've picked your path, and

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that is that. Right? And this question of,

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did I actually want that? Was I on the path that

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I wanted? That question was messing everything up for me. It was

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messing up my marriage at the time,

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all the things. Like, my brain was a mess, messing up my plans. It was

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highly uncomfortable, and it was, like,

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reckless because I just resisted answering those questions

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honestly, and I was just kinda, like, numbing myself with

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partying and drinking and just not avoiding all my

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problems, basically. And long story short, it ended

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in divorce. So at the end of college, I got divorced from my

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first husband, and I also found myself moving

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out to California because I had taken an engineering job in

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California, and that was kinda like a little glimmer of me trying

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to, like, answer questions of who I wanted to be, and I knew

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I wasn't gonna find those answers sticking around in Texas. I knew that

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understanding what I wanted out of life meant shaking things up,

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and California seemed like the place to do that. So I was

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around age 22 or 2023.

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So I was in I found myself in California. I was newly

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divorced, which was not part of my original plan, but okay.

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I was back on track, checking the boxes, being an

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engineer. You know, I had my solid career choice working for me. I

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was working on that retirement plan. But then

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I also continued down that rabbit hole of

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denial and partying, and I was trying to make friends. You know,

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I had no friends, and I was really

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resisting the big questions. Right? It's so hard to answer the

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big questions sometimes. So I basically just

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would go to work, and then I'd try to go out drinking. And then I

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made drinking friends, so we were, like, always just doing something,

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partying, drinking, repeat every weekend. It was just that

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was my life after college. And I

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definitely went through a bit of a depression. I I

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recall this when I I remember I called my

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dad, one day after work, and

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I had been sleeping a lot, you know, in addition to when I

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wasn't, like, out with people. I had been drinking or, sleeping a lot, and I

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called him and I told him. I was like, I'm just tired all the time.

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And I was probably, like, a bit, you know, just sad

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sounding or something. I I don't remember this stuff very well,

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well, that period of my my life, but I remember he said to

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me, Allison, I think you're depressed. And I

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that, like, had never occurred to me. That had never really happened

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to me in that way before. And I was like, oh

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my goodness. Like, maybe I am.

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And that was kind of a point where I started

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to kinda open up to, like started opening up to the

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questions a little bit. And I had been a little bit

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tired of doing the thing that I was doing, drinking. You

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know? I I had these friendships, and some of them were good

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friends, and I still, like, really appreciate their friendships. But then some people, I

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was just like, I don't know why I'm hanging out with these people. All we

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do is drink and party, and

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it's just it didn't feel like this was the way my life was supposed to

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continue going. So, eventually, I

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decided at the beginning of the new year of after

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I'd been there, I think, in California for maybe a

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year or something, I decided to embark on

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what I now I now call this my year of yes, but I don't think

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I had that terminology back then. But I was

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basically I basically made a pact to myself that that

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year, I was going to get out of my comfort zone,

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do new things, shake it up. Like, I also

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had identified with being pretty shy, so alcohol felt like

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this way of me getting out of my comfort zone of being shy.

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But what I was going to try to do is not rely on

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drinking so much to not be shy and just say yes to things that were

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uncomfortable regardless if alcohol was involved or

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not. So my year of yes, I entered it,

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and what happened is

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1 so I was saying yes to all these things, going to new things, meeting

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new people. It felt like it was working. I was getting some momentum.

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And then I remember one day, very specifically,

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I was at the water cooler at my work, and

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and these coworkers of mine were talking about this hike

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called Half Dome. And I was listening to them

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talk about it, and they were all really excited. And I was like,

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oh, that sounds so cool. Like, that sounds like it'll

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be a cool trip. I've never heard of it before. And one of

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them told me, hey. We actually have an

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extra permit. You should come with us.

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And I was kind of kicking myself. I was like, oh, no. I'm in

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my year of yes. Like, I'm supposed to say yes to this.

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But in my mind, I was kind of freaking out because I

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wasn't a hiker. I wasn't a backpacker. I

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literally I was terrified. I was I was like, these people are gonna

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invite me on this thing. They just invited me on this thing. I'm gonna be

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so slow. They're gonna regret they ever invited me. They're gonna

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not wish I was there. I'm gonna ruin their trip. This trip, they're very

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excited about. But that was the little voice in the back of

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my head that was, like, scared of all the things, and I

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leaned in onto my year of yes. And I was, like, panicking on the inside,

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but I was just like, okay. I mean, I was honest with them. I was

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like, I've never backpacked before, and I don't have any gear,

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really, and I'm gonna need some help understanding, like, some

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things. And they had enough experience

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to at least guide me in the direction, the right direction at the time,

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and I said yes. So that point on, I

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remember, I think, I got a little list

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from one of my friends who was kinda leading the trip. And I went

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to REI, and I got a bunch of things. And I also cobbled

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together a bunch of things with with my clients now in our our backpacking

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badass program. We we call this getting scrappy. I got real

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scrappy. I didn't have, you know, down jackets or anything. I

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just, like, I just brought a bunch of stuff, and my

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backpack weight spoke for that. It was about

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£45 on that very first backpacking trip, maybe

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even a little bit heavier, for a I think we only spent

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2 nights at camp. So it was, like, a 2 night, 3

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day backpacking trip. So £45 £45 bag is way too

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heavy for that. But that was my first experience.

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Right? So what happened basically is I didn't know

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what I was doing at all, but I I got the things, and I showed

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up on that trip. And I had

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the most incredible it was the most

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hard thing I had ever done, and I was

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so incredibly proud of myself. It was a

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life changing experience. I I

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remember so the trail that we did was the typical one

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that you take from little, from Happy

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Isle is the trailhead up to we camped at

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Little Yosemite Valley, which is one of the campgrounds that's really

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close to the Half Dome area. So we hiked up

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from Happy Isle to Little Yosemite Valley, and then the next

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day, we did the Half Dome hike up the cables and

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then back down to camp, and then we hiked out the last day.

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But what's what's wild is that

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that hike from Happy Isle to Little Yosemite

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Valley, I don't remember the mileage and elevation gain off the top of my

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head right now. I should've looked that up before I was recording this. But what

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I remember is that the first time that I ever did that

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for this trip, this backpacking trip that I got invited on, it took

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me, like, 7 or 8 hours to hike from the

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trailhead to Little Yosemite Valley with my

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45 pound pack and having, like, never backpacked

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or hiked, hardly ever hiked in my life.

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And that is so it's what's wild about that is

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I've gone back and done this trail several times in, you

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know, future sessions,

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trips and stuff that I've done with friends, and that same

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portion takes me about 2 hours now. So it's it

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just really shows you, like, I was very beginner. I was

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slow. I fortunately got invited with a group of people who

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were very patient and very, like,

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encouraging of me to keep going because I could see that experience

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have gone a different direction. I could have been with people that were, like, you're

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taking way too long, and you should probably

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turn around, or, I don't know, guilt trip me about that or whatever. But they

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were very encouraging, and that

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trip was absolutely

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an amazing experience. And I was so excited that I had

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said yes to that. And what I realized after that

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trip was I I got back down and I was so excited,

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but I was like, oh, shoot. Like, I didn't really know what

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I was doing at all, like, safety wise. I didn't know the

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answers to, like, any of those questions. Like, what do you do when you run

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into a bear? Or, like, what if I had gotten lost from my

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group? You know? These were all the things that were kinda running through my mind

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because after that trip, I wanted to do more trips, but I was like, I

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don't know how to plan my own trip. I don't know how to, like I

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I I just, like, kinda followed people, and those people, I

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found out, you know, down the line, they didn't even really have that much backpacking

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experience either. So we were just kind of lucky a little bit playing with

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fire. We didn't have any issues on our trip, but we

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totally could have. And so that's when I I

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knew that I needed to learn more. I wanted to be self sufficient. I wanted

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to be self reliant, and be a little bit safer

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about all of the things that I wanted to do. But the biggest

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thing was that I knew that I wanted to do

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more. I knew that backpacking,

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this experience that I had had backpacking had something

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to do, like, a pivotal thing to do with getting myself out of my

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rut. And I really, really liked that version of me that was

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on that Half Dome trip that finished that hike. I

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really liked that version of me that did hard things because before

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that, I really didn't identify with somebody that could do

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scary things, that could do hard things, and I wanted to get

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to know her more. And so after that trip, I

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put I put all of my energy into becoming that woman because I

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think I was really at a point where I was like, I can no longer

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continue down this path that I'm headed. I need

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something to shake up my life. Like, I need to feel this way

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more. I wanted to feel more alive and excited about my life, and this backpacking

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trip had ignited all

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physically hard, but it just lit

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this fire in me that I was meant to do more.

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So I wanted to explore what did

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it mean to step into an identity, like, be the

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woman who was adventurous, who was outdoorsy, who

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was brave, who was confident, who was resilient, and

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who was strong. These were things that I

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had never really seen myself as being, and backpacking opened

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up that possibility for me because I literally did it. It was this physical

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representation. I was like, oh my gosh. I did that. And it

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was so hard, and I just couldn't believe it. So I realized

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at that point that I was gonna do whatever it took

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to become that person and just go all in.

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And that that is kinda when I realized I had a say in

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my future and who I was and who I could become.

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So I dove in headfirst into learning everything I could

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about being self sufficient, you know, being safe, learning how not

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to get lost. I was a lot self taught, and I had a lot of

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mentors. It was a mishmash of everything. I had a lot of drive,

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and I I did make it at that time. Like, I made it my

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mission to spend almost every single weekend

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outdoors, as much outdoor time as possible because that's where I

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felt most alive. So I was, like, a hardcore weekend warrior

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at that point. I would go to work Monday through Friday, and then

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I would drive. And California I lived in Bakersfield at the

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time, so it wasn't like I could just go from my front door

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to trails. But we were 3 hours from the

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Eastern Sierra Nevada Mountains and had so much

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opportunity when living there. So it was

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a great place for me to be to kind of explore this new phase

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in my life. But I don't I definitely wanna, like, caveat

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that here because you don't have to live somewhere like that

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to to step into this new identity for yourself either.

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And this is something we talk about with our clients all the time. It's just

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you might have to do a little bit more planning and your adventures

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might look a little bit different each weekend or, you know, when you have

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time, if you're a busy mom or something like that. This is still totally something

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that is possible for you to reinvent yourself in the

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same way. It will just look a little bit different. This is just kinda like

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my story and how that manifested. So I I became

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obsessed with becoming a woman who went on adventures, who didn't miss

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out because she was too scared, who saw herself as

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brave and confident. I wanted to be the woman who planned the

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trips because what I was discovering, like, shortly after

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that Half Dome trip, I remember telling those friends that invited me.

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I was like, I wanna do more of this. We should do more. And everyone

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would say yes, and then nobody would plan anything.

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And I got really tired of waiting around on other people

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to plan epic things. It's like I could go plan myself a day hike

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somewhere, but I wanted to go backpack. I wanted

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to rock climb. I wanted to do these things that were

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hard and challenging, and I was in that era where I really just wanted to,

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like, see what I was made of and test my

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myself, and I needed to learn the skills to confidently plan

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my own trips and understand what was involved in that. So it took a lot

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of work, but I just slowly learned these skills.

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And each step forward, it for me was like it was like

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a compass. It felt like the right direction, and I just kept showing up

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for that person. And I

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loved who I was becoming, And that was a first for me in a long

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time. It felt really right. Right? And

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so for me, kinda looking back at that that

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phase in my life, that transition from kind of being lost,

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being depressed, going through a divorce

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to kind of entering this year of yes, it

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opened up so much for me and had such a ripple effect in my

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life. You know? If I had never entered that year of yes, I would

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have never said yes to backpacking Half Dome when my

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coworkers invited me at the water cooler. I probably would've counted myself

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out. Right? If I had never entered my year of yes, I wouldn't have

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gone all in on living an adventurous life.

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I never would've met my best friend, who

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lived in Bakersfield at the time through hiking, and, like, we forged a

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lifelong friendship, through hiking and backpacking in the

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outdoors. Now we don't live in the same place, but she's still consistently a best

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friend of mine. We go on adventures together still.

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And I also like, I ended up signing up for

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going on a solo travel rock climbing trip in

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Thailand for 3 weeks. I also met my now

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husband, my my second husband. We

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met at the climbing gym because we were talking about climbing in Thailand,

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and then we began dating, like, several months

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after that. So we met at the climbing gym. I, you know, went

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backpacking on the Trans Catalina trail, and that's where I came

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up with the idea to take a year off to travel. And

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that's when I decided to save up for a year off of travel, and I

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bought a van, and I decided to start my blog, she

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dreams of alpine. And that's when I decided to

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teach about backpacking because I remember that's the thing that changed my

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life. And I was like, I want to to help other women

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quickly and not so, like, having to navigate

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so many of the questions and the unknowns about what it takes to be the

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person who plans and executes their own trips and does it confidently and

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feels safe and and doesn't worry about getting lost in the outdoors.

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That's why I wanted to create that program. I'm like, this needs to exist. I

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did not have mentors like this, and there were not

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programs out there like this when I got started, and I desperately

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wanted something like that. And, you know, all these things,

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they led me to where I am today, which is an outdoor educator,

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full time running the backpacking badass program, running

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retreats. My life completely changed. Now

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that didn't happen overnight. Like, I mean, the backpacking trip in

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the Half Dome felt like that kinda looking back feels like this overnight moment,

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but that all took time. And, you know, I was

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honing this adventurous identity for well over 7 years

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before I ever started, you know, started thinking about,

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like, the blog and my business and stuff like that. But all of these

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things have led to this immense ripple effect in

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my life. And I know now I know that, like, even

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that is only the beginning. So I know that, like, 10 years

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from now, I'm gonna look back at even these moments that I'm having right now,

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and there's just gonna be this amazing, like, possibilities that I haven't even considered yet

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now that are gonna open up as a a a reaction to that very first

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decision to go on that backpacking trip. So every year, I think

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about that, like, how one decision in your

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life can change literally everything. Right?

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So for me, teaching the skill set of backpacking to others

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is is way more than just teaching the skill set of backpacking to

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others. For me, backpacking can be this

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really powerful tool for reinventing your

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life. Because I think the thing that I love about

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backpacking the most is that it helps us connect, like,

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this tangible thing, right, which is getting out there

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physically and backpacking, doing this this hard thing.

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And you learn through that skill, like, how to navigate kind

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of the 5050 experience. Like, things are

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hard and they're awesome, and you start to realize there's

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all these similarities between life and your experiences

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out on the trail and your experiences backpacking. Backpacking taught

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me so much about, like, how I can do

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so much and that I can handle things

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that are harder than I ever thought. And it showed me that I can be

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strong and that I can be resilient. Right? It showed me that I

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don't have to be fearless to do things. There are so many lessons

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that I got from backpacking that are, I think, literally the

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reason that I was able to make other steps in my life

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for changing what I did for a living and how I

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showed up and where I lived, all the things, right? I think

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backpacking, it really helps us

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question the anxieties and thoughts that

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we have about ourselves, the thoughts we have about others and what we want

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in our life. And in order to make feeling confident

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backpacking a reality, like, in order to step into

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your adventurous identity, you have to confront some

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of those things in order to take on a new identity. So I think

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backpacking is just, like, a really beautiful way to kind of

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uncover these different sides of yourself. So I love teaching it this

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way. It's like a partnering with a curiosity that

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you might already have. You're probably listening to this podcast because

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there's part of you that wants to be adventurous or is

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or identifies that way. Maybe you're trying to create some other new possibility in your

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life. That that feeling that you get from the trail, that aliveness that you

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feel from the trail, you wanna have that in your

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life as well. And I just think, like, you're in the right place. Like,

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keep leaning into that and see where these different

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ideas and curiosities are going to take you. And for

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me, especially if you're brand new to backpacking and you're thinking about it,

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it's like worst case scenario, if you lean into that

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curiosity, like, could I do this? Like, is this something that I could do?

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Worst case scenario, you go on some pretty badass hikes.

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But, like, the best case scenario, which I hope I've, you

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know, shown you here with my own personal story, is that

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it can literally change your life. So I had no

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idea, when I said yes at that water cooler that day to

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go on that backpacking trip in Half Dome, I had no idea that it

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would become such a important part of my story and

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my reinvention. And I'm so, so grateful

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for the backpacking and the outdoors. I'm really

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grateful that I chose to say yes and partner with that possibility for my

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life because it opened up a whole new way of

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being and thinking and living for me. So I share all

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of this today because I want you to consider that for yourself,

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consider that backpacking. On the outside, it might just seem like

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this weekend hobby hobby thing that you can do, right, but it could also be

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the thing that opens up your world and your possibilities and a new way of

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just existing and being in this world, and that

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could be really exciting for you. Right? It did for

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mine, and I've I for mine,

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and I've I've seen it, like, since what's really cool about

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being an outdoor educator and, like, in this space and teaching other women is that

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I get to see this happen all the time for my clients as well

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in so many various wild and beautiful

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unique ways. Like, people seeing that

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they can transform themselves, that they can be leaders,

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that they can do hard things, that they can do scary things when they

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never thought they could be that person and then what that opens up for them.

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It's it's incredible. And so

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just coming back to, like, what I said at the beginning of this talk, I'm

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just a person who is offering you an idea, a possibility, a

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way of being, and it's up to you to decide if you

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wanna explore that and partner with this idea. And if you

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don't, there's tons of other ideas and curiosities and

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possibilities out there. I hope just, like, at a minimum

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that I've opened your eyes to this concept of that

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you can create whatever you want to in your life. And if you're feeling that

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rub against

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my my reinvention story. I am going

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to drop another episode next week about the

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part 2 story. So this was basically, like, how did I go

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from, you know, being this adventurous person into creating

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like, what caused me to create the she dreams of alpine business,

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how did that unfold, and, how kind of

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backpacking still plays a role in that so much. So I'm gonna talk about

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that even more in my next episode,

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and I look forward to talking to you more there.

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Okay. Bye bye. Hey. I wanted to

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thank you real quick for tuning in to the show and listening all the way

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to the end. If you love this episode and you want deeper support in

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becoming a safe, confident, and self sufficient hiker and backpacker, then head

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over to shedreamsofalpine.com/waitless to

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learn more about our backpacking badass coaching program, where I teach you

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absolutely everything you need to know to be self reliant on the trails

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and stop waiting around on others for the adventure invite.

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So I'd love to help you more in your journey of stepping into your

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adventurous identity, and that program is the absolute

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best place for us to start working together. So again, that's she

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dreams of alpine.com/waitlist, and you can learn all

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about it there. So that's it for today, folks. I hope you get to spend

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some time outside this week, and I'll be back very soon with a brand

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new episode. Bye.

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