In a world where self-doubt can often hold us back, this episode is your guide to unlocking the power within you. Join me as I reconnect with one of my very first interviewees on the show - Alla Bardov, the author of Get Out of the Rabbit Hole. Alla shares insights from her book and provides actionable strategies for you to boost your confidence.

If you've ever wondered how to silence the nagging voice of self-doubt and radiate your confidence, then this episode is for you! We're here to help you take the first step towards a more confident and fulfilling life.

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• The Power of Visualization - dress matters
• Impact of Compliments on Confidence
• How to accept a compliment
• Confidence can be learned, practiced and mastered
• Visualization drives action plan
• Visualization is a huge part in anything you want to accomplish
• 5 Strategies to Boost Confidence

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Hi, everyone, and welcome to this episode of

relationships rule. This is another one of those occasions

that is really special because when I first started out with my

podcast early on, I, I probably didn't know what I was doing.

But anyway, I got started. And I just jumped in and I did my

podcast. And I know that things have improved as I've gone

along. And so one of the things that's really fun is to be able

to bring someone back to my podcast for a second interview,

who was in that first batch of, of interviews that I did. And so

today, I have a special guest one of those people, Allah bar

dog, first of all, welcome to the show, Allah.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much for

having me. It's a pleasure and an honor to be on your podcast.

Yes,

it's my pleasure. And what's so special is I went

back and looked at the first time you were on the show, which

was actually over three years ago, I can't believe it, it was

over three years ago. And we had just met not long before that,

at an event in Salt Lake City, actually. And you were in the

midst of your sales career. And a really going strong with your

sale, selling for success. I think it's called selling for

success. Sell yourself for success. I knew I had it wrong,

sell yourself for success, and all the programs that go with

it. And I know that you're still doing that. But I thought that

this was a special occasion because she's written a book.

And the book is called Get out of the rabbit hole, building

confidence to overcome self doubt, improve performance and

reach your potential. And for me, that seemed like a perfect

time for you to come on the show, because you stepped it up

now to the next level as well, with your book and everything

that goes along with it. So congratulations, first of all.

Thank you, James. You're welcome. And second, now I want

to talk about it. So I want to know, first of all, how you got

the title for the book, because I love the title get out of the

rabbit hole. And I'm always that hole. So I get it, but I want

you to come tell me about it. Oh,

well didn't expect you to that would be the first

thing Oh, really? Okay,

well, you never know. Right?

I am happy to talk about the title. Um, so there

are 12 chapters in the book. And they're all a really independent

chapter. But the main chapter, which is chapter six, six,

that's in the middle of the book, it actually describes a

relationship I had once with a close and trusted friend. And

for the book purposes, we named her Carol. And so Carol's words

that I replayed daily, in my mind caused me to doubt myself,

and actually sent my thoughts down the rabbit hole. So the

name of the book is get out of the rabbit hole, building

confidence to overcome self doubt, improve performance and

reach your potential. And often we don't even realize how the

words of those that we trust affect our actions. And they

really, ultimately affect the goals that we set out to

achieve. And so we all have people like that in our lives.

And you know, for every negative experience, we can turn it

around and make it into a positive experience. It does

take time and effort. But for me, the positive was that made

me realize that I shouldn't let negative people take my thoughts

down the rabbit hole. And I had to figure out how to get out,

which took a long time. And that's another reason I wrote

the book. I wanted to help other people not to go down the same

path. And I provided the tools necessary to take their thoughts

redirect them so that they don't go down the rabbit hole.

Oh, yeah. And it does take a lot of effort to.

Again, I often come back to this phrase that one of my mentors

whom you know, Cody Bateman, always the story in your mind

becomes the story of your life. So you've got to change the

story in your mind, right? And in this this exactly what you're

talking about changing it from the negative influence to a

positive influence. And it's just a switch, but it isn't just

a switch, right? It takes

it takes a really long time. It takes a really

long time. And you know, the interesting thing that Carol's

you know, there's Carol in the book, but Carol's and the lives

don't always show up in our 40s or 50s. You know, we could we

could be carrying something that maybe a parent said or a coach,

or maybe you know, a teacher and they they might not have even

meant it they could have said it out of anger. And maybe they

said you know you're not good enough. You'll never make

anything out of yourself. And you carry these words in your

mind and they really anytime you encounter a challenge these

words ring and they set you back and if we don't have the

strategies, how to deal with them. It's Very difficult to

succeed. And like I said, you don't have to be in your

40s 50s. I mean, you could be, you know, when you were 18.

Yeah, exactly. And it's just something that

stayed with you a long time. So I love the way you have laid the

book out. And in each chapter, you tell a story, a personal

story, that then you give the audience, the reader the

strategies for, for making these things work, like how you got

out of it. And then so it ranges from, which I thought was really

funny. And entertaining in the chapter about dress matters,

which was chapter three, no, yes. Yeah. Chapter Three. Yes,

yeah. Because I, this goes back a long time, right. And it's all

about first impressions, right? And you can maybe share a little

bit of it with us, because I think the strategies are great.

Thank you. And I'm just gonna take it for a second.

And as you said, every chapter has a personal story. And in

each through each, through each story, you know, people can

relate. And people can say, hey, they can transpose themselves

into themselves into my story. And they said, I've been there,

I understand. And strategies fade, but stories stay. So they

might forget the strategies. But if they remember the stories,

don't remember the strategies. But the big thing, we always

hear so much about dressing up, you know, dress for success, you

hear so much about it? And yes, it is very important. You know,

because whatever you wear, it's it's going to make a first

impression or not, then you only have seconds to make the first

impression. And that's what really people think about, you

know, I need to look good, because I want to make a first

impression, I'm going to this event, but it's not just what

your clothes say about you to other people. It's also what

your clothes say to you. So I always tell people, you know,

you take it's like a, like a gas gauge, and put on and see how

you feel. Don't even worry yet about what IT projects to other

people. But how do you feel. So you might put something on and

you know, it has a high tag price, and maybe it's a brand

name, and you know, that looks good, but if you don't feel

comfortable in it, or if you're going to be demonstrating

something and you're going to raise your arms and your shorts

gonna raise, raise up, you are not going to have that

confidence. So the main point out of the chapter is it's not

just what your clothes say about you, but it's what they say

to you. Right? Which is beautiful, because

that's the first and foremost thing, right? Because if you

don't have that, then you're not going to be confident. Another

piece in the book that I loved. And actually what this reminded

me of was my mother, and the chapter is complements chapter

six, I think it is or no, not chapter chapter five, it's

chapter five. says it's a please accept my gift stories. And you

have a quote, at the beginning, I get awkward when someone

compliments me, they don't know what to say. They say you look

pretty today. And when I say Happy Birthday birthday. Yeah,

exactly. And they reminded me so much of my mother, because for

so many years, my mother did not feel worthy. And you wish she'd

always look 100% and loved clothes and love to you know,

entertain people. And if you sent her a thank you note, she'd

send one back thanking you for the thank you note like this is

how she wanted to always it wasn't she was trying to do

anything other than just be grateful of the other people.

And you, you in the strategies. In this chapter, you talk about

how being able to accept a compliment, helps build

relationships, and I highlighted this because I want to just read

it, when you accept compliments from those who don't know, or

don't know, well, you have an opportunity to thank them and

start a conversation. Accepting compliments creates the

opportunity to develop relationships. And because I'm

all about relationships, I that jumped out at me as well as it

reminded me of my mother, that story that you told, I thought

that this was a really good strategy for relationship

building. So I just like to hear your your tests on what you want

to share.

So a lot of times when people get a compliment,

and let's just transpose yourself, say we're in a

business meeting, and you're hoping to get the business of

this potential client and the client complements you on

something and you say, Oh, this dress is so old. Oh, I bought

this suit years ago because you're thinking you're

downplaying You're being humble. But in turn, you are not. So the

first there's, there's so many aspects to you not being able to

accept the compliment. The first thing you're doing is, oh my

gosh, I gave them a compliment. And they did not like the dress

or whatever. Now you feel like I have to give them another

compliment. So now you're scrambling What else can I tell?

Say, if it's to Janice, what else can I tell to Janice? Oh,

my gosh, you know, your hair looks great. And so you're

scrambling to find another compliment. And then another

thought is, if you're not worthy to accept the compliment, why

should you be worthy to accept their business. And so if you

just met someone, you're already starting a relationship on the

wrong note. And on a negative note, because you just made the

person who gave you a compliment, you really deflected

that compliment, you kind of knocked it down and put the

other person in a really awkward situation. Well, what do I say

to make Janice feel better? And so but the interesting thing is,

so how does that give you confidence, but knowing what to

do, when somebody gives you a compliment, if you know that,

you just need to accept it, not just that you need to accept it,

you have confidence that already gave you a confidence booster if

we just met. And I give Janice a compliment. And she said, Thank

you, or thank you for your compliment. If you don't know

what to say, or how to accept it, I give many ways. But if you

just say thank you, it means a lot, or thank you for the

compliment. That's literally all you need to say. And now you're

just starting, you're starting this meeting on a positive note,

it's open, it's welcoming, and the other person doesn't feel

like they have to give you another compliment. And also, a

lot of people feel like, once somebody gives you a compliment,

you have to compliment them back. Don't do that, because

that does not come out authentic. Say Oh, I like your

dress. And you said, Well, I like your dress as well. So you

really don't want to do that. But I give these strategies, and

they seem so simple. But But following them will help you

build confidence and improve relationships, as you said. And

the first relationship I think maybe we discussed it a few days

ago, the first relationship that matters most is the relationship

you have with yourself. And if you don't value that

relationship with yourself, if you don't value yourself enough,

then why should anyone else?

Exactly. So good. So I think it's an interesting

question about confidence. Because I often ask people about

curiosity, and is it learned? Or like, is it innate? Or is it

learned? And you have a question that came up? That I think is

worthy of talking about too, so Can Can somebody? Yes, I think I

think they can become confident. I think that's, that's, that's

evident in your book, if you follow the strategies to build

confidence, I think it works. But are you born with it? Or is

it learned? I think that's a different piece. And I'd like to

hear your take on them. So we,

you know, throughout our lives, we often

hear people say, you need to be confident, or sometimes we think

when I'm confident or a lot of times you hear parents say you

need to be more confident. Yet no one ever says here's how you

do it. That's another reason why I wrote this book. So the

problem remains, how do you become confident? And the story

if I took you back to Cuba back and you say, well, here I am,

obviously, you can hear my accent. So if you're wondering,

I immigrated to this country when I was 15 years old, I did

not speak a word of English. So how does someone like myself

talks about confidence. And so it was during my college days

that I decided I was studying accounting, and I decided to go

sell vacuum cleaners door to door. That sounds like a fun

thing to do. And I was learning to speak English and and so I

spent a lot of time shadowing other people learning all the

sales skills, and I was so good at it. I can close any sales

that can overcome any objections because I learned the skills

that were tools for me to learn. But then I was missing one

thing. I had a hard time getting through the front door. Once I

was in the door, I had it. So I realized I was missing one

component. And that's that confidence to get through that

front door. And so what I realized is that while if you

wanted to learn how to cook, oh there cookbooks if you wanted to

learn how to drive, you can go take driving lessons, but there

was no there were no instructions on manuals on how

to become confident, and really trying to become confident

without the tools needed was difficult. And that's when my

quest began. On, hey, can you learn confidence? Is that a

learned trait? And so it took me it's been a 30 year journey,

trying to figure out So during that time, I have discovered

that confidence can be learned, practiced and mastered, just

like any other skill. Just like you exercise the muscle in your

body, you can also exercise your mind to build confidence. You

just need to know what to do. So you learn it, you practice it,

and then you master it. Does it take time? Absolutely. And so in

my book, I outlined 12, confidence building strategies.

And it's not if you asked me one hour, if I do them, if I had

read the book in one week, or in one day, and I go practice them,

Am I going to become instantly confident? Of course not. So my

best advice is, read a chapter and go practice it for a week,

read another chapter, add to it, and go practice it. And over

time, when you can, when you can perform these strategies without

even thinking, you will absolutely gain confidence, you

will absolutely people will notice, you will become more

confident you will become a better a better person, overall,

a better parent, a better spouse, a better significant

other, so you will become a better person. So yes, you can

absolutely learn and become confident.

I think that there are people however, that I

think of when I was a kid, even that I can remember, you know,

people who just oozed confidence as kids or teenagers, whatever.

And they were the ones that were quite often the maybe they were

the valedictorian in school, or maybe they were the leader of

whatever was going on, because they they stood tall, they knew

who they were, and they had that inner confidence. Do you think

that there are those people? Have you come across those

people in your world?

And think there's also there's a fine line between

confidence and arrogance, especially when it comes to

salespeople? Yes. And then yes, I do think that maybe some

people are born a little bit more inclined towards being

confident or possibly their parents. So I think the parents

or the people around them, they have observed things, and they

have applied what they've learned versus some other kids

that might not have. So modeling, yeah, as exactly as

role models, you have to look at, you know, who are your role

models? Who are the people around you? What are they? What

are they exhibiting? Since you brought this up, I will mention

I was doing training for this company. And we were doing

strictly confidence, actually, we're doing sales training, but

as part of it is always a confidence training. And so

this, this gentleman would go home, and he would share what

he's learned from me within I think, weekly or monthly. And he

would share it with his family with his with his 15 year old

daughter, actually, for quote is in my book, her endorsement from

a 15 year old. And she was a professional, not professional,

but she was playing sports. And so he would share it with her

every time that we had training session. And he shared with me

that one time the mom said something negative, and she

said, Mom, we're not being negative, this is not gonna help

us succeed in life. But this is what the kids are observing. So

if you're observing, if your parents, which most of us most

of people really, truly tend to lean on the negative side, we're

kind of expect negative outcomes. And so that does

affect those kids. So I do think that yes, absolutely. What

you're saying that some of those kids, yes, it's part of staying

tall your body language will affected? And if you want I can

I have been asked, Are there habits that are destroying your

confidence on daily basis? I have been asked that question,

you know, a few times. And so possibly, it's something you do,

or if you observe as a teen you observe or as a kid, your

parents do it, then it's very difficult for you to be growing

up as, as a confident, you know, teenager or adult. And those are

negative self talk. Yeah. Because especially when we're

faced in with challenging situation. So our tendency is to

engage in negative self talk. And then also we expect negative

outcomes as our mind. Our mind is just programmed, you know,

that way we expect the negative and then of course, self doubt.

And, you know, we discussed it and people experience self doubt

for a variety of reasons, including, you know, their

upbringing, somebody that somebody said, maybe they're

extremely competitive, or maybe they're perfectionist, so So

they're different things but yes, to answer your questions, I

think some kids are okay based on their environment.

So it was something that came up yesterday

you and I were working together yesterday on an on something

completely different and and you You exhibited this amazing

attribute of being able to visualize. And when you

visualize something, I don't have that. I don't see pictures

the same way. I don't think I've trained my brain that way

enough. And I love it. I love that you are that this isn't one

chapter in the book as well called visualize it. And you say

the subtitle is my eyes made it happen story. And I love the

story. And I love what happened. And I wondered if you'd share

that story. Do you remember the story I'm referring to? I do?

I do. It was, it was of course, of course. It was

my corporate career. And at the time, we had three kids. We had

the young, the young, the younger one was, had some health

challenges, which caused me to retire from corporate life. And

it was during that time that I decided to start this little

side gig on the side. And it was a jewelry business and was a

custom jewelry. And I thought, you know, it would be fun while

I'm being a homeroom mom, and I'm doing this. And so I really

wanted to get this jewelry into, into a, this fancy spot I'm in

and one time I walked in, and I saw, I walked into the spa, and

I saw all of this jewelry that they had a jewelry display. And

I went and I asked, Are you looking for any vendors? And of

course, the answer was no, that they you know, we have not

added. And the first thing as I stood there, I mean, I was just

in shock. And I'm sure the lady was thinking, oh my gosh, she's

crazy. She just stood there, I'm not moving, I'm not saying

anything. And all of a sudden, I did not see the candles, the

body wraps or the the jewelry that was there. All I saw was my

jewelry. I saw it on every shell, I saw it displayed. I saw

it everywhere. And so that visualization drove me to create

an action plan and to follow my steps. Instead of you know, the

tendency when we expect negative outcome, you say, Oh, well, you

know, it'll never happen. You know, I'm just beginning I only

started a month ago, who would bring my jewelry in here, right?

And yes, the visualization really, really helps you know,

and it does not the visualization does not replace

the work that needs to take place. But what happens

visualization is that you go through the action twice for the

action. So you go once in your mind, then you plan it really

three times. And then when you meet, then you've already

overcome you already overcame all their objections, you

already came up with all the answers. So it's, it really it

just helps to bring your aspirations to life. And if you

look at the you know, the ancient monks, if you look at

celebrities, if you really talk to athletes who've achieved, you

know, the highest level, they will tell you it all starts with

in your mind, it starts with visualizing yourself, achieving

that goal. And so the strategies I give in the book for

visualization, how do you achieve it? What do you have to

go through? So thank you for picking on that chapter. I think

it's very it is very important chapter is

that you have to finish the story. You have to

finish the story.

Oh, when it was realisation that with the jury,

yes, what your delivery? They did, yes, they did, I did call

and I did set up a meeting. And I was because of visualization

that I was able to visualize where every piece would be on

which shelf. So to down to the point where I told them while

you have these body wraps that you really haven't sold a whole

lot. But if I put my piece over here, it's going to bring the

attention to it. But that all happened in my mind first, and

then I brought it to the manager. And very after the

meeting, it was we'll get back with you. And it was within it

was so fast when they got back with me. And they said we would

love to carry your jewelry. I know that. And so so yeah. So

that was, you know, that was a very, very exciting moment for

somebody who's just starting to do something and been at it for

a month.

But that's not that also, though, comes back to

the fact that number one, you're a great salesperson. And number

two, you're an entrepreneur, and you know you had all of those

things going for you but the visualization is what jumped out

at me. That's why I let the story and you're right now there

was just the NBA basketball draft was just last month and

watching the new players coming out of school and I don't know

if you're familiar because I know you're a basketball family

like we are but maybe not in the same way. But we are watching

the draft and there was a set of twins and they were drafted

fourth and fifth out of everything. And that's number

one, it was the first of its kind that they had twins

drafted. But number two, they were, I read a story about them

and magazine just last week. And both of them since they were

like five years old, had been visualizing being in the NBA.

And you're, like you said it previously, that it's with

people that reach a high level like that, that is often the

beginning, is having that vision and maintaining that vision

throughout and believing it right. Because it's the belief

eliminates because it's very, it's very difficult,

because you know, you're gonna, you're gonna encounter daily ups

and downs, you know, it's not always great, you know, you will

be defeated by other teams, you have to break through the

mental, you know, the mental barrier, because it's not

always, you know, it's not always roses or whatever they

say, you have to work hard. But the tendency is, oh, my gosh,

there's these kids are better than than we are, will never

make it to the NBA. But you cannot win with that kind of

attitude. Because if you see yourself daily, if even if you

have to cut out the pictures, I know, I forgot, I told you in

one of the other picture, or in one of the other chapters that I

was trying to help my roommate lose weight. And it's also the

visualization. So was a college roommate. And so I took a

picture of her favorite celebrity. And then I took a

picture of her and I cut out her face and put it on everybody's

face, that creates a visualization, hey, this is my,

you know, my idol, I want to look like that. And when you and

I hung it in our closet. And so every day when she would look at

it, you know, it made her made healthier choices. So that's

also visualization. And it can play a huge part in just about

anything that we want to accomplish. Even writing,

writing a book Never did my life did I think that I would write a

book. But the first thing is, you know, your visual, you

visualize, you visualize people reading it, you visualize the

impact it's going to make on others. So very, it's very

important.

That's, that's so great. And, and comes with this

new venture that you're on. So you're from this book, you're

still doing your sales, training, and all the different

aspects of sales training. And now you're going on the road

with your book right now you want to share this information

by talking on stages and, and in groups of people that you can

spread the word. Now I understand there's a workbook

that goes with this

workbook, and it's a GET OUT OF THE RABBIT HOLE

workbook, developing your confidence building strategies.

And that's really the only way the best way that you can put

all the strategies to practice because then you can apply them

to yourself. The nice thing about the book is, you know, you

don't have to write on margins, I didn't have to leave you empty

spaces. But the cool thing is, it has by chapter is structured

by chapter and it gives you examples. And then you write

out. You write out the situations based, you know,

based on your situation, right. And a lot of chapters have a

moment of truth. And this is where you actually write, you

know, this is what I do right now. Because oftentimes your

first thing instinct, oh, I don't do that. But if you are

going to, if you are you going to really take this book and put

and put it to use and really become confident. And so the

moment of truth is something very important. And we were mean

you were talking a lot earlier, we were talking on a podcast

about the compliments. And so here's a moment of truth from

the compliments chapter and it says, thinking about the past,

prior to reading the book, write down your responses to when

someone complimented you, if you can't recall, start by paying

attention to how people around you respond to compliments, and

write it down. So an example I got this shirt two years ago

from a garage sale, it's most likely out of style now, but I

want people to write down because unless they write down

and they start catching themselves, you know, it's all

about awareness, and replacing what they do to something to

what they should be doing to become confident. So that's what

the workbook is all about. And it's available on Amazon as

well.

Okay, awesome. Yeah, I remember always saying

to my mom when someone was if I was around her and somebody

complimented her mom, just say thank you, just because it was

hard for her to do that. Right. So I guess yeah, yes. So last

thoughts, in terms of the strategies that people can do to

become more to apply to become more confident? What would your

top two or three be to share with my audience I'm pretty sure

I know what they are, because we've talked about, go ahead.

Yeah, so I really want to cover probably self

doubt, because that's the, that's the main chapter and just

some things to, to put into people's heads because we all

have self doubts and self doubt does not discriminate against

age, or your, or how successful a person is, when self doubt is

a destructive state of mind. And so the first thing, so I'm gonna

give people three things, actually five things that they

need to do, and then they can go for more details into the book.

So the first thing is questioned the validity of your doubt of

your doubts is what should as I always say, doubt, your doubts,

doubt your doubts. Is it really true what you're saying, you

know, and maybe you need training or some skills, then

great, then go and get them get that out of your mind. But what

I also say is voice voice, which you're thinking to yourself to a

group of people that you that love you and your trusted

circle, voice it to your significant others voices to

maybe your grown up, kids voice it to your best friend, who has

your best interests in mind, and say, This is what I'm saying to

myself? Is it true? Chances are, it's not they wouldn't agree

with you. And probably you should not agree with yourself

either. And, you know, and then you possibly could be also

hearing the voices of someone else what someone said, to make

you feel that way. So that's number one. question the

validity of your doubts. Number two, become consciously aware of

when you're talking to yourself, you know, what are you saying

maybe I'm not good enough? Maybe I'm not the person they're

looking for? Nobody's gonna read my book. I mean, is that true?

No, it's absolutely not true. But these are the things that

you go through as you're going through the process. So

consciously become aware. And then this is my favorite part,

and acknowledge and name your doubting thoughts. So anytime

you hear a doubting thought that that comes, name it. So for me

it was go away, rabbits go away anytime. And to this day, any

you know, because we're not no one's immune, no one is immune

against self doubt. But if you have the strategies, and you

know what to do, so you name anytime I have a self doubting

thoughts, and especially in the chapter when I explain it, name

it. So go away, rabbit go away. And then what you want to do is

shift your attention to now. And you know, now is the only really

moment that we can control whether it's through your

breathing through your music, you know, whatever, however, it

is that you that you can come to now. And then, and then replace

them with something positive. You know, I have a separate

chapter on I am statements. So if you're saying I am not good

enough, who will read my book, I am a great author. I am, I will

be helping so many people build confidence. So those are just a

few. A few strategies really on self doubt, because it affects

so many of

us. Yeah. And all starts with ourselves, doesn't

it? It

does. It absolutely does.

So thank you so much for all of that. All the

strategies, sharing your stories with us, and where can i Where

Can my audience find you? And I will put

they can find me on my website is sell yourself for

success.com? Yes. And the book, the book is on get out of the

rabbit hole.com And it can be the book can be purchased on

Amazon as well as Barnes and Nobles.

Perfect. I will put all that in the show notes.

And I do recommend that anybody who's an entrepreneur in

business should read this book because it definitely brings all

of these things to the forefront that we can help that will help

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